"It's his place to deal with his wife, not mine. "
I know that when I use the word "SHOWDOWN" in a blog post title it attracts hits. And oh, people love the "cat fight" between two women fighting over one man, hating each other like that, and maybe coming to physical violence. A few years ago a couple Chinese women Kept by the same man went at it, someone posted it up on YouTube, and it enjoyed a lot of hits. However, if any relationship you're in makes you get that mean and nasty, that physical, with another person, it's probably not a relationship for you.
Frankly, some men like women to fight or compete over them. It doesn't have to be a wife - mistress situation. I've always loathed people who go out of their way to try and make me jealous. Sometime it's all more subtle - or maybe the term "passive aggressive" would be better - and the man just wants his ego stroked by one or both of the women he's dating or seeing or something - to reveal their passion for him. This type of person plays two people (or more) that he's involved with at the same time just to create such a situation.
However, when you're a Mistress, your place is aside your man's marriage, and sometimes your presence helps him stay married, but coming between them is never a good idea.
Yes, many a woman feels the need and right to confront the Other Woman, who thinks she is the Other Woman. From what I've read it's even possible that the First Lady, Jacqueline Kennedy, gave a little phone call to Marilyn Monroe.
I'll never forget the time when I and my 20-something best girlfriend drove to the mall because she wanted to confront her Other Women. She and her man were not married, engaged, and hadn't even had the "going steady" talk. No ring! However, when she found out that the man she was sleeping with was also sleeping with this Other Woman who worked at one of those kiosks all alone, we were on our way. I stood back as she went up to her and said, "I just want you to know X is sleeping with me." I could see this Other Woman was shaken. First of all, even if her boss wasn't around, she was at work. Secondly, what could she say?
Now I'm more mature and if I have a friend who thinks doing something like this is a good idea, I would tell her I think not.
You have every right to stop having sex with another person and every right to break it off with them if your needs are not met. But when he is married, that's his marriage, not yours.
So even if his wife shows up on your doorstep, my advice is to tell her she needs to deal with her husband. I know it may be incredibly difficult to understand and to keep your mouth from going off, especially if you have good reason to Hate her for him, but really, it's his place not yours to deal with his wife. Besides, she's probably at least as nice as you!
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