ABOUT LEAVING A COMMENT

I read every comment before deciding if I will publish it.  I'm looking for comments that are well spoken and well considered and that are on spot for the post the comment would appear under. I especially like comments that answer the questions I'm asking. I'm open to different opinions but please, think of how you spoke in class discussions at school and consider your audience!  For more information check out the PAGE about comments.

Friends, if there is a Kept Person you think I should do more research or reading about, please suggest books, articles, or leads to that information. 

THANKS!

Missy

HAVE YOU FOUND INSPIRATION IN ANY OF THE WOMEN OR MEN I'VE COVERED IN MISTRESS MANIFESTO?

I often wonder if anyone has read my blog and found themselves inspired by any of the women or men I've covered - so many over the years - see PAGES for the monthly topics!

Leave a comment!  Tell me WHO and WHY!

Missy

COMMENTS THAT WENT UNPUBLISHED and WHY

I just deleted about a dozen Comments and did not publish.  I did copy some of the information sent.  Major housekeeping in recent days on this blog.

Good stuff:

Suggestions for future topics, names of Mistresses, but no links, no mention of who they were a Mistress to.  I will look into some of these. If there is a book or a lot on the Internet maybe I will use your suggestions!  THANKS

Request that a review I did be added to another site that is all Book Reviews. Thanks for the compliments but I'll hold my copyrights here.

Requests that I contact by e-mail for purposes of genealogy or family history connections to persons stating they are related to my subject.  I can't do this.  However, you can always read the same book I did!

Bad stuff: Mostly rants about the Jim Morrison love triangle. As I see it both Pamela and Patricia have passed away and who knows, maybe they and Jim will all make peace in the Afterlife. However, 90% of those who posted were taking sides, some used foul language on one of both of the women, or started out insulting me for featuring Patricia - who wrote a book. I personally feel that Patricia's book was heartfelt and coming from her experience. There are many books out there and that's the one I selected.

Someone trying to expose where Bob Dylan's long ago mistress lives and personal problems.  I would not expose that kind of information.  Most of the people I profile her are Public Figures but that does not mean I would tell anyone where to find them.

REMEMBER THAT THIS BLOG DOES NOT TAKE AN ESPECIALLY CRITICAL OR NEGATIVE VIEW OF ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES. This is an exploration of what it has been and is for some people who have lived or live a Mistress Lifestyle.

Think about this! I open a comment.  I cannot know for sure who sent it to me.  Anyone can claim to be someone or in the know.  If you do not send me a link to a book or news article I can read to verify that this has been published elsewhere, then it's Scouts Honor.  

I did publish one comment that I somehow missed long ago.

OTHER THINGS:

I personally have NEVER sent an individual a link to a post from this blog.  However someone else might have and I have no way of knowing who or why.

In terms of Atom or other reader features, I think the best thing to do is either BOOKMARK the blog and check the bookmark frequently.  Some of such readers are outdated.

In terms of PRIVACY, some of my readers use DUCK DUCK GO!   You can also go into Google account settings and turn off the tracking. There's nothing sexually explicit or X rated in this blog.

People not only snatching photos and pictures I post for their PINTEREST hobby - which includes full pictures of the post.  THAT IS A NO!  If an image is in PUBLIC DOMAIN and you research that, you can post it - try for the original source. Otherwise you are stealing my copyrighted research and writing, so if I find out, I will snatch it back! 

THAT'S IT!

Some great things coming up!

Missy

REMINDER ABOUT USING COMMENTS ON THIS BLOG - MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT

I read every comment before deciding if I will publish it.  I'm looking for comments that are well spoken and well considered and that are on spot for the post the comment would appear under. I especially like comments that answer the questions I'm asking.

I do not publish SPAM such as people advertising themselves for sex or relationships, or "help" such as psychics and witch spells... I do not publish ranting, swearing, rude commentaries, or comments targeted against anyone as my blog is not the place to play out personal agendas or disagreements. I'm open to different opinions but please, think of how you spoke in class discussions at school and consider your audience! 

Friends, if there is someone you think I should do more research or reading about, please suggest books, articles, or leads to that information. 

THANKS!

Missy

DO YOU NEED ADVICE ON A MISTRESS MATTER? GET AN OPINION BY MISSY

 Hello My Readers!

Please remember that if you have a Question for me that I might give you an Opinion on, you can leave that question as a COMMENT.  I read all comments and select which will be published, which means this is not an automatic publish.  Also if you write DO NOT PUBLISH, I will not.  You can read more about my COMMENT POLICY in PAGES.  

If I have not answered a Question like yours before I may publish it and I warn you, my advice comes from my own experience and lifestyle philosophy, so you might want to take it or leave it.

