COMING UP : THIS WHITE HOUSE INTERN WAS MORE INVOLVED THAN MONICA LEWINSKY EVER WAS

This White House Intern was provoked to tell her story when a respected historian outed her and still waited years.

WHERE DOES SHE GO TO MEET RICH MEN? OPINION BY MISSY

Hi Missy,

I'm divorced and it's been a while since I met anyone new.  I would like to eventually remarry but first things first.  Where do I go (as if there were no Coronavirus-19 to consider) to meet rich men?

Alice
Philadelphia

Hi Alice,

So make a list of the things you like to do, things that make you happy or engaged with life.  Attend events and do activities in person - not online where fantasy relationships and the avoidance of meeting another person happen way too often and not only string along your hopes but waste your time. That is my answer pre-Coronavirus-19.  As I write this, I know that our medical experts and scientists have been working so fast to find the answers - vaccinations, immunity tests, etc.

As for rich men, you know they are everywhere, especially because some men who are not rich will become rich and others who are rich will not be able to continue being financially successful or loose everything. But I understand, we all need money.

MARINAS - Best if you don't get sea sick.
(One friend walks her dogs at a Marina once a week.  Go on landlubber dates a while before you get on a boat with a man or people you don't know well.)

BEACH CLEAN UP or NATURE RESTORATION EFFORTS

VOLUNTEER WORK : HISTORICAL SOCIETIES (including military) 

CONSERVATION 

SOME ANIMAL CHARITIES (Elephants and Hippos, for instance)  Volunteering at the local animal shelter.

GOLF

HIKING and WALKING CLUBS

HORSE RACING and POLO and EQUESTRIAN EVENTS (Often open to the public without having to be the member of a club or pay a fortune for entrance.)

ADVENTURE TRAVEL with groups : Avoid cruises. It's often mostly families or women traveling and there is food, food, and more food. A white water rafting trip is more like it.)

BOOK CLUBS (in person, not on line) so long as the discussion is about literature and not bodice-ripper romance novels. See how many men show up early on.

ART GALLERY OPENING SHOWS or art walks or gallery hoping with a group.

PRIVATE CLUBS : If you go to a sports event, try to watch the game from the club house.  I don't think sports bars are a great place to meet men. There's too much drinking, they have their regulars, and most of the people there are there to watch the game.  

But if you truly love the sport and are a fan and can follow the game and talk the players you can give it a try.  Still you must distinguish yourself as not "just one of the boys".

RESTAURANTS /LUNCH : If you go out to lunch alone or with a friend - sometimes an office mate - if you're on a budget - it's worth going to the more expensive place and bag lunching it other days to stay in budget.  Look around the room and see if there are any men dining there.  Is it too much business?  Are any of the men who are lunching coming over to introduce themselves to you or any of the other women you're with?  Don't become a lunch regular at any one place.  Seek out other opportunities to lunch and meet. It used to be that men would have a waiter send over a drink asking to be introduced to women.  It's OK to say no to the drink but do look to see who sent it, nod or make eye contact, or say thanks.  You can ask the waiter to get the person's card.  (Everyone should have a card that has their name and personal phone number on it which is personal card rather than a business card. You're not going to call a person at their work to have a personal conversation.)  

VOLUNTEER EVENTS - CHARITY EVENTS : Despite the criticism that it's all about dressing expensively and rubber chicken dinners there is a lot of meeting and mating going on by people who volunteer and people who donate to and go to charity events.

Missy

MORE FROM THAT 20/20 INTERVIEW OF JUDITH CAMPBELL EXNER : SHE CALLED THE WHITE HOUSE OVER 70 TIMES

A few days I posted what I learned watching an old 20/20 television interview of Judith Campbell Exner, considered to be a Mistress of President John F. Kennedy in the early 1960's on YouTube.  Judith provided evidence of her story during this featured program that was run in December of 1996 - many years after she and Kennedy ended their relationship in December 1962.

She said they never had to sneak around.

She called him at the White House over 70 times.  Her name is recorded.  She visited him there.  He gave her the gift of a diamond and ruby broach.  He sent her tickets to his Inauguration as President but she didn't go.  She called the tickets evidence that he was "reckless."*

As for her messages in plain business or manila envelopes that she never peaked into between J.F.K. and Sam before his election, she says she thought they had a mutual plan to get rid of Cuba's Fidel Castro, the revolutionary who had taken over that island country where the Mafia had made a fortune at casinos.  They had been thrown out of Cuba and wanted back in.  Getting rid of Castro, from other sources (see Mistress of the Month Marita Lorenz Mistress of the Month in May 2915. ) did not necessarily mean killing him?

Columnist Liz Smith, a respected journalist at the time, was asked by other women interviewers if she believed Judith, if she though the Kennedy-Mafia-Castro story was true and she said in her opinion it was.  It angered me that Judith had to be questioned as to her truthfulness of a nationally broadcast television show by other women.

Eleven months before the Dallas, Texas assassination of President John. F. Kennedy,  Judith Campbell went to the White House one last time to see Jack.  It was December 1962.  Their relationship had run its course.

