Showing posts with label Marilyn Monroe. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marilyn Monroe. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 26, 2026

PEGGY HOPKINS JOYCE : SUGAR BABY ICON : SHE ADMITTED TO BEING MATERIALISTIC : WAS THAT THE PROBLEM?

Peggy Hopkins Joyce was and is considered to be the icon of the Gold Digger, a woman who seduces men to marry her, men who have money, is insincere or without love for them, divorces, and then moves on to her next conquest. But it seems to me that the flamboyant Peggy was in her youthful bloom when she succeed to do so and that, although some men do the same, and without apology, few women can get away with it. 

I say that as more than one woman friend of mine has found herself married for money or traded in by her husband/partner when a richer woman wanted him. The ruthlessness of such maneuvers can be heartbreaking.

Peggy was honest about her materialism and perhaps because she projected some humor about it and herself, it wasn't held against her too much. It was part of her personae. She claimed her reputation. Some say she was "The Original Material Girl." Some say she was an inspiration for Marilyn Monroe of Diamonds Are A Girls' Best Friend fame for her depiction of Lorelei Lee in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes.

Years went by and Peggy went without marriage, and without children, though we have no idea how many men came into her life or left it between marriages or if she ever wanted to be a parent.

Peggy was born in 1893 as Emma Marguerite Upton. She had two marriages later in her life.

Peggy's fifth marriage was to a man named Anthony Easton, an engineer. They married in 1945 and were married until about her sixth marriage in 1953 was to Andrew Glifford Meyers, a retired banker and she died of cancer in 1957 still married to him. I wonder if she ever went by Mrs. Easton or Mrs. Meyers.

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Friday, August 23, 2024

CAMERA GIRL : THE COMING OF AGE OF JACKIE BOUVIER KENNEDY by CARL SFERRAZZA ANTHONY : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW


 Camera Girl has a different perspective on the life of Jackie Bouvier Kennedy than most of the Jackie books I've read because it focuses on her life before her marriage to John F. Kennedy as a career woman.  The senator who would take the White House and end his presidency assassinated. was barely romantic and had not actually courted her much.  He was too busy and too much of a womanizer to think of it.  

Born Jacqueline Bouvier in 1929, the child of divorced parents who were always at war over her and her sister,  the future First Lady had a natural intelligence but wasn't especially academic. She was artistic and drew fun images revealing a sense of humor, considered being an actress, but being a writer was her most earnest desire.  Only an eighth French, more Irish, Jackie worked hard to learn French language and culture and adopt that ethnicity as her heritage. She was multi-lingual and a perfectionist.

Her step-father had greater wealth than her father, who was in a slow decline of fortunes and health. Pressure to marry and before the age of 21, she wanted to be a writer and journalist first. This book follows her efforts, against sexism, as she established herself as a roving photographer who wrote an article composted of  quotes of conversation. She came up with the interesting  questions and that asked people from all walks of life to answer. Her time as the Inquiring Photographer lasted about a year and a half and ended as she became officially engaged to the Senator. One of her articles focused on questions inspired by Marilyn Monroe.  

How could Jackie do more than be a housewife when most employers had the "you'll just get married anyway" attitude?  She, as an expensively educated young woman, tried to campaign to be assigned to hard news but the social status implied by that education actually went against her. (There were women employed as journalist at the time.)  Connections landed her a start, but even then she was told that an engagement would end her employment. 

It didn't help that her mother felt that men would not marry intelligent women and that her aspirations for her daughters was that they would marry way up.  Many a beau entered her life, most not serious, and she herself began to see marriage as the strongest opportunity she could have. She had a fiancee that she returned a ring to.

This book asserts that, though years younger than Kennedy, and certainly not as worldly, Jackie knew what she was doing when she decided she wanted to marry the womanizing man.  Warned by John's best friend Lem, she decided that a lot of opportunities, including being able to influence, came along with being the wife on a senator or First Lady. She advised her sister-in-law to evaluate those opportunities to stay in marriage. She used her research skills to help John F. Kennedy succeed.

Page 285:

Distinctly unromantic, Kennedy qualified his inability to easily express emotion by claiming it was a result of his mother being unemotional and rarely expressing affection to him.  By accepting this deficiency in him, Jackie realized she was just as unusual...."

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Here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot, we have been interested in the saga of Jackie, Johm, Marilyn, and Big and Little Edie Bouvier.  Of interest to the Little Edie fans is that Jackie's father, nicknamed Black Jack, a sexual adventurer, may have had an affair with Little Edie, his niece.  You'll also learn more than in Grey Gardens about how it was that the Bouvier inheritance was depleted and possibly mismanaged by Black Jack, who was the brother of Big Edie. He may have used some of their money to finance Jackie's first trip to Europe in 1950, where she lived in Paris.

This book has much to reveal about Jackie and the relationship she had with those parents, who both wished to control her and have her to themselves; as a result she became careful with her words - both written and spoken.  She manipulated them by sometimes leaving out information or thinking three steps ahead.


page 91:

Reviewing her early writings during her train ride from New York to Kingston, Rhode Island, station, near Newport, would remind Jackie that she not only had a gift for adapting the events of her life into fictionalized stories but had always relied on doing so, particularly as a way of responding to the unpleasant incidents of her life, including her parent's divorce.  "It amuses me," she wrote at that time, to craft fairy tales.  When her balance was thrown off or her boundaries were crossed, Jackie would retreat into the role of imaginative chronicler, casting allies as heroes, violators as villains, artfully transfiguring reality.  She often illustrated her fanciful chronicles with caricatures of friends, family members, teachers - and herself, literally turning her real life into an absurdist cartoon world.

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If you're interested in more about Jackie, John F. Kennedy, Big and Little Edie Beale, Marilyn Monroe - you've come to the right place.  To pull up posts about these famous people, you can use the search feature and put in their names, or you can go into the archives.

2014 

August
LITTLE EDIE BOUVIER BEALE of Grey Gardens Fame. Her Affair With a Married Man May Have Done Her In.

