Monday, December 30, 2013

DIONNE WARWICK and her son DAVID ELLIOT sing " SAY A LITTLE PRAYER"



This is the third Dionne Warwick music video I've posted on MISTRESS MANIFESTO.  I love the songs she covers, many Burt Bacharach and Hal David compositions, and am a major fan!

Sunday, December 29, 2013

2013 YEAR IN REVIEW : THE POSTS MY READERS ARE READING

(I decided to review 2013 based on the information that Google Blogger provides about MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT!  Thanks to all my readers who make this a very successful blog!) 

I want to tell you what the most popular posts have been and where readers are coming from! 

Now, this doesn't mean that I'm overly swayed by what statistics have been.  I would probably go on posting even if I had very little readership because this is fun for me.

I know that Mistresses are a fascinating subject.  That's why there are so many books, movies, and television shows about Mistresses!  Fiction and Not!

Karin Stanford, who had a relationship and child with Jesse Jackson Senior, is the once-upon-a-time mistress who is still getting the most  hits!  She is a successful college professor with a career of her own.  I have no idea why!

Closely followed by a simple post called "Bob Hope's Girlfriends!  That tells me that I better dedicate a whole month to that subject.  (I've heard a lot about one of them, but you know there is a difference between a girlfriend, an affair, a fling, and a Mistress!) 

Scott Thorson, the ex of Liberace who wrote his memoir about being a Kept Man that has been turned into a respected movie called "Behind the Candelabra" is also of very much interest to my readers!  (I'm one of those people who has been rooting for Scott, and hoping he can overcome his addictions and win his bout with cancer too!  He's had a hard life.  My wish for him is peace of mind.)

Coco Chanel is also a long-time favorite!  I think that's in part because she managed to create a whole fashion house though coming from such adversity and changed women's fashion to something more comfortable and modern.

Where are my readers reading from? 

The United States overwhelmingly so.  The United Kingdom, Russia, and Germany are next, closely tied are Canada and France.  (I wish I knew if that was French Canada or not!) Latvia, for a small country, has checked in almost as much as Australia.  Maybe I better find out where all the Mistresses are hiding in that country! Denmark and Italy are less interested than I would imagine but still checking in quite a bit!

A few individuals are checking in from Qatar, Japan, and Singapore.  Maybe it's the write-ups I did on Jillian Lauren or Marilyn Young?

THANK YOU FOR READING MISTRESS MANIFESTO. BLOGSPOT.COM! 

Missy

Friday, December 20, 2013

DEAN MARTIN : THE CHRISTMAS BLUES : FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE A LITTLE DEPRESSED



Mistresses aren't the only ones who can find the Christmas holidays depressing, but for those who want more from a relationship, like more time to spend together, it can feel lonely or isolated.

Whatever your relationship status, this is the time to get out there!  Get moving!  Don't give in to self pity, even if you've had a difficult year and there is no end in sight to the problem.  You probably have a lot to be thankful for.

So, if you're feeling down, here are some suggestions:

Don't give into being slovenly unless you're sick.  Get up, do your make-up and hair, dress well, and go for a walk, even if it's just out for a coffee, or to watch the kids piling on Santa Claus' lap at the mall.

THERE IS SO VERY MUCH TO DO WITH YOUR TIME during this season. 

Volunteer!

You'll find that there are plentiful opportunities to do just that, without having to make any long term commitments to a cause or organization. You can help serve food at a homeless shelter.  You can help the local police wrap presents for their toy give away.

I remember the year that a group of my neighbors decided at the last minute to show up at the closest senior citizens home to carol.  Most of the people who lived there were Jewish but believe me they were so cheered by being sung a few songs to, even though we were out of tune!  It was Old Fashioned mad cap fun!

You get the idea!

Missy



Sunday, December 15, 2013

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Appreciation

"A gift always deserves sincere appreciation.  It never hurt to thank someone!"

You've heard "It's the thought that counts, and probably, you have received some gifts that made you wonder "Whatever does she think of me?"  Well, these days people are re-gifting a lot, and those hockey-puck fruit cakes seem to really make the rounds, though the fresh ones can be wonderful - a thin slice and some dreamy French Vanilla ice cream on the side!  Or maybe you've had the experience of visiting a friend and noticing that she brought out something you gifted her to show you that she actually uses the piece. 

Since few of us are close to royalty or diplomats and don't have people who keep track of the gifts we've received and the ones we give, it's up to you.  Frankly, I don't believe in re-gifting.  It's too tricky.  Instead, if there is something I truly cannot appreciate and use, I donate it to a charity bazaar.

If someone gives you a gift that was clearly well thought out but still doesn't work for you, say a garment that is the wrong size or that you have too many of, it is OK to say so and return it for something else.  The best way to do this?

"Sandra, that beautiful chemise you bought me is a bit too snug.  I hope your feelings won't be hurt, but I would like to exchange it."  If she's your best friend, invite her to go shopping with you and help you choose something else!

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

IT'S IN HIS KISS! NICK MCDERMOTT WRITES ABOUT KISSING!

