JULIAN ASSANGE and RAPE - WHY IT'S RAPE and WHY IT'S WRONG ; OPINION by MISSY

JULIAN ASSANGE and RAPE - WHY IT'S RAPE and WHY IT'S WRONG ; OPINION by MISSY

I've been reading around the controversies surrounding Julian Assange, who started WikiLeaks, the full transparency organization that believes any form of censorship is wrong, and who has been, as of mid December 2016, when I'm writing this, "holed up" in the Ecuadorian Embassy in London, England, for years now. 

After much legal wrangling, which involves the country of Sweden, where Assange has been accused of Rape, in November 2016 it was finally agreed that Sweden could question him at the embassy, rather than Assange leave there and go to Sweden to face legal issues.  So Sweden did, and apparently got a DNA sample too.

Assange claims he is not concerned with the Rape charges but cannot walk free because Great Britain will arrest him and before you know it, he'll be charged with crimes against the United States of America.  I think he has every reason to believe this is true.  He is not being detained in the embassy by Ecuador, and yet, he risks walking out that door.

Some think of him as a hero, man who is letting the citizens of the world know the truth providing a searchable database that probably no one person has ever read word for word.  His organization thinks of themselves as Journalists, while even Journalists have more discretion.

Because so much else has been going on, such as the U.S. Presidential election, which Wikileaks may have influenced against candidate Hillary Clinton, I feel that the charges of Rape that are partially responsible for Assange's stay at the Embassy, have been almost ignored for some time.

Now, I do not know that Assange committed Rape.  But I realize that the definition of Rape is confusing in this situation.

When people hear the word "Rape," they almost always imagine some form of physical violence, and some women who are raped experience being abducted, beaten, tied up, and violated in more than one way, sometimes with objects other than a man's anatomy.  Since the woman does not want to have sex, does not wish to be in pain, all this Power Over makes it clear that she has been badly disrespected and used, if not tormented. A woman who escapes from such a scene is often psychologically intimidated and suffers for years beyond any physical healing she might do. She may be turned off sex, have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, be deeply Depressed. 

If she is brave though devastated, she makes it to an emergency room where she goes through an exam that can be difficult, her internal and external injuries documented, and she experiences the choice of also trying to put her rapist in prison where he belongs in legal courts that often assume that women are "asking for it" or cannot be raped by husbands, boyfriends, or dates, especially if they ever did have consensual "YES" sex with the person before.  A woman experiences being devalued just for being in a female body.  She experiences being treated as though she were not a person who should have a CHOICE to have sex, not just once, but EACH and EVERY TIME someone wants to have sex with her, even if she is in a committed relationship..

Contrast that with the form of Rape that Julian Assange was accused of.  There was first consensual sex, so what's being discussed is the second time. The woman fell asleep and woke to find him trying to have sex with her, and without protection, that is the claim. A woman who is sleeping is not conscious to give permission. IS SWEDISH LAW overprotecting women?  Is the law just craziness?

If a woman has not awoken to say yes to sex, there is a possibility that she could become pregnant, or infected with a VD.  She could face the rest of her life with an unplanned for, unwanted child, having the hard choice or putting a child up for adoption, or the hard choice of abortion, and further, her chances at finding another man, maybe a man to love her who can accept all this, might not be so good. Perhaps a lover who can accept a woman who has herpes, HIV-AIDS, or is infertile through an STD, is out there, for her.  Maybe someone who doesn't mind that she's got another man's child to support or has had an abortion. Yes, I know that some people find love despite everything.  However, it's not uncommon for such women to find themselves considered damaged by other men.

What kind of man would, sneakily, put a woman at risk for all this?

When a woman is high or drunk, she may get sloppy about giving permission for a man to enter her body, may forget to ask or tell him to use protection, and if he is high or drunk, he might want to skip it or forget.  The world is full of accidental children conceived like that. When a woman is SLEEPING, she is in no condition to give permission, to even hear the question being asked.  She is not on a substance. She's just naturally doing what our bodies do when they need rest, sleeping, and she is NOT COGNITIVE.  SHE CANNOT GIVE HER PERMISSION.  Neither can, sad to say, women of limited intelligence; that they are taken advantage of sexually and raped more so than women who have a higher intelligence I have no doubt.  One of my friend's sister who is of low intelligence was gang raped.  A neighbor's sister was put on the Pill by her parents, because they are afraid she will be raped.

Men, overall, seem to need an education about this.  I've overheard men say things to each other like, "I get all the women I want, I don't have to Rape."  So perhaps some men think that Rapists are desperate men, but while they may be that true (and yes, I do know that Rape can be homosexual, lesbian, or a woman raping a man, but I'm keeping to the heterosexual because Assange is) there is so much else going on.  Rape is extremely inappropriate behavior.  It's criminal behavior.  And often there's out of control anger involved.  The rapist may be a psycho.

If you are a woman reading this, please educated the men around you on this issue such as your brother and platonic male friends, as well as, before you have sex with him the first time, a man you want to have sex with.  Let him know that sneaky sex, without permission, without protection, without that YES, is not OK, not ever.  It may not be the same as strong arming, clearly violent Rape, but it is still Rape.

Missy

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BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN THERE IS USUALLY A WOMAN - A BOOK ABOUT THE WIVES!

