If you're wondering if Kola Boof survived the violence that happened to her, that she participated in, and that she generated, well, she went on to have a relationship and two sons. Her book, Diary of A Lost Girl, speaks to them.
They went into Government Protection after 9/11 and this man she had sons with left her. (Page 309)
"In so many ways your father saved my life with his love."
Now the following may surprise my readers.
Kola admits she lied to this man that she was a virgin when they met.
She needed the tenderness of a first time every time she had sex due to her infibulation. While pregnant she insisted that the father of her sons have a "co-wives." She allowed him to have sex with young African college girls who needed free room and board to live in as her friend, handmaiden. And at first he was against the practice. (Page 318)
YET she says:
"I am completely against the practice of women sharing men."
Well, she accepted this as a pregnant women. She thinks now it would be smarter for women to have multiple boyfriends. (Page 319)
Womanist now, Kola Boof, says that it is still socially acceptable for women to be sex trafficked and enslaved.
Today she is an advocate for the dark skinned Black Woman. She warns Black American women to not accept man sharing. Perhaps she is more qualified than most women because of her extraordinary painful background - her nightmare.
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Diary of a Lost Girl by Kola Boof is the primary reference for this month's post.
Showing posts with label Osama Bin Laden. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Osama Bin Laden. Show all posts
Saturday, May 25, 2019
Thursday, May 23, 2019
AND THEN THERE WAS A LOVE TRIANGLE OF SORTS : KOLA BOOK IN MORE DANGER AS SHE REMEETS ANOTHER MAN SHE'D BEEN A MISTRESS TO
A sort of love triangle with Osama Bin Laden and another man, Hasan al-Turabi, the leader of the National Islamic Front, possibly the most powerful man in the Sudan then, happened. But at first Kola Boof (then Naima) didn't know the two men were friendly. She'd been his mistress in 1995, a year earlier. He had a son Isam who also desired her.
But the one night of romance she had with the son was the end of it. He expected sexual servitude and had intense energy towards her. She thought this emotion was a mix of lust, racial hate, exotica, ideation, and power-over-a-child syndrome.
Should she tell Osama?
She did. She said she had been at Hasan al Turabi's the prior year.
He had horribly abused her verbally and had punched her and broken her nose and fractured her rib. At the hospital the police and nurses found a way to dismiss her complaints because they didn't want trouble for themselves.
But what had ended her relationship with Osama Bin Laden was a fight Naima had with another woman in which she became crazed and stabbed a man. The fight brought Osama to her side with a present again. And now she was pregnant with his child. (Page 210)
Osama figured she was in love with Isam.
So he was violent with her later and even wanted her to wear a dog collar and leash so he could parade her around as a sex slave in front of Isam. He thought this was funny.
A White woman who was assigned to be her maid but was an informant may have been involved in feeding Naima poison so that she miscarried.
Finally Naima told Osama that their relationship was unfair to her. She didn't like the way he took over her life. She wanted to go back to America. And he agreed. He gave her traveling money and her jewels.
He was ready to replace her with a French girl anyway.
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Excerpts are taken from Diary of a Lost Girl by Kola Boof
But the one night of romance she had with the son was the end of it. He expected sexual servitude and had intense energy towards her. She thought this emotion was a mix of lust, racial hate, exotica, ideation, and power-over-a-child syndrome.
Should she tell Osama?
She did. She said she had been at Hasan al Turabi's the prior year.
He had horribly abused her verbally and had punched her and broken her nose and fractured her rib. At the hospital the police and nurses found a way to dismiss her complaints because they didn't want trouble for themselves.
But what had ended her relationship with Osama Bin Laden was a fight Naima had with another woman in which she became crazed and stabbed a man. The fight brought Osama to her side with a present again. And now she was pregnant with his child. (Page 210)
Osama figured she was in love with Isam.
So he was violent with her later and even wanted her to wear a dog collar and leash so he could parade her around as a sex slave in front of Isam. He thought this was funny.
A White woman who was assigned to be her maid but was an informant may have been involved in feeding Naima poison so that she miscarried.
Finally Naima told Osama that their relationship was unfair to her. She didn't like the way he took over her life. She wanted to go back to America. And he agreed. He gave her traveling money and her jewels.
He was ready to replace her with a French girl anyway.
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Excerpts are taken from Diary of a Lost Girl by Kola Boof
Wednesday, May 22, 2019
Monday, May 20, 2019
KOLA BOOF and OSAMA BIN LADEN - FOUR DAYS IN SHE FELT TRAPPED - JUST ONE OF HIS HAREM
"God I can't lie. The first few weeks I was genuinely excited and hopeful about my fate as his mistress. Although I'm now a womanist who thinks it's shameful. I remember back then feeling really beautiful and desired.... (page 174 Diary of a Lost Girl) Naima had servants, good foo0d, and awaited him to return. She straightened her hair so he could run his hands through it. And he gave her a ruby sapphire necklace and diamond earrings, a $300 bottle of perfume. he seemed to be apologizing for his past behavior and scaring her. (page 175)
So let me editorialize a bit here... Although there are mistresses who do a lot of waiting around for a visit from their man... on call for him at a moments notice... waiting for the phone to ring to summon them... To me Kola's experience is of being entrapped and isolated.... Missy
She became bored and felt trapped and watched. She was guarded and not to leave the premises - granted it was a luxury hotel. And only 4 days had gone by when she asked when he was going to show back up. Turns out Osama Bin Laden had other "dependents" and so she realized she was not special but part of a harem, even if she didn't see the other women.
