Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Monday, November 28, 2016

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Sleep

"I need my sleep.  If it means changing my lifestyle to get enough deep and restful sleep I'll do it."


Sleep deprivation hurts your health.  It hurts your life.  And it's extremely common.  Many of us run on empty and end up ill.  You need your zzzz's to cope with stress but when stress wins it can keep you up.  How many hours of sleep are you getting?  How many hours do you need?  Some can function on 6, others need 9.  Meditation or other forms of deep relaxation may help you cope and actually lessen the hours you need to sleep. Go to bed earlier or get up later. Try for just one more hour.

Could it be that you're exposed to too much light?  (Your body needs the darkness to make natural melatonin.)


Could it be that you watch films or listen to news or read things that are upsetting?



Are the problems you face in life keeping you up?  Is it possible that you can sleep, giving them up till morning when they will still be there?


Try to find ways to deal with sleep deprivation without resorting to pills!



Friday, November 25, 2016

BLACK FRIDAY : GOING BACK TO SLEEP BUT YOU MIGHT WANT TO BUY SOMETHING FOR YOUR LOVE!

Stats have shown that American's penchant for using today, the day after THANKSGIVING, in which we give thanks for all we have, for shopping, to ACQUIRE MORE to be THANKFUL FOR, has eroded a bit in favor of Internet purchasing from the safety of one's own home. 
 
Me, I'm happy to be able to get up, walk my dog, and then go back to bed.  I've never loved crowds, am not inspired to buy while competing with others for stuff, loath standing in long lines to check out, and hate trying to drive backed up in traffic or waste time trying to get a parking space. 

I really do like the sensual experience of shopping... the seeing, touching, smelling, hearing, thinking, and fantasizing involved. I like to know that people are employed in retail stores. While "Big Box" stores and employees who are more concerned with warehousing than customer service are no fun,  I love being waited on by someone who takes pride in their appearance, their product knowledge, and their service.  Almost gone are the days in which SHOP KEEPING was an honored profession, but even when I'm being careful with my spending, I manage to find small boutiques and other unique places to buy that prove that retail is not dead.

May I suggest to you, one of my favorite places to buy gifts are MUSEUM SHOPS.  In my city there are plentiful museums and plentiful shops and I go to exhibits often, so I always go to the shop and see what they've got. Museum shop buyers seem to have an eye for things you don't see in other stores and though sometimes their purchases are thematic, sometimes they are not.  For instance, I've found beautiful rare scented soaps in arboretum shops and an umbrella with Monet's gardens as a fabric in a shop associated with a science center.  One local museum makes ecologically correct big beach bags from the banners that are hung from poles on the streets. They all seem to have some unique designed and hand made jewelry items.  But if you can't get to a museum shop in person, consider ordering from the ones that have catalogues for well made good costume jewelry and scarves.  It's a bit exciting to get a package from New York when you live in Los Angeles, or visa versa.

Missy












Saturday, November 19, 2016

ELIZABETH RAY in "GIRLS OF WASHINGTON ARTICLE" - PLAYBOY MAGAZINE - 1976


What's a Woman to Do after scandal? 
 Posing for Playboy Magazine
was one attempt that
Elizabeth Ray
made to redirect her career
which had included being crowned
Miss Virginia
in 1975.
 
picture from ebay auction
 
THE GIRLS OF WASHINGTON September 1976
Playboy issue also included an article on Watergate and the CIA
 
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I've often heard that posing nude for Playboy is good for a woman's career but I don't think so overall.  Recently Playboy stopped having nude centerfolds and features after realizing that the Internet porn dominates the market, and is closer to what writers and readers often said, that it's the authorship and the articles that's the real draw...

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

ELIZABETH L. RAY INTERVIEW IN LONDON on her BOOK TOUR and



I'm impressed at how well spoken Elizabeth L. Ray was and I think the interviewer had an agenda to shame her.

About the video:

Published on Jul 24, 2015 on YouTube
(Give the video a moment to go to audio.  Go to YouTube if you want the full transcript.)

From YouTube site:

Interview in London with Elizabeth Ray who claims she was placed on the Congressional payroll by an American Congressman in return for being his mistress

"United States Congressman Wayne Hays, aged 65, was taken to hospital on Thursday (June 10) in a coma, suffering from an apparent overdose of tranquillizer pills, following the start of investigations into a Washington sex scandal.  (Missy: In the Interview she says this is a ridiculous idea.)

Miss Ray arrived in London on Friday (June 11) on a visit; a book by her was published this week, and written in a novel form with fictional names, it describes love affairs between herself and a number of congressmen and senators, including a congressman who closely resembles Hays."

She was interviewed on her arrival in London by Trevor MacDonald for upitn.

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Go to the video on YouTube to read the full text.

"American representative Wayne Hays announced on Thursday (June 3) he will resign one of his two congressional chairmanships following his implication in a sex scandal with a staff secretary.

Miss Elizabeth Ray charged that hays put her on the administration committee payroll at 14,000 dollars a year to serve as his mistress. hays admitted to the long affair, but denied he hired her for that purpose.

Thursday, November 3, 2016

ELIZABETH L. RAY : MISTRESS OF REPRESENTATIVE WAYNE L. HAYS : "I CAN'T TYPE. I CAN'T FILE. I CAN'T EVEN ANSWER THE PHONE"




BETTY LOU "ELIZABETH" RAY
Born 1943

"I can't type, I can't file, I can't even answer the phone."


