PATRICIA KENNEALY MORRISON HAS MOVED ON INTO THE NEXT WORLD

NY TIMES : OBIT PATRICIA KENNEALY-MORRISON 

Excerpt: In the late 1960's, originally as Patricia Kenely (she later changed the spelling of her last name and, in 1979 added Morrison), she was a writer for and then editor of Jazz & Pop, a small but well-regarded magazine. She interviewed Morrison in 1969, and when they shook hands there was "a visible shower of bright blue sparks flying in all directions," she wrote in a 1992 memoir, "Strange Days" My Life With and Without Jim Morrison."  They soon became romantically involved.

Ms. Kennealy-Morrison practiced Celtic paganism; on her Facebook page she described herself as "Author, ex-rock critic, Dame Templar, Celtic witch, ex-go-go dancer, Lizard Queen, Not in that order." ("Lizard Queen" was a reference to a line from a Jim Morrison poem, in which he wrote, "I am the Lizard King.") In 1970 she and Morrison exchanged vows in a "handfasting ceremony" that involved drops of their own blood.

 

ROLLING STONE OBIT FOR PATRICIA KENNEALY MORRISON

Excerpt:  Patricia Kennealy-Morrison - the one-time rock journalist and partner of Doors singer Jim Morrison - died July 23rd at the age of 75.

"To all of you who have supported our beloved Lizard Queen, I wanted to let you know that she passed this morning," Kennealy-Morrison's Lizard Queen Press - the company she founded to release her fiction work - wrote on Facebook at the time. "To say we are all reeling from the news is an understatement. We will miss our friend very, very much. She was a beautiful soul, a talented writer, and a loving and wonderful friend."

Missy here:  The love triangle of Doors singer and poet Jim Morrison with Patricia Kennealy and Pamela Courson was featured here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot and remains one of the most popular posts for the month March 2014.

Although there is reason to believe Morrison had other women in his life through these relationships, the situation was and is confused because while PAMELA called herself his wife, he didn't always live with her, preferring a motel room at times even when in Los Angeles - the same city, though he financially supported her. But there was no legal marriage. And with PATRICIA, Morrison participated in a Pagan Hand Fasting ceremony, which is also not a legal marriage - or was not at that time and place. (Today in California such ceremonies followed by a civil marriage or registration are.) This ceremony which is the tradition in her religion was very important to Patricia. She was financially independent of Morrison.  

When he died in Paris, Pamela was there. Her family declared her his wife and went after his estate which is something else which I think might be questionable today with so many people experimenting with living together without legal marriage. At the time far fewer people did so and Pamela's family were almost, in my opinion, redeeming her reputation by declaring her Jim's common law wife. Today living together for seven straight years is usually considered a common law marriage, with faithfulness and loyalty known in the community. 

The controversy is still in play, which is one of the reasons my posts about Patricia and Pamela are so popular.  So much so that at one point I actually took the whole month done, hoping other deserving Mistresses would get hits instead.

WOMEN STILL CAT FIGHTING OVER JIM MORRISON? A COMMENT ON COMMENTS : OPINION BY MISSY

Looking through the unpublished comments, which are not spam, but never the less I can't publish, I have so many thoughts.  I get it that someone has made an effort to post a comment, but in PAGES I explain my policy about publishing.

In March of 2014 I posted about JIM MORRISON's two wives.

The post that seems to get the most comments is the question of which woman, Pamela Courson, or Patricia Kennealy (who has gone by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison) was the rock star - poet Jim Morrison of the group The Doors, wife.  By having a  wedding ceremony of the Wiccan faith with Patricia but no known ceremony with Pamela, who Morrison lived off and on with (some saying he rented her their apartment but chose to live alone in a motel) it's confusing. Why didn't he marry his special girl Pamela?  Could it be because he already married Patricia? 

When I spent an entire weekend reading Patricia's memoir and taking notes I believed Patricia, who has lived with condemnation for many years but also was a consultant and briefly appeared (as the witch minister in the wedding scene) of Oliver Stone's film The Doors.  In trying to be fair in one month's time on this blog, I also mentioned a memoir that had been published by a woman named Judy Huddleston about her relationship with Jim Morrison which went on for years and when he likely was involved with Pamela Courson and/or Patricia Kennealy.  Of consideration is also the time and place of these 1960's relationships which was about Rock and Roll, hippies, sexual revolution, feminism, groupies, experimentation with drugs, and well, unconventional. Pamela Courson must have known Jim "strayed" but didn't seem to care. Or maybe their relationship was Open.  I admitted Pamela was not alive to tell her side of the story if she wanted to.

