VICTORIAN HAIR PINS

KING ALBERT OF BELGIUM HAS A LOVE CHILD

NEW YORK TIMES : KING ALBERT II OF BELGIUM ACKNOWLEDGES LOVE CHILD

It took a DNA test but Delphine Boel, an artist, has proven that her mother Baroness Sybille de Selys Longchamps and King Albert II of Belgium are her parents.

EXCERPT:  Ms. Boel, 51, is a Belgian visual artist who has claimed for years that she was conceived during an affair in the 1960's between her mother, Baroness Sybille de Delys Longchamps, and Albert, who was then a prince and married to Paola Ruffo di Calabria, an Italian princess.  Prince Albert and his wife already had three children.

Rumors of an illegitimate child were first alluded to in a 1999 book about Queen Paola by a journalist, Mario Danneels, and Ms. Boel made her first public claim that King Albert was her father in a 2005 interview.

I want a copy!

BABY DOE'S OPERATIC ARIA : BEVERLY SILLS

FIND A GRAVE for BABY DOE aka ELIZABETH BONDUEL MCCOURT TABOR

FIND A GRAVE - ELIZABETH BONDUEL MCCOURT TABOR

Buried in Colorado, this Find A Grace site shows that Baby Doe was one of thirteen children and had three children of her own.  She lived to be 80.

Other sites report the controversy of the parentage of her stillborn son that she had while still married to her first husband.

THE MEAL IS FINISHED

VISITING THE SHACK WHERE BABY DOE TABOR LIVED TILL DEATH

GAZETTE (LEADVILLE) VISITING THE MOUNTAIN SHACK WHERE BABY DOE LIVED AND DIED

Once one of the richest women in the world, for thirty years Baby Doe Tabor lived in what was once a tool shed.  In other references this dwelling is called a miner's cabin on a hill side (Fryer Hill) of the mine that she and her husband once owned, the mine that he told her, when he was on his way out of this world not to sell.

Excerpt: ..."She cut her firewood and lugged her water.  Most nights, she enjoyed and endured extravagant Technicolor dreams, which she chronicled in detail when she awoke.  In those dreams, she met Jesus and the Virgin Mary and demons and deceased relatives.  ... She wore tattered dressed and wrapped her feet in burlap...


From the YouTube posting:  The story of "Baby Doe" and her silver fortune in the late 1800's.  Written and produced by Anya Rose with artistic direction from Stephanie Stewart and intro animation by Alyssa Fong.

HOW DOES THIS MISTRESS STOP HER RELATIVES FROM TRYING TO MATCHMAKE HER?

Question for Missy

Hi Missy,

I'm 37 and have been a mistress for 7 years.  My relatives think that I never meet men, never get asked out, and that I'll never get married and have children unless they match-make me.  They are right.  I never go out to meet other men and I don't accept dates.  I'm fine as I am and not worried about getting married to anyone or having children.  My man has four children, one still at home, and doesn't want more.  So the real problem is that I don't want to tell them why I'm not interested. That I'm in love with a man already.  I met a couple of the men they wanted to introduce me to.  Luckily they weren't that interested in me.  Then I stopped meeting the men they wanted for me but they haven't backed off.  It's both my grandmothers, my mother, and my sister.  It's so ridiculous that they even suggested I meet a 2nd cousin of ours!  They're desperate for me.  I can't stand it.  What do you suggest?


Carol
Bloomington


Answer from Missy

Hi Carol,

I know someone whose relatives all think she's lesbian because she hasn't brought any men around.  She does not protest.

Try not to get defensive. The best thing to do is not talk about it.  Talk about the things that interest you.  Have interests not issues.

I would call them all on the same day and tell them you feel pressured by them as individuals and collectively and that you will no longer be entertaining any of their matchmaking suggestions. If at some other time in your life you are interested in meeting men, you will let them know.  If someone calls you and starts up on this subject after you have told them to cut it out, gently say, "I have to go" and cease the conversation. Say "GoodBye!" and hang up. Be consistent.  They'll eventually get the message.

