Tuesday, August 30, 2022

MARILYN MONROE - THE PRIVATE LIFE OF A PUBLIC ICON by CHARLES CASILLO : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW


Over 200 books have been written about Marilyn Monroe and so the question is, can any author bring something new to the understanding of this actress who died 60 years ago this summer, August 4th or 5th, 1960?  Having read maybe a half dozen of those books, I featured Marilyn on this blog in May 2016 focused on just one of them. She was the mistress of super-agent Johnny Hyde, who got her a contract with Twentieth Century Fox, wanted to marry her, and died suddenly without that ever happening.  To her credit, Marilyn did not want to marry him because she was not in love with him. I'm particularly interested in the controversial aspect of her death and if she was actually involved with President John F. Kennedy, or his brother, Robert Kennedy.

What is the tone of this book by Charles Casillo? Casillo delivers a clear and empathic report. The author was aware of the hunger for knowing more about Marilyn that so many fans have and says he spent hours listening to interviews that other author conducted that are housed at the Los Angeles Public Library. Then he also sought out new interviews with people who met her or knew her, people who were quite old themselves. (My note is that people interviewed in their 80's and 90's would have had to have been very young at the time. She was born as Norma Jean Mortensen in 1926 and was known as Norma Jeane Baker in her childhood. Recently DNA testing revealed  Charles Stanley Gifford was her birth father)  I think Casillo did a fine job of letting us know who he spoke to and where there was controversy. that there was one, instead of taking a particular side.

In particular, the author outlines her heritage of mental illness, not just in the case of her mother which is now well known, but others of her lineage. This makes a case for the possibility that Marilyn's fears that she would also become mentally ill realistic rather than neurotic. He shows just how much influence psychiatrists had on Marilyn and especially the amount of control psychiatrist Greenson, had on her in her last days. (I think of the control that Beach Boy Brian Wilson experienced in his life when a person in the mental health profession moved in. I tend to think that Green should have lost his license to practice.) Marilyn clearly needed to trust in someone, a doctor, and was mentally ill. So, when I read a quote by her first husband, James Doughterty, from another sources, stating that he never knew Marilyn Monroe but had loved Norma Jean, and that she was too sensitive to be in the movie business, I have to agree. 

Here is the question for YOU, my readers. Does mental illness make a person go after experiences that most people would avoid out of self-preservation or out of desperation, or is it that having so many horrible experiences makes a person mentally ill? I think that most women with a life like Marilyn's would have had a difficult time but that she was in the public spotlight made managing it all more difficult. So very many people wanted something out of an association with her, but she seemed unable to keep healthy boundaries and this is because some of them were deceivers.

As for the Kennedys, Casillo does bring some new light to the rumors that she was involved with one or both of the brothers. That Jackie Kennedy specifically asked her husband to break with Marilyn because she had empathy for Marilyn is new to me. That the involvement with Robert Kennedy was more serious interesting. Did one or both of them have Marilyn murdered?

The author reveals that the relationship with Pat Newcomb, her press agent and, it could be argued, best friend, who frequently stayed over at Marilyn's house, might have also had an interest in Robert Kennedy and that there were aspects of that relationship that might not have been healthy.  Of many passages I could excerpt here is one from page 295.

Dean Martin's wife, Jeanne, has said that "Pat was deeply in love with Bobby. It took her many years to get over it." There was something deeper to their relationship than friendship.  It certainly would have been better for all concerned if Marilyn didn't hear it.  But she suspected.  And now she demanded explanations.  She grappled with the notion of Pat Newcomb possibly being involved with Bobby - at once so loyal but at the same time seemingly desperate to take "possession" of her.  Was an involvement with Bobby, in some way, a maneuver for Newcomb to be more enmeshed with Marilyn?  Marilyn thought so, feeling a "sibling rivalry" kind of relationship had developed between them in the two years they had been closely associated with each other.

The author points out that while Marilyn did call the White House and also Robert Kennedy many times, it is not known how many times one or both of these men called her.  Rather than make it seem like she was a desperate caller, Marilyn might have been returning phone calls. He points out that there are "reasonable witnesses" on both sides of the question of Robert Kennedy being in Los Angeles on Saturday August 5th. Then he reveals the two stories. There is a two hour window in which RFK could have made it to Los Angeles via helicopter perhaps from San Francisco or Gilroy, California. He speculates that Robert Kennedy was supposed to make it over to his sister and brothers-in-law's house and that when Marilyn learned he was not going to go to the Lawford's, she cancelled going there herself. 

