Showing posts with label Historical Mistresses. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Historical Mistresses. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 30, 2025

LOOKING FORWARD TO 2026!

 


Yes, my friends, I do plan to keep blogging here at Mistress Manifesto!  

In the past I may have mentioned how I decide on subjects, how I elect a person to my pantheon of Mistresses of the Month and so on. In general, I rarely have many months ahead planned. I go along - organically - and sometimes the inspiration to seek out information about a certain person comes out of nowhere! A book picked up at a garage sale, for instance!

Well, I'm open to your suggestions, particularly if you've read a book that you think I should read. Leave me a comment with a link and I'll consider it!

There have been times when I cancelled an entire month and substituted another subject, and since one of my friends asked me why I will tell you:  I know my readers desire to know more about the very modern, contemporary, Mistress, especially Classic Mistresses, but when I find out that a particular person has children who have not established themselves in adulthood, I hesitate. 

As you read this, I have three months of Mistress Manifesto, read, researched, written, though not yet posted. I truly hope you will come back here and follow the narrative!

Happy Days Ahead!

Missy

Sunday, April 21, 2019

10th ANNIVERSARY of MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT

A whole decade ago, I had the idea for this blog, and began posting.  It took a while before I began with the Mistress of the Month magazine idea, but for a while I was just warming up.  Through these years there have been times when I thought I was going to run out of interesting Kept Women and Kept Men to feature or write about.  I haven't.  At the moment, I have no plans to stop blogging but I would love your suggestions.  Check out the list of persons and subjects  I've covered in the past which is called Archive in PAGES.  Do you know of someone I haven't covered that you can recommend?  Links, books - tell me what you know!  Leave a comment; all comments are read by me first and then published if they keep to my comments policy!

THANKS FOR READING MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT!

Missy

Sunday, February 24, 2019

LOLA MONTEZ COTTAGE in GRASS VALLEY CALIFORNIA

SIERRA NEVADA TOURISM - LOLA MONTEZ COTTAGE GRASS VALLEY CALIFORNIA

Sadly, National Geographic allowed a substantial error to occur in this article, because it states that she MARRIED King Ludwig.  She did not. But she did have three marriages.  Never the less, this is one of several links to her home, which is California Historical Landmark No 292.


Monday, February 2, 2015

VERONICA FRANCO : 16TH CENTURY POET WRITER COURTESAN OF VENICE : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH FEBRUARY 2015


This painting of Veronica Franco is attributed
to the artist Tintoretto
VERONICA FRANCO

1546-1591
Venice, Italy
 
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Her mother, Paola Fracassa, had been a courtesan before she was married.  When Veronica left her marriage to a Doctor Panizza, a marriage which her mother had arranged, and not long after she married him, Veronica became a courtesan too.  In the seaport that was 16th century Venice, out of a population of about 100,000, some estimate that there were 10,000 - 11,000 prostitutes.  How many of these were elevated to the status of Courtesan? 
 
Well, a woman's reputation and social standing were better if she was married or protected by the politicians, and yes some of those prostitutes and Courtesans were married women.  It was sex work but being a Courtesan was a way of being and living that wasn't just about the sex.  The politicians who made the rules and the laws were intently interested in the place of women in their society, while no doubt some of them took advantage of their position.  Venice had always been a seaport town, a place of trade, and poorer women didn't have the opportunities for marriage that richer women did.  To marry a noble or aristocrat a woman had to have a dowry that would impress his family.  Veronica's mother, though married and thus ending her days as a woman who could be respected, had still scraped together a dowry for her daughter, and clearly Veronica was not the recipient of an inheritance that might have allowed her to write without being a Courtesan.
 
In 1542 authorities determined that a Meretrice was a woman who was either not married at all, sexually active with one or more men (like many women are today), or married but not living with her husband, while a Cortigiana, was well, a woman who accepted patronage, money, gifts, from men for sex, though this could be one man or many, and she could be living with her husband.
 
In her fertile years, Veronica Franco gave birth to six children by six different men, three who lived past infancy and her husband was not father to any of them.  To me the fact that three of her children died is telling.  Though one of the children is said to have been fathered by a nobleman from one of the most powerful families in the city,  it is not known if any of her children made it to adulthood to help her in her old age when she struggled financially.  During her best years in which she had achieved fast upward mobility due to the quality of her patrons, Veronica was wealthy and not only supporting the children but herself and a large household that included tutors for the children and servants, and she was writing and publishing poetry and literature, mingling with the artists, politicians, and other mostly male poets, asking for work as an editor, and giving handouts to the poorer prostitutes who were worn out. 
 