December
Special Edition
AN EYE TO JACKIE KENNEDY ONASSIS

2016 

May
MARILYN MONROE (Norma Jeane Baker)
Mistress of Super Agent Johnny Hyde Early in Her Career

N ANGEL WING : HOLIDAY GIVING and CHARITIES 

2017

March
KATHLEEN “KICK” KENNEDY ; Sister of J.F.K., Widow of Billy Hartington, Mistress of Peter Wentworth Fitzwilliam When They Died in A Plane Crash


2020

July
JUDITH KATHERINE IMMOOR  AKA CAMPBELL EXNER : MISTRESS OF PRESIDENT JOHN F. KENNEDY : COURIER BETWEEN KENNEDY AND MOBSTER SAM GIANCANA

August
MIMI ALFORD : BEFORE MONICA LEWINSKY THERE WAS A J.F.K. INTERN IN THE WHITE HOUSE

September
MARY PINCHOT MEYER : WAS SHE THE PRESIDENT'S TRUE SOUL MATE?  WAS SHE ASSASSINATED BY THE C.I.A?




Thursday, May 25, 2023

MARK SHAW BOOKS : READ MORE FROM THIS ACCOMPLISHED INVESTIGATIVE AUTHOR : TRUTH and JUSTICE FOR DOROTHY KILGALLEN



MARK SHAW BOOKS - OFFICIAL    https://markshawbooks.com/

Connect to Mark's books, speaking engagements, and so on. I hope I have given him - and the subject of Dorothy Kilgallen - my best in this month's posts.  On one of the broadcasts I listened to he said that because of his public speaking he gets new information often.

I listened to YouTube interviews and speeches by Mark in which he talks about this book and I do hope that an investigation of her death will be reopened. I hope that posting about this fascinating woman this month will help the cause of truth and justice.

This is one of the best and shortest interviews that expands upon all her accomplishments, which may dazzle you.  He believes she was the most credible investigative reporter of her time. She had respect for her reportage, her Broadway column, and so much else.


I read the books I feature here at Mistress Manifesto from cover to cover. I also listened to a number of YouTube videos which were of Mark delivering lectures, and so, not only did I feel well situated in my understanding of his theories and research, but also felt I had to promote his desire for Justice for Dorothy. The man Shaw thinks poisoned her with a drug overdose, or set her up to be poisoned, has died.  But Shaw is open to hearing from anyone who has more information.

Missy

Wednesday, April 26, 2023

JOHNNIE RAY in HOLLAND CONCERT 1958

22 March 1958 at Avro Studio, Hilversum, Holland.  He was a unique talent and this performance is terrific.  Imagine Dorothy sitting in the audience, so prim but ready to jump out of her skin. Ray's popularity continued to be strong in Britain, even as it dimmed in the United States.

  

Ray was an actor in one film, "There's No Business Like Show Business.  The cast included Marilyn Monroe.  Dorothy Kilgallen was friendly with Marilyn.

Friday, April 21, 2023

THE DOROTHY KILGALLEN - JOHNNIE RAY WHIRLWIND AFFAIR - TRUE LOVE FOR THE FIRST TIME?

It's difficult to gauge how much having to hid his sexuality with other men effected Johnnie Ray but when Confidential magazine, a celebrity-driven popular magazine known for outing stars, revealed that he was, it was a serious problem circa the early 1950's.  The story also quoted a psychiatrist who said he was a success because his stage antics were abnormal and that he had a "toxic" effect on teenagers. (pages 161-163)

Johnnie's people worked to save his reputation and career. These were not the days to become a Gay Icon. (I have wondered who cut out pages and made remarks on the copy of the book I got as they must have wanted to censor it.) The Johnnie Ray Foundation for Hard of Hearing was set up to change the focus on the man, to acknowledge his hearing loss, and set him up to be more of a hero.  No doubt about it, Johnnie Ray was a trooper and would always be.  Twentieth Century Fox movie studio signed him up and put him in a movie, There's No Business Like Show Business, that included in its cast, Marilyn Monroe.

"Johnnie was friendlier with Monroe than anyone else in the cast.  He first met her during his Ciro's engagement. "she had problems getting a date," Johnnie said. "Because for most men, the fear of being rejected by Marilyn Monroe was just too much for the male ego.  So they didn't ask.  ...   "Women see reflected in me all of the emotion and tenderness that, unfortunately, the American male doesn't have time for today."  (pages 178-179)

Though divorced, ex wife Marilyn Morrison, perhaps never out of love or obsessed with Johnnie, accompanied him to the premier of the film. There was even talk of a re-marriage.

Johnnie's team emphasized his talent, mentioning that he had written over a hundred songs and also was a short story writer who hoped to write a TV show for himself. They also pitched untruths and misinformation aimed at making friends with some of the singers who were considered peers - or maybe competitors - not revealing his love of jazz and blues music.  Scandal magazines continued to take aim at him. He also made television appearances on variety type shows and some of the top comedians took a funnier spin on his performances.  Then in the spring of 1956 he was the mystery guest on the game show, "What's My Line?"  Though in the four years since she first saw him perform in 1952 had included a number of articles in which she was critical of him, Dorothy Kilgallen swooned over Johnnie. She'd lead a glamorous life since 1938 and had been married since 1940. Her marriage was not good. Now Dorothy's columns were pro-Johnnie.

..."No less frequent were surprise gifts, a series of deliveries from the likes of Cartier (a pair of diamond and sapphire encrusted cuff links( and Steuben (crystal decanters engraved "Johnnie's vodka" and "Just Gin." ...  Johnnie reciprocated with bunches of her favorite flowers, the exotic lavender rose. "They were steel blue and gorgeous... (page 212)

"Johnnie's life suddenly gained the context and security it had lacked. With Dorothy at his side, the treat of scandal and opprobrium melted away, as did her own long-stifled yearnings.  Together they walked on air. Even more surprising, to her friends, they walked in Central Park. Dorothy actually went so far as to don slacks for these rambles, a supreme concession.  No stranger to the best-dressed lists..  her staunch high fashion/little lady wardrobe aesthetic was well known as it was influential."  (page 213)

... 'When Dorothy let her hair down, the reversal was positive.  She remained a first-rate journalist, but also became a round-heeled libertine of the highest order.  ... When Johnnie became her lover, the climaxes shared were explosively, incalculably nurturing.  It was an ecstacy which shattered the psychic walls Dorothy had laboriously erected in an attempt to mask her own, beautiful running dog self - the very same moon howling, careless primitive Johnnie had released long before, and built his career on.  Together, Johnnie and Dorothy crashed out of reality and into their personal dimension.  Given the Star Psychology's fantastically presumptuous, narrow-channeled thought process, they indulged themselves in a display of splendid excess." (page 215)

Jonny Whiteside's writing in his book Cry is so creative, I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. When it comes to focusing on Dorothy's strange death that silenced her when her dogged determination may have been to reveal the truth of the J.F.K. assassination, however, it is Mark Shaw's book that takes the big prizes.


