MARY BOLEYN : MISTRESS OF KING HENRY VIII

First published in January of 2012, a month dedicated to Mary Boleyn as Mistress of the Month.

Go to January 2012 using archives on the side bar of the start page to read all the posts about Mary Bolyn (aka Mary Boleyn).

HENRY VIII had so many mistresses, including Elizabeth Blount before her, and Mary's sister Anne Bolyn was one of them too. Mary is the one who had a happy ending to her life - marriage to a man she loved who loved her without so very many complications - and who SURVIVED. Anne's the one who married the King and got beheaded.

Henry married Anne after he finally gave up on his wife of many years, Katherine of Aragon, try as the poor woman did, to give him a legitimate MALE heir. (We know so many men still dwell on having a son!)

Then, unhappy with a mistress as wife, it was Anne Bolyn that he sent to the block - beheading!

Mary seemed to have survived all this and have his child, a daughter named Katherine Carey, while she was married to William Carey. Henry sent William Carey off somewhere so he wouldn't interfere in their affair. She was devastated when the King dumped her for her sister.

Because of their daughter, Katherine Carey, there are a few people alive today who are blood related to Henry. If the book author Alison Weir is right, today's decedents of Mary Bolyn include Camilla Parker Bowles and Princess Diana!

Alison Weir's latest book called "MARY BOLEYN - Mistress of Kings" is fascinating. She has to tease out the details but is good at pointing out where other authors of the subject have run on assumptions. The term Kings is used because Mary may have been the mistress of the French King Francois I when she was a young teenager at his court. (The subtitle "The Great and Infamous Whore" turns out to be wrong)!

Mary, for all the details and historical research Weir did, remains a bit of a mystery. Was she simply compliant? Yet twice she married for love! Was she boring and without opinion or is it that she knew how to survive?

The book came out 2011 published by Ballantine Books and should be on your mistress bookshelf!

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SEX WITH KINGS by ELEANOR HERMAN : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW and MORE!

SEX WITH KINGS by ELEANOR HERMAN : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW from May 4, 2009

SEX WITH KINGS is just fascinating. It's academic research without the off putting scholarly tone, and here is a book based on historical fact and documentation, that tells us what life was for the historical Mistress, the Kings, Queens, and Husbands (Many royal mistresses were married, and all spouses were in the know...) It was in some places an official sanctioned form of adultery. In France, the royal mistress till about the 19th century, was an official court position.

THIS IS INFORMATIVE READING for all of you interested in this subject because you are, have been, or are considering becoming a Mistress!

Missy here!  If you're interested in archived posts about ROYAL MISTRESSES check out these months!

May 2010

CAMILLA SHAND PARKER BOWLES WINDSOR

The Duchess of Cornwall Who Will Someday Be Queen

and

April 2013

CAMILLA SHAND - DUCHESS OF CORNWALL

The Most Famous Mistress of the Last Half Century - Will She Become Queen When Charles Becomes King?

January 2012 

MARY BOLEYN

One Lover Who King Henry the 8th Didn't Behead

October 2013

EHRENGARD MELUSINE VON DER SCHULENBURG and SOPHIA VON KIELMANSAGG        

aka "The Elephant" and "The Castle" - German Mistresses and the first King George

January 2015    

The GRIMALDI CURSE and the MISTRESSES OF THE PRINCES OF MONACO

March 2021

THE OBSESSED MARY BARONESS OF VETSERA  - CROWN PRINCE RUDOLF - AND THE SELF PRESERVING "MIZZI" KASPER

MARY BOLEYN : ALISON WEIR BOOK EXCERPT : KING HENRY VIII

page 147 (Who is the father of Katherine Carey?)

"Given that Henry probably did not begin pursuing Mary until 1522, we could hardly expect to find William Carey (her husband) refraining from intercourse with his wife in the first two years of their marriage. During Mary's second marriage, she is known to have born only one child in nine years. This suggests that, like her mother and sister, she suffered miscarriages or gave birth to unrecorded children who were stillborn or died young - or that, if she was as fertile as her who offspring, who had twenty-eight children between them, she resorted to some form of contraception... Certainly Henry was still sleeping with the Queen, hoping to conceive an heir, during his affair with Mary. He continued to have sexual relations with Katherine until 1524, and even after 1525, by which year she was "past the ways of women," he still shared her bed on occasions.

MARY BOLEYN : ALISON WEIR BOOK EXCERPT : ABOUT MARY'S DAUGHTER KATHERINE CAREY

page 162 of Alison Weir's book Mary Boleyn regarding the daughter who King Henry VII likely fathered.

What is persuasive about the portrait called "Katherine Carey" is that the sitter bears a striking facial resemblance to both Henry VIII and Elizabeth I... This is subjective evidence, but there is a strong similarity in the setting of the eyes; the Tudors had distinctively heavy lower lids, and this, and the familial winded eyebrows, can be seen in portraits of Henry VII, Henry VIII, Arthur Tudor, and Henry Fitzroy, and came from the Plantagenets, as portraits of Henry VIII's grandfather, Edward IV, show. Katherine Carey has these same features. She also has a prominent chin and rounded jowls, like those that are apparent in portraits of Henry VIII and his mother, Elizabeth of York. She had red hair, as did nearly all the Tudors, whereas William Carey's was brown; the color of Mary Boleyn's hair is not known, nor is it known if red hair featured in the Bolyns and Carey families..."

Missy: Today we'd go with the DNA testing!

Note the spelling of the surname on the cover of the book.

