Thursday, February 22, 2018

ARE YOU A MAN WHO KEEPS A WOMAN? MISSY ASKS QUESTIONS!

Though I like to include some Kept Men, when I can find out about them, MISTRESS MANIFESTO Blogspot tends towards women - Kept Women - women who want to be Kept - and though I know Lesbian Women are Keeping other Women, I and my readers are curious to know more about the MEN WHO KEEP WOMEN?


They are not all billionaires (or even millionaires) like J.Paul Getty, or his son Gordon Getty.


My guess is that there are a lot of women who work full time but who have their income supplemented by men they are involved with, without living together, be it that he is married or not.


The subject is obscured by privacy, by secrecy, and by romanticized or other inaccurate depictions of Mistress' lives.


An eternal question seems to be, Men who Keep Women, HOW DO YOU DO IT?


Is it a verbal agreement or legal?
If you're married, does your wife know?


We would like to hear from you!


Missy


P.S.  All Comments are Reviewed by me before publication.  Please read in Pages my Comment's Policy and other Information about MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT!

Sunday, February 18, 2018

ARE YOU A MISTRESS FEELING ALONE and READING MISTRESS MANIFESTO TONIGHT?

In these many posts you'll find familiarity or inspiration or courage, or decide to call the whole thing off!  Check out my archives or search for "Mistress of the Month!"

Friday, February 9, 2018

ELIZABETH BARRETT BROWNING - HOW SO I LOVE THEE ? and COMMENTARY by MISSY

Elizabeth Barrett Browning (who lived in the 19th century) wrote this famous poem.
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

**********************************************************************
Missy here!
I've got to tell you that I have never loved anyone to this extent!
In fact, I think this love that Elizabeth Barrett Browning was writing about is an impossible dream of love.

I THINK THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO LOVE though.

And it's a good if you know the REASONS WHY you DO LOVE SOMEONE.

I'll never forget when a woman I considered to be a very good, maybe best friend, stopped our conversation
 by asking me, "Why do you love him, anyway?"
She was speaking about a man I had met who I realized I loved.
When I met him the circumstances were not ideal because he was separated and living separately, 
only coming back to town for family obligations - seeing his children when they came home from college.
Which meant that I also saw little of him.
But when he was gone I realized how much I missed him.

The truth is this woman had encouraged me towards him, knowing that he was not actually divorced.
But she must have changed her mind about this encouragement because now she was challenging me.
And I had no answer for her in that moment.
Instead I felt she had become moralistic - after her own three divorces.
And the truth is that to this day I could write a long list of the REASONS WHY I fell for this man - as well as the REASONS WHY I FELL OUT OF LOVE WITH HIM. 
which was heartbreaking.
But because I could not recite that list to her when she asked, she thought that I was irrational.  
Love had to have it's rationality - its reasons if not its excuses.

Over the holidays, I ran into someone I had not seen since those days when I was in love with this man.
I had not said the words "I love him," but I had said enough.
She thought I had gotten married to him and disappeared.
I had to say no, I hadn't.
"But you were CRAZY about him!" my old friend said.

And I admit it, I was "crazy" about him but for these top three reasons.
1) Our conversations sparkled.  We sparked each other.  There was always something to share. 
2) He admired and respected my intelligence.
3) He didn't use me for therapy; he was honest about his confusion about his marital status and never complained or expected me to figure it all out for him.