DAILY MAIL : HOW KISSING HELPS A WOMAN ASSESS POTENTIAL PARTNERS

... "Oxford University scientists have concluded that kissing helps women meet their ideal man, because it allows them to assess their potential partners.
It gives them the chance to subconsciously weigh them up through taste or smell, and so glean information about their compatibility and general health.
Kissing also has a further role to play, they claimed, by keeping established couples together and reinforcing affection. More frequent kissing was linked to the quality of a relationship..."

XOXOXOX

The DEPARTMENT OF EXPERIMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY should take note!  A man who kisses badly or not at all, is not a man a woman can or should tolerate!



Thursday, December 5, 2013

SHOULD SHE BUY HIM AN EXPENSIVE GIFT FROM THE MONEY HE GAVE HER? ADVICE FROM MISSY!

QUESTION FOR MISSY: 

I'm a secretary with aspirations to be a singer and not a well paid one.  I just found out that my income of $25,000 a year is considered poverty in Los Angeles.

"Dale" has been very generous to me and I feel bad that I can't give him gifts that anywhere equal what he gives to me.  I mean that he gave me a diamond cocktail ring for my birthday and I got him a hand-made sweater for his.  The sweater's turquoise which I thought looked good with his red hair and it turns out he has three other turquoise sweaters in his closet.  He made a fuss over it but must have been thinking "Oh no!  Not ANOTHER turquoise sweater! He's worn it once. 

Then Dale paid the cosmetic dentist for me to have my molars capped!  It cost something close to $5000!  He convinced me that since I'm a singer this was important. So I went for it. I admit that if I'd had $5000 I would've probably had this done myself.  I got him a silver engraved cigarette lighter as a little thank you. 

Dale is driving a beautiful vintage sports car which he's refurbished.  My contribution is that I detail it on the Saturday afternoons he spends with me.  He brings the car over, I wash it out in the street while he sits back with a couple beers, and then I make us a romantic dinner.

Now Dale is going to be out of town for five or six weeks, some travel and some business, and he has handed me $5000 and told me to use it for "whatever."  I want to buy him a really nice present with it.  Something from a store in Beverly Hills.

Michelle

ANSWER FROM MISSY:

Income inequity...  Isn't the fact that women don't have it the basis for the feminist movement?  Well, sadly we women have not caught up to men's incomes, even though far more women are going to and completing college and expecting to support themselves and their children too!  So you're a secretary making an income that doesn't even allow you to have the full participation in life you desire.  Like so many other women! 

Don't feel too bad.  Compared to some you're doing really well, Michelle!

Just how many chemical engineers does it take to screw in a light bulb?  (i.e. we can't all be Fortune 500 CEO's!)

Michelle, I think you are not comfortable accepting gifts.  I think Dale knows that you don't have much money and he wants to help you and make you happy.  I'm more concerned that his gifts are so practical - molars? 

I think that if you cannot simply say "Thank You" and be gracious and loving, you need to talk to Dale, but really the issue will probably be something else, like exactly where you relationship is or where it's headed. 

Put the $5000 in the bank and don't spend it.  You may need it.

Missy

Monday, December 2, 2013

YOUR WISH LIST AND YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS ARE NOT SO DIFFERENT

I decided to go just get into the Holiday Season this month and not give it over to a Mistress or Mantress of the month.

Of course I've been considering who I'll be featuring in the coming year! 

Oh, I do hope I'll surprise you!

What a year it's been and I do so want to get cozy.  I feel like staying indoors and in bed to read good books and watch some movies I've missed.  I feel like filling my slow cooker with lots of veggies and some meat - just enough - and making a stew to come home to (have you ever tried pouring a can of beer into a slow cooker stew?), then go out, take a long walk alone in my coat, without money - just an ID and a few bucks in my pocket. Maybe I'll go shopping before the hustle bustle.  I feel like maybe a yoga class and later a long hot soak in the tub with some beautiful perfumed bath salts.

I'm getting ready for the New Year too!

I was going through my closet the other day, and putting some things I no longer wear in bags to be donated to charity.

Do you remember when you were a teenager and so sensitive to all the fads?  Of course you didn't think of them as fads!  You weren't posing!  Whatever it was - Preppie - Grunge - Punk - Starlet -  you actually were or aspiring to be exactly what your clothing said about you.  The music you listened to and the people you dated were part of that time in your life.

Then the years passed, you matured, and you found that  there were some things - clothes - people - that you gave away, and yet there are some things - people - that remain classic and dear to you. Finding your own style which will endure with you for years, maybe a favorite hair cut that plays up your best features, a color of lipstick that makes your teeth look brighter and your smile kissable, or a signature perfume that you never seem to tire of, has a comfort to it. (What is your favorite floral bouquet?  What's your taste in jewelry?) These are the things that, as gifts, are always appreciated. 

(Oh dear, what ever happened to my old friend who was gifted a massive life time supply of Georgio?)

CoCo Chanel said, "Style is being yourself on purpose!"

Of course Style seems to be most about Fashion, things that are most obvious to others when they first see you.  At least you hope you can be alluring enough that some people will want to get to know you better because personality counts too!. 

Having friends is important.  We are all in need of at least one Golden Friend who we can be ourselves with and really talk to and be understood by, someone we can Trust.  That isn't as easy as it used to be when we go through so many changes so rapidly.  We don't have the leisure we used to have and seem to rush through life, sometimes without reflection.  We tend to have friends who are with us only through college, or only while we live in a certain neighborhood, or only while we are married.