I speculate that because Marilyn knew that her family heritage contained various individuals who were manic, depressed, suicidal, she had at least reached out for help.

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Revisit by finding these posts in my archive.
MARILYN MONROE - ACTRESS - "SEX GODDESS" - and MISTRESS OF TALENT AGENT JOHNNY HYDE May 2016

Monday, August 29, 2022

DO YOU SNEAK TO READ MISTRESS MANIFESTO? : MISSY ASKS YOU!

Do you sneak to read this blog?  Why?  Are you one of my Duck Duck Go readers?

Please read my comment policy in Pages!  I read every comment and will not publish those that start with the words DO NOT PUBLISH!

Sunday, August 28, 2022

COMMENTS THAT WENT UNPUBLISHED and WHY

I just deleted about a dozen Comments and did not publish.  I did copy some of the information sent.  Major housekeeping in recent days on this blog.

Good stuff:

Suggestions for future topics, names of Mistresses, but no links, no mention of who they were a Mistress to.  I will look into some of these. If there is a book or a lot on the Internet maybe I will use your suggestions!  THANKS

Request that a review I did be added to another site that is all Book Reviews. Thanks for the compliments but I'll hold my copyrights here.

Requests that I contact by e-mail for purposes of genealogy or family history connections to persons stating they are related to my subject.  I can't do this.  However, you can always read the same book I did!

Bad stuff: Mostly rants about the Jim Morrison love triangle. As I see it both Pamela and Patricia have passed away and who knows, maybe they and Jim will all make peace in the Afterlife. However, 90% of those who posted were taking sides, some used foul language on one of both of the women, or started out insulting me for featuring Patricia - who wrote a book. I personally feel that Patricia's book was heartfelt and coming from her experience. There are many books out there and that's the one I selected.

Someone trying to expose where Bob Dylan's long ago mistress lives and personal problems.  I would not expose that kind of information.  Most of the people I profile her are Public Figures but that does not mean I would tell anyone where to find them.

REMEMBER THAT THIS BLOG DOES NOT TAKE AN ESPECIALLY CRITICAL OR NEGATIVE VIEW OF ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES. This is an exploration of what it has been and is for some people who have lived or live a Mistress Lifestyle.

Think about this! I open a comment.  I cannot know for sure who sent it to me.  Anyone can claim to be someone or in the know.  If you do not send me a link to a book or news article I can read to verify that this has been published elsewhere, then it's Scouts Honor.  

I did publish one comment that I somehow missed long ago.

OTHER THINGS:

I personally have NEVER sent an individual a link to a post from this blog.  However someone else might have and I have no way of knowing who or why.

In terms of Atom or other reader features, I think the best thing to do is either BOOKMARK the blog and check the bookmark frequently.  Some of such readers are outdated.

In terms of PRIVACY, some of my readers use DUCK DUCK GO!   You can also go into Google account settings and turn off the tracking. There's nothing sexually explicit or X rated in this blog.

People not only snatching photos and pictures I post for their PINTEREST hobby - which includes full pictures of the post.  THAT IS A NO!  If an image is in PUBLIC DOMAIN and you research that, you can post it - try for the original source. Otherwise you are stealing my copyrighted research and writing, so if I find out, I will snatch it back! 

THAT'S IT!

Some great things coming up!

Missy




Friday, August 26, 2022

SULEYMAN THE MAGNIFICENT AS AN OLD MAN


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This image was engraved by MELCHOIR LORCK (Danish, Felnsburgh 1526 - after 1588 Hamburg(?)
The image is courtesy of the Metropolitan Museum of Art (New York City)

Please note that the artist would have been a contemporary of 
Suleyman the Magnifcent 
so we can hope it's a fairy accurate depiction of the man.

Thursday, August 25, 2022

THE STATUE OF HURREM SULTANA IN ROHATYN

"Statue of Nastia Lisovska in downtown Rohatyn.


You'll note that Roxelana's name has variations. 
Her given name may be Alexsandra or some version of Natasia.

According to the Wikipedia site about the town of Rohatyn, in 1520 the region was attacked by Crimean Tatars and she was captured there and then sold to the Ottomon Sultan Suleiman the Magnificent.  The region has been part of Poland and is currently in Ukraine.

I find it very interesting that the town acknowledges her birth there.  I wonder what they knew during her lifetime.  Did her family know where she was?  That she was alive? Were they ever able to communicate by letter, perhaps?


