Wednesday, July 31, 2024
Tuesday, July 30, 2024
A LEGAL CONTRACT BETWEEN A COURTESAN and HER PATRON IN THE LATE 1700's
Is 'patron' the right word to use when describing a person who provides financial support to another in a non-marital contract which includes sexuality, romance, even love? In the art world patron refers to a person, persons, even an organization or group that provides funds so that an artist can create. Maybe the word was used to mean support of the Courtesan who might have aspirations in theater, music, fine art, fashion or design.
The attraction of the Courtesan drew in many potential suitors who competed for her favors. These men won not just her company but a prestige among other men. Most of them were married. Their marriages were often contractual as well in the more traditional way; families who wanted to keep their money and status by intermarrying among their peers but for whom love or even companionship was not a consideration. Breeding and keeping the wealth in the family or increasing it was the primary concern.
For a woman who married a peer in an arranged marriage there was usually no way out. Divorce was impossible or exceedingly uncommon and might result in her impoverishment since she could not be married and in control of the money. Whatever inheritance she might have when entering the marriage, in a dowry or other arrangement, went over to her husband. So much depended on what power she might personally have in her relationships. Especially when a woman was not attracted to her husband or they were not sexually compatible, or when childbirth threatened her existence, she might welcome his having another woman. Some people think that a man having a mistress or a courtesan is actually more civilized than divorce.
Ah well... It was advisable for a woman to have a contract that defined the benefits she could expect from a man even after their relationship cooled, with foresight to her old age.
On pages 51 and 52 of Katie Hickman's book, Courtesans, it's explained that people in the 18th century were very curious about the "settlements" that men made. And as an example, is given an agreement made by another popular Courtesan, a contemporary of Sophia Baddeley named Ann (or Nan) Cateley, also an actress and singer of the 1760's. In this case Nan had made a deal for marriage which fell through, but it's an interesting look at the legal monetary proposal.Page 52: .... "Nan had made him sign a paper, properly drawn up by an attorney, which set out very precisely the terms and conditions designed to protect her in the (highly unlikely)event of her surviving him:
1) That he should settle 1000 pounds on her, to be paid within one month of his funeral, and 100 pounds during her natural life.
2) That he should settle the like annuity on every one of the children she might have by him, to be paid them also during the term of their natural life.
3) That previous to their marriage, he should invest a sum, or sums, sufficient to produce the aforesaid annuities in any of the public funds, or lend the same on mortgages, or lands, or houses, or on eligible securities, for payment of them.
4) That in the case of failure of any of the said conditions, the marriage shall be null and void, and she be at liberty to marry again.
(Ann was popular in the 1760's - 1770's.
So get your inflation calculators out. Using the Bank of England and 100 pounds in 1770 we get over $150,000.
Missy
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Sunday, July 28, 2024
DON'T TELL ANYBODY THE SECRETS I TOLD YOU by LUCINDA WILLIAMS : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW
Loved this book, and as always here at MISTRESS MANIFESTO, I was wondering if Lucinda, an erotic song writer, had ever been the other woman. Enjoy these excerpts from the memoir and ask yourself if you have a "type" when it comes to men!
Excerpt pages 94-95
As I was growing into a full-fledged woman, I began to be attracted to a certain kind of man, and I would maintain that kind of attraction for the rest of my adult life. The way I've often described this kind of man is that he would be "a poet on a motorcycle." These were men who could think very deeply and could have very deep feelings, but there was also a kind of blue-collar roughneck quality to them The epitome of this kind of man for men was the pot Frank Stanford.
I met Frank sometime in the spring of 1978. I was twenty-five years old at the time. I had been living in Houston and Austin, plying my trade and craft in the music scenes in those towns, working odd jobs in restaurants and health food stores to pay my bills, but I was back and forth to Fayetteville to visit my father and Jorda and sometimes I would stay there for weeks or a couple of months at a time. His literary parties were in full swing at the house as usual and sometimes in the evening I would get out my guitar and play songs...