The holiday season with all it's distractions may not be the time to do serious soul searching or begin a radical diet, but my guess is that your Wish List and your New Year Resolutions are not so different.  It may begin with a Make-Over.  It could end with a New You by this time next year.

Missy



Friday, November 29, 2013

GIFTS FOR MISTRESSES - TRADITIONAL and MODERN!

Up bright and early this morning and I'm NOT going to go shopping this Black Friday, the busiest shopping day of the year!  If you are shopping for the person you Keep, then keep in mind some of these TRADITIONAL GIFTS and their updates!

MANSION, CHATEAU, HOUSE, CONDO, apartment rent... or pay a landscape designer to plan a new garden...

CARRIAGE and HORSES, or HORSES, and CARS, MOTORCYCLES, MOPEDS ... insurance.

DIAMONDS, SAPPHIRES, RUBYS, EMERALDS... PLATINUM, GOLD, SILVER... Birthstone Jewelry, charm bracelets, watches (even though the time is on her cell phone.)

Good Costume Jewelry, Custom Made Jewelry, Cigarette Lighters (so what if he quit smoking? He can light candles!), Things ENGRAVED WITH PERSONAL MESSAGES (but not initials)!

PERFUME

FLOWERS

SUBSCRIPTIONS - MEMBERSHIPS TO MUSEUMS
Tickets to Plays and the Opera - for her and her friends.

BOOKS, MAGAZINES ... classes at the college. Laptop computers, e-readers, and cell phones.

PORTRAITS.  A local painter or photographer.

Thursday, November 28, 2013

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Giving Thanks

"I am thankful for all the things I do have!"

If you're having trouble remembering all the ways you've been blessed, write a list!

Sunday, November 24, 2013

MATA HARI : A MINI DOCUMENTARY : THE GREATEST WOMAN SPY OF THE CENTURY

By the time Mata Hari became a spy, she was probably no longer the mistress of one man and her comings and goings with a variety of men in uniform made her behavior seem suspicious. At the trial she was depicted as a "bloodsucking international woman" of "sexual independence" who had left her husband and children.  Her testimony included the lie that she was only 21 years old.  Was she really a spy or on trial for being a certain kind of woman in a man's world?


(VIDEO TAKEN DOWN JULY 2016 due to copyrite claims to YouTube)



Tuesday, November 19, 2013

EYEWITNESS TO HISTORY : MATA HARI'S EXECUTION

EYEWITNESS TO HISTORY SITE : MATA HARI's EXECUTION link to full story!

EXCERPT: ..."The first intimation she received that her plea had been denied was when she was led at daybreak from her cell in the Saint-Lazare prison to a waiting automobile and then rushed to the barracks where the firing squad awaited her.

Never once had the iron will of the beautiful woman failed her. Father Arbaux, accompanied by two sisters of charity, Captain Bouchardon, and Maitre Clunet, her lawyer, entered her cell, where she was still sleeping - a calm, untroubled sleep, it was remarked by the turnkeys and trusties.  The sisters gently shook her. She arose and was told that her hour had come.  'May I write two letters?' was all she asked.  Consent was given immediately by Captain Bouchardon, and pen, ink, paper, and envelopes were given to her.  She seated herself at the edge of the bed and wrote the letters with feverish haste. She handed them over to the custody of her lawyer.  Then she drew on her stockings, black, silken, filmy things, grotesque in the circumstances. She placed her high-heeled slippers on her feet and tied the silken ribbons over her insteps.  She arose and took the long black velvet cloak, edged around the bottom with fur and with a huge square fur collar hanging down the back, from a hook over the head of her bed. She placed this cloak over the heavy silk kimono which she had been wearing over her nightdress.  Her wealth of black hair was still coiled about her head in braids. She put on a large, flapping black felt hat with a black silk ribbon and bow. Slowly and indifferently, it seemed, she pulled on a pair of black kid gloves. Then she said calmly:  'I am ready.' .."

Sunday, November 17, 2013

TOP TEN CITIES FOR MISTRESSES ? I DIGRESS!

HUFFINGTON POST - 2013 TOP TEN CITIES FOR MISTRESSES link to article here.

Based on the wording of this article, the ASHLEY MADISON dating site, which helps people who want to have affairs hook up, provided the stats.  It also says this about women who want to have affairs with married men, not men who want to have affairs with married women. (Go to the article and read it yourself!)

OK, to me the TOP TEN CITIES should be based on, not affairs, and not women looking for men, but WOMEN WHO ARE ACTUALLY KEPT by MEN,  and that is one difficult stat to come up with because who is going to cooperate with a survey?  That someone has signed up with a dating sight and is flirting with having experiences isn't the same thing.  I also believe that it's MEN, or whomever has more money, who choose the person they want to keep.  (Keeping in mind that we know that all arrangements are not about adultery, are not heterosexual, etc.)

THE TOP CITIES (and my commentary!)

1) Phoenix, Arizona (must be those rich retirees!)

2) Washington, DC (no surprise - the Power!)

3) Dallas, Texas (Texas is its own country.  Where there is money the usual Rules don't apply!)