Meanwhile, someone has lifted a bit of text from another woman named Janet (who is considered something of a whistle blower against Patricia Kennealy) hoping to post it to my site.

See here!  If Janet herself wishes to comment and the comment comes in such a way that I am sure it's Janet, and it's not targeting or harassing, then I'll consider posting it. There are plenty of Jim Morrison and The Doors fan sites for people to take sides about WHO THEY BELIEVE, but I'm sans comments that are of interest to my readers. 

For instance, here we are interested and what makes a Mistress in addition to or rather than a Wife.  For years I've provided so very many different examples, so very many different people - mostly women - who have shared men.

For instance, no one is taking a side against Jim Morrison for being promiscuous, a womanizer, or having multiple simultaneous relationships, or what part he had in being irresponsible, selfish, or hurting others. 

Why be hard on the women?  

It's wrong to expect women to be the ones holding to old fashioned morality when the men are not!   Don't hang the witch here: a person fans are unwilling to condemn as a liar is Jim Morrison!  Excuses: he was an artiste, a poet, a rock star, a talent, a genius, a drunk, a druggie, he didn't KNOW what he was doing!  (Ah, was he all grown up?)  Oh, and by the way, I do listen to The Door's music once in a while.

A woman who feels herself spurned, especially after a pregnancy / abortion, might be up for a cat fight, but why are so many WOMEN alive today more interested in prolonging a cat fight that one day or week in Hollywood Patricia had with Pamela?

Missy

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LETS SPEND THE NIGHT TOGETHER : "WE PUT THE SEX in SEX, DRUGS, and ROCK and ROLL"

 

WARNING!  As I promised I would give you a warning if I think some readers might need or want one, since MISTRESS MANIFESTO BlogSpot demurs from sexual explicitness.  Cynthia Plaster Caster (and her casts of a certain part of the male anatomy) is part of this film!  You may want to skip it if you're shy.

Video replaced with this one June 2021

"We put the SEX in Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll"

"I'm setting out to reclaim the word Groupie..."

LET'S SPEND THE NIGHT TOGETHER stars Pamela Des Barres (sometimes called Queen of the Groupies - at least in LA!) and Lori Maddox (AKA Lori Lightening), who both had relationships with Led Zeppelin Guitar God, Jimmy Page.  These two women were once enemies, but  years later bonded because he broke BOTH their hearts. Based on Des Barres book of the same title, watch it and learn a bit about HOW TO DEFINE GROUPIE!

PAMELA DES BARRES : A WELL KNOWN MUSICAL MUSE BUT A MISTRESS NOT!

Pamela DesBarres, born Pamela Miller, once upon a time Queen of the (Los Angeles) Groupies, is now a successful author based on a number of books she's published such as "I'm With The Band," and "Let's Spend The Night Together," and "Take Another Piece Of My Heart."  These books recount her adventures as a Groupie, and then as a woman (eventually) married to a British rock star, Michael Des Barres, as well as the mother of a brilliant child, who goes through a divorce. Her writing is always explicit, exciting, and heart-full. I've read every one of her books over the years.

She looks just like you or me in her high school yearbook picture, but she had a different World View, and the clubs on the Sunset Strip were not so far from her family home in a working class suburb of The San Fernando Valley.

When it comes to Groupies, she was one with a Heart of Gold. 

Friends of mine think Pamela is way too "talkie" to be a good Mistress! Men might be scared off because they could end up in her book, if she wants to write about them! Does she have to name names?   (Yes, she really does!)

Another reason friends think so is that Pamela, and other groupies, seem to be so not materialism that they're practically sacrificial. Pamela's had lots of adventures but she's wasn't materialistic enough; she stood by her husband when they were low income, living with friends, between jobs, even took dumb jobs. She was just too self sacrificing, they say, but then again, I say, she's managed to make her own way in life. One snotty person said, "She has even made herself into a 'cottage industry'!"" (We could say that about Angelyn!)  If she were a man they'd say that she is a ROCK AND ROLL HISTORIAN!

