Tuesday, January 31, 2017

JULIAN ASSANGE and RAPE - WHY IT'S RAPE and WHY IT's WRONG ; OPINION by MISSY

I've been reading around the controversies surrounding Julian Assange, who started WikiLeaks, the full transparency organization that believes any form of censorship is wrong, and who has been, as of mid December 2016, when I'm writing this, "holed up" in the Ecuadorian Embassy in London, England, for years now. 

After much legal wrangling, which involves the country of Sweden, where Assange has been accused of Rape, in November 2016 it was finally agreed that Sweden could question him at the embassy, rather than Assange leave there and go to Sweden to face legal issues.  So Sweden did, and apparently got a DNA sample too.

Assange claims he is not concerned with the Rape charges but cannot walk free because Great Britain will arrest him and before you know it, he'll be charged with crimes against the United States of America.  I think he has every reason to believe this is true.  He is not being detained in the embassy by Ecuador, and yet, he risks walking out that door.

Some think of him as a hero, man who is letting the citizens of the world know the truth providing a searchable database that probably no one person has ever read word for word.  His organization thinks of themselves as Journalists, while even Journalists have more discretion.

Because so much else has been going on, such as the U.S. Presidential election, which Wikileaks may have influenced against candidate Hillary Clinton, I feel that the charges of Rape that are partially responsible for Assange's stay at the Embassy, have been almost ignored for some time.

Now, I do not know that Assange committed Rape.  But I realize that the definition of Rape is confusing in this situation.

When people hear the word "Rape," they almost always imagine some form of physical violence, and some women who are raped experience being abducted, beaten, tied up, and violated in more than one way, sometimes with objects other than a man's anatomy.  Since the woman does not want to have sex, does not wish to be in pain, all this Power Over makes it clear that she has been badly disrespected and used, if not tormented. A woman who escapes from such a scene is often psychologically intimidated and suffers for years beyond any physical healing she might do. She may be turned off sex, have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, be deeply Depressed. 

If she is brave though devastated, she makes it to an emergency room where she goes through an exam that can be difficult, her internal and external injuries documented, and she experiences the choice of also trying to put her rapist in prison where he belongs in legal courts that often assume that women are "asking for it" or cannot be raped by husbands, boyfriends, or dates, especially if they ever did have consensual "YES" sex with the person before.  A woman experiences being devalued just for being in a female body.  She experiences being treated as though she were not a person who should have a CHOICE to have sex, not just once, but EACH and EVERY TIME someone wants to have sex with her, even if she is in a committed relationship..

Contrast that with the form of Rape that Julian Assange was accused of.  There was first consensual sex, so what's being discussed is the second time. The woman fell asleep and woke to find him trying to have sex with her, and without protection, that is the claim. A woman who is sleeping is not conscious to give permission. IS SWEDISH LAW overprotecting women?  Is the law just craziness?

If a woman has not awoken to say yes to sex, there is a possibility that she could become pregnant, or infected with a VD.  She could face the rest of her life with an unplanned for, unwanted child, having the hard choice or putting a child up for adoption, or the hard choice of abortion, and further, her chances at finding another man, maybe a man to love her who can accept all this, might not be so good. Perhaps a lover who can accept a woman who has herpes, HIV-AIDS, or is infertile through an STD, is out there, for her.  Maybe someone who doesn't mind that she's got another man's child to support or has had an abortion. Yes, I know that some people find love despite everything.  However, it's not uncommon for such women to find themselves considered damaged by other men.

What kind of man would, sneakily, put a woman at risk for all this?

When a woman is high or drunk, she may get sloppy about giving permission for a man to enter her body, may forget to ask or tell him to use protection, and if he is high or drunk, he might want to skip it or forget.  The world is full of accidental children conceived like that. When a woman is SLEEPING, she is in no condition to give permission, to even hear the question being asked.  She is not on a substance. She's just naturally doing what our bodies do when they need rest, sleeping, and she is NOT COGNITIVE.  SHE CANNOT GIVE HER PERMISSION.  Neither can, sad to say, women of limited intelligence; that they are taken advantage of sexually and raped more so than women who have a higher intelligence I have no doubt.  One of my friend's sister who is of low intelligence was gang raped.  A neighbor's sister was put on the Pill by her parents, because they are afraid she will be raped.