4) Las Vegas, Nevada  (High Rollers, show business aristocrats and showgirls !)

5) Los Angeles (Hollywood!)

6) Houston (See Dallas!)

7) Honolulu, Hawaii (See Hawaii isn't just for the newly wed or nearly dead!)

8) Charlotte North Carolina (Well, I'll be damned!)

9) Fort Lauderdale (Cruises!)

10) Denver (Who'd have thunk it?)

Friday, November 15, 2013

SHE LIED THAT SHE'S EXPERIENCED AS A MISTRESS : SHOULD SHE TELL HIM THE TRUTH NOW?

QUESTION FOR MISSY

I'm near 60 years old.  "Harry" is near 70.  I met Harry years ago.  He was the CEO of a competing company.  I lost my job a few years ago and I've never recovered my career.   I've experienced age discrimination.  Harry has never been married.  I'm long ago divorced. 

We met up again - in an elevator! 

He asked me to meet him for drinks.  We talked for hours, mostly about where the business was headed.  We went to dinner.  We started dating.  No sex.  We're having a good time and my feelings for him have grown.

I think Harry's terrific.  He's a good guy.  He's made a fortune and he's given away a lot to charity, especially kid's charities. He plays golf and is esteemed by his circle, mostly men.  Some are widowed, some divorced, some have wives. 

Harry is cheap when it comes to dating.  Don't laugh Missy.  He picks where we go. The drinks seemed watered down.  That first dinner we went to a spaghetti restaurant. We go to fast food places.  He looks for things to do for free, like recently this Smithsonian Sponsored Free Museum Day.  We take walks in nature.

I want a man to help me financially.  So one night while we were eating our burgers I lied and told Harry that I'd been a mistress before.  It's not true!  I did it so he'd think about it, me being his mistress.  I thought to myself this man has never married and maybe he never will.  I don't need to be married but I want love and I need help, at least until my retirement starts. 

Harry said "Really, I had no idea," and kept eating.

What do you think?  Should I backtrack and tell him the truth?

Babe from Kansas City


MISSY ANSWERS

Babe, you make me laugh! 

I've been thinking on this and I wonder if Harry is as rich as you think he is or where this cheapness is coming from.  Could be that he's testing you to see if you will like him and enjoy his company even if he's not spending a lot on you?  I've heard of some rich people doing that.  I've also heard of them not spending a lot because they know you don't have it to reciprocate and don't want to embarrass you. 

If he's doing these cheap dates to test you, then you failed. 

Sorry Babe, but you shouldn't have lied, especially not to provoke a reaction from him or to put the idea of him supporting you on the table.  Maybe I'm being too harsh.  So you lied about being an experienced mistress BUT YOU DID NOT LIE ABOUT YOUR INTENTION, which is to be supported, at least for a while.

I have this feeling, I could be wrong, that Harry thinks of you as a friend. He may also be communicating that to you by picking up the tab on your friendly encounters, just acknowledging that it's easy for him.  Wouldn't you feel bad if you found out that when he's DATING he spends plenty?

So many people are now working at jobs that are beneath them.  People are not working in their areas of education or expertise.  There is nothing to be ashamed of about an honest days work, but I understand you are not able to live as you had, and not only that but your self esteem has taken a plunge because you're not fulfilled at work. 

Babe, I think what I would do is test this relationship yourself by becoming a bit less available.  Let him miss you.  When he suggests you go and do something, go less often.  Really, friend or lover, no one likes to be on call or taken for granted. See how intent he is on having your company. Be busy at work. 

I also think it's OK to ask him if he knows of anyone who is hiring or if he could refer you to any of his business associates for work because you want and need to be more fulfilled and make more money.  I would not suggest to him that you be his mistress again. I would drop that subject.  Is there a good time to tell him you lied?  Probably not.

Missy



PS: I you have a Question for Missy, please leave it as a Comment.  Missy considers all Comments before publication and changes all names used (even if you did already!).


Sunday, November 10, 2013

HAS YOUR COSMETIC SURGEON DECAMPED TO DUBAI? HOLLYWOOD REPORTER ARTICLE BY ELIZABETH SNEAD

HOLLYWOOD REPORTER : Elizabeth Snead on WHY HOLLYWOOD PLASTIC SURGEONS HAVE DECAMPED TO DUBAI

"The whole royal family comes to see me in my Beverly Hills office -- half my patients are from the Middle East, Kuwait and Qatar -- so it was very natural for me to go there," says Sands. "It took a while to get our licenses and insurance. You don't want to mess around over there if you want to come back with both your hands," he jokes. "For four days, I'm prepping patients' teeth and taking impressions. Then I fly home, have the veneers made in Beverly Hills and fly back and finish them. That's what they're paying for -- the best."

Saturday, November 2, 2013

MATA HARI - TANTALIZING COURTESAN AND SPY - EXECUTED 1917 : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH OCTOBER 2013

MATA HARI 
August 7, 1876 to October 15th 1917 - Executed by firing squad for spying.



She started life in the Netherlands in a family rich enough to send her to exclusive schools as Margaretha Geertruida Zelle.  Then the family went bankrupt and broke up. 