Pamela now not only writes books but teaches writing workshops - Los Angeles - Vegas - Chicago - New York - gives rock and roll tours around the Sunset Strip area of Hollywood, and well... here is her site, with lots of sexy and fun pictures! 

 PAMELADESBARRES.COM

He tackles the term Groupies, saying these girls were a force of nature...

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MICHAEL DES BARRES (PAMELA's EX HUSBAND and the FATHER OF THEIR CHILD) LOVES HER WRITING
 
"Michael Des Barres is the host of Little Steven's Underground Garage on SiriusXM Radio, Channel 21 every weekday morning at 8am ET and again at Midnight ET. He has appeared in countless feature films and television shows and sold seven million albums as a writer and artist. A working musician for five decades, he has performed around the world from backroom bars to Live Aid. Michael’s enduring love of Delta blues and the rock and soul of the mid-60s beat boom is exemplified by his days as front man for such seminal bands as Silverhead, Chequered Past, Power Station and Detective, a band personally signed by Jimmy Page to Swan Song Records."


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MISTRESS MANIFESTO? MISTRESSES! YOU DON'T NEED TO BE A SCHOLAR TO COME TO AN OPINION! COMMENTARY BY MISSY

As my regular readers know, after I'm inspired to cover a mistress, I try to read around her before making a final decision on dedicating a month to her.  Then, because I'm interested in her, I hope what I write about her will interest my readers.

From the posted and unposted commentary that I got when I covered two of the women who openly made claim's in his lifetime to be the wife of rock star - poet Jim Morrison of The Doors, I feared that readers were mistaking MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT as being a Jim Morrison fan site, which it is not.  I had to remind people that the topic of this blog is mistresses, and the unconventional relationships and arrangements some people find themselves in.  Readers seemed to feel that if only I read more, or the book they recommended, then I would change my position, and perhaps not think that Morrison enjoyed pitting women against each other.  Covering a book written by yet another woman Morrison was in a long term relationship with convinced me that he was not one to be married to any one woman.

Clearly a controversial issue, and one of my most popular months here based on the hits, but one I took my stand on after dedicating many weeks over many months to reading around the subject, I had to wonder if some people thought my aim was to be a Jim Morrison and the Doors scholar.

But you know, you don't have to be a scholar, or read every book ever published (or talk to every person who claims to be in the know) to form an opinion.  Sometimes the opinion still comes from innate understanding, empathy, a gut feeling, or even a psychic knowing, about a person or a situation. 

I'm just being practical when I prefer the memoirs of the person themselves.  I know that the person has given a lot of themselves by writing the memoir, and even if they live past it and become an entirely different person, a memoir is a brave act.


Missy

JIM MORRISON'S MOTEL ROOM AT THE ALTA CIENEGA MOTEL - FANS DID THE GRAFFITI

Jim Morrison stayed at other motels and hotels in Los Angeles and in New York and wasn't on the road, even when he was paying Pam's rent on an apartment or house.  The Alta Cienega is one of them.  It wasn't far from the Door's office in what is now West Hollywood.

JUDY HUDDLESTON'S RECENT MEMOIR REVEALS YET ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP WITH JIM MORRISON

SINCE I WANT MY READERS TO FOCUS ON OTHER MAN SHARING MISTRESSES I'VE DECIDED TO TAKE THIS MONTH DOWN - AT LEAST FOR A WHILE! Thanks for reading! Missy Beginning in 1965, when she was a teenager without a strong sense of self who went to Doors concerts, Judy Huddleston had a four year relationship with Jim Morrison, while he also had Pamela and Patricia and who knows how many others. 

I read this book and found it to be reportage without introspection and not humorous but cold.  The reportage given that Morrison was an anal rapist in this book was extremely upsetting.

With forward by Pamela Des Barres, a famous groupie who has written a series of interesting books about her life and the experiences of other groupies, LOVE HIM MADLY is also about a subculture of musical Hollywood.  I never thought  of Judy as a "mistress" while I was reading it.  I think "groupie" may  be better for categorizing what Judy was to Jim at that long ago time in her youth.  (Today she is a successful professor who teaches writing.)  You may read this book and totally disagree with me!

