POLARIS - NATIONAL HOTLINE - ASK FOR HELP or REPORT A POTENTIAL CASE OF HUMAN TRAFFICKING

POLARIS IS TRYING TO UNDERSTAND AND DISRUPT SEX TRAFFICKING NETWORKS.

POLARIS PROJECT ORG 

Here are some myths: That it's always a violent crime. (Though I tend to think what happens to the enslaved person is a violence.) That all human trafficking involves commercial sex. (It can be other forms of slave labor.) THAT TRAFFICKERS TARGET VICTIMS THEY DON'T KNOW. (In other words the trafficer does know the person intended to be enslaved.)

TO GET HELP, REPORT A TIP ABOUT A POTENTIAL CASE OF HUMAN TRAFFICKING, FIND SERVICE REFERRALS FOR VICTIMS OF TRAFFICKING, OR REQUEST TRAINING OR TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE link here.

THE UNITED STATES NATIONAL HUMAN TRAFFICKING HOTLINE

888-373-7888

Or TEXT "BeFree" (233733) via live chat or email.  

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HER DAUGHTER IS A WAITRESS WITH A BOYFRIEND and A SUGAR DADDY : OPINIONS BY MISSY

QUESTION FOR MISSY

Hi Missy,

My 20 year old daughter has a long distance boyfriend, 23, Lance, now in the military.  She's a waitress for a chain restaurant that features skinny young women in very tight short shorts over hosiery, a bra that makes as much as possible of her teeny assets, and a t-shirt over that.  She's a pretty girl. She works really hard and is making hundreds in tips, very good.  I was talking to her about putting some of this money in an account for her future, after all she's been lucky to have only been out of work and on unemployment a short while due to Covid-19, plus all that government money to supplement, but who knows. 

She surprised me by saying in an off-handed way that "Rick" puts a hundred dollars a month or so into her bank account electronically.  Rick?

She said that the last time her boyfriend Lance texted while she was out shopping with her girlfriend, he sent her a couple hundred and told her to buy herself something special. So, she says, she is not hurting.

I don't like it. My daughter ditched her college plans to be a high-earning waitress but she's using her sex appeal and putting up with rowdy bunches of men to get those tips. She is putting up with sexual harassment by customers. 

Looks don't last. 

I don't like that her Lance is sending her money when they are not engaged and she has no ring on her finger. I'm mostly upset about this Sugar Daddy, Rick.  He was or is one of the customers.  She says she's keeping it platonic.

I say, if it's platonic he would not be playing Sugar Daddy and to close up that bank account and stop letting him fantasize that he has her.

Your opinion is?

Beverly in Los Angeles

ANSWER FROM MISSY

Hi Beverly,

Lance is treating her like a Mistress or Wife. Due to his service he probably can't go out shopping to buy her a personal gift, a wooing gift, which would be preferable, as would be sending flowers, love letters and "I'm Thinking of You" cards. My guess is that he is more serious about her than she may be about him.  After all, when a woman is seriously interested in only one man, she tells other men, such as the Sugar Daddy, that she has a boyfriend. She may even claim to have a boyfriend when she does not to end the fantasies of someone she does not want to lead on that she is available.

I agree that the Sugar Daddy is probably at least having a fantasy about having her, even as she sees it she's platonic friends with him.

So many ifs, buts, howevers though.

We don't know if the Sugar Daddy is a rich octogenarian who laughs his way to the bank as he sends a number of women money electronically every month, thinking "if only I were younger" or a studly young man with a thing for only her. Maybe he's a hard working man of her generation who sees his monetary contribution to her welfare a preamble and is waiting to ask her to marry him when he's made his first million. We don't know if this money sent comes from someone who barely misses it or is shirking his responsibilities to pay child support.  We know nothing.

So talk to your daughter and ask her what all she knows about the Sugar Daddy. She should know his full name, his address, his relationship status - is he married, divorced, a player? After all, he knows her name, where she works, and her personal banking. He may know her car and plate info and where she lives. He may have followed her. He may have paid a PI.

Tell her platonic friendships are platonic from both sides. Has she actually communicated to him that she is only interested in friendship and has a boyfriend? To be honest, she should.

If she did, would the money stop coming in? My guess is yes.

If she just closed the bank account without talking to him and explaining she can no longer accept his money, would he be disappointed or even angry.? My guess is yes.

