Good Morning My Faithful Readers, wherever you are - The Phillipines? Russia? Argentina? I've been thinking about YOU, because I check to see where my readers are coming from and sometimes I think "What must it be to be a Mistress in a whole different culture, one that may be more conservative right now, or maybe one that has more newly wealthy entrepreneurs, like Russia does.
For this blog I write about people, mostly women in heterosexual relationships though we know that being kept is not exclusive to women or heterosexuals, I write about people who have become famous or infamous, because it's not my thing to out people who live private lives, and I seek to define Mistress since it's clear that you do not have to be single yourself, involved with an officially married person (what in this age when so many couples do not officially marry and homosexuals are fighting for the right to be married!), or actually be an adulterer to be a Mistress.
That's one of the reasons I'm AMUSED at times CONFUSED at other times by the use of the word MISTRESS in the media. First, even the world COURTESAN has meant different things in different cultures, from being a high class prostitute to simply a woman who is highly accomplished in the arts. Secondly, and I think unfortunaltey, the word Mistres brings up many web sites that are clearly playing on the Sadio-Masocistic aspect of relationships in which a woman, often a prostitute, plays up her domination. Not sure where this started but I think "English boarding schools!" third, the press seems to use the word Mistress for any woman who has simply had an affair with a man of newsworthyness, say a celebracty or a politiocian. So many people are having AFFAIRS today that I back away from the use of Mistress to mean women who are having affairs. Certainly women who go on booty calls are not mistresses, they're simply free spirits at this time in their lives. Then there are the common stereotyupes, and as with all stereotypes maybe there's some truth to them. The stereotyle is an adultress, a "home - wrecker," who tears apart a marriage, or a woman who is simply addicted to the challenge of getting and keeping a man who another woman has claims to. Contrast that with the fact that in some cases,historically and now, there are Mistresses who actually help another woman keep her marriage together. Yes, some wifes and mistresses know of each other and have boundaries but actually are friends! Why is this so surprising at a time when we have come through the "Love The One You're With" Summer of Love, 1960's, and know that some people have chosen to live in polygamous and other relationships peopled by 3 or more?
Saturday, March 1, 2014
Friday, February 28, 2014
IN CHINA MISTRESSING IS BUSINESS AND BETTER THAN WORKING LIKE A SLAVE IN A FACTORY
DAILY BEAST : INSIDE CHINA'S MISTRESS INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX full article,
Increasingly, young migrant women turn to hostessing in karaoke bars, a form of prostitution that creates a pool of potential mistresses looking to improve their financial security.
It is difficult to make moral judgments with a broad brushstroke. As long as the mistress business involves adults with sound minds and without coercion or intimidation, one could argue that the exchange of company and sex for money is not that fundamentally different from selling one’s manual labor or mental capacity.
Iris doesn’t appear to have moral qualms about having a relationship with a married man. “It was a little weird at the beginning, but I got over it quickly.” She says she assumed his wife was middle-aged and not attractive, and didn’t ask any questions about her. “Morally, if he didn’t care, why should I? I am not obligated to another woman’s happiness.”
Increasingly, young migrant women turn to hostessing in karaoke bars, a form of prostitution that creates a pool of potential mistresses looking to improve their financial security.
It is difficult to make moral judgments with a broad brushstroke. As long as the mistress business involves adults with sound minds and without coercion or intimidation, one could argue that the exchange of company and sex for money is not that fundamentally different from selling one’s manual labor or mental capacity.
Iris doesn’t appear to have moral qualms about having a relationship with a married man. “It was a little weird at the beginning, but I got over it quickly.” She says she assumed his wife was middle-aged and not attractive, and didn’t ask any questions about her. “Morally, if he didn’t care, why should I? I am not obligated to another woman’s happiness.”
Thursday, February 27, 2014
THE LOUISE BROOKS SOCIETY IS INTERNATIONAL
LOUISE BROOKS SOCIETY - KEEPING UP WITH EVENTS ALL OVER THE WORLD Another Google Blog!
A blog about an actress, silent film, and the Jazz Age; and occasionally the Denishawn Dance Company, writer Frank Wedekind, his character Lulu, Weimar Germany, books, music, art, history, the cinema and other things sometimes only tangentially related to the heart of the matter, written on a regular basis by Thomas Gladysz, founding Director of the LBS.