Missy

RUTH TYRANGIEL : THANKS FOR THE UPDATE in COMMENTS BUT...

A while back I got an interesting comment about Ruth Tyrangiel, the mysterious musical muse of  singer-songwriter of fame, Bob Dylan. She was the person I elected to be Mistress of the Month in August 2013. (You can find those posts in the archive - see the sidebar.)

The problem with posting this comment is that while it was interesting, as the person stated that Ruth was renting a house in his or her neighborhood and that there was a son living there who looked a lot like Bob and Ruth is rumored to be the mother of one of Bob Dylan's children, it didn't give me any reference. There was no way to contact this person.  It didn't say what neighborhood that was - was in Los Angeles?  New York? How does this person know that the house is rented?  I understand that some information that comes in to me is someone's personal knowledge and they could be right on and that information might not be published anywhere else so it would be a scoop but I just can't without learning more. Still, I will keep this in mind and see if I can find confirmation another way.

Missy

UPDATE  December 2020

Got another comment confirming this which I have not published. Hey, it's OK with me if Ruth is renting a house, and all that.  I'm not going to track her down or invade her privacy or try to invalidate any agreement she might have with Bob Dylan. He was just in the news for selling a 600 song music catalogue so it sounds like he's cashing out.  A friend mentioned that he has so much money, what's he going to do with more?  I said, "Well, there are his children." So I did a little more internet research and found mentions that he may have many more children than those he had with his first wife, or the one - acknowledged when she became an adult - that he had with his second.  I should say SECOND KNOWN.  There are rumors that Bob Dylan has had secret marriage(s) and may be the father of up to ten children.

But remember, MOST OF THE TIME, I reference other authors, journalists, and writers to promote someone to MISTRESS OF THE MONTH or to have a mention on this blog.  

So - if you leave a comment I will not publish it if you start out with DO NOT PUBLISH. And I will write down a link you send and look at it later.

Thanks Again!

Missy

FURTHER COMMENT ON THE THOUGHT PROVOKING COMMENTARY RECENTLY SENT TO ME AND PUBLISHED BY ME BELOW!

There is always a presumption that a wife is hurt by learning that her husband (we'll presume she calls him that because they are legally wed) is "cheating" on her with one or many "other women." Why is it called "cheating?"  Well, because it is assumed that one person has to be all and everything to another person and anything they may have with someone else short changes them.  But does it?  

When it comes to women who know they are marrying someone who is likely to have many women in his life, I think some of them do not mind or at least think it will not matter. perhaps because they themselves want the liberty, or they get into it understanding that they are with a man who will not or cannot be their one and only. Are all men like this?  No, I don't think so.  It may also be about a chapter of their life and not their entire life. I think it depends on keeping the conversation lively between you and anyone you might partner with. You really do have to speak up about your own feelings and boundaries. As well, there are married couples who decide to stay married but open their relationships. For instance, I think what Will and Jada Pinkett Smith say about their relationship is important. They are candid about it while so many others in the same situation pretend they are in a traditional marriage.

There are or have been both biological and financial reasons why a woman wants a partner to be loyal and faithful to her, especially if there are children involved. But with the huge number of women who have "baby daddies" or no daddies at all for the children they are bringing into this world, maybe that's old fashioned thinking. 

Thank you for the insightful and heartfelt commentary!

Missy

WOMEN STILL CAT FIGHTING OVER JIM MORRISON? A COMMENT ON COMMENTS : OPINION BY MISSY

Looking through the unpublished comments, which are not spam, but never the less I can't publish, I have so many thoughts.  I get it that someone has made an effort to post a comment, but in PAGES I explain my policy about publishing.

In March of 2014 I posted about JIM MORRISON's two wives.

The post that seems to get the most comments is the question of which woman, Pamela Courson, or Patricia Kennealy (who has gone by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison) was the rock star - poet Jim Morrison of the group The Doors, wife.  By having a  wedding ceremony of the Wiccan faith with Patricia but no known ceremony with Pamela, who Morrison lived off and on with (some saying he rented her their apartment but chose to live alone in a motel) it's confusing. Why didn't he marry his special girl Pamela?  Could it be because he already married Patricia? 

When I spent an entire weekend reading Patricia's memoir and taking notes I believed Patricia, who has lived with condemnation for many years but also was a consultant and briefly appeared (as the witch minister in the wedding scene) of Oliver Stone's film The Doors.  In trying to be fair in one month's time on this blog, I also mentioned a memoir that had been published by a woman named Judy Huddleston about her relationship with Jim Morrison which went on for years and when he likely was involved with Pamela Courson and/or Patricia Kennealy.  Of consideration is also the time and place of these 1960's relationships which was about Rock and Roll, hippies, sexual revolution, feminism, groupies, experimentation with drugs, and well, unconventional. Pamela Courson must have known Jim "strayed" but didn't seem to care. Or maybe their relationship was Open.  I admitted Pamela was not alive to tell her side of the story if she wanted to.