JUDY HUDDLESTON - LOVE HIM MADLY
Judy's web site with lots of links to interviews

 
 



JIM MORRISON'S WILL - PAMELA COURSON IS HIS HEIR

SINCE I WANT MY READERS TO FOCUS ON OTHER MAN SHARING MISTRESSES I'VE DECIDED TO TAKE THIS MONTH DOWN - AT LEAST FOR A WHILE! Thanks for reading! Missy ROCKMINE - COPY OF JIM MORRISON'S WILL  go to this link to read it!

THE DOORS : CRYSTAL SHIP

Pamela Courson believed that all the songs Jim wrote were about her. Patricia believed that Jim was using her abortion as inspiration for poetry she found in one of his notebooks and was outraged.

JIM MORRISON ON SEX AND THE SOUL

SINCE I WANT MY READERS TO FOCUS ON OTHER MAN SHARING MISTRESSES I'VE DECIDED TO TAKE THIS MONTH DOWN - AT LEAST FOR A WHILE! Thanks for reading! Missy “Blake said that the body was the soul's prison unless the five senses are fully developed and open. He considered the senses the 'windows of the soul.' When sex involves all the senses intensely, it can be like a mystical experience.”  - Jim Morrison 

DR. TONI GRANT COINED A FEW PHRASES - POOH BEAR ETERNIS - GHOSTLY LOVER - COURTESAN ASPECT

 

Dr. Toni Grant married and moved away, but she was one of the first talk show hosts on radio to focus on psychology.  People, mostly women, and mostly women who couldn't seem to get and keep relationships going, called in for advice.  Eventually she wrote this book, which I have in my library, and which is aimed at the dynamic woman who can't get married.  (I want to make it clear that's not every woman!)

 

Famous for coining phrases such as Pooh Bear Eternis (the male who never matures) and Ghostly Lover (when you love a man who does not exist, exists only in your imagination, or who you're so hung up on you can't move on to another), and the various aspects of femininity such as the Mother and the Courtesan, Dr. Toni Grant's feminism was seriously questioned.  (Personally I think of her as one type of feminist - there are many!)

 

I've been debating over Pamela and Patricia.  In one scene in her book STRANGE DAYS,  Jim Morrison calls Patricia "Mother."  It's a cut.  He doesn't want her to tell him what to do.  In her book she goes on a bit about the fact that she would not put up with him treating her badly or his drug abuse or alcoholism and Pam would.  Pamela Courson, more vulnerable, clearly dependent, with a pixie-ish voice and girlishness about her, seems to me to be more of a Courtesan, but it's she who goes about telling people she's Jim's wife, while for years Patricia keeps her witch wedding with Jim a secret.

 

 

WHO IS THE WIFE? WHO IS THE MISTRESS? PATRICIA? PAMELA?

PATRICIA'S book STRANGE DAYS is my main source for this comparison, though I've read around Pamela a bit too.

PATRICIA

Says to Jim that she doesn't want a traditional or legal marriage and is fine with a long distance relationship with him, that she doesn't want to live with him - that living together could make it boring or destroy their relationship.

Says that she is fine with Jim having sex with other women so long as she's not in town when he does but otherwise acts competitively and bossy.

Is proud that she is highly intelligent, self supporting, a career woman, a feminist, and a witch.  She considers her Celtic witch wedding to be spiritually valid so long as love exists, and claims she doesn't need more.

She enjoys dressing to flaunt her breasts which are larger than Pamela's.  She also feels the need to let Pamela know that she and Jim have had a friendship, are lovers, and chose abortion together when she becomes pregnant - that their relationship is serious - unlike all those other women.  They write letters to each other.

Feels the need to talk to him in person to make the decision about abortion and paying for it is the only money he spends on, though he did buy her some expensive gifts of jewelry.

Says she does not apologize for her drug use which she enjoyed at the time and though describing the use of multiple prescription drugs in response to stress, says she is always in control and not an addict.  Acts shocked when Jim says a problem with Pamela is that she's become a heroin addict.

PAMELA

Tells everyone that she is Jim's "wife," though she knows that's not true, and Jim knows she does and says "so what?"

Has a "Pixish" voice and girlish presence.  A hippie who is "cool" with how things are..