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
LOUISE BROOKS SPEAKING OF THE LIFE SHE LEAD IN 1948 and 1953 AS A KEPT WOMAN
Kenneth Tynan writing in the introduction of the book "Lulu in Hollywood". This is what LOUISE BROOKS told him, printed on page xxxiv.
"Between 1948 and 1953, I suppose you could call me a kept woman," she said. "Three decent rich men looked after me. But then I was always a kept woman. Even when I was making a thousand dollars a week, I would always be paid for by George Marshall or someone like that. But I never had anything to show for it - no cash, no trinkets, nothing. I didn't even like jewelry - can you imagine? Pabst once called me a born whore, but if he was right I was a failure, with no pile of money and no comfortable mansion. I just wasn't equipped to spoil millionaires in a practical, farsighted way. I could live in the present, but otherwise everything has always been a hundred percent wrong about me. Anyway, the three decent men took care of me. One of them owned a sheet-metal manufacturing company, and the result of that affair is that I am now the owner of the only handmade aluminum waste basket in the world. He designed it, and it's in the living room, my solitary trophy. Then a time came, early in 1953, when me three men independently decided that they wanted to marry me. I had to escape, because I wasn't in love with them. As a matter of fact, I've never been in love. And if I had loved a man, could I have been faithful to him? Could he have trusted me beyond a closed door? I doubt it. It was clever of Pabst to know even before he met me that I posses the tramp essence of Lulu."
Book
Lulu In Hollywood
by Louise Brooks, with Introduction by Kenneth Tynan.
C 1974 and 1982 by Louise Brooks
University of Minnesota Press
"Between 1948 and 1953, I suppose you could call me a kept woman," she said. "Three decent rich men looked after me. But then I was always a kept woman. Even when I was making a thousand dollars a week, I would always be paid for by George Marshall or someone like that. But I never had anything to show for it - no cash, no trinkets, nothing. I didn't even like jewelry - can you imagine? Pabst once called me a born whore, but if he was right I was a failure, with no pile of money and no comfortable mansion. I just wasn't equipped to spoil millionaires in a practical, farsighted way. I could live in the present, but otherwise everything has always been a hundred percent wrong about me. Anyway, the three decent men took care of me. One of them owned a sheet-metal manufacturing company, and the result of that affair is that I am now the owner of the only handmade aluminum waste basket in the world. He designed it, and it's in the living room, my solitary trophy. Then a time came, early in 1953, when me three men independently decided that they wanted to marry me. I had to escape, because I wasn't in love with them. As a matter of fact, I've never been in love. And if I had loved a man, could I have been faithful to him? Could he have trusted me beyond a closed door? I doubt it. It was clever of Pabst to know even before he met me that I posses the tramp essence of Lulu."
Book
Lulu In Hollywood
by Louise Brooks, with Introduction by Kenneth Tynan.
C 1974 and 1982 by Louise Brooks
University of Minnesota Press
Monday, February 24, 2014
Sunday, February 23, 2014
SHOULD SHE TELL HER MAN SHE WAS ONCE A KID PROSTITUTE ON THE STREET ? OPINION BY MISSY
QUESTION FOR MISSY:
OK Missy, I'll tell you. I was a prostitute. I ran away from home when I was 15 and lived on the streets. I lived with other kids and managed to survive. Like I never had a pimp or was beat up and I didn't get HIV. Actually I'm vegetarian and I don't drink or do drugs. It was real tough but I made it out. Fourteen years ago I moved into a room in a house with one box of stuff to my name and now I work in real estate! I have nothing to do with my family. Missy, I feel compelled to tell the man I've been seeing the truth about me. I feel if he really loves me he will understand. He's been asking me questions like "Do you usually spend the holidays with your family?" and "What's your mother like?" I just said "no" and "she's a real character."
Andrea
ANSWER FROM MISSY:
Andrea, the key here is 14 years ago. That was a long long time ago. I'm so glad you got out of that life and made it because many do not. I understand you want to be authentic. However, you are not bringing disease or drug addiction into this relationship so I wonder how what happened 14 years ago effects the relationship. Who you are today is who you are today. That's what should be important, I feel. I can't be sure how this man will take the news and I know you want me to assure you that he does love you and it will be all right.
