Friday, February 12, 2016

LOVE POEMS AS PRESENTS!


I'm a fan of gifting a poem - a love poem - and though I think ANY POEM you write (even if it's corny, even if it will never be published) will work - you can always find a poem you love and think is appropriate ,and copy it, crediting the author.  I still have a poem that my boyfriend, age 17, handwrote with a pencil on ordinary paper.


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public domain vintage images
Hafiz is a famous poet.

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

PARIS SINGER PROVIDED FOR ISADORA DUNCAN - PARTIES, DESIGNER CLOTHING, EXOTIC TRAVEL, HOME, STUDIO, and LOVE

According to Peter Kurth, author of ISADORA, a Sensational Life, Paris Singer provided Isadora Duncan the following gifts of love and support and patronage.

After the birth of their son, Patrick,

(265) He gave her carte blanc to throw a great party at Trianon Palace Hotel at Versailles to celebrate.  There were marquees in the park with caviar, champagne, tea, cakes, a tent with Richard Wagner works via Colonne orchestra, and dinner.  Isadora greeted each guest personally, dressed in a "flaming, pleated silk gown made by artist and stage designer Mario Fortuny.  Then switched to dancing in her tunic and gold sandals to the strains of the Vienna Orchestra."  Guest included famous ballet dancers, Nobel laureates, the director of the Boston Opera company, and more.  (But Paris didn't show  up!)

(274) She left Patrick to be raised by others and returned from traveling to America and other places, touring, after 2 years.  She had left him in a cradle.  Now her students barely recognized her in her Parisian finery.

(280 and 283) Land to build a theatre of her own near Champs-Elysees "Le Theatre due Beau" and a house to use as a school. "The gift she had been waiting for."  He hired an architect to create a "democratic" design.

(280) Financially helped her best friend for life, Mary Desti, to open a skin crème store.

(280) In January 1912, Isadora and Singer went to Egypt on a boat, talking along a party of people with them, and then he bought a villa in Alexandria where they both said they would live permanently.  (They didn't.)

(291-292) After flirting with other men in front of him, Paris Singer had enough and took off.  He left for another trip to Egypt with another woman.  But the break up didn't last.  He was gone for several months but returned in the spring asking her to meet him for lunch. There he proposed that they revive the theatre.

Soon after, her two children, including her son by him, Patrick, were drowned in a terrible auto accident. SINGER was the one to break the news to her.

Though he also slept with other women, Isadora's affairs infuriated him.  But she did love him.  At this time, Stanislavsky, who would become known for being an originator of METHOD ACTING, visited her in Paris.

(259)  He was shocked at the change in her and felt she had sold herself.  He went into the private rooms she lived in and saw that they had been decorated "French Demi Mondaine" meaning Courtesan or Prostitute.

(303) Isadora when to London and then Corfu that summer.  Singer showed up.  She asked him to give her another child.  He didn't agree.

(311) Despite all this, SINGER gave her Bellvue, a mansion, OUTRIGHT in 1912.  It had been Hotel Paillard and was an 18th century mansion, he hoped to "rescue her from grief."

(313) 1914  Singer's funds were again available to continue with building a theatre on the grounds of Bellevue.

(338) When her New York tour proved to be a loss of $12,000  Singer settled the debt, asking some to forgive 80%.

(356) When her tour of Buenos Aires also proved to be a failure financially, and she didn't even know where Singer was anymore, he heard that she's was alone at the docks and without funds or friends.  Once again he bailed her out.  She said, "I had a curious feeling of confidence and safety and I was delighted to see him as he was to see me."  They met up in New York where he had taken a apartment and life became wonderful again "Through the magic power of money."

(356) Then at his own expense he booked the Metropolitan Opera House for her, a benefit for the families of French artists whose families had been impoverished by the war.  It was a triumph but afterwards, Isadora made a scene at "Sherrys" where she wore the chiffon and diamonds he had provided her.  She danced seductively with younger men and threw the necklace at him.

