IS THERE ANY CHANCE THAT A POOR GIRL CAN MARRY A RICH MAN REALLY?

Dear Missy,
Reading your blog, I feel it's like the girls growing up poor can think about becoming mistresses but can't actually marry a rich man.  The rich men want women who have their own money to marry, right?  Is there any hope for us poor girls?

Cindy

Dear Cindy,
Yes.  Of Course!
But consider that...
A poor girl can be beautiful without trying to be but she may need help choosing the right clothes, cosmetics and hair style.  She can be very intelligent but needs education to become well rounded and an expert at something.  She can be sweet, kind, a nice person, but she needs to develop her understanding of etiquette and manners.  She may have a better chance today than ever before to make it into the moneyed classes without prejudice.  Often she has to start over in a new or bigger city to begin.  Small towns don't seem to offer much opportunity.
It's better to do these things for yourself, have your own individuality and work you are good at and enjoy, before you meet a man, or else you might find yourself with one who dictates to you, who creates a woman as he wants her to be. Some women consider such a man to be a control freak and they grow up and rebel by escaping him.

Also, you do not have to become someone's mistress or someone's wife or be in a relationship at all if you have made choices for yourself to become independent.  I will stop short at saying that everything is choice because that isn't true and never was.  It's a good idea to know where you'd like to go though.
Remember that very few are born into wealth or live on inherited wealth their entire lives.
Missy