You might want to read around Jillian Lauren, who I wrote about a few months back, using the search feature in this blog to bring up those posts. Jillian has her act together today but she had many years of suffering as well. She was an escort, a stripper, and the mistress - consort of two very wealthy royal men, but she also had a long ordeal with drug addiction. Today she is a wife and mother and successful writer.
I can only share a story with you. I met a woman who was in your situation herself years ago who is now married to an executive in the movie business. They've had a long marriage. She told me "I was on the street. I told him right away, after I met him, that I'd been on the street." From this I get two ideas. One, tell him simply, "When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the street for a while. It's best for me if I don't have a relationship with my family. I'm so glad our relationship is so loving." Two, if you're going to tell, him tell him soon. I think most people know that when you say you were on the street as a teenager they know it was rough. Focus on the here and now and who you are today. Don't go on and on with stories of things that happened to you, just keep it simple.
May you be blessed!
Missy
OK Missy, I'll tell you. I was a prostitute. I ran away from home when I was 15 and lived on the streets. I lived with other kids and managed to survive. Like I never had a pimp or was beat up and I didn't get HIV. Actually I'm vegetarian and I don't drink or do drugs. It was real tough but I made it out. Fourteen years ago I moved into a room in a house with one box of stuff to my name and now I work in real estate! I have nothing to do with my family. Missy, I feel compelled to tell the man I've been seeing the truth about me. I feel if he really loves me he will understand. He's been asking me questions like "Do you usually spend the holidays with your family?" and "What's your mother like?" I just said "no" and "she's a real character."
Andrea
ANSWER FROM MISSY:
Andrea, the key here is 14 years ago. That was a long long time ago. I'm so glad you got out of that life and made it because many do not. I understand you want to be authentic. However, you are not bringing disease or drug addiction into this relationship so I wonder how what happened 14 years ago effects the relationship. Who you are today is who you are today. That's what should be important, I feel. I can't be sure how this man will take the news and I know you want me to assure you that he does love you and it will be all right.
You might want to read around Jillian Lauren, who I wrote about a few months back, using the search feature in this blog to bring up those posts. Jillian has her act together today but she had many years of suffering as well. She was an escort, a stripper, and the mistress - consort of two very wealthy royal men, but she also had a long ordeal with drug addiction. Today she is a wife and mother and successful writer.
I can only share a story with you. I met a woman who was in your situation herself years ago who is now married to an executive in the movie business. They've had a long marriage. She told me "I was on the street. I told him right away, after I met him, that I'd been on the street." From this I get two ideas. One, tell him simply, "When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the street for a while. It's best for me if I don't have a relationship with my family. I'm so glad our relationship is so loving." Two, if you're going to tell, him tell him soon. I think most people know that when you say you were on the street as a teenager they know it was rough. Focus on the here and now and who you are today. Don't go on and on with stories of things that happened to you, just keep it simple.
May you be blessed!
Missy
Thursday, February 20, 2014
MODELING'S DARK SIDE - NIGHTCLUB PROMOTERS - RICH MEN AND GIRLS TOO YOUNG : MISSY SPEAKS
A PEEK AT THE DARK SIDE OF MODELING by NIKKI BATTISTE, DAN LIEBERMAN and DAN HARRIS full article link
"Lonely and low on cash, many models fall prey to a tempting but dubious lifeline: party promoters, perhaps the biggest and best-kept secret of the modeling world.
"Lonely and low on cash, many models fall prey to a tempting but dubious lifeline: party promoters, perhaps the biggest and best-kept secret of the modeling world.
"It's almost like a secret society, so if you're not in it you don't understand it," said a promoter named Isaiah.
It appears to work like this: Party promoters befriend young models. Nightclub owners pay promoters to bring models as young as 15 to their clubs to attract rich men. Rich men go to the nightclub because young models go there, then spend lots of money partying with them. The club owners pay promoters a cut of the nightclub's profit.
Some might liken party promoters, many of whom are college-educated, to pimps."
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MISSY SPEAKS!
As we mature we become better at knowing (because we are taught, observe, and have experiences) at what we will or won't do. We should check in with ourselves about where we stand on things from time to time because over the years we change. There are all sorts of things I said I would never do or that other people should or shouldn't do when I was a teenager that I've become more liberal or conservative about. Most of us want to own our own lives while allowing other people theirs, until it comes to something like child molestation - then almost everyone thinks WRONG!
