Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label health. Show all posts

Saturday, October 5, 2024

MARIA CALLAS : HER TEACHER-MENTOR NEGOTIATES FOR HER BUT INSISTS SHE IS TOO FAT : THE YOUNG MARIA LIVES THROUGH WARTORN GREECE


Chapter 3 of Lyndsy Spence's book, Cast a Diva, delves on the very beginnings of Maria Callas' professional career and with the demands of her teacher-mentor at the Athens Conservatory, where she was as a scholarship student of sorts. Because she still needed income, Maria later stated - though the teacher-mentor later denied this - that lodging with the woman meant paying for the roof over her head with housekeeping and dog walking duties. While the Diva-in-training dreamed of someday singing at the Metropolitan Opera in New York City, where she had been born, her teacher threatened to dump her as a student if she did not improve her appearance. Loose weight, dress better, fix your hair; these were the expectations.  After all, she was being groomed to be a star.

This same teacher-mentor advocated for her to have income from the Greek National Opera, where she was signed for two years. Maria was to have a job - a steady income - and have her voice protected as she studied by not appearing in their productions. It was a way to get her in and expose the student to the behind-the-scene ways of the opera. Her contract was negotiated as she continued to study at the Athens Conservatory and live with her teacher-mentor. The teenager's career was being carefully managed or she was being controlled.

Her first advocate, her mother, Litsa, complained that Maria only spent her income on music, pastries, and ice cream and was out of control of her eating, just as her teacher-mentor arranged for her to have hairdressing, manicures, and dress making. 

Then war interfered in everyone's lives. In late October 1940, when Maria was about seventeen, the Italians invaded Greece and the Greco-Italian War began. Maria and her family thought to flee to Cairo, Egypt, but Maria was an American citizen and not allowed to leave Athens, which was relatively safe. She was called "That American Bitch" as she began to realize her own talent and fight for herself. She did get parts in the opera in Athens, despite her teacher-mentor's pleas that she be "protected." Then World War II began when in 1941 Germany invaded. When there was a bombing and air-raid sirens went off, the sensitive Maria would vomit. They stayed in Athens.

Still under the age of eighteen, having conspired with her mother to lie about her age, Maria did not report to the Conservatory when she was sexually assaulted and almost raped by a fellow student (never identified).  At home her mother was not sympathetic, only mentioning that if he had raped her then she would have had to marry him and end her career.

Such attitudes are crazy-making to us in Western culture in 2024, but are not unfamiliar to all of us who have experienced some form of sexual harassment during our careers. 

Her world was small. At the conservatory other students called Maria fat and ugly and boys teased her as unattractive. Her mother continued to sew Maria clothing. Maria might have been eating out of garbage cans. In the 1941-1942 era there were food shortages, rationing, hunger. The family ate bread. This too could put weight on and gave Maria the appearance she was not famished. Olive oil and potatoes were procured on the black market by the man who was Keeping her sister and the family. There was always rumor about who was a collaborator because someone had food. People began to die of starvation and eat horses and donkeys.

The Nazi's took control of the National Opera and then Maria lost her contract and income. She had borrowed money from them and then later that year she was reinstated and given the opportunity to be an understudy. Those who had been so mean to her were kept out of the loop.

It was snowing and cold and there was no heating fuel.  The Red Cross reported it. Jews were deported from Thessalonika. 

Yet, opera went on, three hundred miles from Athens, in Thessalonika, where there was begging and prostitution. Maria's virtue was suspect.  So was her sister's and mother's.  Were they involved with Italian officers? Maybe Maria fell in love with an officer? Or perhaps Maria simply was gifted and had not succeeded against all odds without being touched? It's believed that she came home with money for singing for the Italians, though her own mother assumed it was from prostitution.

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Sunday, August 6, 2017

GUCCI FASHION SHOW - A LONG WAY FROM LUGGAGE, CARRY BAGS, and SHOES...


A long way from just shoes and luggage and carry bags... My fashionista friends tell me that fashion shows ignite trends and few people actually wear what's shown on the runway.  They say that models are thought of as "hangers!"  And those of us who are not "stringbean" tall don't always look as good as these models, who I think, male and female, look to be starving and ready to drop!  Fashion shows are incredibly exciting though!


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Tuesday, September 23, 2014

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Sex Questions

"I won't be shy about asking sex questions of any person I might have sex with!"

Missy here!

If you're thinking about having sex with someone you should feel free to ask them some questions about their sexuality and health and relationship status before you do!  Many people move from having a hook up, a meet up, friends with benefits or a fling, an affair or an adventure, or just sexting into a "relationship" without knowing much about the other person.  It is too dangerous out there health-wise to be so casual about your sexuality.  

HIV infection and AIDS is a big worry.  But did you know that if you're exclusively heterosexual and  you're with someone who is also exclusively heterosexual, don't do anal sex, and don't share needles for drug use, you're biggest STD concern is herpes?  In some parts of the United States up to 25% of the heterosexual population has herpes and if you become one of those who has herpes you could be on expensive prescription drugs for years, have painful outbreaks that make sex terrible, need to have a C-Section birth, and will have to use protection each and every time you have sex even when you're married?  SO WHY NOT USE PROTECTION EACH AND EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX now so you won't have to deal with such issues later?

Besides asking a person to use protection, you may also want to ask them some penetrating questions (pun intended!) about their relationship status.  Are you married?  Do you have a girlfriend?  Are you seeing anyone else?  If the person says they are married ask them if they are legally separated or living alone and how long they have been.

Do not be one of those people who, when confronted with the truth, confronts the other person, only to be told "Well, YOU never ASKED!"

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Sunday, November 25, 2012

HOW TO NEVER LOOK FAT AGAIN by CHARLA KRUPP : WHAT TO WEAR IF YOU'RE BIG BUSTED : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW

Eat too much at Thanksgiving?  Expecting to gain ten pounds as you nibble at all those holiday parties?  Rather than wait for the diet to work, why not dress to appear slim?

One of my friends who's African American was looking at the cover of Oprah magazine recently and she said to me "This has to be Photoshopped." She meant Ophrahs' body on this particular magazine. The fact is that Oprah has the best dressers, stylists, makeup artists, and cosmeticians working with her on a daily basis, for her show and for photo shoots that land pictures on the cover of her own magazine so who, with all that, could not be coaxed into beauty?  We all know part of big story is her yoyo dieting...




HOW TO NEVER LOOK FAT AGAIN
Over 1000 Ways to Dress Thinner - Without Dieting
Charla Krupp C 2010

This is a delightful and pragmatic book that has fashion strategies for all sorts of "fat problems" from your one end to the other. This book also has leads to good buys for products Carla personally buys. Here is one small example.  (I know a lot of women want to have larger breasts and many have surgery to have that look, but there are also a lot of women who are naturally big breasted who can't find clothes to fit!)

Things that make you look fat with a Big Bust

1) Patch pockets over the breasts.

2) Tucking in tops.

3) Long necklaces that end below the bust.

4) Tightness across the chest.
 
5) Turtlenecks.

6) Excessive cleavage - pushed together breasts.

7) Tight T shirts.

8) strapless gowns, tops, and swimsuits.

9) Across the body messenger or shoulder bags.

10 Bulky Jackets and sweaters.


Some pluses : T-shirt smooth bras, wearing jackets and tops that reach the hipbone in length