Elizabeth Ray reminds me of something a senior citizen once told me, which was, "most of us keep failing." 

At first thought this sounded negative, until I realized that to keep failing, you must keep trying

Elizabeth Ray certainly did that.  Her route to scandal included work as a stewardess, a waitress, a car rental clerk, and the winner of a beauty pageant in which she became Miss Virginia of 1975.  Her employment on "the Hill" in Washington, DC, began in 1972 when she was 27.  Eventually she became Representative Wayne Hay's secretary, a job she held for 2 years.  When she was later quoted about her complete lack of secretarial skills, fuel was added to the fire. Elizabeth was possibly closer to a sex slave on payroll, if you believe that she sat for hours in an out of the way office, alone and awaiting visits from Hays for sex. That she sat there may indicate that she either took the job seriously or didn't mind too much. It's easy to think "She must have been brainless if she wasn't bored."  But you know, maybe she was using her wait time well, like maybe she was writing her book. A year after she won Miss Virginia she was in the news, as was Hays, for a political sex scandal, one that couldn't be beat, though there have been many, until Monica Lewinsky and President William J. Clinton.

According to the Washington Post article linked below, it's as if Elizabeth had assumed entertainment duties in the political arena prior to Hays.  "During a year and a half working as a clerk on the staff of former Rep. Kenneth J. Gray (D-Ill.), Ray says she was frequently given days off to prepare for evenings spent on a date with Gray or favored constituents. She says she often entertained Gray's male friends aboard Gray's houseboat, docked on the Potomac."

After the sex scandal, unemployed but striving, Elizabeth tried to get an acting career going and was part of a feature in Playboy Magazine.  Often referred to as "a bouncy blonde," considered to be Fun, in videos that I'll be running this month from YouTube, I'm pleased to hear her voice and to realize that she was a well spoken young woman. I begin to wonder if she was just typified as a dumb and as the woman was blamed, or if she herself used that stereotype to get the publicity needed in those days before blogs, social networking, and Twitter, to get the buzz going. 

Wayne Hays was an older man, married for over 35 years, a Representative in the House, a Democrat from Ohio, who was both respected and feared, and not known to have the most pleasing personality.  He was, some thought, a mean man.  (Well, everyone can't be pleasing or sparking!)



picture is from the Zimbio article linked below

Wayne L. Hays got divorced and remarried in 1976 but not to Elizabeth Ray.  He was also forced to resign from office at age 65.  You could say he had a crisis but was near retirement age anyway.  His second wife, who had been on his staff, remained with him for life.  Elizabeth got a book deal that included a promotional tour.


Button found on Hakes Collectables site/ and Google Images.
A Promo Button used by Dell Publishing
to promote Elizabeth's novel, a fictive book.


Elizabeth Ray's roots are that of the fatherless child.  Her father, a traveling Western musician, died when she was a toddler, and her mother left her to be raised by a grandma in the Ashville, North Carolina Bible Belt, for good, not reclaiming her after another marriage.  Grandma was shocked at what her good Christian girl granddaughter had gotten herself into. Growing up, the stunning Elizabeth was known as Betty Lou.  She prayed and carried a Bible with her.  Was Elizabeth in need of a father figure as a lover?

I'm not sure where she is now or what she's doing though I did try to find out.  My research pointed to some possibilities but I was unable to verify that these candidates for our Elizabeth Ray were actually the same woman!  Let's just say that there is no reason to believe that anyone, simply because they were born a woman, can or should type, file, or answer the phone, or be a secretary, as the end all of their ambitions.  But I wouldn't be surprised if Ray had many skills and talents beyond beauty or sex and wouldn't be surprised if she's used these skills and talents to support herself.

When common ordinary folk, such as the people in Ohio that Hays represented, or the people Betty Lou left behind in North Carolina, and the people of the United States, first heard of the set up between Elizabeth and the politician, they were more outraged that he had used the TAXPAYERS MONEY TO FUND A MISTRESS, instead of his own money, o have one.  They were outraged that he wasn't, like them, a faithful and loyal husband, at least not anymore.  If he had used his own money and kept it between him and his wife,  that he had a mistress would've been his private business.



Missy

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If interested in Political Mistresses,  you may want to use the Google Search feature or my archives to locate posts on previous Political Mistresses of the Month including...

Karin Stanford, College Professor, and Jesse Jackson - May 2011
Madeleine Duncan Brown, Mistress of Lyndon Baines Johnson - December 2011 
Monica Lewinsky and President Bill Clinton - March 2012
Rielle Hunter and Politician John Edwards - June 2012
Carrie Phillips and President Warren Harding - November 2012

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Research on ELIZABETH RAY for this months feature article on her includes:

WASHINGTON POST - SCANDAL ELIZABETH RAY by  By Marion Clark and Rudy Maxa
Washington Post Staff Writers


ZIMBIO - WAYNE HAYS : AMERICANS 50 MOST SCANDALOUS

NEW YORK TIMES - OBITUARY WAYNE HAYS FEB 10 1989 DEATH - SECOND WIFE AT SIDE

PEOPLE MAGAZINE ARCHIVES - SHE WAS BETTY LOU IN ASHVILLE