Knows he has other women and let's him know what she thinks of that when she has to hunt him down after standing her up on her birthday - again.   Tells him about how he disappointed her rather than telling him what to do.

Came to Hollywood as a teenage, no education - no college or vocational training, no profession, but does get Jim to spend at least a few hundred thousand so that she can own a boutique called "Themis."  As a business it's a looser, and eventually she can't cope with it.

Strives not to be unkind to Patricia when Patricia may be trying to shock her into a reality about her relationship with Jim.

Jim says he feels responsible for her, because she's dependent and came into the relationship so young.  (Pamela and Patricia are about the same age.)

Less wordy than Patricia but not out to impress anyone with her word choices.  Jim says she could never do what Patricia has and can do.

As a muse, she believes she has been the inspiration for Jim's songs, and that may be true.  She encourages him to move on to being the poet he really wants to be.

May have responded to Jim's "cheating" by also having affairs with other men.  May have prostituted herself from about the time he died to the time all the legal issues were handled after he died and she finally got some money coming in, to support a heroin habit.

PATRICIA KENNEALY : THE LIZARD QUEEN INTERVIEW

The sound quality on this isn't terrific but I thought you would want to get a feeling for Patricia years later - her look and sound.  She's clearly a very intelligent woman.  In her book she notes that back in the 1960's people didn't think about addiction or know what we know now.

HOW OLIVER STONE PORTRAYED PATRICIA KENNEALY and JIM MORRISON's INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP in the FILM "THE DOORS"

In her memoir, Patricia Kennealy writes of her unhappiness with what Oliver Stone did with her story in his film THE DOORS but she did act in the film as the High Priestess who married her and Jim Morrison!   (I was looking for a clip of that scene on YouTube but this is what I found.) She says her living room where they were married in a Celtic witch ceremony was tiny and this scene is total fantasy.  I'm linking to it as it's rated R. YOUTUBE THE DOORS FRAGMENTS OF THE FILM  from 1991.

JIM MORRISON and PATRICIA KENNEALY MORRISON and PAMELA COURSON : WHO WAS THE DOORS SHAMAN - ROCKSTAR'S MISTRESS?

NOTE IN AUGUST 2018  I'm still receiving the equivalent of hate comments about Patricia, without focus on JIM and his responsibility in all the relationships he was carrying on.  One person mentioned Mary Werblow...  please send a link or more information so I can find out how she fits into the combinations.  As for Patricia, I personally don't think she's as bad as so many people seem to think.  But I also believe we are all responsible for our own souls.  Let's remember that she too was young, and think about all the things you did for love that might not make sense to anyone else!  Missy

NOTE: IN NOVEMBER 2017 I decided to put this month back up after a pause.  Basically I feel many months that are just as worthy of reading were being ignored over this month.  Right away people were chiming in on the question I suppose I posed using the title than I have.  So please hear me out on this.  There is so much focus on the women and in particular, because Patricia wrote a deeply personal memoir, a focus on if she's truthful or not.  BUT THE REAL ISSUE FOR ME IS MORE ABOUT JIM MORRISON and HIS ABILITY TO HAVE MULTIPLE RELATIONSHIPS, SOME SIMULTANEOUS.  I don't think he felt any guilt over triangulated relationships, making women compete over him, leading women on, or any of it.  He was assuming a male privilege, I think, especially because he could, being famous.  So this is a popular month and popular post and as a result, I would like more COMMENTARY on how JIM was conducting HIS RELATIONSHIPS!  Missy 

Missy UPDATE February 2017  
Just finished reading this very short e-book, which repeats a chapter from Patricia's earlier memoir, focusing on the engagement and marriage ceremony.  The book has a forward that is honestly opinionated against Pamela. Easily available through many libraries as an e-book, you might want to read it.  Patricia says that she holds Pamela responsible for Jim's death, that he had told her, as well as others, and his attorney that he was going to use the time in Paris to break with Pamela, and that he was disgusted with Pamela's heroin use and had not been a user himself!

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Patricia Kennealy Morrison is called Jim Morrison's widow.   She's also called THE LIZARD QUEEN.

Patricia Keannealy in her twenties about the time she was with Jim.

