Friday, May 31, 2019

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

DO BEAUTIFUL WOMEN HAVE AN EASIER TIME IN RELATIONSHIPS? OPINION BY MISSY

QUESTION FOR MISSY

Missy, Shouldn't everyone be interested in making the best of their appearance?  Shouldn't everyone try to be beautiful so they can have a easier time in relationships?

Michelle
Las Vegas

ANSWER FROM MISSY

Only God knows the stats!  Beauty probably has it's advantages, and yes we should all try to look our best, though that often has to do with cultivating style, since most people aren't  beautiful by nature.  It seems to me that some of the most beautiful women in the world have had a terrible time with men.  I think beautiful women attract more men and may have their pick but they still have to pick.  They may also be chosen only for their beauty and be obsessed with keeping it.

If you're beautiful, don't fail to develop your personality, your talents and abilities, as well.

A person with a good personality has more advantages than a good looking person with a bad one.

Missy


Monday, May 27, 2019

PEACE IN SUDAN?

PEACE DIRECT : SUDAN

Kola Boof's story of violence in her personal life from the time she was a child is painful.  She is of Egyptian and Sudanese heritage.  I found this organization which intends to create peace in the Sudan.

EXCERPT:  Sudan's 21 year civil war left two million people dead and split the country in two. Weapons are everywhere in the countryside and inter-communal battles occur with frightening regularity.

Simple disputes over water rights, farmland or cattle theft can leave scores dead and breed local hostilities with wider implications.

The continued bombing by the Sudanese Air Force of villages under the control of the Sudan People's Liberation Army - North results in the deaths of many civilians.

The UN (United Nations) estimates that 100,000 people have fled into neighboring South Sudan.  The growth of weapons in the region along with existing armed groups destabilizes communities and entrenches cycles of revenge.

Saturday, May 25, 2019

THE AFTERMATH OF 9/11 KOLA BOOF and HER SONS AND THE UNITED STATES GOVERNMENT,

If you're wondering if Kola Boof survived the violence that happened to her, that she participated in, and that she generated, well, she went on to have a relationship and two sons.  Her book, Diary of A Lost Girl, speaks to them.

They went into Government Protection after 9/11 and this man she had sons with left her.  (Page 309)

"In so  many ways your father saved my life with his love."

Now the following may surprise my readers.

Kola admits she lied to this man that she was a virgin when they met.
She needed the tenderness of a first time every time she had sex due to her infibulation.  While pregnant she insisted that the father of her sons have a "co-wives."  She allowed him to have sex with young African college girls who needed free room and board to live in as her friend, handmaiden.  And at first he was against the practice.  (Page 318)

YET she says:
"I am completely against the practice of women sharing men."

Well, she accepted this as a pregnant women.  She thinks now it would be smarter for women to have multiple boyfriends.  (Page 319)

Womanist now, Kola Boof, says that it is still socially acceptable for women to be sex trafficked and enslaved.

Today she is an advocate for the dark skinned Black Woman.  She warns Black American women to not accept man sharing.  Perhaps she is more qualified than most women because of her extraordinary painful background - her nightmare.


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Diary of a Lost Girl by Kola Boof is the primary reference for this month's post.

Thursday, May 23, 2019

AND THEN THERE WAS A LOVE TRIANGLE OF SORTS : KOLA BOOK IN MORE DANGER AS SHE REMEETS ANOTHER MAN SHE'D BEEN A MISTRESS TO

A sort of love triangle with Osama Bin Laden and another man, Hasan al-Turabi, the leader of the National Islamic Front,  possibly the most powerful man in the Sudan then, happened.  But at first Kola Boof  (then Naima) didn't know the two men were friendly.  She'd been his mistress in 1995, a year earlier. He had a son Isam who also desired her.

But the one night of romance she had with the son was the end of it.  He expected sexual servitude and had intense energy towards her. She thought this emotion was a mix of lust, racial hate, exotica, ideation, and power-over-a-child syndrome.

Should she tell Osama?

She did. She said she had been at Hasan al Turabi's the prior year.  

He had horribly abused her verbally and had punched her and broken her nose and fractured her rib.  At the hospital the police and nurses found a way to dismiss her complaints because they didn't want trouble for themselves.

But what had ended her relationship with Osama Bin Laden was a fight Naima had with another woman in which she became crazed and stabbed a man.  The fight brought Osama to her side with a present again.  And now she was pregnant with his child. (Page 210)

Osama figured she was in love with Isam.

So he was violent with her later and even wanted her to wear a dog collar and leash so he could parade her around as a sex slave in front of Isam.  He thought this was funny.