At 18 she answered a newspaper ad placed by a man twenty years older than her and looking for a wife, Dutch Colonial Army Captain Rudolf MacLeod.  She married him and went to live in the Dutch West Indies and reentered the upper class. The couple moved to Java and she had a son and daughter. It wasn't a happy marriage.  MacLeod drank, was abusive, and he kept a concubine, which was common and legal in the Dutch West Indies at the time.

She left him and she came back.

She learned about the local arts and culture and in 1897, when she wrote to her family back in the Netherlands, she said she had a new name, an artist name, Mata Hari.  The name translates from the Sanskrit language as "eye of the sun." 

A couple years later both of her children became seriously ill.  Rumors were that they had contracted syphilis or been poisoned by one of Captain MacLeod's enemies!  Her son died and her daughter survived, though this daughter later died at only 21 years old. Finally Margaretha left Rudolf for good. Custody battles and divorce followed in 1906. 

But, before she officially divorced, Mata Hari went to Paris and began to dance exotically.  Like Isadora Duncan and other dancers in the early 20th century, she looked away from ballet and European formal or folk dance to dance inspired by other cultures.  Her inspiration was the sacred dance of the Hindus. 

Mata Hari created a new past for herself by promoting herself as having been born Hindu - Javanese and said she'd been studying sacred dance from an early age.  While there is a long tradition of sacred dancers in Hindu temples, they are always dressed modestly.  Not Mata Hari.

She was photographed many times appearing nude or scantily dressed and her husband used these against her in his custody battle to keep their daughter.  She was considered to be flirtatious, promiscuous, and to be an exhibitionist.  By today's standards her act might seem tame because her movements were not obscene.  She was said to be graceful as a lioness.  She wore skin colored body stockings and jeweled bras, which never came off, and elaborate headpieces.  It was that she slowly undressed until she wore only these things that made her presentation questionable.

On March 13, 1905 she debut her act in Paris at a museum of Asian art that exists to this day and is well respected, The Guimet Museum (Musée National des Arts Asiatiques-Guimet or Musée Guimet), which has one of the largest Asian collections outside of Asia.  Thus her dance was seen as high class and artistic, removed from the more raw sensuality of French dance hall girls.  The museum had been founded by a millionaire, Emile Etienne Guimet, an industrialist.  The museum which would later be attacked for having pillaged treasure from Asia to fill its exhibits.  Mati Hari became his long time mistress.

Imitators sprung up, and she began to gain weight. Mata Hari had started late for a dancer and near age 40, she danced for the last time in public.  She became more famous for being a courtesan, seductress, and  a bohemian, free-spirited and artistic.   Now she had multiple liaisons with powerful men and traveled Europe...

I'll leave you with this much and get to the SPYING in a near future post!



Friday, October 25, 2013

DOES HE SLOW TO YOUR PACE WHEN YOU'RE WALKING?

HEALTHLAND - TIME : MEN WALK SLOWER WHEN IN LOVE  FULL ARTICLE LINK

... "What scientists say is unclear is what happens when a man and a woman walk together. If someone has to change their speed to align with the other, who will do it? It turns out, it’s consistently the men.

To study this, the researchers from Seattle Pacific University in Washington studied the walking speed choices of eleven men and eleven women as they walked around a track alone, with friends of the same and opposite sex, and with a significant other holding hands or hands-free.

In their study, released Wednesday, they found that when walking with women, men significantly slow their pace to their companions’, but only if the woman is their romantic partner. Walking with friends, whether it be friends of the same or opposite sex, did not significantly change pace for anyone, and women only slightly changed their pace when walking with their partner. The authors say this suggests that adjusting stride only happens for romantic partners..."

Sunday, October 20, 2013

MISSY Q and A ? SHOULD SHE GET HER NOSE FIXED TO PLEASE HIM? : ADVICE FROM MISSY

Q: 

Hi Missy.  I'm in Texas.  I've been a mistress for a couple years and you guessed it, he has oil money.  I'll call him Jared.  Jared thinks I'm sexy and that I have a fantastic body.  He compliments me on my hair, my smile, and the way I dress.  He isn't married, he's divorced, and so he has introduced me to many of his friends and their wives and I don't get the feeling we're sneaking around.  I guess I fit the mistress type because I don't work and he supports me.  This way I'm free to go anywhere with him as he pleases. 

A few months ago Jared suggested that he have my nose fixed as a birthday present to me.  I thought he was joking and brushed the idea off.  Now he wants me to have my nose fixed as a Christmas present.  I'm comfortable with my looks.  My nose is a little big but kind of cute.  Well, that's what most people tell me.  My mom thinks his request is outrageous.  Any advice? 

Roxy

A:

I'm against it, Roxy, for a few reasons.  Mostly I've been thinking a lot about what Scott Thorson went through with Liberace (I gave Scott a month recently and you can read those posts on this blog.  Use the Google search feature to pull them up.)  I think maybe if you have your nose done Jared will next come up with something else about you he wants to redesign.  If he thinks you're sexy, have a fantastic body, loves your hair and  your smile - that is a lot that pleases him - so why pick on your nose?

Is he a bit controlling?