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Sunday, April 16, 2023

JOHNNIE RAY ABOUT DOROTHY KILGALLEN : SHE WAS THE SOFTEST...

THE DOROTHY KILLGALLEN STORY ORG (Mark Shaw's Site)  

Mark Shaw asks that an investigation be opened regarding Dorothy's death.  Lots of great information on Dorothy and photos too!  (In one of the interviews I listened to on YouTube, he admitted he does feel a connection to Dorothy, and that she may be, in so many words, working with him from the Beyond. (Hearing that just makes me like him more.)


From the quote page:

"People who did not know her totally misunderstood her.  They thought she was a cold-hearted newspaper woman who would stop at nothing.  That was cynical - attack, attack, attack. But Dorothy wasn't any of those things. She was the softest, tenderest, most thoughtful, most lovable woman I have ever known."
                                                                                                - Johnnie Ray

Sunday, April 2, 2023

PULITZER-PRIZE NOMINATED REPORTER DOROTHY KILGALLEN and POP SINGER JOHNNIE RAY : A FLAUNTED UNCONVENTIONAL ROMANCE IN THE 1950's BEFORE SHE DIED

This month I'll be posting about the love affair between hot-shot pro journalist and "What's My Line" game show panelist, Dorothy Kilgallen, and the extremely popular and talented singer, Johnnie Ray, whose heydey was in the 1950's, as part of the mystery as to who killed Dorothy. For like her friend, Marilyn Monroe, Dorothy's suspicious death of overdose was called suicide.  If she was murdered by drug overdose, it wasn't administered by Johnnie.  

A little background:
I have to confess that a couple years ago I became
 obsessed with the work of lawyer-turned-investigative writer/ author Mark Shaw.  I heard him being interviewed on the radio and at this point I've listened to at least twelve hours of other interviews he's done which appear on YouTube. However, none of those interviews, which focused on the mysteries of the President John Fitzgerald Kennedy assassination in 1963, and the tie in with actress Marilyn Monroe's murder and her affair with then Attorney General, and President's younger brother Robert Francis Kennedy, mentioned singer Johnnie Ray, who was in his career prime in the 1950's.
Then, I decided to read the book Denial of Justice, and reading it I learned that Dorothy's marriage was broken or Open and that she'd had this affair and likely had an extra-marital child with the singer, her youngest born years after her first two children. Johnnie, who was fourteen years younger than Dorothy, was actively bisexual. And so while Dorothy was thought to be a conservative Catholic, prim and proper and white-glove posh, she was in fact living an alternative lifestyle decades ago. It seems her and her husband intended to stay married but had let go of convention. Because of their high profiles and the attention Dorothy received as a journalist, though she generally avoided commentaries about who might be a Communist in the 1950's era of McCarthyism, this was outrageous behavior.


DOROTHY MAE KILGALLEN  (1913 -1965) 

JOHNNIE RAY  born JOHN ALVIN RAY  (1927 - 1990)

Dorothy Kilgallen rose up in the world through hard work and enterprise. Her story is one that many modern women can relate to, but she was an ambitious trail blazer in those days before feminism. Her father a journalist, growing up with advantage, Dorothy decided college would only delay her entrance into the exciting world of reportage. As an 18 year old,  she became a newspaperwoman. In 1936, she packed up a battered 
manual typewriter in a hat box and entered into a contest with two men to see who could travel to the most places in a race around the world in 24 days. She came in second and published a book about it called Girl Around The World and became famous. She  proceeded to write a column called 'Voice of Broadway' which was syndicated and appeared in all Hearst newspapers. Kilgallen covered events such as the wedding of Grace Kelly to the Prince of Monaco and the coronation of King George VI. Her American competition were newspapermen like Walter Winchell and Ed Sullivan.

In New York, she mixed socially with celebrities and society figures as well as mobsters and their cronies because they all hung out at clubs she frequented as a New Yorker.  She did, despite what she learned about them through observation, research, interviews, attending trials, and honing informants, care about what she wrote and published and was not one for conjecture. However, her remarks in columns did sometimes upset people and she likely made enemies.

She began to cover murder trials and to find her voice and to advocate for those she thought had been done wrong. After J.F.K. was assassinated in 1963, Dorothy began to investigate and interviewed Jack Ruby, who had murdered Oswald, the man the assassination was pinned on, in plain view and which was was shockingly televised. It was her intention to publish the truth about that assassination. In the last weeks of her life, despite her dogged determination, she admitted to being afraid for herself and her family. She even told a friend that if certain people knew what she knew, she could be killed. So when she was found, in a room she never slept in, make-up still on, wearing something she would not usually to bed,  just hours after appearing on What's My Life, all of it was suspicious.  Her research files were missing. Who had them?  At the time, though she and Johnnie Ray were still friends, the passionate affair they had was over. She was left craving company and that vulnerability may have been exploited.

What if she had the whole truth and nothing but the truth about J.F.K., R.F.K. their father Patriot Joseph P. Kennedy, the Mafia - Oswald - the man the J.F.K. assassination has been pinned on, Jack Ruby - the man who assassinated Oswald, and Marilyn Monroe?  Who wanted to stop her?  Was it the CIA. the mob, or perhaps someone else?  Author Mark Shaw has the story, though not that final answer.

