Wednesday, July 18, 2018

ARE YOU A MISTRESS WHO SAID SHE WOULD NEVER?

It seems to me that there are a lot of people out there who say they would never do something, but then they do. Their experience deepens, their circumstances change, they fall in love much to their own amazement.


One of my supervisors said she would never sleep with the owner of the business she worked for, but did.  Very likely she felt she would loose her job if she did not but she had a thing for him for some time.  In the end he went on a vacation and brought back a wife and soon this supervisor went to work elsewhere because this wife came to work everyday and did everything she could to make life unhappy for her.


So, when I bring up the subject of Mistresses to someone, such as my desire to meet and interview anyone they know who is a Mistress, and I ask this question often of an older woman who worked a regular job for a living, I get responses such as...

"Why would you want to know about those whores?"
"I'm not going to talk to you about them, the bosses all had them."

I doubt these women I talked to have ever heard of a Woman's Studies Class.
These comments tell me that these people did know of Mistresses and they had no respect for them or that they are NOT going to provide me the entrĂ©e to them.  Generally these older women who worked a regular job for a living, even if they themselves did not marry or spent most of their life divorced or never married, seem to side with the wives against the Mistress but seem not to be upset with the married men who had a Mistress.  They are communicating that they would never and hold themselves as superior to those who do.


Among my friends who had affairs while married, in each case I would have never guessed that they would have even considered it until, it seemed suddenly because they didn't reveal it right away, they were involved outside of marriage.  Each of them seemed to have their head on straight and their heart in the right place when they married.


So I ask YOU.  Are you a Mistress who said she would never?
I'd like to hear your story.


Use comments. Your comment will not appear until I read it and decide to publish.  I will not publish anything that starts with the words "Do Not Publish."  I also, when I do publish, edit and change names. You can also leave contact information for me - an e-mail - if you do wish to be interviewed.


Missy

Sunday, July 15, 2018

CONSIDER THE SLAVE

Image result for public domain vintage slave sale This particular poster advertising the sale of Negroes is actually fairly respectful compared to some I've seen.  Notice that the people enslaved are called men, women, boys, girls, and called negroes (a term that some older black people still use for themselves today).
On some slave sale posters, men are called bucks, women are called wenches, and children are called pickininnys, names that distances them from other races, names that emphasis breeding.

As you consider this, consider that "White Slavery,"  also called Sex Slavery or Sex Trafficking, currently involves more girls (and some boys) than ever there were Slaves imported from Africa.

See my posts on Sex trafficking using the search feature embedded in this blog to find those posts.

Friday, July 13, 2018

MONTICELLO MEANS LITTLE MOUNTAIN in ITALIAN

MONTICELLO OFFICIAL SITE - TOUR


That's Monticello on the back of the nickel (United States coinage) and here you can take a virtual tour.  Sally Hemmings took care of Jefferson's private quarters.

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

JEFFERSON IN PARIS - MISTRESS MANIFESTO FILM REVIEW


JEFFERSON IN PARIS: This historical drama has some amazing scenes such as the hot air balloon rides that amused the wealthy Parisians and is taking place in the 1780's and pre French Revolution, but focuses on the forbidden love that Thomas Jefferson partook in as a widower.  First with the married Maria Cosway, British, whose parents arranged for her to be married to an artist rather than go into a nunnery; likely her husband was gay.  It is said that they did enjoy a sexual relationship, that he did propose marriage to her but she could not see living in the United States or understand slavery, and that they remained friends and wrote letters to each other for the rest of their lives.  And then with Sally Hemings, his slave brought to Paris as a servant to him and his daughters. Sally was underage by today's standards, and so the lovers story has modern notions of child abuse, seduction, and rape, as well as the power-over of a Master to a Slave. But perhaps the truth is in the long relationship Jefferson continued to have with Sally.  
IMDB JEFFERSON IN PARIS (1995)
As you can tell from this YouTuber's selection of frames from the film, it looks loving.


Monday, July 9, 2018

FRAMING A LEGEND by M. ANDREW HOLOWCHAK - THE DNA and DISTORTED HISTORY

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Framing A Legend
Exposing the Distorted History of Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings
M. Andrew Holowchak, assistant professor of philosophy at Rutgers
 2013 Prometheus Books
 
M. Andrew Holowchak does a fine job of deconstructing (dismissing) some of the books about the Sally Hemings- Thomas Jefferson relationship including Fawn Brodie's which have said that Sally was Thomas slave mistresses and that her 6 children were by him.  One aspect of this book that I found most interesting and perhaps convincing is when he tackles the question of family memory and DNA.  As Holowchak says it, a relative of Jefferson's is, in some branches of the Jefferson family, acknowledged to be the father of the children, meaning that some of the DNA is the same and some is not.  Since I think DNA is the most convincing evidence and that DNA testing is getting more and more sophisticated...I find it all so fascinating, especially as that no one has actually dug up Jefferson to test for his DNA ...


Additionally, I wonder if there is any DNA investigation into the DNA of Thomas Jefferson's wife's DNA, and her fathers, which should also be appearing in Sally and her descendants.

Saturday, July 7, 2018

AN 1804 POLITICAL CARTOON MOCKING THOMAS JEFFERSON and SALLY HEMINGS


There had been speculation about Thomas and Sally, but it would seem discretion was used by his friendly peers and he in writing to each other about their lives, families, and politics.  But Thomas Jefferson had his detractors, those who thought the relationship scandalous either because they thought he should have fought against slavery, or because they thought it was wrong to mix with slaves.  The question of how willing Sally was to be his Mistress looms large and one that I myself have struggled with. In this cartoon we see an image of Sally in which she is dark but her facial features including her nose are not stereotypically "African" and I do wonder if this image is actually accurate, based on the testimony of those who actually saw the woman.


Missy

Friday, July 6, 2018

OFFICIAL WORD on SALLY HEMINGS CHILDREN and DNA

https://www.monticello.org/site/plantation-and-slavery/thomas-jefferson-and-sally-hemings-brief-account


MONTICELLO ORG - ON THOMAS JEFFERSON and SALLY HEMINGS




EXCERPT: According to Madison Hemings, Sally's mother Elizabeth Hemings (1735-1807) was the daughter of an African woman and an English sea captain. By Madison Hemings's and other accounts, Sally Hemings and some of her siblings were the children of John Wayles, Thomas Jefferson's father-in-law, making her the half-sister of Jefferson's wife, Martha Wayles Jefferson (1748-1782). Elizabeth Hemings and her children lived at John Wayles' plantation during his lifetime.

Read the Report of the Monticello Research Committee on Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings for yourself.


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If it is true that Sally's mother was one half African/Black and father, the English sea captain, was European/White, then Sally's mother was one half White. If Sally's half-White mother then conceived her with another European/White Man, Mr. Wayles, that would make Sally three quarters White and one quarter Black.  If Sally then had children with Thomas Jefferson, another White/European man, these children would be mostly White.  But color is not the only identifier when it comes to race or ethnicity.  When someone tells me how they identify I respect them by believing them. I know that appearances aren't everything. 
-Missy

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

FOURTH OF JULY - DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE

 This vintage postcard is from 1901.  In it Jefferson looks quite youthful compared to later portraits of the man.  He wrote the Declaration of Independence  well before he became the 3rd President of the United States and was SELECTED for two terms.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

LIBRARY OF CONGRESS - DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE

DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE at the LIBRARY OF CONGRESS


Thomas Jefferson's Draft of a Constitution for Virginia was an important part of the evolution of his Declaration Of Independence for the United States.

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Image from WikiMediaCommons