Sunday, September 24, 2017

DORIS DUKE KEPT MEN (BUT BERNARD WAS AN EMPLOYEE)

DORIS DUKE was an heiress who became one of the richest women in the world.  She owned properties around the world and traveled extensively.  She never found fulfillment in marriage and gave birth to a daughter who soon died.  She never had another child.  Doris had men and she wasn't especially conventional about men.  You could say she was a free spirit.  In the Film BERNARD and DORIS,  Ralph Fiennes acts as an increasingly feminine butler with a drinking problem, and Susan Sarandon acts as Doris.


 
No doubt Doris kept some men, perhaps only for sex, of the Boy Toy variety. As depicted in this film, which I enjoy, she is a woman who knows what she wants exactly and when she wants it. She sees a new gardener, she might want to try him in bed as Lady of the Manor. What of the handsome and fit model of a much younger man who also knows how to play the piano.  She gives him envelopes of cash but tells him she's leaving town and he must go.  He reasons that the house is big enough to stay and wait.  She tells him no.


Butler Bernard stays with her until her death, though he does get into the wine and end up in a rehab program that she pays for.  After all he admitted he had a wee bit of a problem with alcohol from the start. Based on real life (Bernard worked for Elizabeth Taylor previously).  They become playful friends and perhaps he is her only real confidant as she ages. Having traveled all over the world and had so many experiences, it is he who is there for her as she dies.


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Thursday, September 21, 2017

STRONGEST MAN ON EARTH

Louis Cyr, strongest man on earth, 1898
MAE WEST loved the ultra masculinity of weight lifters
from her early womanhood when she was just
starting out as an entertainer, one who emphasized
the differences between men and women.

Monday, September 18, 2017

A MAN IN THE HOUSE IS WORTH TWO IN THE STREET : A PAUL NOVAK OBIT


EXCERPT from a long tale by Tom Vallance                  
Chester Ribonsky (Paul Novak), sailor, bodybuilder and bodyguard: born Baltimore, Maryland 1923; died Santa Monica, California 14 July 1999

Friday, September 15, 2017

HOLLWOOD POSTCARD 1940 : THE RAVENSWOOD and OTHER SITES

This postcard, originally from 1940, has landmarks in
each letter.  I think the H has the Ravenswood Apartments.
The Griffith Observatory is in the second O and
Graumann's Chinese Theater is in the third O.


LA DAILY MIRROR - OLD ARTICLE ON THE RAVENSWOOD APARTMENTS


Reading around United States President Donald Trump and his wife Melania, such a big deal is being made about them (probably) not sleeping in the same bed or having separate bedrooms.  Well, Paul Novak and Mae West never shared a bed or bedroom either, at least that's the claim.


Maybe it's more civilized to have your own room and your own bed.  My suspicion this isn't so much about sexual activity, but about being able to sleep, or to snore, or to simply not be seen not looking one's best for one's lover!  Don't you feel sometimes like you need to burrow in your own cave for a while, though you do love your partner?

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

IN HER 50's... ALWAYS KNOWN FOR HER SEXY QUIPS




Mae West's sense of humor and sexiness defied censors.


She joked:
"Look your best.  Who said love is blind?"
"Between two evils I always like to try the one I've never tried before."
"Marriage is a great institution but I'm not ready for an institution."









Monday, September 11, 2017

ARE YOU A MAN WHO WANTS TO BE KEPT? MISSY SPEAKS

I'll never forget when a friend of mine graduated from a good college with a difficult to achieve degree and right out of school was hired by a Fortune 500 company.  She was making double what most people do right out of college and she was proud, but also just a little showy about it. Her new income was impressive but far more is offered today by those women who are graduating with PHD's in the sciences.


She began to attract men who wanted to be Kept. In their youth, they wanted to marry her but they wanted to be Kept.


One of them was her hairdresser.  He pledged that he would be willing to quit his business, transfer with her wherever the company might send her, and give her children if she wanted them and take care of them too.  At the time people called this a "role reversal."  It was rare to find a man who would consider it. When she came home from work, not only did he run a bath for her but he had dinner ready.  Every morning he did her hair.  She looked terrific.


My friend did not marry this man or Keep him, though while they were together she had her wallet open, and he was very comfortable letting her pay.  She transferred to another city where she never seemed to meet anyone to date.  Another transfer and the purchase of a little castle of a home on her own brought her another man who wanted to marry her but wanted to be Kept.  This one started sending his dry cleaning out with hers right away.  He did not want to give her children.  He intended to have a business that latched onto her career. He drove but he put his hand out for the gas money.  When his first business wasn't a go, she said, "That's OK."  Then she financed his second business.



She was no heiress.  She didn't have an impressive stock portfolio (not yet) and her family was just average. But so it went for a young woman with just a bit more than most.
Today many women are Keeping men who are like her.  It doesn't matter that they have just a little more because the man gets used to that little more being spent on them.
 

ARE YOU A WOMAN WHO IS KEEPING A MAN, or WANTS TO?



Does a man have to do your hair, run your bath water, drive you places?  Does he have to admire you and cater to your needs, anticipating whatever it might be that pleases you in the moment,  as our Mantress of the Month, Paul Novak, did Mae West?



Let me ask the women out there, Do you treat the men in your life that way?


If you are a man who wants to be Kept, showing off your expertise is the way to go, providing your expertise falls into the "help wanted" ad.  Stereotypically this means providing sexually satisfaction for your woman, and hopefully yourself, within reason.  But sex is not always necessary or even a priority.  So if your woman is perhaps not too interested in sex anymore, you need to make an agreement with her.  Do you get to have a lover too?  If she's an heiress, she might just want you to play tennis, go sailing, or travel with her.  If she's in business, she might just want to come home to a beautiful home setting and have dinner on the table, and maybe you get to meet her in another city but maybe not her business colleagues.  If she's married, you may also get to do these things, but in different locations and with a different group of friends.



HOW IS the KEPT MAN lifestyle DIFFERENT THAN BEING A HUSBAND? 


Sometimes hardly at all.



I have a young neighbor who is Kept.  Yes, he's working every money making opportunity there is out there, via Uber, Lyft, AirBnB (when she is out of town.)  He's a high school drop out and very good musician, and yet, he's he doesn't actually hustle work.  He lets it find him.


She's got a Master's Degree in Marketing.  She pays the rent on a house and there are two new Tesla's in the driveway, one for him, one for her.
This woman will not marry him, something his parents, who are conservative, have pointed out.  When she's gone on business, she calls.  She does not say where exactly she is and who with and he doesn't ask. 


All week he takes care of her dog.  His parents also point out that he always wanted children and she has decided not to have any.  He's in his early thirties now.  Will he regret the years he has put in being Kept if and when she breaks with him?  (Seems to me most women are told they will regret it.)



There are those who are betting that she will break with him, the moment she meets her equal  or better in the business world.  Truly, I know he loves her and when she says things to him like "I'm not sure this is going to work out" and he becomes very depressed, I try not to give advice!



Being Kept does not require committing adultery!  With fewer couples actually marrying, the question is often, "Is it adultery?"




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Wednesday, September 6, 2017

MAE WEST's JEWELRY

DAILY CAMERA - LIFESTYLE - MAE WEST'S JEWELRY  By Aimee Heckel


Dolly Parton, the country singer, now owns half of Mae West's jewelry.  Other pieces are for sale that prove that "Diamond Lil" as she was known, could have a heart of gold and trade the diamonds for glass.