Missy

TEA FOR ONE

CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING : GWYNETH PALTROW PROVES YOU CAN BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX and LOVE HIS NEW WOMAN

HARPERS BAZAAR on GWYNETH PALTROW -RELATIONSHIPS

EXCERPT: "Last summer, photos surfaced of Paltrow and Falchuck (her new husband) with ex-husband Martin (the father of her children and first husband), from whom Paltrow famously "consciously uncoupled" in 2014, and Martin's girlfriend, Dakota Johnson, all palling around on the beach in the Hamptons. When I tell Paltrow that a number of friends DM'ed me that photo at the time, expressing a mixture of excitement, interest, and confusion, she laughs drily, and stresses that her dynamic with Martin continues to evolve.  "It's not like there's a finish line: 'Oh, we consciously uncoupled; we're done.' It's a lifelong commitment to constantly reinvent your relationship with your ex, which you do presumably because you have children together....  (editing is mine)

MISSY'S OPINION:

Among the notable personal life achievements that this celebrity has are: being friendly with all her ex's including the father of her children - and she loves his new woman.  Living separately from the second man she married for some time: Mistresses are used to having residences separate of their men and it's true that some people believe this keeps the spice in the relationship. She sees that everyone getting along as a win-win situation. 

EASTER

THE FINE SILVER

HOW BABY DOE GOT A FAST REPUTATION WITH JAKE SANDS : WAS IT FAKE NEWS?

BABYDOETABOR : MYSTERY BABY?

This site is selling books, but it's tantalizing to think that many Baby Doe was cheating on her husband when she took up with Jake Sands (Jake probably had the given name Jacob and his surname was Sandelowsky, making me think maybe he was a Jewish fashion merchant.)  According to this site, Harvey the husband had gone back to his mother and wasn't around for the conception or birth of the son who was stillborn.

Excerpt: "He and Baby Doe were frequently seen together at the not-so-conservative Shoo-Fly Saloon during Harvey Doe's absences.  The Shoo-Fly was not a place for a "respectable" lady to be seen.  Gamblers like Doc Holliday and rowdy miners who were looking for more than a drink, frequented the saloon."

Trying this on, I suspect that Baby Doe felt abandoned and far from home and in need of company.

100 YEARS AGO WOMEN IN THE UNITED STATES FINALLY GOT TO VOTE

WASHINGTON ORG : WOMEN'S SUFFRAGE : 100 YEARS WOMEN's RIGHT TO VOTE

EXCERPT: This year, numerous DC museums and institutions are celebrating the 100th anniversary of the passing of the 19th Amendment by Congress on June 4, 1919, which gave women the right to vote in the United States for the first time.  Although it was not ratified until August 18, 1920 and African American women were denied voting rights in many Southern states until 1965, this centennial remains a monumental moment in the history of women's rights.

HOUSE OF LETTERS

ELIZABETH MCCOURT TABOR "BABY DOE" : MISTRESS OF COLORADO SILVER MINING MILLIONAIRE HORACE TABOR : THEIR RAGS TO RICHES TO RAGS STORY

ELIZABETH BONDUEL MCCOURT TABOR 

"BABY DOE"

image of Baby Doe from Find A Grave  April 2024

1854-1935

She was beautiful - vain - flirty - desirable from her teenage years on in Oshkosh Wisconsin.  The boys were attracted to her.  She could have her pick.  She picked the wrong man the first time around.

Healthy, vital, and ambitious, hard working when she had to be, it made sense that the richest man in a silver mining town, Leadville, Colorado, would marry her next. He may have been the richest man in the United States!  First though she was his Mistress

As feminine as she was, she was also not above putting on men's clothing and doing the backbreaking labor of mining herself.  She tried, she really did, to help her first husband be a success for the both of them, but it didn't work. He just didn't have what it took. As he lost assets that he'd inherited and earned, including his own gold mine, they slid down financially until their accommodations were reduced to boarding houses. He drowned his failures and used up the money they had in drink and womanizing, including patronizing prostitutes. 

How much could any young woman put up with?  Why stick with him?

Baby, a nickname first given to her as an infant by one of her siblings, was born Elizabeth Bonduel McCourt in 1854. She had married William Harvey Doe (real name) Jr. in 1877 when she was 22. So she was called Baby Doe, with the connotations of a sweet pretty deer.

