DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Martyrdom

"I won't become a martyr to keep my relationship." 

Some people think that mistresses are especially martyrs for their relationships, but of course that isn't true. Many people, including wives, keep their marriages by being martyrs too. These relationships are unhealthy because take too much self sacrifice as a term and condition of the relationship.

I'm not talking about the fact that long-term commitments often do take some self sacrifice or compromise of both partners - or all concerned - through certain times - but that at no time will the Martyr's wants and needs be considered.

You have to ask yourself if your station in life - the station you were born in, the station you achieved through education, employment, or other means, is better or worse than you station now. Don't have delusions of grandeur. Would you be better off independent or any relationship? In a traditional marriage?

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