*The term reckless as well as the term "risk taking" I've heard or read many times about this President, but also "compartmentalized has been used.  One gets the impression he was not reckless as a President but in his personal life.  Was she not reckless in being a courier between him and Sam Giancana?

Notes are from the 20/20 television Interview of Judith Campbell Exner


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WHAT A 20/20 TELEVISION INTERVIEW WITH JUDITH CAMPBELL EXNER REVEALED

I watched this interview, which aired in December 1996, and included questioning by Barbara Walters, an interview with columnist Liz Smith, and other women.  These women were the pioneers - the very few women - who were in important positions in the media at the time.  You can find the interview on YouTube.  I'm not posting it here because it was broken into segments and the quality of the video is low.

First Judith Campbell Exner was called "a dying woman" though she looked great.  She did die a couple years later.

She said she had dated Frank Sinatra briefly.  Then Sinatra introduced her to JFK.  She was 26 years old.  This was before John F. Kennedy was elected and she thought she was his only "other woman."  Since she had left a marriage in which her first husband, who she married at 18 years old, actor William Campbell, had never been sexually faithful to her, she felt torn about now being "the other woman" but John F. Kennedy's smiling eyes and charisma, were irresistible. This was not a light decision for her.

John called her every day while campaigning on the road.  She showed documents including her schedule book in which she recorded that on March 7, 1960, she spent her first night with him as a lover, at the Plaza Hotel in New York.  Shortly, on April 6/7 of 1960, J.F.K. asked her to arrange a meeting with Sam Giancana, a Chicago Mafia boss, to help with his campaign.  To me this proves that the man himself was involved in getting the Mafia to help him in his election, something in very many films and books is put upon his father, the former Ambassador to Great Britain, Joseph Kennedy. Until this reveal, I though the father's machinations were not known to his son.  J.F.K also showed her a sack of money and asked her to take it to Sam.

This is what Judith has to say about her culpability.

"Everyone expects of me to have greater judgement that Jack Kennedy and this is what always amazes me that I should have been suspicious.  I trusted this man.  I loved this man."

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FABULOUS LAS VEGAS

JUDITH CAMPBELL EXNER's LAST STAND

PEOPLE : DARK SIDE OF CAMELOT : JFK and THE MOB



EXCERPT:  "I lied when I said I was not a conduit between President Kennedy and the Mafia," says Judith Campbell Exner, the same woman who first shocked the nation twelve years ago with the revelation that she had an affair with President while he was in the White House.  "I lied," Exner continues,"When I said that President Kennedy was unaware of my friendship;s with mobsters.  He knew everything about my dealings with Sam Giancana and Johnny Roselli because I was seeing them for him.  I wouldn't have been seeing them otherwise.  And I would never have known mobsters if it hadn't been for Frank Sinatra."

DICEY PROPOSITION

THE LAST ACT OF JUDITH EXNER - EXCERPTS FROM ARCHIVED VANITY FAIR

VANITY FAIR - THE LAST ACT OF JUDITH EXNER

This article is about Judith finding her "lost son."

EXCERPT: Exner stared at the photo on her nightstand: a laughing infant with a birthmark on his brow.  For years she had lain down to sleep every night within reach of that picture and another keepsake - a loaded gun.  Both are legacies of her life thirty years ago - of the love affairs that made her notorious, and the son of a brief liaison with a Hollywood producer and given up for adoption.  ... Exner's relationship with Sam Giancana cost her her son.

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JUDITH KATHERINE IMMOOR AKA CAMPBELL EXNER - MISTRESS OF PRESIDENT JOHN F. KENNEDY : COURIER BETWEEN KENNEDY AND MOBSTER SAM GIANCANA

JUDITH EILEEN KATHERINE IMMOOR - CAMPBELL - EXNER

(1934-1999)

Mistress of the Month

Back in January, I elected art historian, Anne Pingeot, the long time Mistress of French statesman and President of France, Francois Maurice Mitterand, as Mistress of the Month. I've also posted, basically, that the attitude of the French towards their elected officials and politicians about having Mistresses was/is much different the American one.  The French are concerned that the person do their job well and the person's intimate personal life isn't such an issue.

President John F. Kennedy and Judith Campbell Exner, born  Judith Katherine Immoor, were not exposed by the media during their moment of in history either. During the era of United States President John F. Kennedy, the 35th president of the United States from January 1961 until he was assassinated in November of 1963, the press in the United States was still not reporting anything that might offend the conservative American people about a President's personal life or - I believe - hurt his wife Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy or his family.  It was many years later that Judith Campbell Exner spoke about her experience and she did so under duress.  She became more concerned about her own family than protecting the Kennedys.

From this distance in time, there have been many books exposing the fact that John F. Kennedy, before and during his one and only marriage to Jacqueline Bouvier, was a womanizer. The difficulty, for me anyway, because many others have called Judith a Mistress, and his Mistress, is that J.F.K. had so many involvements with women, I question which ones to consider as actual mistresses. I think I have to go with the reportage and consider the duration of the involvement and also, very much, what Judith's own testimonial about her life was.