Pages 95-96
Frank was twenty-nine years old and married to a beautiful, smart woman named Ginny Crouch who was a painter. Frank was also living, on the side, with another beautiful, smart woman, the poet Carolyn "C.D." Wright. He and Carolyn started a publishing company together in Fayetteville. It was a pretty weird situation, married to one and living with the other - an ad hoc, a part-time commitment to both.....
Page 98
.... His writing was feral and on fire. Everybody locally was proclaiming him the next great American poet. He knew a lot about blues and country music and I think his poetry came from that background, and was also part of the Flannery O'Connor Southern Gothic tradition.
Page 99
I was enamored of him, in love with him. I don't know what you would call our relationship. I wouldn't say it was a love triangle, or a love square, with me and Ginny and Carolyn, because Frank and I never actually had sex. We just hung out together and talked. He was genuinely attentative to what I had to say and he knew exactly what to say in response. He knew what I wanted to hear, which implies some manipulation, but also suggests to me that he cared. We talked about poetry and lyrics and feelings and desires, all sorts of topics about caring about individuals and caring for the world, about how the world was fucked up ad so hard on most people while some people had it easy, and why it was important to be a poet or a singer even if your audience was never going to be very big, which certainly seemed to be the case for me at the time.
My relationship with Frank only lasted about two months and then he killed himself by shooting a handgun into his chest. There are various versions of the events that led to his suicide.
Basically, all the stories overlap in claiming that Ginny and Carloyn had had enough of Frank's philandering and they confronted him together, almost like an intervention, and he couldn't handle it. He had left town for a couple weeks before this happened He might have gone to New Orleans, possibly to visit with the poet Ellen Gilchris, who he was close to.
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Reading this book which answers the question most posed to a songwriter which is Who inspired the song - sent me right over to YouTube where I searched for Lucinda Williams and listened to the songs she mentioned in it. It's a smooth read and perfect for a night home alone with a little wine and cheese! Missy
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Friday, July 26, 2024
Wednesday, July 24, 2024
Monday, July 22, 2024
SOPHIA BADDELEY : DESERTED BY A ROGUE SHE FELL FOR, SHE BECAME THE SOLE SUPPORT OF THREE CHILDREN.
Stephen Sayer was one of the Sheriffs of the City of London, a politician who was not an aristocrat or a noble. Mrs. Steele, Sophia's friend-companion-chaperone-servant did not like the man, perhaps thinking him not good enough for Sophia. Sophia continued to spend more money than she had and Sayer lived off Sophia and treated her as a servant. Mrs. Steele quit!
Sayer humiliated Sophia by leaving her while she was pregnant to marry another, richer woman. He was an opportunist and user.
Though Elizabeth Steele did continue to look in on her friend, she no longer worked on the Memoirs and so we have only glimpses of Sophia's life after so many rich details were accounted.
Sophia did return to the stage after the birth of her son and what is called "a long illness.' I wonder to myself if she had post partum depression. Her salary as an actress was increased to 8 pounds plus a clothing allowance. She was still popular with the audiences even if she was excluded from society. In 1778 she earned a huge sum. And she found love again with a fellow actor with whom she had two more children - three total.
When Mr. Webster, the father of her two children, died, she'd become nervous and unstable. Perhaps she had long suffered from a psychological condition.
Sophia left London with yet another man, John, and moved to Dublin, where she appeared onstage, and then on to Edinburgh and York. Her heath was poor, she was chased by debt, and she had a new addiction, laudanum, a tincture of opium. Her addiction intensified. She appeared on stage when possible, until the end of the 1785; for ten years she supported her family as an actress. What happened to John who had moved her north from London is not known.
Sophia was reported to have 'consumption.' This usually means tuberculosis, and if so, then Sophia likely had been infected years earlier. She was also reportedly "lame' a more generic term, not to mean that she limped but that she was weak. Sophia was only 41 years old when she died.
She was loved enough by her fellow players in Edinburgh that they contributed to pay for someone to tend to her on her deathbed.
