YOU CAN KEEP YOUR HAT ON : RANDY NEWMAN

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MONICA LEWINSKY MODELS SOPHISTICATED FASHIONS and ADVOCATES FOR VOTING

Monica Lewinsky figures in here at Mistress Manifesto though she has never been a Mistress or a Courtesan, as one of the women who I consider Dynamic. Her youthful affair with the then President of the United States, William Jefferson Clinton, made her infamous, though she was a much younger intern and he was, well, he was the President in the Oval Office and the boss.  I have long advocated for Monica, who has suffered for it. So I was happy to hear that she has a modeling gig.

DAILY MAIL : Monica Lewinsky models for Reformation

Excerpt:  Delivering her powerful message, she said that she was motivated to not let 'voter frustration' and 'apathy' get in the way of going to the polls to cast their ballot.

Lewinsky was dressed up in a series of gorgeous ensembles - from Reformation's two-piece linen number from the brands Moya collection, to a flirty long knitted black dress from their Mikol line, and a chic black Veda Ashland leather trench.

'We've seen in polls that voter frustration is up and apathy is up,' Lewinsky told ELLE's fashion features director, Véronique Hyland.

'We all have to be reminding each other that we can't let that get in the way of needing to vote, that that's how we use our voice. That's where our power is.'

CHECK OUT THESE HYPER ROMANTIC QUOTES AND READ THE BOOK ONE CAME FROM : THESE ARE SOOOO GOOD

I found this web site with 111 extremely romantic quotes.  These are good.  Check them out, find one that suits you, make a card and write the quote on it.  Will the one you love collapse in your arms?  You never know!  If the quote is that good, imagine how good the book will be!

EPIC READS- 111 ROMANTIC QUOTES TO READ TO YOUR LOVED ONE

KISS BUT DON'T START WITH THE LIPS

While I was searching for images for this month's posts in public domain, I noticed that there were many of couples in passionate kisses... But a flirt may require less of a rush and more gentleness.  May I advice you linger to kiss a neck, a forehead, a cheek, before you go for the mouth and...  take weeks to get there?

Missy

PS.  The biggest excuse for giving someone a kiss whom you've never kissed is that it's their birthday.  The cheek or temple area is "safe."  Just be sure to make eye contact after that quick dash of a kiss.  Think "I sure would like more!"  Somehow that thought will make it from your brain into your eyes. 

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ASK QUESTIONS THAT ARE A LITTLE MORE THAN FRIENDLY

A good conversation always shows interest in the other person too; their experiences, opinion, advice, and well... Questions like these qualify as FLIRTING. You're going to have to smile and make eye contact, You'll have  dare. So have just a little bit of obvious flirting attitude when you ask these questions.  Hopefully the person you're having a conversation with will get into the mood and come back with some flirty answers too...

What’s your favorite way to flirt?

Have you ever had a crush on a friend?

What's your favorite pick up line?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

If we could have an adventure together, what kind of adventure would it be?

What's your favorite thing to do on a date?

LANGUAGE OF FLIRTATION - CONSIDER THE HAT : THE MOLLY BROWN HOUSE

Good thing we don't live in Victorian times because, if we did, we would have to learn an entire new way of flirting through signaling.  I found this Hat Flirtation list to be quite interesting and there is more at the site: MOLLY BROWN ORG THE LANGUAGE OF FLIRTING

Excerpt:

The history of flirtation using everyday objects can be traced back to the Augustan Roman poet Ovid, who was known, in part, for his poetry teaching about the arts of seduction and love. In Amores 1.4, Ovid directs his married girlfriend in the discreet ways of flirting using eyebrows, wine, hand signals, and jewelry:

Watch me and my nods and my expressive features:

Catch my furtive signs and you yourself return them.

Words that are spoken without voice, I shall speak with my eyebrows;

You will understand the words traced by my fingers, words written in wine.

When the wantonness of our love comes into your mind,

With tender thumb touch your blushing cheeks;

If you shall complain about me in the silence of your mind,

Your soft hand should hang from the end of your ear;

My dear light, when I do or say things which please you,

Turn your ring round and round your fingers;

Touch the table with your hand, as men in prayer do,

When you pray for many sufferings upon your deserving husband.

 

A LITTLE PRESENT FOR NO SPECIAL REASON - YOU WERE THINKING OF THEM WHILE AWAY

If you started dating someone, giving them an expensive gift may be inappropriate. If you spend too much, such as on jewelry with precious stones, they may even feel obliged to reject the gift.  The key here is to gift a person you want to warm up a romance with by choosing something nice that shows that you were thinking of them while away - out of town - on a vacation - on business. Have it in a box with some tissue and a simple ribbon. No need to go crazy on wrapping and bows. It's a little something - a flirt.

I like things you can buy at museum stores.  A book on an artist they like...  A scarf... a plastic dinosaur?  Please no postcards or tiny boxes of chocolate. 

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FUNNY VALENTINES

There are many kinds of Valentines you can send. Flirting is not serious.  So send a FUNNY Valentine.  This lets a person know you're interested but doesn't put pressure on them.  And the best way to avoid making them feel pressured is to give them a Valentine like you would when you were in grade school. If you can, choose a vintage valentine from when they themselves were in grade school, which will have a tinge of sentimental value.  (Got that?  If they were born in 1960, aim for 1965 - 1968!) Luckily there are Valentines all over the Internet that you can print out in color.

How will he or she know if you just gave them the Valentine because you're giving them out to all your friends.  They don't.  Which is good.

