QUESTION FOR MISSY :
How old is too old? Older men seem to be very interested in me. I'm 21. I go out with men who are in their late thirties to late forties basically. Some have been divorced. Some never married.
Roxanne
Minneapolis
ANSWER FOR MISSY:
Roxanne, when we fall in love, we fall in love. I think when we do, we overlook the practical, such as that, if we are with a person who is a generation or so ahead of us, they may be in a different time of life than we are, or will be. Think of this. Retirement! A man who is 37 to your 21 is basically going to retire about sixteen years before you!
I think one should consider as a candidate for a relationship those who are seven years younger to those who are seven years older. At 21 this isn't practical. It wouldn't even be legal or right for you to date a 14 year old. For a 30 year old, this would mean dating men between the ages of 23 and 37. Let's say a man is 50. I think the age range of women he is dating should be between 43 and 57.
I still see potential generational differences but perhaps what's most important is maturity.
Tradition however, differs. Tradition is that a man marries when he can afford to - and that it is he who chooses who he will marry. And since it can take a while for a man to get there, he may very well choose a much younger woman. What does afford to marry mean these days when so many women self-support?
Self assess Roxanne. Is the relationship a good one?
Love is love and love can be a rare thing in a life and maybe being practical should be overlooked in favor of love!
Missy
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