POURPRE ANTIQUE

SHOULD YOU BE A MISTRESS? SOME THINGS ABOUT YOU TO CONSIDER

Thinking of getting, keeping, or leaving a man who maybe can't or won't commit to only you?  Or do you have what it takes to be a Mistress?

Here are some questions to ask yourself, things you should consider, before you decide!

1) Have you had much dating experience? 

Some women get all the way through grad school before they have a romance!  Others have had many lovers before they graduate high school.  Some are still getting married soon after they graduate though the age of first marriage in the United States has gone up over time.  A woman can feel burned out by dating or shy of it because of heartbreak. And it's true that it gets more difficult to meet "eligible" men the older one gets. That's because some men realize they're gay or decide to be celibate. Some men are not usually considered eligible - because they're married to someone else. Others burn out from dating and relationships just like women do.

Dating helps you not only get to know the other person but yourself too.  You should be testing yourself in a variety of social situations from casual to formal - the frat party and the opera!  What do you really like to do?  What are your interests?  Can you really be a liberal vegan and settle down with a conservative meat-eater?

Dating should be FUN too. It should not ONLY be about finding a husband, especially not if you aren't that interested in marriage.

My feeling is that a person shouldn't consider being Kept until they've had some relationships and also lived independently (self-supporting) for at least a year.

2) Have men treated you well generally?  Think about your father, your uncle, your brother, your priest, your teachers, your boss, boys in school, men at work...  Do you know what it is to be treated well?  Do you keep relationships going when you're not being treated well?

I believe all women including Mistresses must insist they be treated well.  (And a man ought to leave you if you are not treating him well.)

3) Does your upbringing, especially religious principles, make it impossible or difficult? ... to share a man, have sex without marriage, live with someone for longer than a year without the relationship becoming legal marriage, feel guilty or ashamed about sex, about not being married, about not dating?  

So many times I've met women who say they have done things they never thought they would.

4) Is it your GOAL to be a legally married woman, a happily married woman? If so are you doing something about meeting someone to marry or are you the more romantic, passive or fatalistic type who believes it will happen if it's supposed to?  

If you have a deep desire or need to be legally married, you need to reassess your relationship every few months and end any relationship that does not have that potential.  Listen to what a man says.  If he tells you he does not love you, that he is "fond," that he wants to be "friends" he isn't thinking marriage to you. He may stick around anyway if you're willing to have sex with him knowing he will not marry you. If he says things like "I will never get married," or "I don't believe in marriage," or "I will never get married again" or
"I need more time to think about it" (when you've been dating steadily for over a year) believe him and move on.  It hurts, but not as bad as it will if you hang in there going nowhere.

5) Do you enjoy your own company? Do you possess a rich inner life? Are you a person who always has a project or two of your own happening?  Or do you wait for someone else to create a social life for you or keep you busy?

As a Mistress you may have to have a life separate of him and it's up to you to have a life that is full. Some people love their independence and are good at going and doing things on their own, others loath that.

Missy

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FRIENDS OR MORE?

A SMATTERING OF BOOKS BY ANNE PINGEOT

LINK TO MUSEE D'ORSAY MUSEE d' ORSAY OFFICIAL SITE

IMAGINE THE SCENT

FOR ONE LOVE

FRANCOIS MITTERAND FUNERAL

GOING ON AS THREE

FRANCOIS MITTERAUND to ANNE PINGEOT ON DISCRETION

TELEGRAPH CO UK: MITTERANDS PASSION FOR SECRET MISTRESS by Henry Samuel

"There will always be a speech, an election or a congress in the air.  I have fatigue, daily worry.  If you love me, you must try and make me happy.  And to make me happy is to make yourself more discreet."

INTERVIEW WITH ANNE PINGEOT in FRENCH

FRANCE CULTURE: INTERVIEW OF ANNE PINGEOT - in French

The article is in French and can be translated with Google translator.
It is titled "Anne Pingeot Confides to the Historian Jean-Noel Jeanneney."
There is also an audio option to listen to part of the interview - in French.

EXCERPT:  During this free, confident, exciting, sometimes joyful and sometimes serious conversation, Anne Pingeot and Jean-Noel Jeanneney go through a half-century of a great love story from the first encounter until the death of Francois Mitterrand.  They talk about everything, with modesty but without taboo: love and politics, culture and friendships, secret and Republic.  It is about happiness, surprises, exceptional moments but also difficulties, sorrows, and doubts. 


 

THE FRENCH REACT TO THE CLINTON/LEWINSKY FLING - WHO CARES?

OVERALL the FRENCH ATTITUDE about the Monica Lewinsky and President William Jefferson Clinton affair was "Who cares?"

EXCERPT from the text under this AP (Associated Press) video:

But in France, people are showing a distinct lack of concern about the Clinton scandal - and some are even wondering why a leader might lose his office over a fling. Popular feeling seems to hover between bemusement and skepticism, with the dominant feeling being that politicians should be entitled to a private life. And the French certainly do not think that concerns over a president's private life should lead to drops in world stock markets. Far away from the hyperinterest in Washington over the latest developments in the Lewinsky scandal, French people are wondering what all the fuss is about. France acknowledged its own former president Francois Mitterrand's mistress with a shrug. And the French cannot understand how Clinton's affair with White House intern Monica Lewinsky can destabilize his presidency and affect world economies. ...