DANCING IS YOUR OPPORTUNITY TO WHISPER

Seek out the places in your area that hold dances. Slow dances. Not loud discos or parties. Perhaps a country club?  You don't need to be a champion in ballroom to hold on to someone - not too tight - not to close - but close enough for you to smell their scent and they, yours.  Dancing close gives you the opportunity to make eye contact, and you should.  Take this opportunity to whisper some sweet words.  "You smell good."  "You look so handsome/beautiful tonight." "I'm having a good time. I'm so glad you invited me!"  "I want to stay a while longer, but I'm looking forward to going home." "Save the last dance for me!"

Compliments such as these can get you everywhere.

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HOW TO FLIRT WITH A GUY AND STAY CLASSY (IT'S NOT SO TRICKY!) : MISSY SPEAKS

Among the various videos and articles I read about flirting, this one which is by Matt Boggs, very much typifies my best attitude about flirting. 

By the way, because I know you want to know, this past several months I've been flirting myself.  I finally found myself in a situation in which there are lots of men to flirt with. The men are telling jokes. The room is full of laughter.  And why not?  It's healthy.  It's healing.  Everyone is witty or trying to be, using their intelligence. The men may walk out of there into their ordinary life, but they all do so with their peacock feathers spread. My attitude is "no harm done." They feel good about themselves and so do I. They feel alive and happy as they walk out the door and so do I.  They look forward to the next time they have a good time. So do I.  It does not matter if they're in a relationship or not. Or if I am. It's all fun.

 

The other day four men had gravitated to my table, I looked around the room. Yes, there were other women there. For whatever reason, they were not participating in the socialization.  

Now, I'm not judging those women for wanting to be alone in their thoughts or too busy with their cell phones.  Among the men there is likely one or two who would like nothing more than to be with a woman who is more quiet. I don't know what their circumstances are in their lives. Maybe, though I see no wedding bands or engagement rings, they're in committed relationships or are in grief, having lost someone they love. I just bring this up because there is definitely the space for them to join the party. I would also welcome a new, good girlfriend, someone to go places and do things with. Their behavior is communicating that they're not available, not even for friendship with another women.  

You do not have to be the life of the party to engage with others. Flirting is also something you can do with your partner, someone you've made a commitment with.  If you're slogging along in a day to day relationship it may require you change your mindset. Go out on a date with your partner. Tell them when they look good or smell good.  Compliment them.  Hold hands as you walk along.  Make eye contact. Tell them you love them or that you thought about them all day...

Missy

PRINCESS PARKING

 

THE SHORT BUT SWEET MASH NOTE

A mash note is not a love letter, it's just a note.

You do not have to be in love.  You do have to have a crush.

You might slip someone one of these:

Or...

Think of three things you honestly like about a person.

Then write something that is true, something like this:

I like your easy laugh,  that sparkle in your eyes.  When are you going to ask me out?

You can fold your note up like you did in junior high. You can put it in a tiny envelope spritzed with your cologne or perfume. The main thing is to pass it off to the person you're flirting with. Be brave. There must be some way to do that without anyone noticing?

What's this? They will think as they unfold...

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PARTIES ARE PERFECT FOR FLIRTING

Parties are perfect for flirting.  

Before you go, think of something light that you can talk about.  A funny experience you recently had...  Or a good joke (rated General Audience) that won't offend anyone... 

Put your smile on.

When you introduce yourself or someone else, it's OK to brag a little or mention a recent accomplishment, something people can talk with you or them about or remember you or them with. Just don't overdo it and try to be the star of the party. The star at a party is the person who invited you. Be sure to bring a little something as a gift and thank them for inviting you because they thought well of you and made that effort.

Be sure to circulate.You're there to mix. Chit chat and then move on. This is not the time to sit in a corner and talk problems with a friend you can call some other time.  And it's not the time to take off with someone you just met and turn it into a date. (If they ask, suggest they call.) 

You were invited by someone who thought well of you. Stick around for a reasonable time.  And it's your turn next to throw a party. If you cannot throw a party yourself, remember to call them and invite them out for coffee.

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KISS A HAND! CHARM and WIT

As seen in this Vintage illustration from Graphic's Fairy, a gentleman kissing a woman's hand appears to be a rather courtly, old fashioned thing to do.  Which is why it's funny if you do it these days. Kissing a hand comes from the days when a man could only kiss the lips of someone he intended to marry. 

Let's say you are on a first date and you are not one to invite someone up to coffee or a drink or into your bed so soon. Well, rather than a distant goodnight, or a formal handshake (which he may think of as "a handshake instead of a kiss" - a brush off) take his hand and give him one sweet kiss on the top of it.

Then swiftly, but looking back with a smile, go though the door - alone...

Flirting can include teasing.

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FLIRTING 101 : MISTRESS MANIFESTO'S FLIRTING ISSUE

Yes, my romantic readers, this month we are going to explore FLIRTING. I'll start out by admitting to you that I love to flirt!  Flirting can be fun and that's the best way to take it, as fun, to not read too much into it. Of course, it depends on what you say or what you do, what you're communicating with your flirt. Flirting can be just the thing that gets you noticed, signals to someone that you are interested, or that can lead to ROMANCE.  If you're in a relationship, it can keep the spark alive.

If you are already in a relationship, well, don't stop flirting.  If you've never flirted - start.

Everyone wants to feel noticed, beautiful, special. 

This month is going to be full of information on flirting. 

I'll have some good ideas for you.

It's up to you to follow through.

Let me know what happens!

Missy

BREEZY

 See you tomorrow!