Dorothy Kilgallen, of Irish Catholic heritage, was a woman with drive, intelligence, and courage. Like many a career oriented woman today, she wanted it all.  She had married  actor, singer, and Broadway producer, Richard Kollmar, at 27, when he was 30, on a winter day in April of 1940 with 800 guests in attendance. She kept her own name. He had proposed after a few weeks of dating and in marrying him she may have desired his American Blue-Blood connections. I can just imagine her thinking at 27 that it was time to marry someone if she intended to have children. She came from a conventional first-comes-marriage heritage and, like many, she probably intended to go forth and have a loving, forever marriage. After two children who came in the first few years of the marriage, the couple began to live separate lives.  This could be blamed on having shared and separate careers. They kept up appearances. According to Lee Israel, who wrote a biography called 'Kilgallen,' Dorothy went out most nights with an escort, loathing the idea of being seen out alone anywhere and thought of as undesirable.

Richard was a womanizer and alcoholic, who kept his own apartment for flings and may have paid off a few women he got pregnant to have abortions. Just how much Dorothy knew is speculation. There's a possibility that her husband was also bisexual, as Johnnie Ray was. 

She had an outstanding career - for a woman of her times. She became a celebrity and earned an excellent living, but her husband, whose work in theater was less reliable, never achieved her level of success in the world. Few women had her power. While Richard Kollmar had his lifestyle before they married, the speculation is that he resented his wife's achievements. With the double-standard of their day, he may have even hated that his wife had decided it was only fair that she have an affair if he was doing so. At some point Dorothy must have felt entitled to have a love of her own after the sparkle of her early marital days had diminished. But there was a difference:  That love turned out to be Johnnie Ray ,who she was deeply in love with, and who traveled the world as an entertainer, who was considered to be the link between Frank Sinatra and Elvis Presley.  Perhaps the Kept Man in this story was not Johnnie but her husband, Richard.

Dorothy and Richard had partnership in a radio show in New York from 1946 to about 1956, a morning show that gave the audience the impression they were over-hearing the married couple in their domestic morning chat. They moved to a five story New York city brownstone that was professionally decorated and showed their acquired wealth. Implied is it was the money she earned who allowed them to live so well. On the fifth floor of the Brownstone, Kilgallen had a private office space, which also had a bed in it, and which she called the The Cloop. No one was allowed in there, not even her children. Johnnie Ray had the private number and was allowed in. And at the end of her life?  Perhaps one other man. An even younger than she journalist who denies their was more than a platonic friendship.

What about Johnnie Ray?

Ray was fourteen years younger than Dorothy and had a kinetic and youthful quality. He toured extensively and was hyped up. He used speed to keep going, as well as being a drinker. Most of his after-show antics were playful, silly by today's standards.  However, he went cruising for other men and got arrested for soliciting and almost ruined his career at a time when homosexual entertainers stayed in the closet. The first time he was arrested he wasn't famous enough for the arrest to make the papers. The second time it did, there was a trial. Dorothy campaigned using her column to help and he was acquitted by an all woman jury. 

Ray was a good looking Oregon country boy, who had lost some of his hearing as child, yet managed to sing beautifully.  In videos I've watched of his interviews, he comes off not as simple but simply nice. Dorothy was capable of upgrading his life.  With his own career a success he may not have needed her financial help but help she tried. She bought him a crystal chandelier and advised him on art, album covers, and career moves. There is no doubt this relationship included sex and that their affair was known to very many people, including J.F.K!

In about 1954, Dorothy had her third child, a son whose father was likely Johnnie Ray. (After her death, Richard disowned this son, according to a Wiki I read.)

So, like many having affairs who live(d) in the public eye, Dorothy and her friends were careful not to let her alternative lifestyle be known to the American Public, and considering that she was in the world of reportage and had made enemies, many people had to be relied on to keep the open secret. Careful to hone their images and professional reputations, they also accommodated their desires and needs. And like a professional journalist, Dorothy also set some boundaries about what she would publish, even as because of her associations and friendships, she did know about the affair Marilyn was having with the President's brother, Robert Kennedy. She hinted that Marilyn was on the upswing and involved with a man more famous than Joe DiMaggio in a column that was published shortly before Marilyn's suspicious death.

I hope I've tantalized you enough that you will continue reading as I post throughout this month on Dorothy Kilgallen and Johnny Ray, while advocating also for the work of Mark Shaw, whose intention is to have Dorothy's death investigated again. 

I will also be using as a reference two other books:


Please join me in learning more about Dorothy and Johnnie here at Mistress Manifest.

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Sunday, September 11, 2022

"GIRLS" IN THE RED CROSS DURING WORLD WAR II : ONE POINT SIX MILLION MOLASSES DONUTS and MORAL SUPPORT

AUBURN EDU - JULIA RAMSEY THESIS 

Auburn University in Alabama offers submitted graduate thesis's online. Julia Ramsey was in the History Department and this is her thesis from 2011. Her paper is called "Girl" in Name Only: A Study of American Red Cross Volunteers On the Frontline of World War II."  It's about a hundred pages and worth the read. It's about women using volunteer work as a way to expand out of the home.

I learned that Clubmobiles were vehicles driven by women who visited troops, bringing burgers, donuts, cigarettes, and other items to the men in a show of support. Because they were considered to be non-military, these women sometimes got closer to the action than women had in any capacity before. The volunteers were strong, independent, and capable, able to handle being surrounded by men who might flirt and wisecrack with them, but the Red Cross needed to portray them as Girls, nonthreatening, so that they themselves would not be attacked. (The Red Cross has managed to keep functioning due to its helpful, non-military reputation.) 

A "Clubmobile" was thought of as a service club on wheels. The original plan was to provide more - movies, stage performances; think Bob Hope's USO shows to entertain the troops.

Try this on. The troops were likely to see action. These visits were a brief escape from the knowing that they might die.

The first Clubmobile went around the London area in October of 1942. Soon they would go to the European continent.  They were jeeps, buses, and trucks. Some carried a movie theatre on wheels.  American military leaders such as Dwight Eisenhower saw the goodness in this work and wanted their men to have Clubmobile services.

Page 9 and 10 EXCERPT:  (There are photos too!)

The Clubmobile that would be predominantly used on the European continent consisted of a converted 6 X 6 GMC truck equipped in the front half with a doughnut frying machine, six coffee urns, a working sink, running water, a water heater, and a portable field cooking range.