UPDATE APRIL 2016  A New Documentary/ Independent Film About JIM MORRISON

coming soon!  BILLBOARD - JIM MORRISON DOC - EARLY YEARS (2013 announcement of the project by Filmmakers Jeff Finn and Jess Finn looking for kickstarter funds.)  I heard about it on Coast to Coast AM the other night (sleepless!  My dog barking at cats fighting in the backyard!) and let's just say that maybe... just maybe Jim did fake his own death!?)

It's titled BEFORE THE END: THE SEARCH FOR JIM MORRISON

If you've seen the Oliver Stone film THE DOORS, or read around this subject, say for instance Patricia's enthralling book, pictured below, STRANGE DAYS - MY LIFE WITH AND WITHOUT JIM MORRISON, you know that she and Jim married in a Celtic-Pagan witch ceremony called a handfasting.  They knew it wasn't legally binding without a Civil marriage, which never took place, but it was spiritually binding and for Patricia that meant for as long as she loves him and she still does. 

You may also know that Jim Morrison died in Paris in 1971 and that there is still some mystery attached to his death.  In his will he left everything to Pamela Susan Courson who had been introducing herself as "Mrs. Morrison," for years.  What you may not know is that Pamela's parents, who inherited the Jim Morrison estate when she died a few years later, went to court to have her relationship with Jim declared a common law marriage. 

According to Patricia, Jim told her that he and Pamela had lived with each other on and off and that he was ending his relationship with Pamela by going to Paris; He pretty much stayed in motels.  He said he was coming back to the states and wanted them to live together in the fall in New York.

Jim knew that Pamela called herself his wife.  He told Patricia not to mind Pamela's declarations since it wasn't true.  Even Pamela admitted to Patricia that there was never a legal marriage. (I'll get to the revealing discussion the two women had later this month!)

Is the fact that Jim Morrison was living in Paris with Pamela when he died and that his will left everything to her the most telling about who he really considered to be his "life partner" ? 

Pamela Courson in her twenties about the time she knew Jim.

She was Jim's girlfriend for at least a couple years before he met Patricia. 

Both women were aware and accepted that the shaman-rock star

JIM MORRISON 

also had affairs and groupies.

When a rock star has so very many women interested in him, women willing to do things his way, he gets spoiled.  At the time of Morrison's death it is rumored that at least 20 women were filing for support for children they said were his.  (These days with DNA testing it would be more interesting!  Haven't heard anything more about this, have you?)  Yes, I read this on the internet, one of many sites including Patricia's blog that I read before I wrote this article!   I also read a newish book that just came out by another writer, Judy Huddelston's LOVE HIM MADLY, about her dysfunctional relationship with Morrison.  (Was there any other kind?)


Personally, I don't think I could give a man like Jim Morrison more than a few minutes!  He seemed to not just triangulate his relationship with Pamela and Patricia, but butt women against each other with himself as the prize!

Is a woman calling him her husband, telling the world that there is a marriage there, her way of holding on to him or competing with other women?   Does the woman consider herself to be the wife because she is OK with his other women so long as she's his number one woman/wife?

How much of these women's attitudes about their relationships - Jim's multiple relationships - was part of the Hippie era ethic?  Love The One You're With?

Is the true test of being a wife or a mistress about money? ... Pamela got thousands of dollars from Jim while he was still alive to open a clothing boutique which she was ultimately not interested in.  She may have never fully supported herself financially and needed Jim's money.  He felt she needed him. Patricia was self supporting and didn't expect or ask for any support - except for the money for an expensive late term abortion.

I've long loved the movie, THE DOORS.  I thought it captured the excitement and controversy of an era.  I also didn't know that it wasn't completely accurate until I read Patricia's book.  She needed to clarify the exaggeration of the blood letting scene.  Her apartment living room was tiny and there were only ritual nicks and just a few drops of blood to seal the marriage oath - not a blood bath!

It was a courageous book, especially her honesty about that late saline abortion she endured way back when New York was a rare state that allowed abortions.  It was horrific, what women suffered.


I think you have to think about the Hippie Era to try and wrap your mind around these women's attitudes, because while each was claiming to be his wife, they also knew he had other women, from Groupies, to other relationships.   I think the right term for all these relationships is "Open." 


I think what these women put up with is much more than most modern mistresses put up with!  - or should!