Let's face it that she gave him the wiring information to her bank account. If she did not that would be invasive of him. That also communicated something to him.  Such as that she is impoverished, is not making enough money to be independent and self support, or that she is interested in him, that they have a relationship.  If this same person came into the restaurant once a month, sat at her table, had a coffee and left her a hundred dollar tip, I would think that flirty and excessive but not the same as having her bank information.

Yes, I agree that looks don't last and should not be dependent upon for life, that education and a career are important too.  Yet, she is so young, and pretty, and hardworking, and she needs to negotiate life on her own terms and discover her own values. So explain why you're worried but also express that you know it's her life.

Missy

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BIKERS AGAINST TRAFFICKING

BIKERS AGAINST TRAFFICKING 

In the United States call 407-300-8971

Started by a couple in Florida, now with international reach, BIKERS AGAINST TRAFFICKING began operating in 2016.   EVERY THIRTY SECONDS SOMEONE BECOMES A NEW VICTIM OF TRAFFICKING.

EXCERPT:  We help extricate those stuck in the life, we provide counseling - help- resources and are in the process of raising money to provide housing for those who have survived.  We also have a specialized part of BAT that works behind the scenes to eliminate the demand side.

Modern day slavery, or human trafficking exists whenever people are bought and sold for forced labor, organs, forced marriage, and commercial sex.

Missy here : Note that the definition of slavery is not only about sex trafficking. My understanding is that many of the people who pick our crops are enslaved. In some places, a person might be forced to have surgery to remove one or more of their organs to be sold, and forced marriage is part of some cultures...

I like that the stereotype of bikers is totally busted by these people.

Please understand that slaves are moved around and sold at big gatherings such as biker meet ups. Bikers Against Trafficking people are a presence at meets. That's terrific!

BE THE CHANGE

FREE THEM - CANADA'S PREMIER SEX TRAFFICKING NON PROFIT

FREE THEM - CANADA 

I first heard about the situation in Canada on YouTube videos - a couple hours in which Richard Syrette featured Shae Invidiata, who started this nonprofit at the age of 18, when she was first exposed to the realities of prostitution in Hawaii.  Based in Ontario, this is the premier nonprofit working to end sex trafficking in Canada but understand - trafficked Canadians are moved out of Canada. Many years into this quest Shae spoke of the terrible reality and frankly and brought tears to my eyes.  It's because of these interviews that I knew that I had to make MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT part of the solution by making my readers aware.

I listened to these YouTube videos of the Interview with Shae that Richard did TWICE. Be prepared to have your heart break. In this interview we learn that there are (at least) 37 million people - the population of Canada - working as slaves in this world. And the traffickers make more than the profits of Apple, Microsoft, and Amazon combined!  In Canada, you might assume that the people trafficked are all women, but they are 80 percent women and girls. There are South East Asians and Europeans trafficked but 87% of the slaves are Canadians.

Why have criminals decided to use other human's bodies instead of running drugs or selling illegal arms?  Because it is more lucrative.  A BODY CAN BE REUSED so  a Trafficked girl or woman will have sex 15-20 times a day, every day.  On ONE such slave, a trafficker makes $250,000-$300,00 a year.  On a stable of 10 to 20 slaves - well, you do the math.  Who is this criminal?  Often it is a 18-22 year old.

A thirteen year old girl can be the victim of a man, 18- 30 years old usually - who starts out pretending to be her boyfriend, wooing her and grooming her.  A Big Lie is that he has a job for her in the city, away from rural poverty.

On the first date he will ask questions to be sure she can be victimized, questions about her family. He will make a girl feel loved and special.  She will sleep with him. Then he'll ask her to sleep with a friend of his too. Or he may tell her that she has to pay him back for all that money he spent on her. He may film her having sex and threaten to show friends, parents, the world.  He will get her on alcohol or drugs to further control her.

BUT THE TRAFFICKED GIRL MAY STILL BE LIVING AT HOME!

There are 50,000 MISSING CHILDREN IN CANADA. 800,000 IN THE UNITED STATES.

Shae Invidiata states that if a body isn't found in a week or so, she feels sure, after working at this cause for 17 years, that the missing person is being trafficked.

Missy here: Many women have only one or two lovers in their entire lives and these are men who love them. Imagine what it is to have more men violating your body in one day than a woman might have lovers she chooses in her entire lifetime.

RCMP HUMAN TRAFFICKING COORDINATION CENTRE 

1-855-850-4640

THE CANADIAN HUMAN TRAFFICKING HOTLINE

IS A NATIONWIDE HOTLINE OFFERING A CONFIDENTIAL, MULTILINGUAL SERVICE, OPERATING 24/7/365 TO CONNECT VICTIMS AND SURVIVORS OF FORCED PROSTITUTION AND FORCED LABOUR WITH SOCIAL SERVICES AND/OR LAW ENFORCEMENT IN COMMUNITIES ACROSS CANADA.