Men, overall, seem to need an education about this.  I've overheard men say things to each other like, "I get all the women I want, I don't have to Rape."  So perhaps some men think that Rapists are desperate men, but while they may be that true (and yes, I do know that Rape can be homosexual, lesbian, or a woman raping a man, but I'm keeping to the heterosexual because Assange is) there is so much else going on.  Rape is extremely inappropriate behavior.  It's criminal behavior.  And often there's out of control anger involved.  The rapist may be a psycho.

If you are a woman reading this, please educated the men around you on this issue such as your brother and platonic male friends, as well as, before you have sex with him the first time, a man you want to have sex with.  Let him know that sneaky sex, without permission, without protection, without that YES, is not OK, not ever.  It may not be the same as strong arming, clearly violent Rape, but it is still Rape.

Missy

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Saturday, January 28, 2017

BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN THERE IS USUALLY A WOMAN - A BOOK ABOUT THE WIVES!

 
The Forgotten Women Behind the World's Famous and Infamous
C 2015 Marlene Wagman-Geller
Source Books
 
See that picture of Pamela Courson on the top left?  Since Pamela is a woman whose name draws many hits to MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT, I got this book, and no, I was unable to identify any of the other women on the book cover. 
 
Given short and sweet chapters, in writing that is fast, sometimes humerous, and to the point, are Mrs. Karl Marx, Mrs. Richard Wagner, Mrs. Oscar Wilde, Mrs. Mohandas Gandi, the two Mrs. Albert Einstein's,  Mrs. Alfred Hitchcock, Mrs. Simon Wiesenthal, and many more.  Of course, as I was reading I was seeking out the wives who were once mistresses or the mistresses the wives knew about or competed with or lost a man to, or the mistresses who  were simply also behind the famous man.  I also wanted to know who knew their husband was bisexual or gay.  Can't say I found out. 
 
But as for Pamela Courson, a woman who called herself rockstar-poet Jim Morrison's wife, this book doesn't mention she ever had any serious competition for the title, apparently ignoring the fact, while reiterating the short adventure of Pamela Miller, groupie, who did an underwear exposing backflip in the living room at Morrison's Laurel Canyon digs; that was competitive.  On Page 282 we learn ," Pamela (Courson) proved Morrison's match for crazy antics; in flirtation with death.  She drove without headlights on Mulholland Drive's windy road.  His specialty was hanging from hotel balconies...." 
 
As for Mrs. Bernie Madoff, Ruth Alpern, on page 211 we learn "There was no empathy for the fallen Caesar or his wife...Too humiliated to face the frenzy of victims outside the courthouse, which Madoff entered wearing a bulletproof vest, Ruth did not attend her husband's trial..."

Someone had to write a book about the behind-the -cene wives who had their husband's backs, and author Marlene Wagman-Geller did a great job of it.



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HERE'S A LITTLE UPDATE.  I heard from the author of this book Marlene Wagman-Geller and she has published another book!  (And was nice enough to suggest I publish one on mistresses!)   Here is the link to her official web site where you can learn more about her and indulge yourself !MARLENE WAGMAN GELLER OFFICIAL 
 
 

Sunday, January 22, 2017

MADOFFS OTHER SECRET : BERNIE and SHERYL FINALLY CONSUMATE THEIR RELATIONSHIP!

Missy here!  Besides holding off from having actual sex with Bernie for years, Sheryl seems to think that being resistant is exciting and giving them time for real intimacy.  After a first kiss in 1993, they "Stopped pretending they were not together" when they were out together.  (Chapter 8  595-596)  Here are important excerpts from the book "Madoff's Other Secret" and some editorial commentary from me!

But (OK, we have to believe her), despite all the lunches, dinners, flirtations, his advances, and the fact that they have been touchy feely with each other, until this point Sheryl did not think they'd yet been on an official date(Chapter 8 611)  But finally, she did put on some sexy undies beneath her suit and meet him in a hotel room where sex was "like a dance, slow and sensual, and appropriate." (Chapter 9 618-620)


Experiencing, "reawakened sexuality", she says, "Being with him was not about sex; it was about making my first real adult connection."  (Chapter 9  625=626)


By September 1993, they still had not done it, and she felt conflicted about being unfaithful to her husband despite years of verbal and emotional abuse.  (Some of her friends said it was better than being single... I could not agree less!)  Bernie Madoff had made her feel "Wanted" and "Desired."  (Chapter 10  669-670)


Finally, when they were both in Washington D.C., they had a candlelight dinner and with a couple rooms reserved upstairs, met in one of them and did.  Sheryl felt she had taken the lead.  He was the third lover she had ever had.  (Chapter 10 685-686)


If you want sexual details, you'll have to read the book for yourself.  They're there.