(358) He forgave her and continued to provide until the public scandals associated with their romance moved it "unavoidably to its conclusion."  (Isadora was now about 40 years old.)

(367) 1917 She pawned the necklace and ermine and emerald jewelry Paris Singer gave her to rent an Oceanside cottage for her and her students on Long Island, New York, for the summer.  There are guests constantly.

Isadora drank more and became more promiscuous, seeking out affairs with younger men, and then, she did what she said she would never do.  She married, and to a much younger Russian poet who was verbally and physically abusive to her, stole from her, ruined her reputation further with his destruction of furniture and rooms.  They married on May 2, 1922.  And when their relationship was in a significant crisis...

(472) Isadora borrowed money from Paris Singer to get back to Europe.  She had ask him to get her to Paris "In memory of our love for our child" previously and been turned away, maybe because she was married, so how she got the money this time is a question, but maybe she said she was leaving her husband.

(473) She used the last of Singer's money to get her troubled poet husband back to Berlin for transport back to Russia.

(556) And when Isadora Duncan died, her neck broken in an auto accident, Paris Singer was the one who came to take charge of the funeral arrangements.  The day before he had agreed to buy her a luxury automobile.


Sunday, February 7, 2016

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Elegance

"I am elegant in my manner and appearance."

Elegance is defined by one dictionary as "the quality of being graceful and stylish in appearance or manner." 

Isadora Duncan, because of the physical practice of her personal philosophy of movement and dance, was graceful on her feet, flowing and light even when she was overweight.  For most of us being at a good weight is an advantage when it comes to free movement and balance, but being elegant is also about 'less is more." 

I think that the Plus Size movement is very good because women who are average build or a bit bigger have for years been plagued with some of the worst, badly cut, overly patterned and colored garments one could buy.  It's as if the designers have thought that they could disguise a bigger body by making it even more overwhelming to see.

Perhaps when you dress for the evening especially, be concerned that you don't overdo it with ornaments of ruffles, frills, overwhelming patterns and colors and then make it all worse with too much or wrong jewelry and hair ornaments.  What people should see first is you, your face, not your clothing.  This is why a simple formal gown that shows off your face is often the most elegant or a dress well cut and fitting made of one color fabric, with just one piece of jewelry - choose earrings, a necklace, or a bracelet - but just ONE - may show you off to the best effect.  If you wear glasses or have multicolored hair, you simply must take those into consideration as you count all the distractions you are wearing.  A beautiful pair of sun or prescription glasses counts as a jewelry item.

Have you ever heard, "Get all dressed and take one item off?"  Well, here is a simple formula.  At any one time you should not have more than a count of 9 on.  Each item counts as 1 but patterned items count as two.  So, hair, glasses, earrings is three.  Shoes that are simple and plain are four.  Unpatterned simple bag is five.  Carrying more than one bag?  Count one for each. You get the idea.  Wearing your hair simply, a classic evening dress, shoes, a small bag in a texture on texture or same bead colored pattern, allows you five more points for jewelry and perhaps a live flower.

Photographs of celebrities on the Red Carpet and other events that are featured in magazines are not to be trusted, even when the photo comes with complimentary or critical judgment.  WHY?

The photograph is one view, a picture, often enhanced or shopped, and not the same as meeting that person wearing that dress at all.  Let me say that almost always the celebrity is more beautiful in person than they photograph, that you might not even notice their dress so engaged are you with their true visage, but also their charm, charisma, personality, and manners.  (Sadly, in some cases with their acting out, bad language, and narcissism!)  I've met a few of these people and there is really something to be said for their special energy or "star power" that is obvious and intriguing.