Her own father had owned clothing stores and she worked in retail sometimes, though it bored her. One of, eventually, thirteen children, her family was not rich but not poor.  Many Mistresses started out with less.

She wasn't married long to William when she knew she wanted and needed more. She was 25 years old and had already given birth to a stillborn son when she met the 49 year old very married Horace Tabor. Lore has it that they couldn't help themselves; it was love at first sight. 

Around town his wife of more than two decades, Augusta, was known for her New England sensibility and sharp tongue but she was also admired for having stuck with it through many years of poverty, before Horace bought a mine that actually produced. She'd done the hard work of taking in boarders and doing other people's laundry. She is credited historically as being the first white woman to live in the mining boom town of Leadville.

Baby Doe set her sights on a rich man easily taken from a wife with a demanding personality even if, mining town values prevailing, this would be considered scandalous. And in the end it was Augusta, the wife, who would continue to have the social clout, a decent house, and become a charity doyenne, though she had to go back to running a boarding house, which included doing the cleaning, laundry, and cooking for up to twenty boarders to keep that house. Which goes to show you that in Colorado at the turn of the century being accepted by society was not just about money but conservative values and an impeccable reputation. No doubt society was with the long suffering wife and considered Baby Doe a home wrecker.

In love with Baby all at once, Horace Tabor offered to pay off her personal debts, which included those to a man named Jake Sands, who had suggested she go to Leadville with him when he opened a women's clothing store where she could earn a living.  Sands was rumored to be the real father of that stillborn son. True or not, Sands had given the young woman a way out of her broken marriage.

 HORACE AND BABY DOE - 
From PB Wiki - Identified as at the Opera House they owned.

Tabor moved her into the Clarendon Hotel, the best suite, but if they tried to hide their affair, after that it was hot news that made it all the way to Denver. Back to town, the two of them lived together in the best hotel Leadville had to offer while he sought a divorce.

Baby Doe and Horace married, while her divorce was not finalized and neither was his. His wife resisted giving him a divorce  and so theirs was called one-sided. Hers had been filed years before. They were both probably bigamists for a while, though it eventually got all straightened out. 

The "Silver King and Queen" moved to Denver and lived in a mansion in Capitol Hill but society didn't approve of them there either. The couple spent a lot on lavish entertaining and invitations were accepted but Baby Doe would find herself without any society women friends to count on. Among the newly rich they were thought to not have good taste.

Now dates get a bit turned around. Baby would not be the first woman to take a few years off her age and their marriage was said to be either September of 1882 or March of 1883.  They had two daughters in the next several years, Elizabeth, called Lily, and Rose Mary, called Silver Dollar.  Though enemies might like to think that these two would end up unhappy with each other, from all reports their years together as a couple and as a family were happy.

But then there was The Sherman Act and with that came the crash of fortune. An antitrust action that changed the law in 1893, Baby Doe and Horace Tabor were no longer one of the richest families in America.  (OUR DOCUMENTS- GOV : THE SHERMAN ANTITRUST ACT)

Horace Tabor died in 1899 and by then they had little money left. He had urged Baby Doe before his death to keep their asset called Matchless Mine, expecting it to turn a profit, but it did not. Instead Baby Doe - Elizabeth - went to live in a raw wood dwelling described as a tool shed, a miner's shack, or a cabin. There she lived in poverty and humility for the next 30 years. Finally unable to even afford shoes, she wrapped her feet in rags like a peasant. The inside of the shake was a mess - like a homeless encampment. Baby Doe died at age 80 of heart failure but when a friend found her dead she was frozen.  Thus was the fate of the woman who had once been called The Silver Queen."

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If interested in American Boom Town Mistresses you might want to look through my archives for:

PEGGY HOPKINS JOYCE - April 2010

Spendthrifty Gold Digger Who Ended Up With One of the World's Largest Diamonds

KLONDIKE KATE - August 2012

Yukon Gold Rush Mistress

LOLA MONTEZ - February 2019
Volatile Temptress and Mistress of King Ludwig I of Bavaria - Who Changed History

This post and others throughout the month are based in research on Baby Doe including articles and web sites on the Internet such as the Colorado Women's Hall of Fame and the Colorado Virtual Library.