From then on, Sheryl and Bernie always met at the New York Hilton, where he confessed that he cared about her.  He did not say the word love. "I mean emotionally, you're going to kill me.  I care about  you too much."  Now Bernie or his secretary no longer made the reservations.  Sheryl did, and allowed him to reimburse her, though sometimes she didn't insist on all the money.  (Chapter 11,  772, 777-778 and Chapter 12  833-834)


She was 44.  He was 55. Waiting for him in hotel rooms she sometimes drank vodka and smoked pot to relax.  They would spend New Years Eve with their respective spouses.


* All excerpts here are from the e-book read with Overdrive.


Sheryl Weinstein and Bernie Madoff would continue their relationship for some time and remain friendly until the financial scandal erupted.  Despite other people on the Hadassah board questioning the amazing returns on their investments that funded many Jewish-oriented charities, and newspaper articles reporting on questions and investigations, Madoff and those cooperative with him were not actually figured out or caught for some time.

Friday, January 20, 2017

SWEARING IN OF PRESIDENT DONALD TRUMP

 from freevintageillustrations.com

Here is hoping that the festivities surrounding the swearing in of this American President are lively:
I think people refusing to entertain are disrespecting the OFFICE OF PRESIDENCY
and our American processes of government,
 and fashion designers refusing to dress gorgeous First Lady Melania Trump are being ridiculous! 

This may not have been MY candidate, but this is MY country, and I think we must
give them both a chance before being so sure of what will happen.

How is that for optimism?

(Now President Trump,
my readers are wondering if you will give me reason to dedicate a month to you
 and any mistress you may have had or do have or will have, while in the White House!)





Thursday, January 12, 2017

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Saying No to the "Just OK" Relationship

"All relationships that endure have ups and downs but I need to ask myself if I'm settling for a Just OK Relationship.  Don't I deserve more?  Doesn't he?"


All my women friends have.  I have.  We've settled for the Just OK relationship at some point, even to just be in a relationship and not alone.  If you've been through relationships that had high highs and low lows before the "Just OK" relationship, at first you are grateful for the stability.


Some people get to their late twenties, figure that they ought to get married soon, settle for the "Just OK" relationship, after all isn't "Everybody"?  Haven't you been told by some older, wiser person (maybe mom or dad) that "Everybody Settles"?  Haven't you heard that you can't expect to get everything you want?


Well, I'll admit I can't come up with statistics (and tend to doubt the ones I come across anyway) but it seems to me that "Just OK' turns into "Bored Out Of Your Mind."  The person who never seems to spark you never gets more interesting.  Damn, you can't really find anything wrong with them, really,  like you could some others, but on the other hand, something doesn't seem so right.


If you're in a "Just OK" relationship, you bump along. Years go by.  What's new?  Not much.


It is my suspicion that many people who want to stay married while having affairs, do so because their marriage is "Just OK."

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

MADOFF's OTHER SECRET : HOW THE RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPED

Sheryl Weinstein and Bernie Madoff met in 1988 when she was CFO of Hadassah, working out of New York City.  Not long after they met, they started to have lunches together and having frequent phone conversations.  (Chapter two 133-134)




She knew he was attracted to her right away.  She found him interesting.  Although, quote, " It took two or three months for me to realize that Bernie was primarily interested in talking about himself.  He was a total narcissist, completely self absorbed... He was a bit of a name dropper... (His financial competitors, the people he knew on charitable boards.)  (Chapter two 220-222) 
"Our conversations rarely centered on our spouses.  Bernie never told me he was unhappily married...  He indicated that at times he could be brazen and abrupt with Ruth.  He admitted that on occasion he could even bring her to tears.  (Chapter two  227-228-229)




"Summer was nearly over when Bernie invited me to lunch at the Four Seasons.  As usual, he arrived before I did and got a prime table in the Grill Room.  I was nervous, and the butterflies in my stomach made me queasy.  My outfit was perfect.  I made a habit of looking my best when I saw Bernie and this day was no exception... As soon as he saw me, Bernie rose from the table, took my hands, and kissed my cheek.  (Chapter 5  353-254) 


Sheryl says she was "totally taken aback" by this, though he had given her many compliments and had made sexual innuendos.  (For the next few years the relationship remained what I'd call an intense flirtation.)  (Chapter 5 261-262)