By being an artist and poet and openly competing with men for public work and patronage,  unlike a submissive wife, Veronica was able to speak her mind among the intelligencia, and her way with words and her honesty is what saved her.  She was judged honest by men in her dealings with them in the sex trade and she was able to elevate her reputation through intelligence and talent. When Venice was in a decline, which some religious authorities blamed on its evil, as evidenced by it's prostitution, Veronica Franco was called to defend herself by the frightening Inquisition.  In 1580 she was accused of performing incantations in her house and being a heretic.  Denounced as a witch, Veronica got free by not denying what she was, thus she has been called "The Honest Courtesan."
 
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Wednesday, April 3, 2013

HARRIETTE WILSON : ONE OF FOUR MISTRESS SISTERS OF REGENCY ENGLAND


HARRIETTE WILSON (1789–1846)

Born in London in about 1789 as Harriette Dubochet, at 15 she became the mistress of the Earl of Craven.  Today we are sure that a 15 year old teenager who is sexually involved with an adult man is being molested or raped.  In Regency England many women married that young.  There were no "teenagers," only children or adults. Some say she "allowed herself to be seduced."

Her father was a Swiss clock maker, a master craftsman. The sisters had ambitions.

Whatever their motivation, at least four of Harriett's five sisters became mistresses too and one of them married into the aristocracy. Her sisters were Fanny, Amy, who mistressed to the Duke of Lorne after Harriet had and who produced a son of the Duke of Argyle, and the youngest, Sophy or Sophia who at 13 became the mistress of Lord Deerhurst but at 17 and still young managed to join the peerage by marrying Lord Berwick.

Harriet wasn't in the closet as a mistress. Harriet retired as a mistress at the age of 35, but not until she had become an exceedingly popular mistress.  She was a leading female figure of the demimonde. She had her own box at the theatre.   She was seen around town on dates.  She lived in fashionable houses and had servants.  Once she fell deeply in love with Lord John Ponsonby but he left her for her sister Fanny.

After the Earl of Craven, she became the mistress of the Duke of Argyle, until he moved to Scotland.  She didn't want to leave her social life in London.  Then she became the mistress of the Duke of Wellington, who she stayed with until her retirement as a mistress.  It is not known if she retired out of boredom or even meant to retire.

She had not pressed for marriage.  She was unprepared however, to be left in poverty.  Harriett was said to start affairs by writing men letters.  Now she decided to write a tell all, a memoir, of her life as a mistress, to make some money.  It's been suggested that she was willing to take payment in order to not write it.  It's also said that she, like her sister Amy, died in poverty.

One of the famous quotes about Harriette Wilson comes from the Duke of Wellington who, when hearing of her writing said "Publish, and be damned!" 

While many other mistresses of the period are lost in memory, we know about Harriette because of her memoirs published in 1825!

Saturday, December 8, 2012

HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF : MY SHORT LIST OF MISTRESSES EXPANDING ALL THE TIME!

When I started this blog I had a short list of mistresses and most of them were in the Historical Mistress category but as time goes by more and more mistresses emerge in the news, often because they out themselves by writing books or are written about.  After all, most mistresses are in secret relationships, as secret as those who keep the secret.  After all, we aren't ready for polygamy to be legal.  We're still struggling with gays being allowed to marry legally.

One of the discussion issues about Mistresses is defining who is or is not a Mistress.  MOST OF THE WOMEN WHO ARE CALLED MISTRESSES IN THE PRESS are NOT!  Of all of the modern women who have suffered due to this label is Monica Lewinsky, who was simply in an affair with President William Jefferson Clinton when he was in office, though she may have felt love for him that he didn't have for her.  Strangely, it is his denial of her that has set her apart, and possibly made her unmarriagable.  Every adulterer is not a mistress or mister, and not every mistress is an adulterer!

In History many mistresses of Kings and other Aristocrats were married (some would say Married OFF) or acknowledged financially.  It was considered good for the family.  (An example or two is Mary and Ann Bolyn.)  Some men, including husbands (think Camilla Parker Bowles' husband Charlie) were tolerant or delighted that their women were of interest to men with power and those men with power sometimes sent the husband away on some official duty but often rewarded them. 

These days many mistresses are self supporting.
These days some women are keeping men.
These days some women mistress for a time because it suits their time of life, and move on into marriage or singlehood on purpose.

These days when women have more power over their own lives than ever (though not as much as the feminists would idealize) some are choosing to be with men who cannot or will not marry them.

WHY?

I think it comes down to LOVE.

There isn't the benefits of marriage to a mistress that wives can have, and many a wife is staying in a loveless marriage for one reason or another, often financial.  So whose to throw the first stone at another woman who has financial as well as other interests in a relationship?