 

The Forgotten Women Behind the World's Famous and Infamous

C 2015 Marlene Wagman-Geller

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See that picture of Pamela Courson on the top left?  Since Pamela is a woman whose name draws many hits to MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT, I got this book, and no, I was unable to identify any of the other women on the book cover. 

 

Given short and sweet chapters, in writing that is fast, sometimes humerous, and to the point, are Mrs. Karl Marx, Mrs. Richard Wagner, Mrs. Oscar Wilde, Mrs. Mohandas Gandi, the two Mrs. Albert Einstein's,  Mrs. Alfred Hitchcock, Mrs. Simon Wiesenthal, and many more.  Of course, as I was reading I was seeking out the wives who were once mistresses or the mistresses the wives knew about or competed with or lost a man to, or the mistresses who  were simply also behind the famous man.  I also wanted to know who knew their husband was bisexual or gay.  Can't say I found out. 

 

But as for Pamela Courson, a woman who called herself rockstar-poet Jim Morrison's wife, this book doesn't mention she ever had any serious competition for the title, apparently ignoring the fact, while reiterating the short adventure of Pamela Miller, groupie, who did an underwear exposing backflip in the living room at Morrison's Laurel Canyon digs; that was competitive.  On Page 282 we learn ," Pamela (Courson) proved Morrison's match for crazy antics; in flirtation with death.  She drove without headlights on Mulholland Drive's windy road.  His specialty was hanging from hotel balconies...." 

 

As for Mrs. Bernie Madoff, Ruth Alpern, on page 211 we learn "There was no empathy for the fallen Caesar or his wife...Too humiliated to face the frenzy of victims outside the courthouse, which Madoff entered wearing a bulletproof vest, Ruth did not attend her husband's trial..."

Someone had to write a book about the behind-the -cene wives who had their husband's backs, and author Marlene Wagman-Geller did a great job of it.



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HERE'S A LITTLE UPDATE.  I heard from the author of this book Marlene Wagman-Geller and she has published another book!  (And was nice enough to suggest I publish one on mistresses!)   Here is the link to her official web site where you can learn more about her and indulge yourself !MARLENE WAGMAN GELLER OFFICIAL 

 

 

TAME IMPALA : 'CAUSE I'M A MAN (For Sheryl and Bernie)

MONEY BAGS

MADOFF'S OTHER SECRET : BERNIE and SHERYL FINALLY CONSUMATE THEIR RELATIONSHIP!

Missy here!  Besides holding off from having actual sex with Bernie for years, Sheryl seems to think that being resistant is exciting and giving them time for real intimacy.  After a first kiss in 1993, they "Stopped pretending they were not together" when they were out together.  (Chapter 8  595-596)  Here are important excerpts from the book "Madoff's Other Secret" and some editorial commentary from me!

But (OK, we have to believe her), despite all the lunches, dinners, flirtations, his advances, and the fact that they have been touchy feely with each other, until this point Sheryl did not think they'd yet been on an official date!  (Chapter 8 611)  But finally, she did put on some sexy undies beneath her suit and meet him in a hotel room where sex was "like a dance, slow and sensual, and appropriate." (Chapter 9 618-620)

Experiencing, "reawakened sexuality", she says, "Being with him was not about sex; it was about making my first real adult connection."  (Chapter 9  625=626)

By September 1993, they still had not done it, and she felt conflicted about being unfaithful to her husband despite years of verbal and emotional abuse.  (Some of her friends said it was better than being single... I could not agree less!)  Bernie Madoff had made her feel "Wanted" and "Desired."  (Chapter 10  669-670)

Finally, when they were both in Washington D.C., they had a candlelight dinner and with a couple rooms reserved upstairs, met in one of them and did.  Sheryl felt she had taken the lead.  He was the third lover she had ever had.  (Chapter 10 685-686)

If you want sexual details, you'll have to read the book for yourself.  They're there.

From then on, Sheryl and Bernie always met at the New York Hilton, where he confessed that he cared about her.  He did not say the word love. "I mean emotionally, you're going to kill me.  I care about  you too much."  Now Bernie or his secretary no longer made the reservations.  Sheryl did, and allowed him to reimburse her, though sometimes she didn't insist on all the money.  (Chapter 11,  772, 777-778 and Chapter 12  833-834)

She was 44.  He was 55. Waiting for him in hotel rooms she sometimes drank vodka and smoked pot to relax.  They would spend New Years Eve with their respective spouses.

* All excerpts here are from the e-book read with Overdrive.

Sheryl Weinstein and Bernie Madoff would continue their relationship for some time and remain friendly until the financial scandal erupted. Despite other people on the Hadassah board questioning the amazing returns on their investments that funded many Jewish-oriented charities, and newspaper articles reporting on questions and investigations, Madoff and those cooperative with him were not actually figured out or caught for some time.

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SWEARING IN OF PRESIDENT DONALD TRUMP

 from freevintageillustrations.com

Here is hoping that the festivities surrounding the swearing in of this American President are lively:

I think people refusing to entertain are disrespecting the OFFICE OF PRESIDENCY

and our American processes of government,

 and fashion designers refusing to dress gorgeous First Lady Melania Trump are being ridiculous! 

This may not have been MY candidate, but this is MY country, and I think we must

give them both a chance before being so sure of what will happen.

How is that for optimism?

(Now President Trump,

my readers are wondering if you will give me reason to dedicate a month to you

 and any mistress you may have had or do have or will have, while in the White House!)

PARKING