Sheryl felt that by rebuffing his advances it had allowed them to get closer. "He was constantly making sexual innuendos. He was surrounded by savvy Upper East Side social climbers who worshipped power and money, and here I was, a hardworking woman without a hidden agenda.  We shared middle - class, down-to-earth backgrounds that offered us the perfect connection."  (I note though that she used her salary to send her only child to an exclusive and expensive prep school, and then college.) (Chapter 6  279-280)


In March of 1993, Sheryl decided to trust her life savings of $70,000 to Bernie, which he accepted though this was not the usual minimum investment.  After the dinner in which she asked him to invest for her, they had their first kiss(Chapter eight  451-452)


"Bernie leaned towards me and stroked the line of my jaw.  I stopped speaking and brushed his lips with mine.  His hand pulled my face closer and I felt his tongue gently touch my lips. He tasted of the desert we'd just shared - sweet and delicious.  I don't know how long we kissed, but all too soon the cab pulled up in front of my building..."


After that first kiss, Bernie told Sheryl that he had reserved a room for them and asked her if she wanted to go upstairs to it.  When she refused he said it was ok, that she was "worth the wait."  (Chapter eight  581-582)



*****
Missy here !  More coming!
Excerpts and quotes are from the e-book version of the book, as read using Overdrive.





Saturday, January 7, 2017

WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WISH FOR? : MISSY ASKS YOU!

2017 is ahead, and you may not want to make resolutions, but I hope you will give some thought about what it is that you want, what it is you WISH FOR with all your heart and soul!


Care to share?  Use COMMENTS!  Missy

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

SHERYL WEINSTEIN HAD A SWEET HOT EXTRA-MARITAL RELATIONSHIP WITH FINANCIAL WHIZ and PONZI SCHEMER BERNIE MADOFF



SHERYL WEINSTEIN

"I am probably the only person in the world
who was screwed twice by Bernie Madoff."

SHERYL WEINSTEIN was Chief Financial Officer for the esteemed Jewish Woman's Charity, Hadassah, when she met Bernie Madoff in 1988.  He was considered an investment wizard and was eventually busted for generating a massive Ponzi scheme involving billions of dollars.  The scheme negatively effected an estimated 3 million people. Her testimony in court, focusing on her and her husband's personal financial looses, helped the Judge decide on a sentence for Madoff of 150 years. That was on June 29, 2009 and that same year, Sheryl published her memoir. Since then other Madoff employees have also been convicted and sentenced and are serving time.
 
Sheryl and Bernie were both married when they tentatively and tenderly began a sweet hot extramarital relationship that took years of friendship, flirtation, and temptation to build.   It was 1993 when they finally escalated their emotional bond to full sexuality. It seems Bernie was serious enough about Sheryl to not pressure her.  He enjoyed her and respected her need for a very slow seduction.

At this point in my review here, I want to tell my readers that this is a bit of re-write being done on January 7, 2016.  The reason is that I lost my book and notes, but I decided to reread the book using an e-reader.  I've just started using an e-reader and it's a different experience than turning the pages of a good old fashioned paper published book.  I have to wonder if that experience has altered my original opinion.  Later this month I will be quoting and excerpting from the e-reader version.
 
Throughout their relationship, Sheryl was, by professional position, responsible for Hadassah's investments.  It wasn't until after she put her life savings of $70,000 into her lover's hands, that their sexuality escalated, probably because of the reveal of trust, which would be exploited.  Sheryl's book is highly detailed about the slow seduction and her difficult marriage, but when it comes to the Ponzi scheme she says she was entirely innocent of the wrong doing going on. Though I tend to believe her, because after all so very many were fooled, her memoir seemed to establish that she was curiously able to have a deep emotional connection with a man later popularly thought to be a sociopath. 

Their mutual adultery involved lunches for business and dinners for love for five years before they actually had sex the way ex President William "Bill" Clinton would define it.  Even when it was over she considered Bernie to be a close friend.
 
Why was Sheryl so unhappy in her marriage that she had this adventure?  She explains that it took years for her husband to be diagnosed with adult attention deficit disorder.  She says she endured years of emotional and psychological, verbal abuse.  But she is still married to that man.
 
I'm going to level with you.   While I tended to believe her, I was annoyed with Sheryl Weinstein for much of this book.  I felt that by detailing the slow seduction she was trying to prove her innocence wasn't just about finances, but that she was "not that kind of girl."