The back half of the truck contained a clubroom with books, a phonograph and speaker, and folding bunks for the women to sleep on when unable to return to their base at night.  .... Each vehicle carried a fifteen day supply of doughnuts and coffee and was staffed y three ARC women, who were responsible for driving, preparing and serving the doughnuts and coffee... Before deployment on the continent, the women staffing Clubmobiles endured a rigorous training period in England where they received instruction in driving and repairing their vehicles.

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

MARILYN MONROE - THE PRIVATE LIFE OF A PUBLIC ICON by CHARLES CASILLO : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW


Over 200 books have been written about Marilyn Monroe and so the question is, can any author bring something new to the understanding of this actress who died 60 years ago this summer, August 4th or 5th, 1960?  Having read maybe a half dozen of those books, I featured Marilyn on this blog in May 2016 focused on just one of them. She was the mistress of super-agent Johnny Hyde, who got her a contract with Twentieth Century Fox, wanted to marry her, and died suddenly without that ever happening.  To her credit, Marilyn did not want to marry him because she was not in love with him. I'm particularly interested in the controversial aspect of her death and if she was actually involved with President John F. Kennedy, or his brother, Robert Kennedy.

What is the tone of this book by Charles Casillo? Casillo delivers a clear and empathic report. The author was aware of the hunger for knowing more about Marilyn that so many fans have and says he spent hours listening to interviews that other author conducted that are housed at the Los Angeles Public Library. Then he also sought out new interviews with people who met her or knew her, people who were quite old themselves. (My note is that people interviewed in their 80's and 90's would have had to have been very young at the time. She was born as Norma Jean Mortensen in 1926 and was known as Norma Jeane Baker in her childhood. Recently DNA testing revealed  Charles Stanley Gifford was her birth father)  I think Casillo did a fine job of letting us know who he spoke to and where there was controversy. that there was one, instead of taking a particular side.

In particular, the author outlines her heritage of mental illness, not just in the case of her mother which is now well known, but others of her lineage. This makes a case for the possibility that Marilyn's fears that she would also become mentally ill realistic rather than neurotic. He shows just how much influence psychiatrists had on Marilyn and especially the amount of control psychiatrist Greenson, had on her in her last days. (I think of the control that Beach Boy Brian Wilson experienced in his life when a person in the mental health profession moved in. I tend to think that Green should have lost his license to practice.) Marilyn clearly needed to trust in someone, a doctor, and was mentally ill. So, when I read a quote by her first husband, James Doughterty, from another sources, stating that he never knew Marilyn Monroe but had loved Norma Jean, and that she was too sensitive to be in the movie business, I have to agree. 

Here is the question for YOU, my readers. Does mental illness make a person go after experiences that most people would avoid out of self-preservation or out of desperation, or is it that having so many horrible experiences makes a person mentally ill? I think that most women with a life like Marilyn's would have had a difficult time but that she was in the public spotlight made managing it all more difficult. So very many people wanted something out of an association with her, but she seemed unable to keep healthy boundaries and this is because some of them were deceivers.

As for the Kennedys, Casillo does bring some new light to the rumors that she was involved with one or both of the brothers. That Jackie Kennedy specifically asked her husband to break with Marilyn because she had empathy for Marilyn is new to me. That the involvement with Robert Kennedy was more serious interesting. Did one or both of them have Marilyn murdered?

The author reveals that the relationship with Pat Newcomb, her press agent and, it could be argued, best friend, who frequently stayed over at Marilyn's house, might have also had an interest in Robert Kennedy and that there were aspects of that relationship that might not have been healthy.  Of many passages I could excerpt here is one from page 295.

Dean Martin's wife, Jeanne, has said that "Pat was deeply in love with Bobby. It took her many years to get over it." There was something deeper to their relationship than friendship.  It certainly would have been better for all concerned if Marilyn didn't hear it.  But she suspected.  And now she demanded explanations.  She grappled with the notion of Pat Newcomb possibly being involved with Bobby - at once so loyal but at the same time seemingly desperate to take "possession" of her.  Was an involvement with Bobby, in some way, a maneuver for Newcomb to be more enmeshed with Marilyn?  Marilyn thought so, feeling a "sibling rivalry" kind of relationship had developed between them in the two years they had been closely associated with each other.

The author points out that while Marilyn did call the White House and also Robert Kennedy many times, it is not known how many times one or both of these men called her.  Rather than make it seem like she was a desperate caller, Marilyn might have been returning phone calls. He points out that there are "reasonable witnesses" on both sides of the question of Robert Kennedy being in Los Angeles on Saturday August 5th. Then he reveals the two stories. There is a two hour window in which RFK could have made it to Los Angeles via helicopter perhaps from San Francisco or Gilroy, California. He speculates that Robert Kennedy was supposed to make it over to his sister and brothers-in-law's house and that when Marilyn learned he was not going to go to the Lawford's, she cancelled going there herself. 

I speculate that because Marilyn knew that her family heritage contained various individuals who were manic, depressed, suicidal, she had at least reached out for help.

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Revisit by finding these posts in my archive.
MARILYN MONROE - ACTRESS - "SEX GODDESS" - and MISTRESS OF TALENT AGENT JOHNNY HYDE May 2016

Thursday, June 30, 2022

THE GIRL by MICHELLE MORGAN : MARILYN MONROE, THE SEVEN YEAR ITCH, and the BIRTH OF AN UNLIKELY FEMINIST


As this summer in early August, it will be 60 years since the actress Marilyn Monroe died of an overdose - or perhaps was murdered - a resurgence of film, documentaries, and books has occurred. This book by Michelle Morgan, published in 2018, is one of the first to look at the icon as something other than a victim.  Rather, Morgan points out the attempts to control her career that Monroe had taken in an era when she went against the norms by having a career, and not being the married, stay-at-home wife and mother. In many ways Monroe was born too soon.

Morgan starts out strong with this statement on page 10.

