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TRUE TO SELF : DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES

"I shall be true to myself"

What does it mean to be true to yourself?  I think it's about self knowledge and acceptance and being genuine. Let's take Anna LaChapelle Clark as an example. Of course she had tremendous financial resources, but most women in her financial position felt obligated, even aspired to, be very social.  Such women spend most of their time reinforcing their position in society by make calls on other women of their stature. Dressing the part and making these calls took up much of their days. It seems Anna was just not into that lifestyle so she didn't bother. 

There is a peace in not having to be "on" all the time, of not being an actress, or not always trying to sell yourself or something. Anna preferred a more private life and to associate with those she chose, even if they were not as wealthy as she and W.C. Clark. 

Anna also chose to be with a man over 40 years older than she and, though they offered little explanation or apology for it, in a controversial relationship. She and W.C. chose to keep the relationship and not go out of their way to defend it or explain it other than making a public statement about it when he aspired to political office. It doesn't seem to have held his career back any.

Being true to yourself requires that you also let others be true to themselves and understand it when there are just some things someone else is not interested in or won't do.  You don't spend a lot of energy trying to change them.

C 2014 - 2015 Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot First Published December 13, 2014

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LESLIE MCRAY ON THE CINDERELLA FANTASY

The following is a list culled from the book of Leslie's "Prince Charmings" 
(She says many Kept women have a Cinderella fantasy.)

The Politician
The Arab Entertainer
The Swiss Industrialist
The Billionaire Industrialists
The Jewelry Magnate

C 1990 by Leslie McRay and Ted Schwarz. William Morrow and Co is the publisher

May 2021

I have been thinking about this idea of a Cinderella Fantasy and the thing is, until recently most women expected to be married and have children and not work outside the home for income. It was considered to be the best way to live, perhaps the only way (unless you wanted to join a monastic group or a nunnery) for a decent woman to live, and there was great pressure on women to fulfill the FANTASY that they would get everything they wanted and needed from one person for the rest of their lives and that they could be all to that one man as well. To me that's circa 2021 a Cinderella Fantasy. Cinderella was an abused orphan who married a Prince who took her away from it all and gave her a good life, not only because she was pretty but also because he was looking for someone so special.  When the shoe fits.

Missy

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THISTLE BLOOMING

 

LESLIE MCRAY on IMDB HAS A BIO : SHE'S ACCOMPLISHED!

https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0574447/bio/   click on the link and keep reading!

Excerpt:  Leslie McRay was born on her mother's fifteenth birthday. She was brought up living in and out of orphanages. Through a series of numerous step-fathers she was eventually brought to Hollywood, California. Having no self-esteem, her mother put her in the local beauty contest and she became "Miss Fullerton". After that win photographers then sponsored her in many other contests in which she was often successful, including "Miss Los Angeles" in the "Miss Universe Contest", "Miss Hawaii in the "Miss World Pageant" and consequently won a trip around the world with "Miss Universe". She ended up in the Philippines and was asked to marry into the Marcos family. 

LESLIE MCRAY BOOK AUTHOR, ACTRESS, ACTIVE FILM PRODUCER : WE REVISIT HER DARK MEMOIR

(First published November 2, 2010, this month we revisit this important book, a memoir of a mistress who had a particularly horrible experience with it.)

LESLIE McRAY was our MISTRESS OF THE MONTH, NOVEMBER 2010

Leslie wrote a book that was published in 1990 called "KEPT WOMEN" subtitle which is now in it's 3rd edition.  She wrote it with Ted Schwartz.

The book is heavily dependent on psychotherapy, and the diagnosis of kept women as being abused children who grow up with a real lack of self esteem and an addiction to the approval of men, usually based on their beauty and sexual prowess.

Yet, I noticed, she said that many of these Mistresses had their own incomes of $30,000 to $100,000 a year. So most of them really didn't need the money, as I see it, and probably had some education or intelligence and the self esteem to be competitive in the work place.

I feel sorry for Leslie that her mistresshood came to what it did and I admire her courage to overcome her past and her own demons to write the book, which does delve into a very dark, scary, aspect of mistressing that some, not all, mistresses experience. This includes sadio-masochism.

Many mistresses apparently "shared and bared" their souls to Leslie, and of course they remain unnamed.

Leslie is also psychology-sure that the whole set up of being kept, by a usually married man, is one in which the man and the mistress are people who cannot keep a commitment (something I personally do not believe is always true either).

Leslie is from a world of beauties who modeled, won contests, and met and were kept by men of international fame. She won something like 70 beauty pageants.

These men who kept Leslie and other women were men with great fortunes - doers - important men. Yet her experience with them was horrible.

She left the mistressing life that caused her so much pain and survived. She is now an active film producer. She has a film on the 9/11 terrorist attack to her credit.

Missy

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A NEW YEAR, A NEW MONTH, NEW PROJECT : WHAT'S HAPPENING AT MISTRESS MANIFESTO!

Hello My Readers!

Since the very beginnings of this blog in 2009, I've wanted to write a book.  And this year I feel I must at least gather all the notes I've been keeping and assemble them. I feel from the insights I've gained after all these years later I'll have more to share. I haven't run out of Mistresses to write about but in looking over this blog, I realize that some of my earliest posts are so long ago that certain Mistresses of the Month are due for a revisit or more exploration!  And so I've selected certain someones to focus upon, doing just that as I move forward. Yes, this fifteenth year Mistress Manifesto will also have new writing, new reading and research, and new surprises but it will also include topics covered years ago.

Missy

OUR MISTRESS OF THE MONTH JANUARY 2025 WILL PREMIER  tomorrow!