I feel grateful to author Katie Hickman for this well researched and interesting book. the primary reference for this month's post.
Friday, July 19, 2024
Wednesday, July 17, 2024
SOPHIA BADDELEY: DISCONNECTED FROM THE REALITIES OF SPENDING AND TOOK ON MULTIPLE LOVERS ASIDE OF LORD MELBOURNE
Monday, July 15, 2024
Saturday, July 13, 2024
LEGAL AGREEMENTS BETWEEN COURTESANS and THE MEN WHO PROVIDED RICHES
Friday, July 12, 2024
Thursday, July 11, 2024
SOPHIA BADDELEY'S REPUTATION REMAINED AN ADVANTAGE THAT DREW COMPETITIVE OFFERS FROM OTHER MEN
Monday, July 8, 2024
READ THE MEMOIRS OF SOPHIA BADDELEY BY HER FRIEND MRS. ELIZABETH STEELE ON INTERNET ARCHIVE (CIRCA 1796)
INTERNET ARCHIVE.ORG MEMOIR OF SOPHIA BADDELEY - by ELIZABETH STEELE
Full title : The memoirs of Mrs. Sophia Baddeley, late of Drury Lane Theatre
Elizabeth Steel is the woman who in great friendship but also servitude, lived with Sophia Baddeley. She was her chaperone, gave her opinions about the various men who wanted to be patrons, lived with her, tried to keep her out of trouble.
I think a question we might have in 2024 is if the two women also had a sexual or romantic relationship. I have to let that question hang in the air. It was uncommon for any woman to live alone and most Courtesans had servants. The role of Mrs. Elizabeth Steele, who was about the same age as Sophia, was of friend, companion, chaperone, house-mate, advocate, and servant who, arguably, actually cared about Sophia and was steady in her life for many years.
Mrs. Elizabeth Steele wrote the memoirs of Sophia, and according to author Katie Hickman, set herself as a moral arbitrator of the story and as the most self-sacrificing person in the Courtesan's life.
Page 68: ... "I had given her my little fortune, which I had for years worked for, and did not repine; that I had also forsaken my husband, neglected my family, and given her myself, and would not give up my life, if necessary, to serve her.'
Saturday, July 6, 2024
ACTRESS SOPHIA BADDELEY WAS SLOW TO ACCEPT FINANCIAL OFFERS CONSIDERING HER OWN IMPRESSIVE INCOME FROM ACTING AND SINGING
Thursday, July 4, 2024
Tuesday, July 2, 2024
SOPHIA BADDELEY : HIGHLY PAID GEORGIAN COMEDIC ACTRESS : BECAME A COURTESAN AFTER MARRIAGE and A HEARTBREAK BUT BEING ON STAGE SAVED HER
While they apparently did not maintain attraction for each other, both Sophia and Robert had a variety of dalliances. When one, a Mr. Mendez, began to woo her, Robert pimped his wife out to the man and encouraged her towards him. Very slowly Sophia got what is thought of as a courtesan's attitude; she decided that she would accept the patronage or a rich man who would provide for her a lavish lifestyle while being sexual with him and it would be she who chose among the men who wanted her. She finally lost her heart though - perhaps for the first time - to a man who was a member of the Irish peerage - but poor - and then switched to his brother. This brother spent money on her. When he ran out of money, she took over paying their shared expenses. Then it was all too much and the debtors were after them. He said he had to leave her. She tried suicide by overdose and lived for the rest of her life with stomach ailments. She was not a person with strong health.
Though she lived through falling in love with men who were opportunists and users, being betrayed and deserted by them, Sophia was able to survive without becoming a prostitute. She was able to support herself and her family which included three extramarital children she had with two other men, as an actress, far from London, in northern England, and especially Edinburgh, Scotland. In the end it was her fans who did not desert her and the career her husband had instigated for her was allowed her to persevere. Her health declined steadily and she died in 1786 at forty-one with consumption - TB - which she no doubt had for some time.
See you next post!