In the book I found some passages that reveal that Patricia too wondered about Jim conducting relationships with both of them at the same time.  The two women actually managed to have some confrontations as well as conversations with each other in New York and in Los Angeles.   Patricia dared ask herself "What does he see in her?"

You have to know also that all three used a lot of drugs, his being mostly alcohol, but still drugs that altered moods, reduced inhibitions, and could have set all three on the path to self destruction. 



It's Patricia who survived though it seems clear if you read her book, written years after Jim's Death, or even her more current blog, that she's never gotten over Jim Morrison.   I feel for her.  If he is not her ghostly lover, than through the years other men have felt they couldn't compete with him!



Patricia has been a professional writer since her recent college grad days in the mid 1960's and was a rare woman editor of a music magazine when she met Jim but it took more than writing expertise to do this book. 


Now if you take a quick look at the cover, you might think to yourself - hey there's Pamela on Patricia's book cover.   Well, actually Pamela and Patricia, while not identical, had some things in common besides relationships going with Jim Morrison at the same time.  Yes, they were both light skinned, red haired beauties, though physically and intellectually dissimilar. (Patricia's long dark auburn hair reached 3 feet long! and she was a member of Mensa, while Pam, according to Patricia, was ditzy.) 



Could it be that the two of them were like one whole woman to Morrison, each supplying something the other could not ? 

Today Patricia is in her 60's and the writer of a successful series of fantasy books.  She has continued her occult studies and is a High Priestess as well as a minister in the Universal Light Church and can conduct a marriage ceremony for you!  She has also been Knighted in Scotland.

Pam didn't live all that much longer than Jim, having finally gotten through all the estate hassles of being his only heir, and then dieing of a heroin overdose.   Patricia speculates that because the Jim Morrison she knew wasn't into heroin that Pamela may have had more to do with his death than she admitted to or was held responsible for.  Could she have administered a fatal dose of drug because she knew she was loosing Jim to a serious rival - Patricia?  One witness years later said that Jim had died in a toilet at the Rock and Roll Circus club and his body had been moved to the apartment bathtub.  Pamela was never the writerly type and is not around to speak for herself.

Part of my question here is the one I've been asking since the beginning of this blog.  HOW DO YOU DEFINE MISTRESS IN A TIME WHEN SO MANY PEOPLE ARE SKIPPING MARRIAGE?  When people keep separate residences but consider themselves to be a committed couple?  When each is self supporting so being a mistress is not about being supported?  Is the definition financial?

Stick with me as I provide you the telling quotes from Patricia's book, and try to figure this one out myself, using the work of DR. TONI GRANT!

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P.S.  It's 2016!  This post has been featured on many Internet search engines due to its great popularity, but let me explain to you that MISTRESS MANIFESTO is a blog about Mistresses, and alternative relationships that are not traditional marriage between just two people, and over the years I've covered - and still cover - many other interesting people and related subjects.  I invite you, now that you're here, to go to the top of this blog, or to go through the archives, and choose one or more TOPICS to read before you leave us!  This year I've covered the Silent Screen actress CLARA BOW, and the Mother of Modern Dance, ISADORA DUNCAN, and am planning a number of surprises in the coming months! I love reading, researching, and writing this blog!  Thanks for your visit!  Missy

P.S. It's May of 2017.  I was just reading over Comments, some which I haven't published, about this post.  I'm aware that some readers feel the need to take sides here between Patricia and Pam so let me clarify some things.  First I read Patricia's memoir, which is very emotional as well as very detailed.  I took notes.  I read it again. When I read Comments taking vicious slings and calling her delusional, I have to say READ HER BOOK COVER TO COVER.  Do you really think that a respected film director like Oliver Stone would risk having her as a consultant on the film THE DOORS, risk all that Hollywood money, his own reputation, if HE thought she was delusional?  The other problem is that in such a complicated situation - and she admits everyone including she was using drugs or alcohol for some or all of it - no two person are going to have the very same perception, opinion, or experience, and the only thing she can do as a writer is SPEAK HER OWN TRUTH.  Jim isn't here to give us his side of the story and neither is Pamela, and there were other women too. I'm convinced she did.  I'm also sure that as the years have gone by she may have a different perspective about those times and her life than when she was living them. Hers is not an easy story to tell.  Ultimately, it is her KARMA. Haven't you looked back at a relationship you once had and retell yourself a story about it?