"HOT GIRLS WANTED" FILM RAISED MY FEMINIST ANGER

Over the  New Years holidays I had some down time to do nothing but watch films and among the many I watched was HOT GIRLS WANTED, a documentary that came out a few years ago.  I was unprepared with how upset I would feel watching it, learning that there are more hits to pornography sites than all the hits to Google and several other major sites, and most of it is amateur (meaning unpaid) porn that young women, 18-21, have posted themselves, in an attempt to gain popularity, competitively for hits, and to try to launch themselves into the professional porn industry. Much of the porn is degradation and violence against women so the men who like this stuff are clearly too screwed up and should be avoided - if you learn the truth about them in time.  Apparently many men are investing in that. Obviously their hatred of women and sexual perversion (I know - an unpopular word these days) results in wanting to see pretty beautiful women being treated horribly.  

My feminist anger rose. 

I had no idea about some of it. And I thought about all the women friends I've had who started hating dating and hating sex and hating men because they were treated so badly, though not as badly as these women were. 

I reminded myself that MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT is a Woman's Studies site basically and how in college almost no men took a Woman's Studies class.

These turned-pro porn actresses knew in advance what they were going to do, yes. They were offered pay and were paid. Some got sick, tired, disillusioned.  One was lucky enough to end up with a boyfriend who loved her anyway.

There is money in it, but not necessarily money enough for saving for one's future, such as paying for an education to gain a career or to invest for one's old age. The average young woman answers an ad such as on Craig's List and takes a free flight to Florida. It's explained that while Los Angeles, perhaps more specifically The San Fernando Valley - Chatsworth, had been the porn capital, once the law changed and actors had to use protection, Florida has no such laws.  Hello VD, AIDS, unplanned pregnancy?

Parents usually find out in about a month. Neighbors are looking at these porn sites and recognize the woman they graduated high school or went to college with. The small town these women fled for this experience may never allow them to forget it. Is there life after porn?  Since this seems to be a Internet-generational experience, perhaps because it's so common, more yes than no?  Still, I feel sorry for young women who choose this experience which I feel is part of their youth and inexperience, their immaturity but I question, seriously, why anyone would want to trade their self respect and self esteem for money in such a blatant, harsh, and cruel way.  

Where is the love?

The young man who is something of a procurer/agent/middle man and who lets them live with him seems also to have no interest in life other than making money.  I wonder if it's world of sociopaths we're living in.  These "girls" are used up and spit out. 

And so I think love is in short supply. 

If you have it, cherish it. 

Missy

THERE'S A PAIR

HEIDI FLEISS and HER BIRDS - SHE ASKS "ARE WE THAT SELFISH?"

It's time for Heidi to form a Non Profit and take donations for the care of her birds.  She needs a lawyer and an accountant - people around her who aren't sketchy characters.  I honor her for finding her life's work in this endeavor.

Missy



From the article by John Lavitt in Fix :

Heidi said, "You pretty much got it.  After prison, I did see the world differently.  I saw a beautiful macaw in a cage, and it really bothered me.  I asked the owner when was the last time it was out of its cage. She said, "I don't know.  Maybe 20 or 30 years." The bird actually had dust on it.  I realized I could not go on with my life, knowing that bird was still in that cage.  It seemed so awful to have wings and be stuck in a cage, of all things.  Imagine 45 years in a basement with another 45 to go.  ... We are a civilized society. How can we do this? The subjugation of this species is selfish and self absorbed.  It's a torturous, bleak, existence.  It;s so painful for them because their bodies aren't meant for sedentary lives.  They struggle with this lonely, painful existence.  Do you really think these animals with wings are on this earth to say bad words and dance for us?  It's disgusting, and everybody should find it offensive.  Are we really that selfish?

THE FIX: HEIDI FLEISS SEX DRUG REALITY


And this article: PV TIMES -HEIDI FLEISS BEMOANS PARROT PREDICAMENT IN PAHRUMP  by Selwyn Harris - Pahrump Valley Times

This is the story of a bird who flew off and was finally found and returned.

Excerpt: As far as how many birds I own, I think one is too many," she said with a laugh.  "If I could, I just want to help every macaw that is stuck inside a cage, beauce I think putting a living creature that has wings inside a cage, is fundamentally wrong; it;s perverse and obscene.  I gave up a very fancy and spoiled life for them.  There is no financial benefit for me. ...

DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE CYCLE OF DOMESTIC ABUSE IS?

HOPE AND SAFETY ORG : LEARN ABOUT THE CYCLE OF ABUSE and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE  There are many sites on the internet that have explanations but this one seems to have gone a bit further. Please explore this site.

EXCERPT:  By 1983, women working in the Anti-violence Movement realized the Tension Building /Explosion model was flawed.  Abusers do not harm their intimate partners because of tension and stress.  As Humans, each of us feels stress and tension in our lives and yet, we do not make the choice to abuse someone else.  If it were a matter of tension the abusive person would be unable to control his behavior and would batter whoever was causing the stress (ie. the boss who yells at him or police officers who pull him over, etc.) Also abusers would not be able to control where their punches landed.  Many abusers "Target Punch" their partners - specifically targeting areas where the bruises and marks are less likely to be seen - the beck, back upper torso, and lets.

*** It is not up to the woman to make the relationship work.  Blaming the victim - that she isn't quiet enough or doesn't keep the house clean enough - for instance - can be an excuse for an abuser to let loose on her.

HEIDI FLEISS ANSWERS QUESTIONS ON AS IT LAYS

Interesting! Truly!  As it Lays is a very odd show. Clearly you can't be the interviewee and ask the interviewer any questions.

But I get it.  It's almost like talking to yourself!

HEIDI IS SORRY SHE GOT HER DAD IN TROUBLE and WISHES SHE'D TAKEN SCHOOL MORE SERIOUSLY

HOLLYWOOD REPORTER INTERVIEW OF HEIDI FLEISS 25th ANNIVERSARY OF HER ARREST by Seth Abramovich

Excerpt from Interview Article:

You came from a fairly conservative background. Your dad was a doctor.

I was born and raised in LA.  My dad was a famous pediatrician.  When he died, they donated a bench to him at the Griffith Park Observatory.

Did he know about your escort service?

No.  But I got him in big trouble.  I felt shitty about that.  Dad gave me really the best childhood possible and all of the opportunity in front of me.  I wish that I took school seriously and went a different route, but it was not my father's fault at all.

THE PLAYERS HANDBOOK - ANOTHER BOOK by EX MADAM HEIDI FLEISS

New image August 2022

SAINT PATRICK'S DAY

 

SHE HAD 500 "GIRL NEXT DOOR" PROSTITUTES WORKING FOR HER and a DRUG ADDICTION

THE FIX: HEIDI FLEISS - SEX DRUGS REALITY by John Lavitt

EXCERPT: When Fleiss was arrested in 1993 for charges including attempted pandering, her escort service employed 500 beautiful girls-next-door who were like porn stars in the bedroom. They charged clients what today would be almost $3000 a night, and Fleiss grew rich by keeping 40 percent of those earnings.  Partying hard and living in the fast lane led to struggles with addiction.



Missy here!  A  great article and interview of Heidi from 2019, lots about addiction.