I knew Sheryl wasn't a professional writer, anymore than Ginger Alden, once the young Mistress waiting for marriage to Elvis Presley wasGinger, in her memoir titled "Elvis and Ginger" that we covered here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot in March 2015, told her story in a simple way, managing to give us a good idea the way she thought when she was a 20-something, summoned to the King's house in Memphis as if to be a member of his court.
She had quickly moved in with the much older Elvis, and he was controlling and spoiling but even then, a beauty queen from the South, Ginger was not this innocent.
 
Sheryl, in her early 40's when she had her years long Extra-Marital Relationship with Bernie, had it all over the 20 something Ginger. I simply had difficulty believing that a woman with an excellent education, a high powered career that involved meeting with wealthy people all over the world, and very married for years, could be as sweetly unquestioning of her man as Ginger had been.
 
Sheryl's small town was Manhattan and the Upper East Side of New York City.  She was a career woman with a closet full of suits who dined in fine restaurants, and talked to people who were donating millions to Hadassah. (Her travels were never with Bernie though they both checked their busy schedules and got together a couple times when they happened to be in the same place.) Sheryl was ambitious for her own career.  Her only son went to expensive schools and summer camps that she afforded on her salary and when he grew up, she was more than ready for him to leave home.


She had plenty of time to bolt away from Madoff.  Their affair stretched about 7 years, including the first five in which it was more of a growing emotional bond sans sex. And, she was conflicted enough to be afraid to meet up with his wife in some social setting and found the sneaking around exciting.  He told her he cared for her. (I believe him.)  He told her that she was not just beautiful and sexy but "You're an accomplished businesswoman.  That's a knockout combination."*
 

So, you think, what was her problem?

Sheryl mentions having seen therapists for years, a number of them, admits to wondering to herself why she was staying in a marriage with her husband Ronnie, a difficult man who she clearly did not like, especially as the discontent came early.  She vaguely blames a not perfect childhood.  While some people have truly horrible childhoods, I don't know anyone who claims to have had a perfect childhood.  Childhood doesn't always define us for life.

I'm glad Sheryl didn't get too analytical or blaming, because it all sounds like garden variety angst to me. Nothing as horrendous as our Mistress of the Month of May 2015, Marita Lorenz, who suffered in Nazi Germany when she was raped as a child! 


 

 But...You know women like her and may be one; ripe for an affair, just hanging off the tree ready for the picking, for years!   What I read here is that she was so neglected or unfulfilled in her marriage that she needed Madoff's admiration.  She needed to know a man found her beautiful and sexy.  And he needed that from her too.
 
So, I tried to adjust my snarky attitude.  When I got the book, I didn't suspect that Sheryl or her book would explain to me how Bernie managed to pull off his scheme that ultimately ripped off millions of people and charitable organizations in the United States, Israel, France... and it didn't. The book was best as a memoir of a seven years affair, which was kept entirely secret from both parties' spouses until this book was written and published not long after the scandal hit the press.
 
But I think this; if Bernie Madoff had not become a world-infamous financial fraudster, Sheryl would have taken the affair in stride, kept the friendship, kept in touch, kept it secret from the world, and maybe even her husband, because that's what mature people who have had their life enhanced, or even made livable, by meet ups in fine hotel rooms and restaurants with others gently do. 
 
Here at Mistress Manifesto BlogSpot, we look at how to define the word "Mistress", careful not to include just any person who has an affair as such, especially not those tell-all- to-the-tabloids-types who simply slept with a celebrity and want to brag about it.  Some of those people say they were lied to when really no one was asking too many questions when they were so new into it.  We know two legally married people such as Sheryl and Bernie are committing adultery, but that doesn't necessarily mean a whole lot about the quality or endurance of the relationship.  I couldn't call her a Mistress on that basis, any more than I could call him her Master.
 
What makes Sheryl Weinstein the once-upon-a-time Mistress of Bernie Madoff is the emotionality and duration of their extra-marital relationship, the fact that they remained friends afterwards and had a deep hard-to-break-it off emotional connection, the fact that they could confide in each other when they apparently could not so much with their legal spouses, and that there was actually a lot of respect for each other there.  How many experienced adult men do you know that would be satisfied to meet a woman in hotel rooms just to talk, have dinner, tease, tempt, and pet, for years before finally getting to what ex President Bill Clinton would suppose counts as sex? 
 
Arguably, another Mistress quality Sheryl had was knowing from the beginning to the end, that he was never going to leave his wife.  (At times she felt ready to leave her husband.) 
 
So truthfully, while we the people have come to think of this man as a monster because he was committing a dangerous fraud that hurt so very many people, the man she portrays in this book, actually sounds like a nice man, even a good man!  He didn't lie to her about his personal life or feelings. He told her that they would never travel together, that he traveled alone or with his wife.