Meanwhile, someone has lifted a bit of text from another woman named Janet (who is considered something of a whistle blower against Patricia Kennealy) hoping to post it to my site.

See here!  If Janet herself wishes to comment and the comment comes in such a way that I am sure it's Janet, and it's not targeting or harassing, then I'll consider posting it. There are plenty of Jim Morrison and The Doors fan sites for people to take sides about WHO THEY BELIEVE, but I'm sans comments that are of interest to my readers. 

For instance, here we are interested and what makes a Mistress in addition to or rather than a Wife.  For years I've provided so very many different examples, so very many different people - mostly women - who have shared men.

For instance, no one is taking a side against Jim Morrison for being promiscuous, a womanizer, or having multiple simultaneous relationships, or what part he had in being irresponsible, selfish, or hurting others. 

Why be hard on the women?  

It's wrong to expect women to be the ones holding to old fashioned morality when the men are not!   Don't hang the witch here: a person fans are unwilling to condemn as a liar is Jim Morrison!  Excuses: he was an artiste, a poet, a rock star, a talent, a genius, a drunk, a druggie, he didn't KNOW what he was doing!  (Ah, was he all grown up?)  Oh, and by the way, I do listen to The Door's music once in a while.

A woman who feels herself spurned, especially after a pregnancy / abortion, might be up for a cat fight, but why are so many WOMEN alive today more interested in prolonging a cat fight that one day or week in Hollywood Patricia had with Pamela?

Missy

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SPAM FROM "PSYCHICS" and "WITCHES" OFFERING SPELLS TO BREAK AND REMAKE RELATIONSHIPS

Over the last few months, I've received spam from people who are obviously spammers and people who think if they leave a long comment with some sort of "personal testimony" they can sneak in an advertisement so that my readers - be they wives, mistresses, love-lorn singletons, NMNK, whomever, will decide to have all their romantic and relationship issues solved by paying someone to caste a spell or take away the black magic.

I may have not caught one or two of these in the years that I've been publishing MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT, at least not right away, but I'm determined to delete, block, and report spam.

As for magic, you know there probably is something to it, but if a man isn't being nice to you, why would you want him back?  When you are young, inexperienced, or sheltered, or when you have put a lot of time into a relationship thinking enough effort will make it work, or enough time will guarantee it, well, guess what?  I once thought that way too, but in the end... it ended.

I think there is a right of passage to heartbreak.  I don't know anyone who hasn't had at least one.  Not to make a habit of it, but we really should try to learn from a bad relationship to stay away from that kind, or at least end it before it becomes a lifestyle, habit, and more and more hurtful.  The worst heartbreak isn't the end of a relationship with a bad person, it's when a good person is, well, not good enough, or you are not.

When it comes to the ENERGY you put forth to getting a man back who was not for YOU, I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, but please, try not to confuse pain and drama for LOVE!

Yes, I do think there are many ways to love and it is possible to love more than one person, even in a romantic way.  Everyone has to be honest that they are not monogamous and own up to it.

Some of the things I don't like that a lot of people think is only normal or right:

Dumping your friends because you got married or moved in with someone, leaving the available in the dirt.

Not "allowing" your significant other to have their own friends - including, when it's a heterosexual man, as an example, his women friends.  I think couples who have no friends are not well.

Expecting that someone owes you sex.  Sex is not owed even if you are married.  It's up to both partners to agree to have sex.  (And this means taking care of contraception and safe sex.)

Missy

HONG KONG BOAC and A MESSAGE FROM MISSY ON COMMENTS

 Missy here! 

I was just looking through COMMENTS today and found some Spam as well as a few very nice posts that I could not post because they contained personal information such as e-mail addresses.  Generally, I may post a good comment that appears under a related post that has a link to your own Noncommercial Blog or Website, but if you put an e-mail address I won't.  I have no way of knowing for sure that you're the actual owner of that e-mail but even if you are, it doesn't seem safe or smart to. To expose an e-mail like that is a great way for you to be badly spammed yourself.

I heard from one of the authors of a book I posted who thanked me but also wanted my review to be used on Amazon. Thanks for the compliment but Amazon ownership is incredibly wealthy. In fact Jeff B. is one of the richest men in the world. And I'm not at all.  Why should my hard work at  buying or borrowing books, reading, writing a review, and posting, be used or owned by anyone but me? If you want to link from  your official author blog to my review, that's respectful. Sometimes I spend many hours on my subject. So no I am not giving my Copyright over to one of the riches men in the world. And don't you either!