Excerpt: The Girl, titled after her character in the 1955 comedy The Seven Year Itch, tells the story of how that film transformed Marilyn Monroe from another Hollywood star into "The Girl" of modern times - a true icon - and sent her on an unparalleled adventure of self-discovery and reflection.  The years 1954-1956 were Marilyn's most powerful and inspirational, and it was during this time that her most substantial decisions were made. Before Itch, she had been known for her mostly fluffy, dumb-blonde roles, and she was unhappily married to baseball legend Joe DiMaggio.  By the time the film opened Marilyn was the president of her own film company, a student at New York Actor's Studio, and embroiled in a battle with Twentieth Century Fox that would eventually gain independence not only for herself, but others working under the constraints of the studio system too. Shortly after the release, she legally changed her name to Marilyn Monroe, thereby divorcing herself from the troubled past of Norma Jeane once and for all. Her rebellion was remarkable and exceptionally rare during a time when women were expected to strive to be fantastic homemakers and actresses had to accept every kind of behavior imposed upon them by their male bosses.

While Monroe had her detractors, I was surprised to learn that two of the women profiled here, Faith Domergue and Marilyn Maxwell, had nice things to say about Marilyn. 

Excerpt page 127 : Still, Marilyn did have her fair share of powerful female admirers who were always willing to come out in support of her.  One of these women was actress Faith Domergue. She took her complaints about ' clubwomen or jealous movie queens" straight to columnist Erskine Johnson, who published her views. "Nobody can hurt (Marilyn)," she said. "If she stays as she is, holding her ground, being herself, she will be on of the great stars of all time. Women may not approve of an actress, but as long as they're curious, they'll come to see her films and bring their men along too."  (The club she refers to s the Women's Club of Hollywood which apparently thought of themselves as moral arbitrators.)

Excerpt page 128 : One actress shared a name with her. though not by choice.  Marilyn Maxwell had become famous in the 1940's, and when she met the second Marilyn in 1948, she was stunned to hear of her desire to become a successful actress.  Maxwell suggested that she should change her name to something else so that the two of them did not get mistaken for each other. However,  Monroe had no intention of doing so, and for many years Maxwell was bombarded with fans who thought they were the one and the same. In the end, Maxwell gave a standard reply : "No, I'm not the Marilyn with clothes on." though no offense was meant and she actually did greatly admire Monroe. "I think she has done a great deal of good for the movie industry." she said. "She is just what this business needed -- someone to put some glamour and magic back into Hollywood."

If interested in FAITH DOMERGUE:  FAITH DOMERGUE :  HOWARD HUGHES FIFTEEN YEAR OLD MISTRESS : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH  May 2014, which you can find in my archives.  Or click on her name in the labels below.

If interested in MARILYN MAXWELL she is one of the women profiled in my month on comedic actor, Bob Hope.

MARILYN MAXWELL - FOUR YEAR RELATIONSHIP WITH BOB HOPE - CALLED "MRS. BOB HOPE"  August 2015

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Monday, April 25, 2022

THE HISTORIC MAX FACTOR MUSEUM IN HOLLYWOOD : AN ACCLAIMED MAKE UP ARTIST TO THE STARS CREATED THEIR IMAGES

THE HOLLYWOOD MAX FACTOR MUSEUM  Max Factor is considered "The Father of Modern Make-Up."  Restored to it's original gilded decor, this is where Factor created the looks for many a starlet and star.  This is where Marilyn Monroe became a blonde and Lucille Ball became a redhead!  The museum contains a vast collection of Marilyn Monroe costumes and artifacts.


Thursday, October 28, 2021

"CELEBRITY MISTRESSES" WHO REALLY WERE NOT and the MEN WHO DIDN'T KEEP THEM : MISSY SPEAKS

In searching for people to feature on this blog, I sometimes do internet searches to see what's up. I've found so many articles that use the term CELEBRITY MISTRESSES. While many of these articles are correct about the fact that there has been adultery, they are rarely correct about the terms and conditions of the relationship. Affairs, even extremely brief events, are turned into relationships. Relationships, some of which end in someone's divorce and remarriage are not the same as the relationship between a person who has negotiated being in a long relationship with another person and is closer to being a second spouse. One article I found was right on about various celebrity men and their "baby mamas" but there is no evidence that any of these women who (sorry to say) stupidly had babies with men who use their celebrity to whore around were their Mistresses. (I'd love to know about the child support issues.)

However, we are in the process here of DEFINING Mistress. If you page through my archives you'll get a feeling for the people who I've featured thus far and why. Sometimes I elect someone an Honorary Mistress. I don't think Monica Lewinsky ever was but I've featured her and also said, in so many words, Get Off Her Back! I suspect Anna Bey once was and decided she wanted a different life. Isadora Duncan was, with Paris Singer who was her arts patron as well who helped her survive in Paris and move towards her dream of a dancing school. Although a woman can be financially independent and a Mistress, the rich man who can afford to "Keep" or "Help" a woman is more likely to have a Mistress. Do I believe Sarah Symonds, who was a Mistress to a famous married chef?  Yes. I do. Bill Gates? I doubt it. Women throwing themselves at his feet?  Probably.

In several articles, Marilyn Monroe is identified as a Mistress because she supposedly had affairs with President Kennedy  and his brother Robert. This tale has been repeated and taken on more and more "fact" as time goes on, yet the overly married Marilyn who also was, reportedly, quite the sexual adventurer for her time, and may even been expected to sleep with various Hollywood power players to have a career, had to know that having sex and having a relationship could be two different things. I pity her and the women who, like her, felt or knew they had to have sex with men in order to have a career. However, Marilyn was a Mistress early in her life with an agent named Johnny Hyde

Tiger Woods is a man who is linked with many women who are called Mistresses because of their affairs with him while he was married. I have no reason to think any of them were. I tend to discount any reportage that calls women who have had affairs with celebrities Mistresses. So NO Rachel Uchitel was not a Mistress.

And hell no Amy Fisher was not a Mistress to Joey Buttafuoco.

There are a lot of celebrities, and that includes politicians, who didn't seem to mind that someone is married or that they are married, when they meet someone else who is willing, they have affairs. Affairs sometimes turn into a remarriage or the Mistress relationship, but my thinking on this is that these people are too high profile to have private lives and that some of them use their drama to fuel their fame. 