The other reason I'm against it is that I heard of someone's mistress who did get her nose fixed and her man hated the new nose and before it was all over ...  She stopped before she looked like Michael Jackson but in the end the nose she hated was all she got.  This persnickety man found other reasons to find fault with her and dumped her!  Now every time she looks in the mirror she thinks of what she did for him and hates herself and the way she looks.

I wonder if there is any cosmetic surgery you do want to have?  If so I would suggest to Jared that you want this other surgery.  Otherwise, I think you should tell him you want to end the discussion on this topic.

Missy

Friday, October 18, 2013

ANTIQUE JEWELRY UNIVERSITY LINK : JEWELRY OF THE BAROQUE PERIOD AND THE RENAISSANCE

ANTIQUE JEWELRY UNIVERSITY link.  Found this very interesting and well presented site while researching what kind of jewelry women of the courts wore during the time of Melusine's unofficial reign as Queen of England. 
These images are from the site and identified as Baroque..

Saturday, October 12, 2013

THE FIRST THREE KING GEORGES : ELECTOR OF HANOVER


He left Hanover, Germany, where he housed 600 horses, but came to London diminished.  He spoke little English but the language of the court was French.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

CLAUDIA GOLD ON EHRENGUARD MELUSINE VON DER SCHULENBURG

HUFFINGTON POST ARTICLE by CLAUDIA GOLD, AUTHOR of THE KING'S MISTRESS link to full article.

 
 


EXCERPT: "Melusine***, Duchess of Kendal and mistress of George I was a woman at the apex of British politics and court life. With George, she successfully presided over the transition from Stuart (Scottish) to Hanoverian (German) monarchy in Britain. She intrigued, she took bribes, she practiced diplomacy, she was courted by the glitterati and she involved the country in breathtaking scandal. Most importantly, very little, if anything, was done by the king's ministers without her say so. Robert Walpole, Britain's charismatic first Prime Minister, said that she was, "As much Queen of England as any ever was." But for a mistress, Melusine was unusual; she was not particularly decorative. ...Her detractors, mostly the Tories and the Jacobite press, were vicious, accusing her of meddling, of avarice, and of sexual depravity; she is the most vilified mistress in British history because, her foreign birth aside, few could understand the king's attraction to her. But George thought of Melusine as his wife, whether or not they married in secret, and she fulfilled all the functions of a queen consort and held enormous sway. She was clever and witty, amusing George for hours with paper cut outs of the new English ministers he deplored, and the pair were devoted to one another. Through her lover, Melusine held power until his death in 1727. No English mistress or queen consort would ever be as powerful again."

*** Ehrengard Melusine von der Schulenburg

Monday, October 7, 2013

MIA FARROW SAYS SHE AND FRANK SINATRA NEVER REALLY QUIT HAVING A RELATIONSHIP and HER SON RONAN MAY HAVE BEEN FATHERED BY FRANK!

VANITY FAIR MAGAZINE - MIA FARROW - 1992   This is an article from 1992 in Vanity Fair which you can now read archived on line.

HOLLYWOOD REPORTER : MIA SAYS SHE AND FRANK NEVER REALLY SPLIT UP!


..." When asked whether Ronan is Sinatra's son, Farrow tells the magazine, "Possibly."
No DNA tests have been done, but Ronan was treated like a member of the Sinatra family, according to Nancy Sinatra Jr.


"He is a big part of us, and we are blessed to have him in our lives," she tells the magazine in an e-mail..."

Take a look at the picture! 

Rushing out to buy a Vanity Fair...

PS: I've read a bit more about Ronan Farrow and he's a Rhoads Scholar and working for Hilary Clinton.  There is even a buzz that he might be running for President of the United States some day.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

MAYPOLEING

 
Maypoleing actually takes place in May as a sort of folk or pagan fertility rite.
 
The pole is symbolic in the way that Sigmund Freud would explain.
 
Villagers dance around the maypole, which as you can see is a tall pole which had ribbons or long strips of cloth hanging about it.  As they dance they weave the ribbon together.

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

KING GEORGE I and HIS TWO MISTRESSES : THE ELEPHANT and THE CASTLE! OR WAS THAT THE MAYPOLE and HIS HALF SISTER ?

 
KING GEORGE THE FIRST OF ENGLAND AND SCOTLAND (1660-1727) was a "Hanoverian King."  Hanoverian as from Hanover Germany. * (When the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge recently named their first newborn George, they took some flack.  Apparently none of the King George's were that well regarded, but the Duke and Duchess Cambridge said they just liked the name.)

When England's Queen Anne, who bore 17 children, died without any children alive to take her throne, England went looking for a relative who would promote the Protestant succession.  George I came from Germany to England to be crowned King of England and Scotland in 1714.  He had been married to his first cousin Sophia, Princess of Celle, and it was not a happy marriage.  She had a fling, her lover was disappeared, and she remained imprisoned in a castle until she died in 1726!  Maybe the fact that George had two mistresses pushed her into an affair of her own?

Instead of his wife playing Queen, one of George's mistresses did.

George I arrived in England from Germany barely able to speak English and he never enjoyed popularity among the people.  He had been invited by the Whigs (a political party) and he pretty much let them do as they wished, as long as they kept him informed. His two mistresses that he brought with him kept company with him until he died.