Tuesday, August 23, 2022

THE RUTHENIANS - WHY THEY ARE NOT RUSSIANS

I thought the book Empress of the East by author Leslie Pierce was outstanding but I did have one problem with it and that was her identification of Roxelana as Russian. You see Ruthenians are not Russians.  They are Slavic, but they are not ethnically Russian.  To those who are Ruthenian that is not OK.

The word SLAVE comes from the word Slav...

The slavers who took boys and girls, men and women, away from Ukraine, Poland, Slovakia, and other areas of Central and Eastern Europe focused on poor areas that did not have a defense. When it came to the Turks in the 1500,  Slavers were part of a supply chain. Slavers were not just Tatars (a Moslem group) but also the Venetians (people from Venice before it was Italy) and other ethnic groups who human trafficked. Some of these people did not make the journey, some of them died young, and for women their fate had a lot to do with how physically attractive they were.

The Ruthenians are a Slavic group that has traditionally lived in and around the Carpathian Mountains, which using today's maps, are in four countries.  There are three groups - you could say ethnic subgroups - that make the Ruthenians, who are usually  Byzantine ie Greek Catholic (Orthodox) rather than Roman Catholic. Through the centuries various languages have come up with different names for them including Western Ukrainians. 

Based on the area in which Roxelana was captured, she was most likely of the Lemko group.

If you're more interested check out this link! CARPATHO RUSYN ORG - LEMKOS

You may also be interested in this achieved month"

SEX TRAFFICKING : MORE PEOPLE ARE SEX TRAFFICKED TODAY THEN THERE WERE EVER AFRICAN SLAVES IN AMERICA  in April 2021

Missy

Saturday, August 20, 2022

THE WIDOWER SULEYMAN THE MAGNIFICENT

Roxelana, Princess Hurrem, born Aleksandra Lisovska about 1515, died in the spring of 1558. She had chronic health conditions but it might have been malaria or another disease that swept through the Old Palace. Suleyman outlived her by about eight years and was near 90 years old when he died in Southern Hungary.  He had managed to survive many military campaigns and the deaths of children, for a few years after she died, another son was executed. He was reportedly in great grief over his wife's death, for they had been a married couple since 1535 and their relationship had gone on for years before that.

Something I was struck by while reading Empress of the East was how gender roles were so restricted and, by my way of thinking, were extreme. This was a world in which for women mothering was the ultimate expectation for which a woman could derive glory, but usually only through her hyper masculine sons and their importance, and men sought to achieve power through battle and a competitiveness that meant that they would have their own son's executed if they tried to usurp them. 

"So many slain princess led to rule of automatic succession of the oldest living dynast" and that continued until 1922. (Page 314)

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Empress of the East by Leslie Pierce is the reference for this post.

Wednesday, August 17, 2022

MIHRUMAH, THE DAUGHTER OF PRINCESS HURREM and SULEYMAN IS MARRIED OFF

Because Roxelana managed to marry Sultan Suleyman the Magnificent, against all odds, as Princess Hurrem she did well by her daughter as well, who was also now eligible to marry.

The rules for a Moslem woman who was not enslaved for marriage in the Islamic Caliphate were that if she was a virgin, and of course that was expected, she could refuse any proposal of marriage. She could also divorce. However, I do think there was pressure on these women to accept the matchmaking that was done on their behalf and to remain married, just as there is today.  Mihrumah was married at seventeen to a man of Croatian origin, Rustem, who was a statesman in Istanbul.  I find it interesting that this man also came from a culture that was mostly Christian, but do not know if he was Christian or Moslem.  A little more research revealed that there were people of other religions such as Christians and Jews in the Ottoman Empire  He was twice her age. (Page 207)

Roxelana as Princess Hurrem also rose to the responsibility and authority of matchmaking slave women. Interestingly, they were allowed to marry and a good Moslem was to free a slave after seven years of service.  A newly freed woman was also allowed to have her own slaves. Not to defend slavery, but this seems a bit like 16th century internships!

Another surprise I found in Leslie Pierce's book was that eunuchs were allowed to marry and also could reproduce. I thought eunuchs were men who had been castrated and thus trusted to be around the harem without having sex with the women or interfering in this breeding program.  However a little more research revealed that the term could simply mean that these were trusted slaves who protected the women in their bedchambers.

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Empress of the East by Leslie Pierce is the reference for this post.