I don't think in this day and age it's possible to have a Classic Mistress if you're a celebrity but if you have a whole lot of money you can make it happen, if the Mistress is capable of being discreet, which probably means she is not aiming for fame herself. Even if a person compartmentalizes their life, a reporter is on the story.

Missy

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You may be interested in :

Monica Lewinsky featured March 2012

Marilyn Monroe featured May 2012

Isadora Duncan featured February 2016

Anna Bey featured May 2021 


Monday, July 12, 2021

THE ARRANGEMENT : A NOVEL BY ELIA KAZAN THAT MAY BE AUTOBIOGRAPHICAL


The script by Arthur Miller for the film After The Fall was thought to have been based on his personal experience in a marriage with actor Marilyn Monroe, an ex wife, and she was said to have been the female character. Elia Kazan's 1967 novel that was turned into a film in 1969, The Arrangement, was thought to be based in his relationship with Barbara Loden, also using her as a character. The film started Kirk Douglas as a successful man having a midlife crisis. Faye Dunaway acts as a girl named Gwen - the character possibly based on Barbara.

If interested in when Marilyn Monroe was a Mistress, you can find her in the archive of May 2016:

MARILYN MONROE - ACTRESS - "SEX GODDESS" - and MISTRESS OF TALENT AGENT JOHNNY HYDE


Sunday, August 23, 2020

JFK'S WOMEN : THE SCANDALS REVEALED : MISTRESS MANIFESTO FILM REVIEW

JFK's WOMEN is a documentary film that's currently available, and I watched it wondering if any of the Presidential Mistresses I've been featuring on this blog were included.

I guess I've read so very many books about this President, his wife, Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis, Marilyn Monroe, and other people associated with them - some of whom you can find in my archives here at Mistress Manifesto.

I dedicated a month to Marilyn Monroe, the actress, who was a Mistress, but not to John F. Kennedy nor his brother Robert.  I consider any sexuality or romance she possibly had with either men to be affairs.

You will find Judith Campbell Exner, last months Presidential Mistress of the month on this film.  Testimonials are that she was well known by high ranking mobsters and paid $200 to seduce Jack, exploiting his out of control sex addiction, so that there would be a connection between Kennedy and the mob.  I still consider this to be a controversial statement.  It makes Judith into a prostitute.

You WILL NOT FIND MIMI ALFORD in this film

You will also NOT FIND NEXT MONTHS MISTRESS OF THE MONTH in this film.

Missy


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Friday, June 16, 2017

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Non-confrontation of Wives

"It's his place to deal with his wife, not mine. "


I know that when I use the word "SHOWDOWN" in a blog post title it attracts hits.  And oh, people love the "cat fight" between two women fighting over one man, hating each other like that, and maybe coming to physical violence.  A few years ago a couple Chinese women Kept by the same man went at it, someone posted it up on YouTube, and it enjoyed a lot of hits.  However, if any relationship you're in makes you get that mean and nasty, that physical, with another person, it's probably not a relationship for you.

Frankly, some men like women to fight or compete over them.  It doesn't have to be a wife - mistress situation.  I've always loathed people who go out of their way to try and make me jealous.  Sometime it's all more subtle - or maybe the term "passive aggressive" would be better - and the man just wants his ego stroked by one or both of the women he's dating or seeing or something - to reveal their passion for him. This type of person plays two people (or more) that he's involved with at the same time just to create such a situation.

However, when you're a Mistress, your place is aside your man's marriage, and sometimes your presence helps him stay married, but coming between them is never a good idea.

Yes, many a woman feels the need and right to confront the Other Woman, who thinks she is the Other Woman.  From what I've read it's even possible that the First Lady, Jacqueline Kennedy, gave a little phone call to Marilyn Monroe.

I'll never forget the time when I and my 20-something best girlfriend drove to the mall because she wanted to confront her Other Women. She and her man were not married, engaged, and hadn't even had the "going steady" talk.  No ring!  However, when she found out that the man she was sleeping with was also sleeping with this Other Woman who worked at one of those kiosks all alone, we were on our way.  I stood back as she went up to her and said, "I just want you to know X is sleeping with me."  I could see this Other Woman was shaken.  First of all, even if her boss wasn't around, she was at work.  Secondly, what could she say?

Now I'm more mature and if I have a friend who thinks doing something like this is a good idea, I would tell her I think not.

You have every right to stop having sex with another person and every right to break it off with them if your needs are not met.  But when he is married, that's his marriage, not yours.
So even if his wife shows up on your doorstep, my advice is to tell her she needs to deal with her husband.  I know it may be incredibly difficult to understand and to keep your mouth from going off, especially if you have good reason to Hate her for him, but really, it's his place not yours to deal with his wife.  Besides, she's probably at least as nice as you!

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Sunday, April 2, 2017

HOLLY MADISON : HUGH HEFNER'S HAREM BUNNY FAVORITE : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH

UPDATES
E-ONLINE: DIVORCE HOLLY MADISON FILES with PASQUELLE ROTELLA 

E-ONLINE : DIVORCE FINALIZED HOLLY MADISON and PASQUELLE ROTELLA
NY TIMES OBIT FOR HUGH HEFNER - SEPTEMBER 2017



HOLLY MADISON
SEVEN YEARS  * OF HER LIFE WAS SPENT IN HUGH HEFNER's
 GO NOWHERE - TRAVELING HAREM

Today she's married to Pasquelle Rotella and is a mother and entertainer... I'm just recently familiar with HOLLY MADISON.


You may have heard about HOLLY MADISON's expose memoir, Down the Rabbit Hole, which is about living at the Playboy Mansion as one of Hugh Hefner's live in "girlfriends" since there has been a lot of public relations happening in conjunction with this book that came out last year. You may also know Holly from watching reality television (The Girls Next Door) or perhaps saw her striptease show in Vegas called Peepshow at Crazy Horse Paris.  Since I've never watched a reality television show but just recently heard of the sale of the Playboy Mansion (with a guarantee that Hugh Hefner be able to live there, in the 20,000 plus square foot home, for the rest of his life), it was the real estate deal that brought my interest around to reading  Holly's book.