The two women were subject to nicknames, not just because they were also not well liked, as they were considered greedy and dull and weird, but because the two of them had drastically different looks.

Reading around the subject, you should know that the portly one, nicknamed The Elephant (surely behind her back!), Charlotte Sophia von Kielmansegg, was actually George's illegitimate half sister, sharing Ernest Augustus, Elector of Hanover as a father.  There are those who say that theirs was never a sexual relationship and there are those who say the British court did so know!

  MELUSINE 
(By today's standards she is certainly not a skinny woman!)
 
More assuredly a mistress to the King George I, was  Ehrengard Melusine von der Schulenburg,  who got called the “The Maypole” because she was so tall and thin and thought to be ugly.  She was also called "The Castle," as in "the King is in the Castle."  She served as an unofficial Queen.  She is said to have kept the King amused with her hobby of cutting out paper into images of their friends - and enemies.  Guess you had to be there.

Since the two lovers could not marry, they had three children together who were illegitimate, but these children, daughters, all got titles.  They were Anna Luise Sophie von der Schulenburg Countess of Dölitz,  born in 1692, Melusina von der Schulenburg Countess of Walsingham, born 1693, and Margaret Gertrude von der Schulenburg, Countess of Oeynhausen, born 1701.

After George's death Melusine kept a pet raven which she believed was his soul, reincarnated.  (There's a lot of lore about birds and souls in central and eastern Europe.)

All which goes to show you, that you need not be beautiful, in shape, have a sparkling personality, or much else going on, and you can still be a mistress!  You just have to meet the "right one!"

*(As you may know the present husband of Princess Caroline (Monaco), Ernst August, is of the Hanoverian line and if history were different could be on the throne of England). If you're interested in reading about THE MISTRESSES OF THE PRINCES OF MONACO go to the January 2015 posts in the MISTRESS MANIFESTO archive!)

C 2013  All Rights Reserved. 

Saturday, September 28, 2013

DO YOU TELL MEN YOU MEET THAT YOU ARE OR ARE NOT "AVAILABLE?" :QUESTION FOR MISTRESSES

Do you tell men you meet that you are available or that you are NOT AVAILABLE even though maybe the commitment you have to your man and he to you is - undefined?

 (Remember that you can leave a comment using the Annonymous option!)

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Saturday, September 21, 2013

MATT RIDLEY ON BIRD ADULTERY IN THE NORDIC FOREST

Excerpt from page 223 of Matt Ridley's book THE RED QUEEN

..." Nordic forests seem to be full of decietful adulterers... some male pied flycatchers in the forest of Scandinavia manage to be polygamous by holding two territories, each with a female in it... Two teams of researchers have studied the birds and come to different conclusions about what is going on. The Finns and the Swedes say that the mistress is decieved into believing the male is unmarried. The Norwegians say that since the wife sometimes visits the mistress's nest and may try to drive her away; the mistress can be under no illusions. She accepts the fact that her mate may desert her for his wife but hopes that if things go wrong at the wife's next - they often do - he will come back to help her raise her young. He gets away with it only when the two territories are so far apart that the wife cannot visit the mistress's territory often enough to persecute her. In other words, according to the Norweigians, men decieve their wives about their affairs, but not their mistresses.

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

MISSY ASKS YOU : IS YOUR KEEPER PERFECTLY SANE?

Bobby Fischer seems to me to have gone crazy, but these days the psychology bores would have us believe that everyone is diagnosable with something.  Then there are those who think that anyone who is involved elsewhere in addition to their marriage has some deep psychological reason for it and that therapy will make that person change.  But since not everything in life is deep or complicated and there are so many ways to love, what do YOU say?

Is he perfectly sane or involved with you because he's crazy?

Saturday, September 7, 2013

MONOGAMY MAY HAVE EVOLVED TO PREVENT INFANTACIDE by ANDREW WINNINGS

SCIENCE MAG ORG - MONOGAMY MAY HAVE EVOLVED   Link to the Andrew Winnings' article From Science.org here ! "But why did social monogamy arise at all among mammals, including primates, given the many reproductive advantages to males having access to as many females as possible? Scientists have proposed three major hypotheses: Monogamy provides more effective parental care for infants, as in birds; it prevents females from mating with rival males, especially in species where females are widely spaced and cannot all be easily monopolized by one male; or it protects against the risk of infanticide, which is very high among some primate species, including chimpanzees and gorillas, and is often explained by the desire of a rival male to quickly return a mother to a fertile state so that he can sire his own offspring. Some researchers think that a combination of all three factors, and perhaps still others, provide the best explanation for monogamy."

Thursday, September 5, 2013

THE LAW : PHILLIPINES MAKES CONCUBINAGE PUNISHABLE WITH PRISON (FOR THE MAN)

What is the current law about a husband who lives with another woman?  The subject makes the advice columns.  Here's an article from the Manila Times.

HUSBAND WHO LIVES WITH MISTRESS LIABLE FOR CONCUBINAGE by by PERSIDA ACOSTA link to article.

EXCERPT : "As provided for under Article 334 of the Revised Penal Code, “Any husband who shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, or shall have sexual intercourse, under scandalous circumstances, with a woman who is not his wife, or shall cohabit with her in any other place, shall be punished by prision ... The concubine shall suffer the penalty of destierro.”