A person can have many involvements at the same time, especially if they don't confuse sex with love, though I think a person can also love more than one person at a time. Judith says she was not sexually involved with both J.F.K and mobster Sam Giancana at the same time and she was never Sam's mistress - just friends.  There is also the fact that labeling Judith Campbell Exner (Campbell and Exner being the surnames of her first and second husband) may have come from those who wanted to tell a different version of the story, to white wash it, to give the impression that the President was seduced.  If she was a "party girl" or hanging out in Las Vegas, does that mean she was only in it for the sex?  Don't "party girls" also have the ability to love? (Don't some women, just like some men, sleep around until they fall in love?) I'm tired of the sexist attitude of always blaming the woman for leading a man into adultery or whatever it is he does of his own choice, of excusing him and blaming her or saying he couldn't have been serious because she was only there for sex.  As Judith has pointed out, he was married at the time, she was not.

Some of those who exposed or reported this involvement in various books, articles, and interviews, have even unfairly called Judith a prostitute, call girl, or a "Mafia Mol."  (If you want to read about a true Mafia Mol, Virginia "The Flamingo" Hill was our Mistress of the Month in March 2013.)  Once a woman has hung out with those known to be in the mob or "associated", it's easy to think she was a Mafia Mol, a woman who seems to only date mobsters. While I think Judith slept around between marriages, well, lots of people do, especially when they first marry very young and feel they have missed out on that experience. 

A question I have around this story include: "Was Jackie, having taken up the French culture, European in her attitude about her husband's fidelity? Often that her own charming and handsome father was also a womanizer is used to explain her attraction to a husband the same way. Then there is the era these events occurred in, transitioning from 1950's values to 1960's values, influenced by the recent development of the pill and the sexual revolution in which many people abandoned the idea of waiting till marriage to have sex as well as monogamy.  People experiment sexuality, sometimes to find themselves, their orientation. Some couples agree that one or both can have experiences or relationships outside of marriage

A deciding factor for me was, in determining that Judith was a Mistress, was the 2 - 2 1/2 years she was involved with John. As for the financial aspect, she might have had money as a result of her divorce from her first husband and was considered well off, though she did not have a job or career of her own.  To me the years spent also mean that the involvement was mutual. The end of the involvement seems to have been her pregnancy.  Yes, she could have had J.F.K's child. "What are you going to do?" the President first asked before remembering himself and saying "We."

Like our Mistress of the Month, January 2017,  Sheryl Weinstein, who had a sweet hot extra-marital relationship with financial whiz and ponzi schemer Bernie Madoff, a relationship that went on for years while both were married,  there is also a question of how much Judith knew, how much she understood, if and when. Generally during her lifetime she claimed innocence, no knowledge of the communications between her lover, the President and her friend, Mafioso Sam Giancana. It's just that she was the courier. 

I also have the question about Judith who had claimed that she was first unaware that Mafioso mobster Sam Giancana, who was the head of the Chicago Mafia, was who he was, saying she was introduced to him as "Sam Flood."  She says her sexual relationship with Sam was a one time experience, and after he had offered to marry her when she came to him looking for help in getting an illegal abortion - JFK the father. However, when she acted as a courier, taking messages in envelopes back and forth between John and Sam, without questioning what she was doing or peeking in the envelopes to see what was written, I personally find it difficult to believe she was as unaware of the seriousness or importance of being between these two extremely powerful men. She claimed she was disinterested.  Was she also afraid? Until Judith admitted her role between them, it was as if the till-then conspiracy theories about Kennedy (or his father, Joseph) and the Mafia were just theories.

So let's start with her innocence.  Judith was born to a wealthy architect and her family socialized with some of the Hollywood Stars, including Frank Sinatra.  (Barbara Blakeley Marx - Sinatra - twice a mistress and thrice a wife - was our Mistress of the Month in October 2018.) Her sister became an actress. Judith was a beautiful woman, with pale white skin, contrasting dark glossy hair, and unusual blue eyes, compared to Hollywood actress and star, Elizabeth Taylor. It's said she even sounded like Elizabeth - that voice.  Her teenage years were motherless as her mom died when she was 14.  She first married young at 18 to an actor William Campbell, who she says was never faithful to her.  They were married from 1952 to 1958.

But when the marriage ended in divorce she was a free agent.  Frank Sinatra was one of the people who thought of her as a family friend, a beautiful young woman who needed introductions but first they dated, briefly. In early 1960, the divorced and childless Judith, age 26 and the much younger woman, was introduced to J.F.K. in Vegas by Sinatra. This lead to Vegas, Introductions to the President,  hanging with The Rat Back, and to "Sam Flood."  Were these men passing women around?  The relationship between Judith and John lasted from their first sexual experience together at the Plaza Hotel in New York on March 7, 1960 until eleven months before the President's assassination, after a visit by Judith to the White House in December 1962.  The compliant Judith then kept her privacy. 

In 1975 Judith remarried to a pro golfer, Dan Exner. In 1977, years after J.F.K's assassination in 1963, her book was published and revealed more than the press had previously. She and her husband remained together for over ten years.   She was called reclusive. She died of breast cancer in 1999.

This month I'll post more about Judith, so keep reading!


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