In her book she makes the case that while she did live to regret living at the Playboy Mansion with Hugh Hefner as one of the girlfriends her biggest fear was that forever more, after she left, she would be made to pay the price. As much as she says she made peace with it, you get the feeling she's still in process. She'd even suffered a severe depression, saw a psychiatrist against Hef's wishes, and went on a psyche med to endure her life there as a very Kept woman (my words not hers.)  Yet, while most girlfriends lasted six months if that, and many more women were brought in for a night of adventure and left, Holly kept on, thinking she loved the man old enough to be her grandfather, Hef.  She wanted to marry him and have children with him, all the while hoping to become a centerfold model.  She says, "Foolishly, I'd long believed that becoming a Playboy Centerfold was the fast track to fame and fortune.  Boy, was I wrong.  There have been more than 720 Playmates in Playboy's history.  How many of them can you name?  (Page 116)


Make no mistake about it though, that is 20 20 hindsight. Holly had the goal of becoming a Playmate of the Month when she was just a teenager. She doesn't seem to have been overly shy, though claiming she was terrified at first about posing nude, or at all concerned about morality, or what it might all mean for her sexually, though she admits early on that the other girlfriends lied to her at first, claiming they did not actually have sex with Hugh Hefner as part of their live-in girlfriend deal. Once she was presented to Hugh, she did have sex with him and, it goes unsaid, some of them, even if they were supposed to be secretive about that. 

This story is about PLAYBOY but don't expect any sex scenes in the book. You'll get the idea that twice a week all the girlfriends went into Hugh's bedroom after going out to clubs, that he proffered Qualudes which he called "thigh openers" (which she didn't take) and that some of them were using Cocaine (which she didn't take) and drinking (which she did).  Then they danced for him, or stripped for him, or whatever, maybe with each other, for his entertainment. Considering that these women were often Mean Girls who otherwise made each other's lives miserable, that must have been some acting!

In Holly's  book she uses the terms harem, traveling harem, Mistress, and Concubine.  She does not use the term Kept, but I will, and later in the month give you a list of the financial incentives or pay, while I wonder if somehow Playboy Enterprises made the Girlfriends tax deductions.

How does a small town girl go from there to here?


Playboy magazines could be found in the home she grew up in, and when the magazine went looking for possible playmates for their "Millennium Playmates" auditions all over the United States, she was one of the young women who showed up when the bus came to Portland.  She bought a silver bikini and had herself photographed.  Nothing came of it.  A whole hell of a lot of young beautiful women had the goal of being a Playmate back in 1999, and many of them had some idea of how to please; look like Pamela Anderson, or maybe Jenny McCarthy, or best - Marilyn Monroe, who had been on the first cover of the magazine in the 1950's.


Holly was so sure that she had to be in Los Angeles, that she changed from an Oregon state to private college so that she could live near Hollywood and Playboy, and double majored, with a strong interest in acting.  She was also so sure that she needed larger breasts that she forked over three charge cards to pay about $7,000 for the cosmetic surgery.  So, with D cups, she easily got a job at the Hooters Restaurant, said to be a great place for a waitress to get tips, what with those tiny shorts riding up. She was also a Hawaiian Tropics Girl as a sort of spokesmodel who showed up at events in swimwear.  She was invited to the Playboy mansion party after a man who was Hugh Hefner's private physician, and familiar with his taste in women, saw her at a Hawaiian Tropic Bikini Contest in Beverly Hills. Hefner's Midsummer Night's Dream Party required sleepwear.  She showed up in a black Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie set.  She was a woman who had the intelligence for college but who seems to be set on making it based on looks.


To her credit, Holly had been working hard - college, extra shifts at Hooters restuarant, and she got an acting agent and went on auditions and had a few bit parts.  She wasn't lazy, and she took risks and had goals.  Still, she needed a lucky break.


In debt, she'd been living in a hotel room with another student who was leaving. She would have been homeless with $100 left in her pocket, and she faced having to go home to her small Oregon town.  Or, she could manage to get invited to live at the Playboy Mansion as a girlfriend.  She was never happy there, she says with hindsight, and maybe the worst of it was learning that not only did other girlfriends manage to have outside boyfriends, but some of them were working as high priced escorts for a local Madam, and one of them tried to recruit her.

Please readers, don't think I'm putting Holly way down. It's just that her book left me so very many questions, and the idea that she had kind of co-signed what we politely call B.S. for so many years, even when she was no longer naïve about what was going on, makes me wonder if she understands how severely abused she let herself be. Is the fact that she is one Playboy Bunny who has managed to get other work, to make a few million on her own, enough to compensate for the years she spent being only a Girlfriend?

You decide! 
 


I was thinking a bit about a previous Mistress of the Month, Jillian Lauren, who became part of the Harem of the Sultan of Brunei.  She was specifically recruited for a harem and while maybe none of us can know for sure ahead of time if we'd like it, she seemed to have known what she was getting into.

UPDATE
Hugh Hefner really did have a harem, as I see it, though the situations are not identical because Hefner didn't have the near unlimited funds that the Sultan of Brunei did.  Man sharing is something we look at here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot, and the women in a harem do share a man, and he does the choosing of which women get to stay, and for how long, though the question of leaving when a woman wants to may not be as clear. 

Jillian had been as escort before she got her invitation to travel across the world and stay as the  willing captive who was sometimes rewarded  very well financially, who also felt competitive with the other women and wanted to be the favorite. Today this lifestyle seems to be so much more based on sexuality than a Classic Mistress situation in which a woman is like a second wife to a man, however it seems to me that women, whatever their status, but for those in religious sisterhoods or monasteries or who are self supporting and celibate, are expected to be sexual as a condition of their being in this world, and that certainly includes wives.

If interested in the Harem lifestyle you may want to search herein for
Jillian Lauren - June 2013
Lord Bath and his 75 Wifelets - May 2012
China's Empress Dowager Cixi - September 2015





(* Holly spent time at the Mansion before being invited to be a girlfriend, and continued to have business and friendships that kept her involvement going.  She was a girlfriend from bout 2001 to 2008... Her last party at the Mansion was Halloween 2008.