Tuesday, February 2, 2016

ISADORA DUNCAN - MOTHER OF MODERN DANCE - MISTRESS OF PARIS SINGER - SHE DID POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO ATTRACT A WEALTHY PATRON

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Identified as in Public Domain in the United States only
ISADORA DUNCAN as a young woman. 
1877-1927
 
 
 
ISADORA - A SENSATIONAL LIFE
This outstanding book by Peter Kurth is the primary reference,
along with Isadora Duncan's own memoir,
 called MY LIFE, for this month's focus.
I read both cover to cover.
 
 
ISADORA DUNCAN, in her early womanhood, said this: "Any intelligent woman who reads the marriage contract and then goes into it, deserves all the consequences." 
 
Marriage, she thought, was excessively Repressive and she was excessively Romantic, at least into the days of her sexual awakening, before she had been pregnant and abandoned. 
 
To put Isadora Duncan into the context of her times is important. She wasn't just unconventional but a Rebel and she was considered an Old Maid when, at twenty-four years old, she finally found a man willing and lost her virginity.  She would suffer two miscarriages and give birth to two children in her lifetime.  She'd be known most for her "mothering" of children, students, and friends, but be horribly disappointed by men repeatedly.  It was Paris Singer who Kept her, and perhaps loved her the most and best.
 
Born in San Francisco to a mother who played the piano and instilled culture into her children even as they moved frequently ahead of debt collectors, and with a banker father who got in trouble and abandoned the family, she, her siblings, and their mother had to find their own way in the world and experienced lifelong extremes when it came to finances.  Technically homeless at times, even as Isadora's dance theories, inspired by the Ancient Greeks as well as other artists who emphasized the connection between body and spirit, made her famous and wealthy, she lived in chaos.  Isadora many times had the patronage and sponsorship of society women and fellow artists.  She made money but spent it freely.  She let money slip through her fingers with questionable management, risk taking, a preference for spending on good times and vacations,  and supporting the father of her first child, the irresponsible womanizer, Gordon Craig.  She was always begging, or had others doing it for her, in campaigns official and personal, to cover costs to prioritize her school and students.  The school survived because it became the forte of her sister, Elizabeth.
 
When I first read Isadora Duncan's own memoir, which I will provide a link for you to this month, I was a teenager struck with her way with words, her world view, her Romanticism.  I've come to see Isadora Duncan as someone with a Gift and a Vision, but also someone who was unable to deal with the practicalities of life.  By today's standards she was alcoholic, depressed, possibly bi-polar.

As an Artist who ran on Emotion, and by all accounts was Free Spirited, going against the prevailing morals of her time, believing that marriage was a trap for a woman, especially an Artist, Isadora seemed to believe that the Universe would always be kind to her. But then, 30ish, Isadora became more Pragmatic.  She decided to counter her plea for funds from patrons and friends alike and practice the new, mystical method of getting what it was you wanted called Coueism, *** the original Positive Thinking.  After having been though emotional sickness and mental breakdowns as a result of her relationships with men, came the time, in May of 1901 when she was 30 that she reassessed.  She said, "I had created an Art, a School, a Baby."  By then she had bailed Gordon Craig out more than once and was becoming frustrated with him. (Finally!)  She practiced mantras to attract a millionaire, at first only to finance her dream of dancing schools. 

Her multi-millionare turned out to be Paris Singer, one of the siblings of her first great patron in Paris, his sister Winaretta,  the Princess de Polignac, who had invited her to dance, introduced her to the aristocrats, given her a generous sum of 2000 francs, and arranged a series of subscription dances for her that brought notables to her when she arrived there in 1901.

Isadora met Paris, who she called "the Grand Duke," in February 1909. 

Could she really ever reconsider what she had said about marriage?  Not yet.
 
Her relationship with Singer, one of the younger of a couple dozen children begot by the inventor of the Singer Sewing Machine, lasted for eight volatile years in which he continually financed her dreams, even buying her a historic mansion to live in that also housed a dance studio.  (During World War I she gave it up and it was turned into a hospital.)  Singer bailed her out time and time again, asked her to marry him, paid for the latest fashions and important pieces of jewelry and fur coats,  provided Interior Decorators who made her personal rooms into, reportedly, a Courtesan's, and tried for a short while to settle her down in England as a proper English Aristocrat.   With an income suspected of being about $15,000 a month without any need to work, Singer had no worries about running out of funds.
 
