Showing posts with label Orthodox Jewish. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Orthodox Jewish. Show all posts

Monday, December 14, 2020

MAKE ME A MATCH : MISTRESS MANIFESTO FILM REVIEW



Like the film Arranged, which is fictive but focuses on American a  Jewish woman, this film is set in Israel. And the matchmaker in this film says all the matches actually come from God, so long as the parties are open and not standing in His (or her) way.  One woman who is divorced and with children says she is considered too picky and uncompromising.  (This accusation is usually targeted at the women in both films.  We are expected to modify our lives to suit others.)

I was interested in these people who are modern and living in Israel. 

And in this case an American (apparently there is a whole expat community of American Jews in Israel who live there without their families) man is also profiled.  He mentions that no physical contact with women is aloud, and well, the question is, what of celibacy? This man has the misfortune in that he owns a comedy club and that's his living so what woman wants that?

Would you PRAY for a husband or wife?

What does this pretty divorced woman want out of a man anyway.

There's pressure to have Jewish children, especially because of the Holocaust. And so a Jewish man needs a Jewish wife.

It was cringeworthy to hear her advised that a woman like her, older, divorced, needs to GRAB A MAN WHEN HIS WIFE DIES.  The matchmaker mentions various women who married such a man before a year after the wife's death was up.  (Was I mistaken in thinking that a year of mourning was important in the Jewish faith?)

This is not in the film but it is an opinion of mine.  Mistresses who are Not Jewish be aware that sometimes a Jewish man will only marry a Jewish woman.  If you're involved with a Jewish man, even in the United States, and want to be married, find out what his true intention is.

Missy

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Sunday, December 13, 2020

ARRANGED : MISTRESS MANIFESTO FILM REVIEW

Arranged VideoCover.png This is a fictive film, but it was realistic, and is about an unlikely friendship between two young teachers, one an Orthodox Jewish woman and the other from a Muslim family.  Both women insisted on education and a job before an arranged marriage.  The principal of their school is a modern woman who wants them to choose to be modern too and it's especially difficult because the multi-ethnic and racial students are being encouraged to be open and accepting of each other's differences.  The Muslim woman's family seems far more modern and are personally arranging for her to meet men.  She also manages to help her Orthodox Jewish friend's matchmaker find the perfect match for her friend.

The pressure upon the Jewish Orthodox woman to marry just about anyone by her parents and the Matchmaker are cringeworthy.  Anyone who has ever gone on an arranged blind date with Mr. or Ms. Wrong can relate.

It occurs to me as I watch this film and the other's I'm review this month that today's women are right to want their independence and choose who they wish to marry or not marry.  However, it seems to me that some parents have offered no guidance at all and that women sometimes are ignorant of what's important to them personally.

As well, royalty and aristocracy has continued to arrange marriage, or at least make it clear what expectations are and see to it that their children only meet others of their set, class, or caste, so that they will "fall in love" with someone likely to be approved of.  Today Western women often have affairs or relationships before marriage and, as we know, some continue to do so, as do their husbands, after marriage.

 Perhaps in the case of the Orthodox Jewish woman or a Muslim woman, it's assumed that the companionable couple will find love or learn to love their husband, especially because they will have children together. Are these marriages Mistress-Proof, unlike the unhappy arranged couplings of royals and aristocrats?  I have no way of knowing.

But I think their lives are so controlled that they probably don't dare because their families as well as their communities are involved.

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