He was not a terrorist then or she didn't know he was. It was 1996.
"I was a person used to being violated and then denying it."
She called him "Somi."
So let me editorialize a bit here... Although there are mistresses who do a lot of waiting around for a visit from their man... on call for him at a moments notice... waiting for the phone to ring to summon them... To me Kola's experience is of being entrapped and isolated.... Missy
She became bored and felt trapped and watched. She was guarded and not to leave the premises - granted it was a luxury hotel. And only 4 days had gone by when she asked when he was going to show back up. Turns out Osama Bin Laden had other "dependents" and so she realized she was not special but part of a harem, even if she didn't see the other women.
He was not a terrorist then or she didn't know he was. It was 1996.
"I was a person used to being violated and then denying it."
She called him "Somi."
Saturday, May 18, 2019
KOLA BOOF and SADIST OSAMA BIN LADEN - AN UNWILLING MISTRESS or SEX SLAVE?
She didn't know he was a terrorist. What she knew was that in 1996, in a restaurant in Morocco, the country she went to hoping to be in a film, he was "Satan come to life." (Page 157) She'd seen children in Tel Aviv, Cairo, and Kenya used as sex slaves and soldiers raping women in Sudan.
Kola had given up on Hollywood and what she called "the American Nigger media," and in Tel Aviv, Israel, she had played a topless oversexed dancing girl in low budget film. She'd done a commercial playing a "buffoon." And she had tried to commit suicide.
She was on a date in that restaurant but Osama Bin Laden had his men tell her date to split. She felt commanded.
"I was seen as a temptress and an infidel. I was a woman who dared to travel in their society alone, dressed in sensuous American clothes with my head uncovered and flaunting my Black American womanness, which they both despise and lust after..." (Pag 157).
She had no money, no resources, no man of power to speak for her.
Her fear of Obama was such that she almost cried and peed herself because she knew that men could be merciless when woman have no power. (Pg 158)
She cried, begging him not to hurt her physically, perhaps knowing he would. He said he would not but then slapped her, hating her sobs. She fled, got in her car, drove to the Sofitel Cottage where she lived comfortably with room mates. But Osama and seven of his men showed up in a posse. She talked back to him. But finally she felt to escape death she'd have to seduce him. The men were sent out of the room. She decided to cook food for him first. He smoked marijuana. He talked about his major crush on - Whitney Houston.
"I will be financing you life from now on, Naima. Simply tell Master what you need." Osama said this to Naima. At the time he had at least 25 children and several wives. But because of Naima's Blackness she could not be considered a wife candidate. He was Arab Mafia, she thought. He thought she was a top paid prostitute. She protested but he said ALL African women are prostitutes.
Sex with him was rough. He bit her mouth. A real bite - not playful. he put a velvet sack over her head. He overpowered her and asked her to scream. He liked to use his penis to hurt women and because her vagina was infibulated, he stabbed her with it. He urinated in her mouth. His men were out in the hall laughing. (Pg 164)
Episodes like these would result in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - horrible nightmares for years.
But after this first encounter with Osama doing whatever he wanted to her, she heard orders that she was to be moved to a better location. She was moved 100 miles away to a luxury suite and given money for new clothes. Kola says that tracking devices were put into the fillings of her teeth.
She resigned herself to it.
"He installed me in one of the most beautiful and prestigious get-aways in all of North Africa - the famed La Maison Arabe of Medina." It was a walled city - a Moorish estate and bed and breakfast. Celebrities such as Princess Diana and Mick Jagger had stayed there. At the time it was being renovated by an Italian Prince who would later - and this is important - tell the United States government that she had been an unwilling Mistress. The place was lavish. .... to be continued.
Kola had given up on Hollywood and what she called "the American Nigger media," and in Tel Aviv, Israel, she had played a topless oversexed dancing girl in low budget film. She'd done a commercial playing a "buffoon." And she had tried to commit suicide.
She was on a date in that restaurant but Osama Bin Laden had his men tell her date to split. She felt commanded.
"I was seen as a temptress and an infidel. I was a woman who dared to travel in their society alone, dressed in sensuous American clothes with my head uncovered and flaunting my Black American womanness, which they both despise and lust after..." (Pag 157).
She had no money, no resources, no man of power to speak for her.