With Singer, Isadora became pregnant and gave birth to her son, Patrick. Patrick as well as her daughter by Craig, Deidre, were accidently drowned as children, an event so terrible that hundreds of the famous and important in Paris came to support her in her grief and she became defined by it.  Her hair is said to have turned white overnight as a result and she dyed it with red henna for the rest of her life.  It's also speculated that her Depression after the death of her children is what accelerated her drinking - she favored Champagne - and lead to increasingly promiscuity.

Did she love Paris Singer and he her, or was he there in her life only for money?  She did love him, in her way, without being faithful.  Accordingly, he also loved her and accepted much about her.
 
After the eight years, though he seems by then to have given up on Isadora, she apparently was still in his heart.  He was still someone who cared enough about her to keep tabs on her through friends and more than once he tried again. Then, if you count his anonymous bail outs later in life when she found her tours in America and South America to be losses,  you realize that Singer was in Isadora's life for the rest of her life.
 
In her forties, Isadora aged and got fat. She took criticism that her looks and weight took away from her dance, though it's said that she always held herself and walked with light and grace no matter.  By then there were many imitators of her dance in the world, others touring and making money without crediting her, and the public no longer needed the Original.  Her life turned into an ongoing party, surrounded by homosexual admirers and, this is still controversial, one or more lesbian lovers, usually also American Ex-Pats and heiresses who supplied money. Some claim she had as many as 1000 lovers, mostly young men chosen for the night.  My guess is that her reputation more than her behavior moved her towards that statistic.
 
Was Isadora a woman who was unable to learn from her own life?  Did she actually sell out?
 
Nearing fifty she did marry as badly as is possible. She married a violent, abusive, much younger Russian poet, Esenin, who she'd met as a result of her attempt to found a school of dance with the government sponsorship of Soviet Russia.  To some extent Isadora Duncan was mixed up, if not in actual participation but by philosophy, in the Russian Revolution and the cause of the Bolsheviks.  In hypocrisy, she seemed to despise the wealthy, though no doubt she had depended on them from the early days when she was featured entertainment in their Salons, in American and in Europe, and had lived lavishly due to their generosity rather than her own ability to earn, invest, or save.
 
Duncan's death has also become part of defining her because she was killed instantly by a broken neck when a long wrap scarf she was wearing got caught in the wheel of an expensive sports car that Paris Singer had agreed to purchase for her that very day.  In many of her dances a scarf was used as a symbol and accessory. Singer came to take care of her funeral. Of all her lovers, he was the most true to her.
 
This month, I'll select excerpts from the Kurth book that exposes the relationship between Isadora Duncan and Paris Singer.  I'll also give you a link to her memoir, and post videos of the dancers who carry her legacy of dance philosophy into the next century.  No matter the hell of her life, or however unstable she was or seemed, there is no doubt that Isadora Duncan is a Mother of Modern Dance.  We are lucky to witness her dance carried on by the students of her - and her sister Elizabeth's - students.
 
Having once attended a live recital of Isadorable dancers, I can say that they took my breath away and gave me chills, and that there is something profoundly spiritual in her dance.  It made me wish I'd been alive in the era in which Isadora lived, so that I might better understand her.
 
Check out this link on Philip Emile Coué (1857-1926)  Gordon Sanders on Postive Thinking /Coeu
 
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If interested in Isadora, you might also want to read my posts from September 2014 on Natalie Clifford Barney.  It's said that she may have been a patron or kept for a short while Isadora Duncan.  The Kurth book mentions Mercedes D'Acosta and other ex pat American lesbians in Paris in the early 20th Century.