Which brings up the fact that though I do all that work, the profiles of Kept Men and Women and other topics here at MISTRESS MANIFESTO are not biographies.  I'm always open to your comments, including if you politely disagree with me, but please also provide some references, such as the name of the book or a link to an article that defies the stance I've decided to take.  I can't read them all but I just might.  Also, sometimes I will use more than one book and post and review the other book(s) later in the month.

I try to post images that are OK to use for NONPROFIT BLOGS and WEB SITES, some in the Public Domain, some not.  If you copy an image I have searched for and used here and are making bucks using it or making bucks on the site where you used it, let me remind you that's not the usual Copyright or Fair Use agreement and You may end up in trouble!

Finally, though I don't write for hits, I do look at stats and I do hope that those of you who are attracted to this site looking for the most scandalous stories will read more and come to understand that for every one mistress who was considered scandalous and so had a book or books written about her, or who wrote her own memoir, there were probably at least a thousand others who continued to live private lives.  The purpose of this blog is not to out people so much as to come to understand that there was no one way for a women (or man) to become or be a Mistresses (or Kept).  So, do me a favor and go further with your reading  about Dawn Shiller, and Faith Domergue to women like our Honorary Mistress of May 2017, Lindsay Mills, to Isadora Duncan or Georgia O'Keefe. Take a look in PAGES where I've been keeping a list of all the topics!  I guarantee your understanding will deepen, even your feminism may deepen, as has mine!  Missy

MISTRESS MANIFESTO? MISTRESSES! YOU DON'T NEED TO BE A SCHOLAR TO COME TO AN OPINION! COMMENTARY BY MISSY

As my regular readers know, after I'm inspired to cover a mistress, I try to read around her before making a final decision on dedicating a month to her.  Then, because I'm interested in her, I hope what I write about her will interest my readers.

From the posted and unposted commentary that I got when I covered two of the women who openly made claim's in his lifetime to be the wife of rock star - poet Jim Morrison of The Doors, I feared that readers were mistaking MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT as being a Jim Morrison fan site, which it is not.  I had to remind people that the topic of this blog is mistresses, and the unconventional relationships and arrangements some people find themselves in.  Readers seemed to feel that if only I read more, or the book they recommended, then I would change my position, and perhaps not think that Morrison enjoyed pitting women against each other.  Covering a book written by yet another woman Morrison was in a long term relationship with convinced me that he was not one to be married to any one woman.

Clearly a controversial issue, and one of my most popular months here based on the hits, but one I took my stand on after dedicating many weeks over many months to reading around the subject, I had to wonder if some people thought my aim was to be a Jim Morrison and the Doors scholar.

But you know, you don't have to be a scholar, or read every book ever published (or talk to every person who claims to be in the know) to form an opinion.  Sometimes the opinion still comes from innate understanding, empathy, a gut feeling, or even a psychic knowing, about a person or a situation. 

I'm just being practical when I prefer the memoirs of the person themselves.  I know that the person has given a lot of themselves by writing the memoir, and even if they live past it and become an entirely different person, a memoir is a brave act.


Missy

JUST A FEW REMINDERS FROM MISSY TO MY READERS ABOUT COMMENTS !

YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS

On occasion I get a comment that informs me of new information or news about a Mistress of the Month or other person that I've covered on MISTRESS MANIFESTO...  Most often these are unsigned, anonymous, and there is no link to reference.  I'm interested in hearing more about these Mistresses (or Mantresses) but please at least provide a link for reference.

PLEASE DON'T CONFUSE ME or THIS BLOG with others on the net that have similar titles.  Recently I got a comment from someone stating that he wanted to meet me and expected to spend an HOUR with me that he had scheduled.  Sorry, but as I'm not available I do not meet readers.  Also if you read some of my advice and opinion pieces you will know that I'm personally skeptical of on-line social networking or meeting.

If you have a QUESTION about a relationship dilemma, remember that I will edit your question and change the names.  I'm not trying to out anyone here.  I'm just trying to be helpful with my Opinion for what it's worth, and also I usually cannot answer a question immediately. 

THANKS!

Missy

MISTRESSES (or are those MANTRESSES?) from GHANA and MALAYSIA CHECKING IN!

Malaysia and Ghana - two of the many countries where a mistress or a mistress curious person is checking in! Welcome to my blog. COMMENTS is turned on and is by my approval published. If you want to get in touch with me but don't want your comment published, let me know! I will respect your wishes!


Missy

He's gone home now... So login and read MISTRESS MANIFESTO

What are you going to do now that he's gone on home? Keep in touch with your sisters reading and commenting on MISTRESS MANIFESTO! And remember, we know not all matches are between rich heterosexual married men and younger, beautiful unmarried women...