              

Missy here! I can say that I WISH Americans had the same attitude because if we did MONICA LEWINSKY would not have had (or have) such a horrible time. It was so dishonorable for President William Jefferson Clinton to allow her to take the blame. In March 2012 I entitled that month GET OFF THE BACK OF MONICA LEWINSKY - Why Not Blame President Bill Clinton?< which you can find in the archives here.

STILL

ART HISTORIAN ANNE PINGEOT MISTRESS OF FRENCH STATESMAN AND PRESIDENT FRANCOIS MAURICE MITTERRAND

One of the references for this month's posts, Philip Short's book on Mitterand, is well regarded.  Upcoming are links to articles about this book, YouTube videos, and information from general research on the internet.

Anne Pingeot: French Art Historian. A woman of personal accomplishment. Long time Mistress of an important man on the world stage.

She and their daughter came to Francois Mitterrand's State funeral, as did his wife of over 50 years and their children, and so a second family and long term Mistress who was known to his family, his inner circle, and the press (who had focused on his politics), became known to the world. Mitterand, not known for his warmth, was the the President of France for more years than any previous President - from 1981 to 1995. He lead a double life and was actually capable of great love and feeling.  His Mistress was so often on his mind, he wrote her letters, hundreds of them, and these letters were finally published and read with relish. Yet my feeling is that Anne is still an intriguing mystery, that there is and will long be more curiosity about her and their relationship than knowledge.  In search of information about Anne on YouTube, I found lots - but only in the French language.


Mitterand was born in 1916 and married his one and only wife, Danielle, in 1944. He died in 1996 from prostate cancer, which he had for years and also kept secret. It's said that keeping Mazarine Marie Pingeot, the daughter born in 1974 to Anne (when he had been married for 30 years), a secret, was the real reason behind some illegal wiretaps he ordered at one time. Mazarine appeared on the cover of  Paris Match (a bit like the old American Life magazine) a few months before he left office when she was twenty. So you could say that he chose to be discreet because he wanted privacy in his personal life, even with the attitude about affairs and Mistresses to be more liberal or open minded in France than in other cultures. Anne too is said to have loved her privacy.  But eventually, especially with a beautiful and intelligent daughter coming to age herself, their relationship had to come out.

Anne was 27 years younger than he. They met because her father and Mitterand both loved to golf.

According to the article that appeared on line from France 24 on 10/17/2016, a decade after his death (Which has a good photo of Anne and Mazarine at the funeral), and then 74 years old, Anne said that her parents were a couple generations behind the times when she was growing up in a farming region where the farmers were still using scythes. People were Catholic, Right-wing, and reactionary, She was 14 years old when her father brought around Mitterand who was only a year younger than him. Six years later they began an affair that lasted 33 years. Why was she speaking to the press after so many years of living so very privately? The book contains 1218 of them.

Though he had a wife and a Mistress, Mitterand also had affairs. Anne waited until Mitterand had been deceased for five years before she herself released the book of love letters, which you could say she curated, translating them as well for an English language edition.  As a French art historian, she specialized in sculptures done in the 1800's and was a curator at the Louvre, department of sculpture as well as st the Musee d'Orsay.  In her lifetime she has written a number of books on French sculpture.

According to an article in France 24, "But French respect for la vie privee (private life) is so sacrosanct that Pingeot's amazing story as the longtime mistress of France's first Socialist president in the Fifth Republic has been dismissed with a Gallic shrug. Powerful men, especially presidents, are almost expected to have mistresses, and Henry Kissinger's contention that "power is the ultimate aphrodisiac" is taken quite seriously in France...", 

Anne is still alive as I write this.

Let's start the New Year with our Mistress of the Month, Anne Pingeot!

Missy

 *(Mazarine changed her name to Mazarine Marie Mitterand Pingeot. She is the mother of three children with a now-ex partner. Very well educated and literary herself, Mazarine is said to have been named after a favorite bookstore of her very literary parents, has published some of her own books, and works as a philosophy professor. 

FRANCE 24 : LOVE LETTERS OF MITTERAND
FRANCE 24: MITTERAND MISTRESS BLAMES SILENCE ON UPBRINGING 

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THREE

COMING UP : A MISTRESS OF 30 YEARS UNTIL HIS DEATH WITH A PRESTIGIOUS CAREER OF HER OWN

In keeping within last month's theme of France and the French, this Mistress of the Month for January 2020 here at MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT, a woman of accomplishment, became known to the world after he died.  Then much was revealed.

             

Here's an article on the FRENCH ATTITUDE TOWARDS POLITICIAN's AFFAIRS 

MY FRENCH LIFE : SEXUAL AFFAIRS - FRANCE POLITICIANS by Ray Johnstone

EXCERPT:  Even more difficult for Anglo-Saxons to understand, the French are often even supportive of sexual dalliances.  In 2013, the respected Pew Research Centre found that 40% of the French believe it's not a moral issue - and 12% even believe extramarital affairs are quite acceptable.

When Monica Lewinsky revealed what happened with Bill Clinton in the Oval Office, America's media frothed at their collective mouths....