It concerns me that many teenagers and youthful women who are just maturing and don't know themselves so well, are lured into the party drug and booze lifestyle and then exploited like this.
However beautiful you are in youth, you really should be thinking about finding a vocation or avocation that will hold your interest and that you can invest yourself in by working, volunteering, or educating.
If you're a bored and lonely model, there are plenty of things you can do while you work towards modeling success. First, there are many volunteer opportunities that do not require consistency or long term commitments, just for you to show up. When you approach a non-profit simply tell them that this is the case. You may not get the choice assignment but you'll be there to learn. Actors also have to be free to audition or work around dance classes, you're not the only one. So decide what it is you enjoy or have interests in and attempt to find that kind of volunteer experiential. You'll be building a second resume. One of the best places to do this kind of volunteering is the public library. There is almost always something that can be done that will be appreciated. What about horses? You may be able to muck out the stall in exchange for exercising the horse.
You get the idea!
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MISSY SPEAKS!
As we mature we become better at knowing (because we are taught, observe, and have experiences) at what we will or won't do. We should check in with ourselves about where we stand on things from time to time because over the years we change. There are all sorts of things I said I would never do or that other people should or shouldn't do when I was a teenager that I've become more liberal or conservative about. Most of us want to own our own lives while allowing other people theirs, until it comes to something like child molestation - then almost everyone thinks WRONG!
It concerns me that many teenagers and youthful women who are just maturing and don't know themselves so well, are lured into the party drug and booze lifestyle and then exploited like this.
However beautiful you are in youth, you really should be thinking about finding a vocation or avocation that will hold your interest and that you can invest yourself in by working, volunteering, or educating.
If you're a bored and lonely model, there are plenty of things you can do while you work towards modeling success. First, there are many volunteer opportunities that do not require consistency or long term commitments, just for you to show up. When you approach a non-profit simply tell them that this is the case. You may not get the choice assignment but you'll be there to learn. Actors also have to be free to audition or work around dance classes, you're not the only one. So decide what it is you enjoy or have interests in and attempt to find that kind of volunteer experiential. You'll be building a second resume. One of the best places to do this kind of volunteering is the public library. There is almost always something that can be done that will be appreciated. What about horses? You may be able to muck out the stall in exchange for exercising the horse.
You get the idea!
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
REVISIT ALINA KABAEVA OUR RUMORED MISTRESS OF THE MONTH FEBRUARY 2011
USA TODAY PUTINS RUMORED GIRLFRIEND OLYMPICS OPENING CEREMONY full article!
Yes Alina Kabaeva did help light the Olympic Torch. Since I last devoted an entire month to Alina, Vladimir Putin HAS divorced his wife of very many years. Alina competed and won medals ten years ago.
EXCERPT: Five legendary Russian athletes, combined winners of 12 Olympic gold medals and dozens of world championships and major titles, were among the final torchbearers for Friday night’s Olympic Opening Ceremony in Sochi. They were also joined by a lesser athletic figure, Alina Kabaeva, a one-time gold medalist and a bronze medal winner. Her presence was more conspicuous given that she’s rumored to be the longtime girlfriend of Russian president Vladimir Putin.
HERE'S THE LINK TO THE START PAGE FOR ALINA HERE AT MISTRESS MANIFESTO! MISTRESS MANIFESTO
Yes Alina Kabaeva did help light the Olympic Torch. Since I last devoted an entire month to Alina, Vladimir Putin HAS divorced his wife of very many years. Alina competed and won medals ten years ago.
EXCERPT: Five legendary Russian athletes, combined winners of 12 Olympic gold medals and dozens of world championships and major titles, were among the final torchbearers for Friday night’s Olympic Opening Ceremony in Sochi. They were also joined by a lesser athletic figure, Alina Kabaeva, a one-time gold medalist and a bronze medal winner. Her presence was more conspicuous given that she’s rumored to be the longtime girlfriend of Russian president Vladimir Putin.
HERE'S THE LINK TO THE START PAGE FOR ALINA HERE AT MISTRESS MANIFESTO! MISTRESS MANIFESTO
Sunday, February 16, 2014
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