COMING UP : SHE SAYS THAT HER TIME IN PRISON...

gave her empathy for birds kept in cages. Not commonly thought of as a Mistress because she has another reputation that is known world wide, but she was, this woman has had an unusual life and, in my opinion, has yet to meet anyone that could be called "Mr. Right."

SUGAR DADDY NOT JUST ABOUT SEX

NY POST: SUGAR DADDY RELATIONSHIP NOT JUST ABOUT SEX by Hannah Frishberg
What a fascinating article.  Be sure to go to the link and read the whole thing.

Excerpts:  Research now finds there are actually seven types of sugar daddy-baby relationships, from the purely sex for money types to the totally platonic.  The study,published last month in the journal Sociological Perspectives, interviewed 48 current and former US sugar babies found through Craigslist, Backpage, and at the 2016 annual Sugar Baby Summit in LA.  ...


DO YOU HAVE A SUGAR FRIENDSHIP?

WHO'S WHO?

HETEROSEXUAL MEN! HOW MANY WIVES CAN YOU AFFORD? (AT ONE TIME!)

In some cultures the number of wives a man can have is about how many he can afford to support.

These days some men avoid marriage because they cannot afford a wife at all.

Sure, most women are working and some have careers and make more money than the men they have intimate relationships with, but while there is progress, it's still a man's world.  

So men, HOW MANY WIVES CAN YOU AFFORD?  
(Zero is an answer.)

LET'S NOT HAVE SEX

METROSEXUAL? OR ARE YOU A GAY MAN WHO LIKES TO LOOK STRAIGHT?

A Meterosexual to me, is a man who you would think is Gay because of the way he does his hair (and maybe his makeup), his clothes, his shoes.  He's immaculate and a woman might feel she would have to match his obsession with looks and fashion to be of interest to him. He might, for instance, carry a bag that's not a backpack or a briefcase just like some gay men do but he's STRAIGHT!  (Or so he says.)  More officially, you might want to look at the site "It's pronounced metro-sexual" for a longer list of sexuality definitions...

IT'S PRONOUNCED METROSEXUAL : LGBTQ TERMS

EXCERPT:  MSM/WSW abbr: men who have sex with men or women who have sex with women, to distinguish sexual behaviors from sexual identities:" because a man is straight, it doesn't mean he.s not having sex with men.  Often used in the fiend of HIV/Aids education, prevention, and treatment.

(Is that clinical or am I more confused?)

HEART TO HEART

HUMAN RIGHTS WATCH on SEXUALITY by COUNTRY

HUMAN RIGHTS WATCH ORG : INTERACTIVE on SEXUALITY by COUNTRY

Here in the United States people have rights that people in other countries only dream of.  Here is a report which HRW will keep updating, about the countries where sexuality other than heterosexuality is against the law and where people experience harassment and discrimination far more than most do here.

LOVE LOVE LOVE

Maybe you have a special someone and maybe you have a few. Maybe you don't have any ONE at all.

But that doesn't mean you can't love.

Human experience allows us to love in so many different ways.

We can, for instance, love humanity. 

We can choose to be loving as personality, as character, as religion, even as science.

ARE YOU BY ANY CHANCE A SAPIOSEXUAL?

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: SAPIOSEXUALITY - by Diana Raab, PHD

Missy here!  I find this article to be so very interesting as the author attempts to define herself as someone who falls for the intellect of another person.

EXCERPTS:  Some people are attracted to physical appearance, others to status or an individual's personality, whether it is charismatic, friendly, kind, thoughtful, or even brilliant. ... Those who admit to being sapiosexual will say that they are turned on by the brain, and tend to be teased or excited by the insights or another person.  This means the person whom you are attracted to might have a tendency to have an incisive, inquisitive, or irreverent mind.  As foreplay, the sapiosexual person may crave philosophical, political, or psychological discussions, because this turns them on ... Sometimes, sapiosexual individuals have also been called "nymphobrainiacs." or individuals who find it arrousing to engage with the intellectual perspective of another person. ... Librarians, teachers, professors, and others associated with learning institutions are often targets of saposexual persons.

FOR ME?

THE RESULTS OF A SEXUAL IDENTITY POLL? HUMAN EXPERIENCE IS INFINITE!

NEW YORK TIMES INTERACTIVE : POLL ON SEXUAL IDENTITY

The label you choose may also be about your GENERATION.  This site has terms categorized by BABY BOOMER,  GENERATION X,  MILLENNIALS, and GENERATION Z.

This site also has some information on non conforming gender or sexuality and suicide.  The more support we give young people who are in a stage of self discovery the better.

EXCERPT: At the same time, some gender nonbinary people say the term "bisexual" excludes them, and instead prefer "pansexual" even as some transgender men and women say that term invalidates their gender identity.  And many question whether asexuals deserve to be included in a community of minorities that face legal discrimination and violence. 

HIM and HIM and HIM and HER and HER and HER

PLATONIC LOVE? ARE YOU IN A PLATONIC LOVE RELATIONSHIP?