1-833-900-1010
canadianhumantraffickinghotline.ca

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CASANDRA DIAMOND : I WAS SEX TRAFFICKED FOR YEARS

CASANDRA DIAMOND is the Founding Director of BridgeNorth.

Here is the link: BRIDGENORTH ORG - OFFICIAL SITE

In a YouTube video I watched, TEDToronto talk, we learn that brothels are hidden in plain sight in the form of massage parlors.  She was for nine years part of a "stable" of prostitutes working as "masseuses. " There there were 40 to 60 women working there around the clock.  She was a child in a family that was mentally ill and abusive which lead to neglect and the streets.  She played outside all day long in summer and was raped by a stranger and degraded by neighborhood boys. She became paralyzed with shame.

She learned to be hyper-alert to avoid being attacked.  She says pedophiles will say things like "If you tell your parents, they won't love you any more."

BRIDGE NORTH is unique because it is SEX TRAFFICKING SURVIVOR LEAD.

EXCERPT from BRIDGENORTH:

Modern-day sex trafficking affects girls and women from all economic backgrounds. Homelessness and poverty are certainly risk factors, but individuals from safe homes and neighborhoods can also be targeted.  They are lured in from schoolyards, shopping malls, and social media channels, then forced into prostitution.  Predators pose as friends and boyfriends, promising a glamorous life of love and wealth. In reality their victims live a horrific nightmare from which is very difficult to escape.

IS PIMPING GOING ON IN YOUR SCHOOL?

Addition to post.  I've published the below comment.  I would suggest a person report to a hotline rather than local police.  I've heard of corrupt police before.  Another alternative is to go higher, perhaps the FBI.  Keep reading!

VIGIL FOR SEX TRAFFICKING VICTIMS

 

 

SEX TRAFFICKING : MORE PEOPLE ARE SEX TRAFFICKED TODAY THEN THERE WERE EVER AFRICAN SLAVES IN AMERICA

Remember when you were a girl? Pubescent? A teenager?  

Innocent. Having crushes. Dreams of romance. Poetry. Love Letters. Diaries. The boy across the classroom. Exchanging glances. Exchanging notes. The Valentines. First love. The hopes and wishes for True Love Forever.

This month I'm featuring a special subject, SEX TRAFFICKING, a form of slavery.  I want my readers to know about this scourge of abuse that is often perpetrated on people below the age of consent, which is 18. Even 14 year olds living with their parents can be trafficked. I'm writing this post having read, listened, and watched on this subject until I felt sick. This month's writing has been the most emotionally draining I've ever experienced as the author of MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT.

I want everyone to have CHOICES and to give consent that is informed with self knowledge and truth. I know sometimes as adults we make choices that are unconventional. Slavery, be it as a laborer or as a prostitute, is as far from choice as you can get.  

Although some women are involved in luring others into slavery, the evil opportunist and user of slaves is usually a man. And there would be no market for human beings to be used in horrible ways, if it were not for mostly men customers. So I have to say it, sometimes I hate men.

Thankfully, there are men's groups who are opposing trafficking.  Because of them, and because we all know good people, we know, no not all men are like this. 

Actually, we need to stop saying and thinking, "All men are alike."

The ideas that all men are beasts without self control, that men must have sex or they will rape, and the hatred behind the abuse of women, must stop.***

And yes, it starts with us being part of the solution rather than part of the problem.

I will be posting links to HELP and I encourage you to do some research as well and find the people and organizations local to you.

Did you know that CALIFORNIA, because of its ethnic diversity, its airports and transportation systems, and it's population, is a prime destination for traffickers to take a child to work, and even to be SOLD and taken to other countries?  Did you know traffickers use DISNEYLAND as a perfect place to pass around children?

I want all my readers who want this abominable criminality to stop to donate to at least one of the organizations I'm profiling this month. I want you to talk to the children you care for and about. I want you to talk to your teens. I want you teachers to get programs going in your schools - have someone come out and talk to your class.

And I want everyone to light a candle - in memory of someone who is being sex trafficked. The people who are turned into slaves won't last long.  It's estimated that most die within 7 years.

This month is my effort to speak up.

Missy

*** Added note April 25, 2021  Keep reading as I will be posting about men and boys being trafficked.

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