Tuesday, July 28, 2015

STING - FRAGILE

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I always try to pick music that goes with the Mistress, the time, and the place, for my monthly subject, but as I was thinking strongly of the McCandless Family, this song came on in the store where I was shoppin and I think it is a perfect one.  My wish for them all is for healing.  And I think maybe Chris' message for Carine from the spirit world, that he is with her, is manifest, in her daughter.

Monday, July 27, 2015

THE DEBATE OVER WHY CHRIS MC CANDELES DIED RAGES ON

THE NEW YORKER - HOW CHRIS MC CANDLESS DIED 
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Sunday, July 26, 2015

MOOSE

According to the documentary coming up, the Moose that Chris killed would have supplied enough meat for him to survive for months, if he had known how to preserve it quickly before the maggots arrived.  He regretted taking the life and the waste. 

Chris' sleeping bag that he took along with him on his travels had been made by his mom, Billie.  It was judged inadequate by expert survivalists,  Close to death he got into it and zipped it up.

Saturday, July 25, 2015

BACK TO THE WILD DOCUMENTARY about CHRIS MCCANDLESS including BILLIE and WALT



Tests of manhood?  Adventures way bigger than them?  People have to have the opportunity to have adventures and some of them are going to have misadventures - which Chris did?  In this documentary we meet the real people who were portrayed in the film including Billie and Walt and the woman who instantly fell in love with Chris though they only spent three days together and who will never forget him.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

BILLIE JOHNSON MCCANDLESS AS THE PERFECT SUBURBAN MOM

pages 94-95  Excerpt from THE WILD TRUTH by Carine McCandless.

 (Carine attempts to be fair knowing that her parents are not monsters.)*

"Our mom was many people rolled into one.  She was the soccer mom who brought oranges to all of Chris's games and the epitome of organization who headed up his Indian Guide and my Girl Scout meetings.  She made us elaborate and beautiful Halloween costumes and helped us put the finishing touches on every school project with her artistic talents.  We learned how to drive a stick shift under the safety and guidance of her even teaching temperament.  And she had a sense of humor, dressing Chris, Shannon and Quinn(The later two being children born by Marcia and Walt.*) up like chauffeurs whenever we went to pick my dad up from the airport after a business trip... in the Cadillac, of course.

And dad wasn't just volatile.  He also took us to Europe and delighted in watching us experience different cultures and strange gourmet foods, sometimes ordering for us in the local language so we wouldn't be dissuaded from trying something we would normally think was gross.  Sometimes when Chris and I built forts in the family room, Dad played guitar and sang his silly songs in front of the fireplace and pretended we were camping... (The family also went camping and on hikes.*)  He could speak  for hours about the wonders of space exploration and had fascinating accompanying visuals, blueprints of his designs and three dimensional models of his image-capturing radar systems that now floated about the atmosphere... What I remember most is how I started hiding when he returned home, instead of running for him.

*Notes and commentary by Missy

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Domestic Violence

"If I'm involved in domestic violence, I will find help to stop accepting or perpetrating this behavior."

Domestic violence - physical or verbal, hurts a person's self esteem and often, if it is severe enough or goes on for a long time - makes it difficult for a person to leave.   Even snide remarks can wound.  Domestic violence effects people from all ethnicities, races, religions, and classes.  Being well off or rich doesn't mean you are safe from it. 

While what we hear about most is men abusing women there are women who "fight back" or who do the abusing.  When children see their parents batter each other or when children see mom's boyfriend beating her, they are liable to do the same behavior to their own children and girlfriends.

Your home and those you live with should be a sanctuary.  Everyone gets upset or angry from time to and needs to express it, but not inappropriately.  Some people need to learn anger management.  Some need to go to rehab.  Some need to be removed from the home.

Self assess.  If you are a victim or a perpetrator, reach out for help to change.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

FOUR TO FIVE PERCENT OF PEOPLE IN THE UNITED STATES LIVE IN POLYAMOROUS CONSENTUALLY NONMONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP (SAY THAT WITH SOME MARBLES IN Y OUR MOUTH!)

LIVESCIENCE -POLYAMORY STIGMA LESSENS FAMILIARITY by Stephanie Pappas, Live Science Contributor  published on February 09, 2015  (Very Interesting!)


EXCERPT:

Polyamory's popularity

Polyamory is often confused with swinging, but the terms are not interchangeable. Unlike swingers, who go outside their primary relationship for sex only, polyamorous people maintain simultaneous romantic ties, all with the consent and knowledge of everyone involved.

It's unclear how many people identify themselves as polyamorous, but a 2013 study in the journal Analyses of Social Issues and Public Policy estimated that between 4 percent and 5 percent of people in the United States are involved in some sort of consensually nonmonogamous relationship.

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Missy here!  Compare that to stats on how many people are gay, bisexual, or lesbian, and well, you KNOW people who are polyamorous, though they may be in the closet.

Thursday, July 16, 2015

WALT HAS TWO FAMILIES - and HE'S NOT A BIGAMIST...

BECAUSE HE'S NOT LEGALLY MARRIED TO TWO WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME... so I wonder when it will become legal here in the United States to be married to more than one person at a time!  Because same sex marriage was only the beginning of a revolution in ideas about what makes marriage.  Missy

Excerpt and Notes from THE WILD TRUTH by Carine McCandless

"My father continued to tell Marcia all about my mom; Marcia says when he left her for two weeks out of every month, she was made to understand that he was staying with his second family.  He was proud of having produced so many offspring and saw no reason to hide his other children from her.  In fact he envisioned us all eventually living together under one roof, and by way of convincing Marcia, pointed out that my mother made a fantastic pot roast - Marcia's least successful culinary endeavor - but he said that Marcia's spaghetti sauce was much better.  Marcia remembers she quipped "I didn't know you were a Mormon Fundamentalist, Walt."


Walt kept a special phone line in his home office with Marcia reserved for calls to and from Billie.