MARY BOLEYN : ALISON WEIR BOOK EXCERPT : ON CONTRACEPTION in the TUDOR PERIOD

135-136 from Alison Weir's book on Mary Boleyn

"Since intercourse was supposed to be purely for procreation, contraception was frowned upon, although rudimentary forms of it were known and practiced. Henry VIII's fifth wife, Katherine Howard, for example, admitted that she knew of ways to prevent a pregnancy. Rarely were these methods effective, for many relied purely on superstitions and folk remedies, such as drinking the urine of a sheep or hare before having sex, or taking various herbs, or on coitus interruptus. Other methods of preventing pregnancy included inserting pepper or a sponge soaked in vinegar into the vagina, sealing the cervix with beeswax, having anal sex, or doing some "hard pissing" after intercourse. Condoms as a method of birth control were unknown prior to 1564. Contraception, then as now, was frowned upon by the Church, and because it was often unreliable, if it was used at all, Royal love affairs often lead to the birth of bastard children. But although the moralists might claim that it "impoverished the pubic weal" there was no great stigma attached to illegitimacy and little harm in acknowledging natural children; indeed royal bastards often enjoyed high status and political importance. It was not until the advent of Puritanism in the last 16th century that attitudes to illegitimacy changed and there was greater disapproval..."

MARY BOLEYN : DID SHE LOOSE HER VIRGINITY TO FRANCOIS I ?

Page 78 ( years 1514-1515 approx.)

"Everything points to her (Mary's) affair with Francois I (of France) having been "extremely brief" - a moment, episode or one night stand even - and there is no evidence at all that, when Francois "soon tired" of Mary, he "passed her on to his courtiers," not that this "shocked" or "frightened" Anne Boleyn. And it may be unsafe to assert that it was probably at this point that Anne discovered "how women really could be exploited and mistreated, that she decided to protect her greatest asset, her purity, at all costs, for Anne herself, as we presently discover, had been "corrupted" at the French Court..."

Page 79

"It makes sense of the later events and course of Mary's life to assume that her family did find out what had passed between her and Francois I. It is unlikely that Mary herself told them - what girl of gentle birth would confess to compromising her honor, unless there were to be consequences that had to be dealt with discreetly? We don't of course, know that there were not, and it would be fruitless to speculate; but for the rest of her life, as will become clear, there is intermittent evidence to suggest that Mary was held in little account or affection by her family; and one gets a sense that she was a continuing disappointment to her "outstandingly learned" father, and probably to the rest of the family too."

ALISON WEIR BOOK EXCERPTS! 

MARY BOLEYN : ALISON WEIR BOOK EXCERPT : ABOUT ELIZABETH BLOUNT

Elizabeth Blount was Henry's first mistress, during some of his marriage to his Queen, Katherine of Aragon, who had many pregnancies but not a living male heir. Elizabeth gave birth to a son - who lived - but could not be heir. Henry recognized him though and gave him the name Henry Fitzroy (Fitzroy means of the King).

Page 43 -44

"Elizabeth Blount certainly resided for a time at Jericho (a monastery), for around June 1519 - and possibly on June 18, if her child was ennobled on his sixth birthday in 1525 - she gave birth there to a son, "a goodly man child of beauty like to the father and mother." The infant was given his father's Christian name and the old Norman - French surname of Fitzroy... The tragedy was that this son was born out of wedlock. By then Queen Katherine's catastrophic obstetric career had ended In failure. Of her six pregnancies, only one daughter, the Princess Mary, born in 1516, had survived. For a king who needed a son to succeed him, this was a dynastic disaster, for there was a widespread conviction that women were not meant to wield sovereign power, that it was against all laws both natural and divine. The birth of a living son to his mistress was a triumphant vindication for Henry. It proved that he could father boys, and that the fault did not lie with him... It probably signaled the end of his affair with Elizabeth Blount. In accordance with the convention that it was unsafe and ungodly to have sex during pregnancy, he had probably stopped sleeping with her months before, an there is no evidence that they resumed having relations after the birth... "(Circa early 1500's.)

MARY BOLEYN : MISTRESS OF KING HENRY VIII MISTRESS OF THE MONTH

HENRY VII had so many mistresses, including Elizabeth Blount before her, and Mary's sister Anne Bolyn was one of them too. Mary is the one who had a happy ending to her life - marriage to a man she loved who loved her without so very many complications - and who SURVIVED. Anne's the one who married the King and got beheaded.

Henry married Anne after he finally gave up on his wife of many years, Katherine of Aragon, try as the poor woman did, giving him a legitimate MALE heir. (We know so many men still dwell on having a son!)

Then, unhappy with a mistress as wife, it was Anne Bolyn that he sent to the block - beheading!

Mary seemed to have survived all this and have his child, a daughter named Katherine Carey, while she was married to William Carey. Henry sent William Carey off somewhere so he wouldn't interfere in their affair. She was devastated when the King dumped her for her sister.

Because of their daughter Katherine Carey there are a few people alive today who are blood related to Henry. If the book author Alison Weir is right, today's decedents of Mary Bolyn include Camilla Parker Bowles and Princess Diana!

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Alison Weir's latest book called "MARY BOLEYN - Mistress of Kings" is fascinating. She has to tease out the details but is good at pointing out where other authors of the subject have run on assumptions. Kings is used because Mary may have been the mistress of the French King Francois I when she was a young teenager at his court. (The subtitle "The Great and Infamous Whore" turns out to be wrong)!

Mary, for all the details and historical research Weir did, remains a bit of a mystery. Was she simply compliant? Yet twice she married for love! Was she boring and without opinion or is it that she knew how to survive?

The book came out 2011 published by Ballantine Books and should be on your mistress bookshelf!

Linking to the Alison Weir site that has more details!