You may likewise consider filing a complaint for violation of the provisions of Republic Act (R.A.) No. 9262, otherwise known as the “Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004.” This law penalizes the commission of abusive acts against a woman and her child. Since your husband is neglecting his responsibilities and he refuses to provide support for you and your children, as you have mentioned in your letter, you have a cause of action against him. As provided for under Section 5, id, “The crime of violence against women and their children is committed through any of the following acts: (i) Causing mental or emotional anguish, public ridicule or humiliation to the woman or her child, including, but not limited to, repeated verbal and emotional abuse, and denial of financial support or custody of minor children or access to the woman’s child/children.” Your husband may suffer the penalty of prision mayor if found to be guilty of the aforementioned crime (Section 6 (f), id).

As to your question relative to bigamy, please be informed that you cannot file a complaint for bigamy against your husband..."

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

BOBBY FISCHER and MISTRESS MARILYN YOUNG

This picture is from The Telegraph and the article it goes with is linked here : TELEGRAPH : BOBBY FISCHER BODY TO BE EXHUMED 

EXCERPT: "The 64 year-old left no will when he died in a Reykjavik hospital in 2008, 35 years after he deposed the Soviet Boris Spassky in a match that came to symbolise Cold War rivalry.

But now the American-born chess grandmaster’s $2million (£1.3 million) estate is at the centre of an extraordinary legal dispute amid claims he fathered a secret love child in the Philippines.

The Iceland Supreme Court this week ruled that his body could be exhumed to prove whether he was the paternal father of Jinky Young, 9.

It overturned a ruling from the District Court of Reykjavik last month after new evidence emerged that the chess champion sent money to Jinky’s mother, Marilyn Young, 31, just before he died..."


Monday, September 2, 2013

MARILYN YOUNG AND MIYOKO WATEI and MISTER BOBBY FISCHER, CHESS CHAMPION AND BROKEN GENIUS

The story of American Chess Champion Bobby Fischer (Robert James Fischer) is one of the strangest stories ever,  not just because his body got dug up for DNA tests in an ugly inheritance battle between one woman who said she was his secret wife, Miyoko Watei, who is President of the Japanese Chess Association, and his Filipina mistress , Marilyn Young, with whom he fathered a child*, and I'm reminded of it because of what's been happening over the last couple months with Edward Snowden, the leaker of NSA secrets.

Snowden, who has not had a mistress to my knowledge but did leave a girlfriend, who is now pictured all over the net for her pole-dancing hobby, in the lurch,  holed up in a Moscow airport transit terminal for weeks. His American Passport and travel papers were revoked by the authorities and his bid to find asylum and citizenship in Iceland went nowhere. On August 1, 2013 he was given one year temporary Russian refuge and is reported to be living with American expats somewhere that is not Moscow.

American Chess Champ Fischer also had his American passport revoked, after not giving in to threats of prison and huge fines by the United States, when he decided to go ahead and play his main opponent in Yugoslavia, which was forbidden at the time.  He took his win of over 3 million dollars and started to travel. 

Fischer grew to the age of five in Russia, the son of a single mother, a brilliant Jewish woman who he remained close to.  She brought her son to New York City where they became American citizens and she remained, but at the end of her life, though he called her everyday, he couldn't even attend her funeral.  The life-long loner and increasingly reclusive man ended his travels when he moved to Iceland and became a citizen there. But during his years of exhile he got involved with the women.

There are those who say if it were not for Bobby Fischer, the United States would have remained unaware of chess as a competitive sport.  Before Iceland, he disappeared in travel for about 20 years, and then emerged as a ranting anti-American DJ on Phillipine radio, a man who also was terribly anti-semetic.

Fischer's father was likely a Hungarian Jew, so it's bizarre that he would be so convinced that he would become a holocaust denier and worse, but these days it goes almost without saying that he was a broken genius - mentally ill. 

In 2010 the two women in his life had his body exhumed to be tested for a DNA match  Marilyn lost and Miyoko became his sole heir. * Though he believed himself to be the father of Marilyn's daughter, who looks nothing like him, the DNA showed no match.

BOBBY WITH DICK CAVETT


Saturday, August 24, 2013

BOOK EXCERPT : THE RED QUEEN by MATT RIDLEY ABOUT FEMALE BIRDS AND ADULTERY

C 1993 Matt Ridley's book "The Red Queen" is published by HarperCollins



page 223-224

"What's in it for the birds? ... Adulterers father more young. But it is not at all clear why the female is so often unfaithful... A female swallow needs a husband who will help her look after her young, but by the time she arrives at the breeding site, she might find all the best husbands taken. Her best tactic is therefore to mate with a mediocre husband or a husband with a good territory and have an affair with a genetically superior neighbor. This theory is supported by the facts: Females always choose more dominant, older, or more "attractive" (that is ornamented) lovers than their husbands; they do not have affairs with bachelors (presumably rejects) but with other females husbands; and they sometimes incite competition between potential lovers and choose the winners. Male swallows with artificially lengthened tails acquired a mate ten days sooner, were eight times as likely to have a second brood, and had twice as high a chance of seducing a neighbor's wife as ordinary swallows..."