What was right about Bernie?
 
He was clean, neatly groomed, impeccable in his wardrobe and has a sense of style.  Maybe he was still a bit rough as a diamond, enough to make him feel a bit insecure when around his clients who were not self made, but he had acquired manners along with a taste and love of the good life. When it came to his luxury lifestyle, he put his wife and family first. He did start out legitimate and even esteemed, and supposedly at least one floor of his business remained legit.  Apparently, the authorities are still trying to figure it all out, but initially Madoff may have simply tried to please too many investors, figuring that at some point he'd make it all legal and right, lying to himself and deceiving himself that the scheme was workable.  He did not gamble (ironic?) and he did not drink.  They were sexually compatible.  He was gentle with her.
 
So you wonder, of course, what makes a person into a Ponzi schemer?
 
INVESTOPIA on PONZI SCHEMES  according to this site:
 
'The Ponzi scam is named after Charles Ponzi, a clerk in Boston who first orchestrated such a scheme in 1919.  A Ponzi scheme is a fraudulent investing scam promising high rates of return with little risk to investors. The Ponzi scheme generates returns for older investors by acquiring new investors. This scam actually yields the promised returns to earlier investors, as long as there are more new investors. These schemes usually collapse on themselves when the new investments stop. 'You may have gotten yourself involved in a Ponzi -like scheme if you've ever sold a product that relied upon your constantly attracting sales people who would remain under you in a pyramid, as your income increased due to percentages you were getting from all the sales beneath you.  At some point there are only so many people who are not selling that product so it becomes difficult to attract yet more sales people and that's when the pyramid can grow no further.'

Have you ever been involved in a Ponzi sheme?  Many of you may not realize that you have been - sort of.
 
I've known a number of people who sold products like plastic containers, makeup, and vitamins, that relied on an ever bigger pyramid and a series of pay offs.  Rarely did someone get and stay at the top to where they could quit the job they hated and remain self supporting or achieve true wealth. 

Another example.  If you've ever participated in a chain letter, even if all that people were sending everyone on the list was a recipe, that is also a kind of Ponzi scheme.  (One of my friends got involved sending bikini underwear!  She got something like 300 pair in six weeks. Do you suppose the chain was started by the underwear manufacturers?) This is why chain letters, which often come with threats or warnings to those who break them through refusing to cooperate, are illegal in the U.S. Mail. 

Bernie Madoff had his strengths and weaknesses but Sheryl was flattered by him, attracted to him enough to make passes and advances, and he allowed her to pace their sexuality.  He tells her the truth about his marriage and his sons and his grandchildren.  Ruth and he were teenage sweethearts,  who met when she was 13 and he was 16. They were loyal to each other.  Ruth traveled with him considerably, maybe half of his time away was traveling with Ruth. When he told Sheryl that his secretary started feeling guilty making those hotel and restaurant reservations in person, so they wouldn't appear on Bernie's bills, Sheryl took over making the arrangement. Maybe if he was not so rich, Sheryl would not have been flattered by his attention.

Nowhere in this book is there any attempt made to say, "Well if Bernie Madoff was the kind of man to have an affair, or a Mistress, then that right there shows he has a flawed character and is capable of this multi- billon dollar Ponzi scheme."  If it had, then Sheryl's own character would be equally as monstrous, even if she was "Old Fashioned," enough to take it very slow sexually, or decided that on meds her ADD husband is a nice guy after all.  She was a full participant in the relationship.
 
In reading around this book on the Internet, I learned that after the scandal and the life sentence Bernie got, after the Madoffs had to give up most of their own wealth, Ruth was still sticking by him as a wife, until this book was published, about a year later.  Eventually though she did leave Bernie.
 
I've also read that none of the books on Madoff "Made A Killing!" 

 

Well, let's give Sheryl Weinstein her Mistress credentials but also Ruth Madoff's Wifely ones.  Is it wrong of me to think, "Ruth, you can't forgive the business man who screwed up like this, who has this karma now, but you can forgive the husband who had a Mistress!
 
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Notes: Book published October 2009.  All further quotes and excerpts from the book will be from the e-book version. * Chapter 5ive pages 259-260.)






UPDATE MAY 2017
Check out this article about the life of Bernie Madoff's long time wife, Ruth, who negotiated herself 2.5 million to live on and does so in a small New England town.
NY POST: THE SAD LIFE OF EXILED RUTH MADOFF  She does not visit Bernie in prison.