SALON ON HELEN GURLEY BROWN, MISTRESSES, and BOOKS

Link here to the Salon article about the book called BAD GIRLS GO EVERYWHERE which is a biography of Helen Gurley Brown, the author of SEX and THE SINGLE GIRL, and long time (our favorite) editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine. (Yes we've ordered it and will report in) Missy

BEING A MISTRESS DOESN'T REQUIRE ADULTRY

Not just talking about legal marriage or living together as the other person's primary relationship. Some Misters are men who don't ever want to marry or are postponing. Still, they don't mind "keeping" a special friend, a lover, or being a very generous boyfriend. And as you know sometimes they still marry someone else - a different "type," but keep their mistress.

MISTRESS VOCABULARY "LEFT HAND QUEEN"

From the French - are we surprised? A "Left-Hand Queen" is the woman who rules the King and the Kingdom on the left, while his legal wife the Queen rules from the Right.

IT'S (RARELY) ALL ABOUT SEX!

These days, any teenager who can get her hands on a Cosmopolitan Magazine can learn about sex - having and giving pleasure - countless interesting positions. There is so much emphasis on outside appearance and expertise in the bedroom - and so much pressure on young women. But while these things count, when it comes to having and holding any INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP, neither great beauty or great sex (or both great beauty and great sex) can hold a man who is not in love and feels no responsibility towards you.

As a mistress (or mantress - we'll use this term until we can find a better one!) you may remain unmarried (or become his only woman) to your mister because he feels responsibility to his wife and/or children. He may or may not love her or them, or love them in a different way than he loves you. This is why some men only make the break when the children are grown and doing well on their own, which can be a long wait. It's not true that only selfish or irresponsible men turn to other women or that he is "escaping" duty by being with you.

That's why it's a good idea to take a critical look at any relationship you are in. If you are sure that you can make the break when you need to, AND YOU REALLY ARE NOT WAITING for someone to make up their mind to be with you, you may make a great mistress. A great mistress doesn't wait around for a man to commit to her if what she really wants is a marriage. She makes the best of TODAY while keeping an eye to her future...

OOOH LA LA !

They used to wear the corset or a girdle or some other "Foundation" garment that helped form a figure. Today it's nature, exercize, diet, and - if all else fails and you are so inclined - cosmetic surgery - liposuction! But while some men may desire a Mistress because of her attractions that are physical, others simply want someone they can talk to, someone who knows the art of conversation!

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Feminity

"Being FEMININE does not require me to be ignorant of my status in any relationship!" 

BLAME IT ON CUPID !

EX JOHN EDWARDS MISTRESS RIELLE HUNTER - NEWS UPDATE

Click on the title - thanks to Yahoo News and Associated Press! An Update on Rielle Hunter and John Edwards by Alysia Patterson.

BLONDIE : HEART OF GLASS

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DOCTOR TONI GRANT'S BOOK - ON BEING A WOMAN

UPDATE NEW YORK TIMES : DR TONI GRANT OBIT  from April 2016

Book to buy : BEING A WOMAN
By Dr. Toni Grant
C 1988 Dr. Toni Grant PhD. Psychologist Inc.

Dr. Toni Grant, the once upon a time pioneer radio psychologist who wrote her landmark book in such ELEGANT PROSE in collaboration with Susan Block, and introduced us sweet young things to TERMINOLOGY like Courtesan, Mother, Madonna, and AMAZONS ! ? !
TONI GRANT: "Life Is Not A Dress Rehearsal"

Toni taught us to Handle Our Hero and Negotiate for Marriage.
While I have no reason to believe that Dr. Toni Grant, who started life out with an expensive Seven Sisters education, has ever been a mistress, understanding men better can serve us all, despite our own marital status.

HAVE YOU EVER CALLED A RADIO SHOW PSYCHOLOGIST?

DID YOU FOLLOW THE ADVICE YOU WERE GIVEN ?

The link under this title is to a recent Los Angeles Times Real Estate article, circa 2009, on her multimillion dollar condo and a little bit about her pioneering.

A BLOG ON MARRIAGE AND MISTRESSES....

"The wife is like water and the mistress like diamonds. Given a marginal choice between the two, the husband readily sacrifices a little time with the wife for a little more with the mistress. But when the choice is between the total value of the wife and the total value of the mistress, the wife wins." -Dwight R Lee


This man - writer is a professor at Southern Methodist University, and maybe what is remarkable here is that he writes about mistresses - he acknowledges that mistresses exist...