SLATE: HUMAN INTEREST: ORIGINS OF PLATONIC LOVE  by Juliet Lapidos

EXCERPTS:  
The Florentine scholar Marsilo Ficino coined the term armor platonicus (Latin for "Platonic Love") in the 15th century.  He had in mind Plato's Symposium, in which Socrates describes a possible ascent from base desire to high-minded contemplation - a "ladder"? with love for a beautiful person at the bottom, and love of Beauty itself at the top.  (Step by step: Love of a beautiful body, love for all beautiful bodies, love for the beauty of laws, love for the beauty of knowledge, and the love of Beauty itself).  Fincini Christianized the concept, interpreting the final Beauty as a reference to God.  He further asserted that true lovers are drawn to each other's divine souls" The passion of a lover is not quenched by the mere touch or sight of a body," he wrote, "for it does not desire this or that body, but desires the splendor of the divine light shining through bodies, and is amazed and awed by it."

LOVE IS A FIVE LETTER WORD : VAN MORRISON

ARE YOU ALLOSEXUAL? or SKOLIOSEXUAL ? DEMIROMANTIC?

Indulge yourself in these labels and more at this site! .

REFINERY 29 page writte by KASANDRA BRABAW

To Paraphrase: An Allosexual is a person who DOES experience sexual attraction and is not "Asexual."  (To me this terms sounds to be about being attracted to ALL people...)

A Skoliosexual is a person who is PRIMARILY sexually, romantically, and /or aesthetically attracted to people who are "queer" or "transgender" or "non-binary!  (To me this term is unfortunate as it conjours up the skeletal problem of curvature of the spine!)

A Demiromantic is someone who does NOT experience ROMANTIC attraction until there is a strong emotional or sexual bond with a partner. (I want another term for this as Demiromantic sounds like "half romantic" but by my way of thinking, this means no emotional attachment no sex. case first comes emotions and/or sex, then romantic feelings.)

MALE FEMALE MASCULINE FEMININE HETEROSEXUAL HOMOSEXUAL BISEXUAL TRANSSEXUAL : MORE LABELS THAN EVER

This Valentine month here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot, I pause a bit from the more usual Mistress of the Month format to look at a special topic... gender and sexuality. 

Do you have a Valentine who isn't heterosexual?



There are more ways to label yourself - and others - than ever. You no longer have to be or choose male or female, heterosexual (straight) or homosexual (gay) or bisexual (excited by both male and female persons) or pansexual (whomever turns you on.) There are MANY labels to describe how you experience yourself in your body and what turns you on and one of those does not include the body.

In keeping my promise to myself and my readers, there won't be anything pornographic in my posts or links. Should I receive comments, I hope some of you will have some suggestions for Mistress of the Month (or Mantress of the Month, a term I came up with for Kept Men) who are in relationships less conventional that the Classic Mistress. Do you know of someone who is perhaps Transgender and being Kept?  (Send me links to books, articles, media...)

Is it possible that the reason Mistresses of the female heterosexual variety are the most known is because as women not fitting a traditional role they are the most scandalous?  Is this a sexist bias?

I want to help you explore these gender and sexuality possibilities because they open up the definition of Mistress; when I hear of a Woman Keeping a Man, which is rarely compared to a Man Keeping a Woman, it's almost always a heterosexual relationship and with that come notions such as traditional roles and "role reversals."  

I've known of Older Gay Men Keeping Much Younger Gay men but there seems not to be many publications on that topic. Is that because it's more common in the gay world and being gay is more scandalous than being Kept?

I find labels only useful when you're seeking one and then only temporarily. Labels can be like a diagnosis. People can be self limiting using labels because once you declare yourself, you're still dealing with other people's expectations and stereotypes. So is claiming to be Pansexual a best option?

An example of how labeling can hurt your psychology? I was introduced to a friend's boyfriend and instead of saying his name and what he does for a living, he said "I'm HIV."  Not I have HIV but AM!  This diagnosis was no doubt life-changing for the man, but he was and is so much more!  OK, those two declared themselves gay long before they were involved with each other.  

I never knew what to think of another couple because the more masculine person, genetically male, kept saying he was NOT gay though he was involved with another man who declared he WAS gay for years. Perhaps Bisexual might have been a more realistic assumption for him because he once had a girlfriend?  Does that leave the option open that before you die you might find a woman attractive?

I'm more of an advocate for your personal privacy about your sexuality than not at a time when people are confusing being Candid with being Honest and Honestly with Transparency and so many people have made themselves public figures in a desire to be popular or famous who aren't even celebrities. I still think it's none of the business of your employer, for instance, what you do sexually or with whom. It's not professional to be talking about your personal sexual adventures or the details of your relationships at work or in your profession.  (The time to mention your commitment to your boss is upon your engagement (if it's in the papers) or by invitation to your wedding when you might have to change insurance.  Until then, don't take anyone on a date to the office party!)  I guess I still think there are situations were Coming Out is not a good idea. After all, you might change your mind or have an experience you never thought you would.

To research for this month I encountered lots of information on the internet that I want to share with you.  I'll also try to have some fun with this topic and give my opinions.  After all, we can't always be serious.

Missy

PS:  As mentioned in Pages, Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot complies with the Google Public Blogger guidelines and there are no sexually graphic images or language here.  There are no ads attached at all as I have not approved any.

Please keep any COMMENTS to the level of college classroom discussion.  I ask a lot of questions in this post.  Perhaps you'll want to answer one of them!