"CELEBRITY MISTRESSES" WHO REALLY WERE NOT and the MEN WHO DIDN'T KEEP THEM : MISSY SPEAKS

In searching for people to feature on this blog, I sometimes do internet searches to see what's up. I've found so many articles that use the term CELEBRITY MISTRESSES. While many of these articles are correct about the fact that there has been adultery, they are rarely correct about the terms and conditions of the relationship. Affairs, even extremely brief events, are turned into relationships. Relationships, some of which end in someone's divorce and remarriage are not the same as the relationship between a person who has negotiated being in a long relationship with another person and is closer to being a second spouse. One article I found was right on about various celebrity men and their "baby mamas" but there is no evidence that any of these women who (sorry to say) stupidly had babies with men who use their celebrity to whore around were their Mistresses. (I'd love to know about the child support issues.)

However, we are in the process here of DEFINING Mistress. If you page through my archives you'll get a feeling for the people who I've featured thus far and why. Sometimes I elect someone an Honorary Mistress. I don't think Monica Lewinsky ever was but I've featured her and also said, in so many words, Get Off Her Back! I suspect Anna Bey once was and decided she wanted a different life. Isadora Duncan was, with Paris Singer who was her arts patron as well who helped her survive in Paris and move towards her dream of a dancing school. Although a woman can be financially independent and a Mistress, the rich man who can afford to "Keep" or "Help" a woman is more likely to have a Mistress. Do I believe Sarah Symonds, who was a Mistress to a famous married chef?  Yes. I do. Bill Gates? I doubt it. Women throwing themselves at his feet?  Probably.

In several articles, Marilyn Monroe is identified as a Mistress because she supposedly had affairs with President Kennedy  and his brother Robert. This tale has been repeated and taken on more and more "fact" as time goes on, yet the overly married Marilyn who also was, reportedly, quite the sexual adventurer for her time, and may even been expected to sleep with various Hollywood power players to have a career, had to know that having sex and having a relationship could be two different things. I pity her and the women who, like her, felt or knew they had to have sex with men in order to have a career. However, Marilyn was a Mistress early in her life with an agent named Johnny Hyde. 

Tiger Woods is a man who is linked with many women who are called Mistresses because of their affairs with him while he was married. I have no reason to think any of them were. I tend to discount any reportage that calls women who have had affairs with celebrities Mistresses. So NO Rachel Uchitel was not a Mistress.

And hell no Amy Fisher was not a Mistress to Joey Buttafuoco.

There are a lot of celebrities, and that includes politicians, who didn't seem to mind that someone is married or that they are married, when they meet someone else who is willing, they have affairs. Affairs sometimes turn into a remarriage or the Mistress relationship, but my thinking on this is that these people are too high profile to have private lives and that some of them use their drama to fuel their fame. 

I don't think in this day and age it's possible to have a Classic Mistress if you're a celebrity but if you have a whole lot of money you can make it happen, if the Mistress is capable of being discreet, which probably means she is not aiming for fame herself. Even if a person compartmentalizes their life, a reporter is on the story.

Missy

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Monica Lewinsky featured March 2012

Marilyn Monroe featured May 2012

Isadora Duncan featured February 2016

Anna Bey featured May 2021 

BILL GATES, MELINDA GATES, and ANN WINBLAD ARE (PROBABLY) NOT A LOVE TRIANGLE : OPINION BY MISSY and MISSY ASKS YOU!

The announcement that Bill Gates and his wife Melinda French Gates are calling it quits after 27 years of marriage, three grown children, billions earned and much of it given to charity and good causes - including development of a Covid-19 vaccine, is being reported internationally. Apparently, Bill once dated Ann Winblad for seven years but ended the relationship when he met Melinda. Ann was given the respect of approving of the marriage - or at least giving a strong opinion. I know that's a bit like Camilla Parker Bowles approving of Diana Spencer as a wife for Prince Charles. Ann is also married.

As reporters hunt down "the other woman" who (probably) doesn't exist, though a billionaire like Bill Gates and a billionaire like Melinda French Gates are certainly going to be confettied with persons of interest, the reveal is that for years Bill and Ann spend one weekend a year together at a beach house in North Carolina.

I thought this was terrific. You can bet it was negotiated with Melinda as well as Ann and Ann's husband. Obviously Ann and Bill decided they valued a long friendship and wanted to keep it and did despite many years full of changes. Out of 56 weekends in a year, Ann got one, but it was enough. If Ann were a male best friend very likely Bill could more easily spend a weekend or a whole wifeless vacation week with him, without scrutiny or anyone calling the place they stayed a "love nest." The old friends do a lot of catching up during that weekend.

It seems to me that Bill Gates and Melinda French Gates also have negotiated a friendship, one that includes continuing the philanthropic work of their Foundation. They are also keenly aware that due to their wealth their lives are lived on the world stage and it wouldn't surprise me that the announcement and all else has already been planned. If there is anything that broke them up, busyness is probably to blame. 

The reporters know they have a Big Story but are some of them desperate enough to make stories up out of little evidence? I picked this story up on a publication that I read called Daily Mail (i.e. Daily Mail UK or Daily Mail Online). During Covid-19 lockdown, I found myself reading it way too much. I realized that many an article in this publication is based on speculation or "Royal Experts," many who have written books that have gained them the "Expert" title. However, their opinions are touted as Journalism, and Journalism is based on facts - OK research - interviews - fact finding. If you read the publication enough, you soon realize that there are many conflicting opinions about Prince Harry and his wife, Meghan Markle AKA The Duke and Duchess of Sussex, as an example. That is what makes the publication, one of the most popular in the world, a tabloid rather than a 'hard news" venue. 

However, maybe no one but Bill and Ann know if their weekends are part of a SAME TIME, NEXT YEAR relationship. By bringing this up, I do not intend to imply it is. Same Time Next Year was a play I once saw at a straw hat theatre that was made into a movie in the 1970's. In it, two people who had an affair agree to meet each year. She tells her husband she goes to a religious retreat. It's fascinating because they are devoted to their spouses and have no intention of divorce but the personal changes each goes through all those years shows them in distinctly different places in life. His wife dies first.

While one article in the Daily Mail called what Bill and Melinda and Ann have an "odd arrangement" I have to wonder how many people just wish they could have one just like this with someone of the opposite sex with whom they have a valued relationship.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO SPEND ONE WEEKEND A YEAR WITH AN OLD LOVER TURNED FRIEND that your partner knows about?