A White woman who was assigned to be her maid but was an informant may have been involved in feeding Naima poison so that she miscarried.

Finally Naima told Osama that their relationship was unfair to her.  She didn't like the way he took over her life.  She wanted to go back to America.  And he agreed.  He gave her traveling money and her jewels.
He was ready to replace her with a French girl anyway.

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Excerpts are taken from Diary of a Lost Girl by Kola Boof

Monday, May 20, 2019

KOLA BOOF and OSAMA BIN LADEN - FOUR DAYS IN SHE FELT TRAPPED - JUST ONE OF HIS HAREM

"God I can't lie.  The first few weeks I was genuinely excited and hopeful about my fate as his mistress.  Although I'm now a womanist who thinks it's shameful.  I remember back then feeling really beautiful and desired....  (page 174 Diary of a Lost Girl) Naima had servants, good foo0d, and awaited him to return.  She straightened her hair so he could run his hands through it.  And he gave her a ruby sapphire necklace and diamond earrings, a $300 bottle of perfume.  he seemed to be apologizing for his past behavior and scaring her. (page 175)

So let me editorialize a bit here...  Although there are mistresses who do a lot of waiting around for a visit from their man... on call for him at a moments notice... waiting for the phone to ring to summon them... To me Kola's experience is of being entrapped and isolated.... Missy

She became bored and felt trapped and watched.  She was guarded and not to leave the premises - granted it was a luxury hotel.  And only 4 days had gone by when she asked when he was going to show back up.  Turns out Osama Bin Laden had other "dependents" and so she realized she was not special but part of a harem, even if she didn't see the other women.

He was not a terrorist then or she didn't know he was.  It was 1996.

"I was a person used to being violated and then denying it."

She called him "Somi."

Saturday, May 18, 2019

KOLA BOOF and SADIST OSAMA BIN LADEN - AN UNWILLING MISTRESS or SEX SLAVE?

She didn't know he was a terrorist. What she knew was that in 1996, in a restaurant in Morocco, the country she went to hoping to be in a film, he was "Satan come to life." (Page 157) She'd seen children in Tel Aviv, Cairo, and Kenya used as sex slaves and soldiers raping women in Sudan.

Kola had given up on Hollywood and what she called "the American Nigger media," and in Tel Aviv, Israel, she had played a topless oversexed dancing girl in low budget film. She'd done a commercial playing a "buffoon." And she had tried to commit suicide.

She was on a date in that restaurant but Osama Bin Laden had his men tell her date to split. She felt commanded.

"I was seen as a temptress and an infidel. I was a woman who dared to travel in their society alone, dressed in sensuous American clothes with my head uncovered and flaunting my Black American womanness, which they both despise and lust after..." (Pag 157).

She had no money, no resources, no man of power to speak for her.

Her fear of Obama was such that she almost cried and peed herself because she knew that men could be merciless when woman have no power. (Pg 158)

She cried, begging him not to hurt her physically, perhaps knowing he would. He said he would not but then slapped her, hating her sobs. She fled, got in her car, drove to the Sofitel Cottage where she lived comfortably with room mates. But Osama and seven of his men showed up in a posse. She talked back to him. But finally she felt to escape death she'd have to seduce him. The men were sent out of the room. She decided to cook food for him first. He smoked marijuana. He talked about his major crush on - Whitney Houston.

"I will be financing you life from now on, Naima. Simply tell Master what you need." Osama said this to Naima. At the time he had at least 25 children and several wives. But because of Naima's Blackness she could not be considered a wife candidate. He was Arab Mafia, she thought. He thought she was a top paid prostitute. She protested but he said ALL African women are prostitutes.

Sex with him was rough. He bit her mouth. A real bite - not playful. he put a velvet sack over her head. He overpowered her and asked her to scream. He liked to use his penis to hurt women and because her vagina was infibulated, he stabbed her with it. He urinated in her mouth. His men were out in the hall laughing. (Pg 164)

Episodes like these would result in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - horrible nightmares for years.

But after this first encounter with Osama doing whatever he wanted to her, she heard orders that she was to be moved to a better location. She was moved 100 miles away to a luxury suite and given money for new clothes.  Kola says that tracking devices were put into the fillings of her teeth.

She resigned herself to it.

"He installed me in one of the most beautiful and prestigious get-aways in all of North Africa - the famed La Maison Arabe of Medina."  It was a walled city - a Moorish estate and bed and breakfast.  Celebrities such as Princess Diana and Mick Jagger had stayed there.  At the time it was being renovated by an Italian Prince who would later - and this is important - tell the United States government that she had been an unwilling Mistress.  The place was lavish. .... to be continued.