Earlier in the year I said that I might go a couple months in 2012 without naming a Mistress of the Month and it never happened because there were too many mistresses in the news to ignore.  This month I'll be focusing on the holidays and I hope you will be too!

Missy

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Missy Rapport / Mistress Manifesto

Saturday, September 17, 2011

ANCIENT GREEK HETAIRA : COURTESANS and MISTRESSES OF THE ANCIENT WORLD : SEPTEMBER 2011

This month, I celebrate the ancient HETAIRA - COURTESANS or MISTRESSES - of Ancient Greece, a male dominated society in which marriage was rarely for love. Extensive information with lots of references at this link to the University of Chicago.

"In classical literature, there are witty hetairai and ones of divine beauty, those who are generous with their wealth and others with hearts of gold. But, for all these portrayals, it must be remembered that virtually none were citizens of Athens; many were slaves who had been purchased and trained from childhood in such a life. Whatever power they had came from their ability to be recognized by the powerful men with whom they consorted, who would love them and made them their mistresses or concubines."

Friday, March 11, 2011

BOOK REVIEW : SEXY ORIGINS and INTIMATE THINGS by CHARLES PANATI

Charles' Panati did a heck of a lot of research to write SEXY ORIGINS and INTIMATE THINGS Subtitle The Rites and Rituals of Straights, gays, Bi's, Drags, Trans, Virgins, and Others. and truly I learned a lot, including the origins of slang terms we use in speaking of sexuality to this day that have their origins a long long time ago!



Page 410

WIVES as WHORES


Sex in imperial Rome was wild - for men, that is. A married man could legally have sex with female slaves, prostitutes, divorcees, and widows, but not with a virgin or wife. Strict adultery laws forbade married women from any form of extra-marital sex. The crime of adultery itself was denied as sex with a married woman, not with a married man. If an adulterous wife was caught, the punishment was forfeiture of her property and exile. Want to know the story on sexy colored shoes or slang like floozy or ditz? How about the history of condoms?

Roman wives were very clever when it came to finding a loophole in the law, Many, from well - to do - families, registered as prostitutes. Ancient Romans law clearly stated that any woman listed in the prostitute registry could not be punished for sex acts. The law had been written by men for their own pleasure, and to encourage as many women as possible to register as prostitutes. Many lustful wives took advantage of the letter of the law."

(Such women were renouncing their privleges of their rank in society!)

BOOK REVIEW: SEXY ORIGINS and INTIMATE THINGS
The Rites and Rituals of Straights, Gays, Bi's, Drags, Trans, Virgins, and others
Charles Panati C 1998
Penguin Books

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

JANUARY 2011 : MISTRESSES OF THE MONTH : THE CHINESE CONCUBINES & MISTRESSES

This month we are looking at a category of mistressing that has taken place in another country and culture, China. The term concubine, is most commonly used.

Fiction and Non-Fiction about "Oriental" Mistresses is read here in the Western world as if these women were and are "other," as if their lives and the way they lived (and live) has nothing to do with ours. Historically Chinese men had many wives as well, and Judaic-Christianity was not the dominating religious factor while Confucius held sway. So came a social system that kept people in check based on where their social positions and the responsibilities that came with it. By today's Western standards Chinese women were some of the most dominated and repressed women ever, women of little value. Now China's one child policy has created a situation in which many men may never marry or father. Some Chinese men are sending to Korea for wives!

Yet, what we have in common with these Chinese mistresses, is what we have in common with all women (and it could be said all people who are not in power), the need to survive and society's dictates which make it difficult at times and sometimes impossible without relationships that involve sex, legal or not, acceptable to the majority or not.

Because Mistressing was not as underground or in the closet there and then in China than it is here and now, wives came to understand the role of mistresses in their lives. For some having a husband who had other wives and/or mistresses was a welcome feature of their married life, for others a misery.

One of the features of multiple wife and/or mistress lifestyle is that with so many women, it is a rare man who can provide for all sexually. Multiple wives in some cultures have reported that they were less "bothered" for sex by their mutual husband, and they had more freedom, independence, and child-care helpers, than women married to one man.

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Wednesday, January 13, 2010

CASTLE

Mistresses may have first come into favor when Kings were forced to marry and find their Queens among their relations - cousins. Some biologists theorize that people are not really that attracted to others who they share a close genetic relationship with. Over time the Royal Houses of Europe became closely related. A King may have mated with his Queen to keep the wealth and power, but found his true love in someone he chose whose genetics were very different... it was even believed that "Royal Bastards" - love children - turned out to have nicer personalities.... really!