BOOK EXCERPT : KOSHER ADULTERY by SHMULEY BOTEACH

BOOK EXCERPT : KOSHER ADULTERY by SHMULEY BOTEACH
Pages 82-83

"For wives... here's how to be even sexier than usual

Always acknowledge to yourself that men find you attractive.... But don't purposely court it. The whole point of the attraction is that you're mysterious and above it all...

Casually mention to your husband how the guy at the checkout counter noticed you.... Be casual when you mention these occurrences.

Indulge your natural mystery at home. You cannot be fully possessed, even by your own husband. Never allow your husband into the bathroom... When you change in and out of your clothes, dim the lights so that it's hard for him to see.

Don't take a cell phone with you whenever you travel. Your husband should not be allowed to reach you at every moment. ...Your husband not being able to reach you at all moments also leads to greater anticipation and anxiety on his part. ...Let him lust for you..."

KOSHER ADULTERY by SHMULEY BOTEACH : BOOK EXCERPT

BOOK EXCERPT : KOSHER ADULTERY by SHMULEY BOTEACH

Pages 58-59

"The reason we search for higher meaning in our relationships is that humans are endowed with perception and insight.... As long as a man and woman still want to know each other, their relationship is healthy and strong. They are still leaning inward toward one another, desirous of peeling off layer after layer - both in terms of clothing and psyche... But the moment they think that they completely "know" each other, the relationship has functionally terminated..."

"The relationship is dead the moment a couple hits a brick wall or when he things he's got her all figured out. His questions about her day at the office will stop. His desire to know how she can be sexually pleased will cease. Her hopes to be at his side through his long trek through life will diminish."

KOSHER ADULTERY
Seduce and Sin With Your Spouse
by SHMULEY BOTEACH
C 2002 Adams
Media Company Publisher

KOSHER ADULTERY by SHMULEY BOTEACH : BOOK EXCERPT

KOSHER ADULTERY
Seduce and Sin With Your Spouse
by SHMULEY BOTEACH C 2002
Adams Media Company Publisher

This book was really interesting to me because it's a famous Rabbi, Shmuley Boteach, telling married women to create terms and conditions in their marriage that would mistress proof it. How? By acting like mistresses themselves! Missy

Page 30

"Lillian Ross, the famous journalist, created a scandal a few years ago by writing of her forty year affair with William Shawn of The New Yorker, after he died. She maintained that "After forty years, our lovemaking had the same passion, the same energy...as it had in the beginning."

"Sounds impossible right? But read almost any revealing chronicle of an adulterous affair and the two participants claim the same thing. For the duration of their affair, they had really great sex. Their erotic desire for each other did not lessen with the passage of time. If they broke up it was for other reasons: The mistress became too possessive and demanded that her lover leave his wife; one of the two lovers was found out by his or her spouse who gave an ultimatum, the affair simply became too complicated; and so on. But lovers in an illicit affair almost never break up because the relationship simply becomes dull or boring..."


Quoting Rabbi Harold Kushner, Rabbi Boteach writes,"Once the mistress is readily available, without the thrill of a clandestine affair, she becomes less desirable. I told (the woman) to do nothing, not to throw him out, not to call him names or tell people what he had done. Don't put him in the position of choosing between a wife who curses him and a girlfriend who caresses him..."


"About 90 percent of men who leave their wives and move in with their mistresses end up leaving their mistresses within the first year of living together. Clearly, something about the passion and mystery is lost when the vagaries of everyday life set in."