Her fear of Obama was such that she almost cried and peed herself because she knew that men could be merciless when woman have no power. (Pg 158)
She cried, begging him not to hurt her physically, perhaps knowing he would. He said he would not but then slapped her, hating her sobs. She fled, got in her car, drove to the Sofitel Cottage where she lived comfortably with room mates. But Osama and seven of his men showed up in a posse. She talked back to him. But finally she felt to escape death she'd have to seduce him. The men were sent out of the room. She decided to cook food for him first. He smoked marijuana. He talked about his major crush on - Whitney Houston.
"I will be financing you life from now on, Naima. Simply tell Master what you need." Osama said this to Naima. At the time he had at least 25 children and several wives. But because of Naima's Blackness she could not be considered a wife candidate. He was Arab Mafia, she thought. He thought she was a top paid prostitute. She protested but he said ALL African women are prostitutes.
Sex with him was rough. He bit her mouth. A real bite - not playful. he put a velvet sack over her head. He overpowered her and asked her to scream. He liked to use his penis to hurt women and because her vagina was infibulated, he stabbed her with it. He urinated in her mouth. His men were out in the hall laughing. (Pg 164)
Episodes like these would result in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - horrible nightmares for years.
But after this first encounter with Osama doing whatever he wanted to her, she heard orders that she was to be moved to a better location. She was moved 100 miles away to a luxury suite and given money for new clothes. Kola says that tracking devices were put into the fillings of her teeth.
She resigned herself to it.
"He installed me in one of the most beautiful and prestigious get-aways in all of North Africa - the famed La Maison Arabe of Medina." It was a walled city - a Moorish estate and bed and breakfast. Celebrities such as Princess Diana and Mick Jagger had stayed there. At the time it was being renovated by an Italian Prince who would later - and this is important - tell the United States government that she had been an unwilling Mistress. The place was lavish. .... to be continued.
Thursday, May 2, 2019
KOLA BOOF (NAIMA BINT HARITH) UNWILLING MISTRESS OF THE TERRORIST OSAMA BIN LADEN
Published in 2007, with more controversial books to follow, author Kola Boof, the woman born Naima Bint Harith, and her family received death threats and at one point had to go into government protection, because of her honesty about the brutality that she suffered and her connection to wealthy, powerful, and dangerous men which included terrorist Osama Bin Laden. She brings us to an Africa few Westerners can really try on, one in which racism (not limited to Black versus White) and Arab-Muslim tensions are hand in hand. She is a womanist, a political activist, a mother, a writer and poet. And if you read her book, you might not be the same. Devastating would be too light a word.
An important aspect to her story is that she was as a child infibulated. This means that her vagina was sewn to keep it small and tight. She says still having her clitoris helped her want to live. But normal sex is impossible for her. She needs an especially patient and gentle lover and Bin Laden was certainly not one of the men who cared if he hurt her. A future post will be about this practice, also called female circumcision, which is seen as a right of passage by some people on this earth, but which is seen as the ultimate control over women by many. Those of you who have pain with intercourse might relate to the frustration she felt with sex.
Through these posts, we become familiar with - and advocate - informed choice. Yet so many women who have become mistresses have done so because they had little to no choice. Kola Boof was a mistress to other men before she met Osama Bin Laden and had no choice.
She was seduced and molested as an underage girl, she won a beauty contest and accepted being kept by a White Jewish American man for several years, and as an actress and model hoping to break into the business in Africa, because Hollywood is not enthusiastic about dark skinned women of African heritage, she became the mistress of another man. She encountered women from France, from Turkey, from Italy, from all over, who were competing to be the favorite in harems of ultra-rich men like Osama - who she called Somi. Her story begs us to consider how much choice she had and how much choice anyone has.
Naima, as she called herself then, was dining out on a date in 1996 in Morocco. when Osama Bin Laden saw her and commanded her to be his. What followed was six months of enduring and complying with his physically, emotionally, and psychologically sadistic behavior because she was afraid to be murdered. She met Satan.
As a model and actress she was considered exotic because of her upbringing in the United States, yet was born to a mixed race couple who had been murdered over an incident in which her lesbian aunt was beaten. She was just a girl as she heard the screams and saw the bodies left on the grass and so being murdered was a very real possibility to her. Rescued by a British couple, placed unsuccessfully with Arabic speakers in England who put her clothes out because she was too intelligent for a girl, she was then adopted by a Black family in the D.C. area who had four of their birth children and three other adoptees to love and care for. She says she did not know how lucky she was to have a father who wanted her.
Though the first man she was mistress to - the White Jewish man - encouraged her writing and literary knowledge and encouraged her to identify herself as a writer, it was her connection to the terrorist that made her interesting to publishers. She waited out contracts with some because she knew she was not a bimbo. In her case the personal became political. She is an outspoken advocate for the dark skinned - African heritage woman all over the world and in The United States where she feels that rap music erased the progress of the 1960's and 1970's for Black Americans.
I hope I can do her justice in this review. For she is formidable.
And I hope you will stick with me as I post about Kola Boof this month and the men she was kept by.
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