Wednesday, December 28, 2016

END OF THE YEAR THOUGHTS ON MISTRESSES and the UPCOMMING DONALD TRUMP PRESIDENCY

Donald Trump is our next President of the United States, our 45th.  I've read around this past years election like no other election year, was not a Trump supporter, and have some serious concerns about what will happen when he and the Republican conservatives he will surround himself with, will do about women's issues, such as the right to get contraception, Choose abortion (which should be affordable), and so much else.

To stay on topic though, let me say that his appeal is in his promise of a new prosperity for the United States, something that I'm all for.  However, I'm not sure if to Republicans this means not only FULL EMPLOYMENT but LIVABLE COST OF LIVING WAGES.

Several people I know who have college educations and once had nice careers have been unemployed for years and are only eating enough because they get SNAP (Food Stamp) benefits.  I suspect that during Trumps administration, this thrice married man and alleged womanizer and sexist (who is a feminist when it comes to his daughters and their education, careers, and businesses), will, with the help of the conservative cast he has assembled around him, manage to create conditions in which there will be more mistresses than ever. And I'm convinced that if ever the truth could be revealed we'd find more Republicans have mistresses than Democrats!

These mistresses won't all be involved with married men but they will be Kept just the same, perhaps not in the Classic Mistress manner, but Kept.  Busy and wealthy,  the men who keep mistresses will delight in having a person and place to come home to that is an escape from all that Washington.

As we enter into renewed prosperity, if the business men who dominate his cabinet reinforce sexism in the workplace and in life in general, the men's income will go up, and women's will go down, creating a perfect scenario for women needing some financial help, some to survive.

May I suggest that in an attempt to deal with these conditions, more women than ever will leave men who do not make good incomes and more women than ever will go back to traditional dating rituals, such as remaining virgins until marriage or celibate between committed, serious, marriage prone relationships, expecting men to ask them out, make all the arrangements and pay for the dates?

You see, some people, including The Rules for Dating Girls, Ellen and Sherry, have long believed that when it comes to romance, it is only right to let gender considerations determine who does what, such as who is the pursuer. If a man cannot afford to impress a woman with his personality, manners, education, income, and potential to rise in life, he cannot date at all.

One of the many benefits of the feminist movement for men is women taking some responsibility for these traditional male roles.

When a man is a millionaire or billionaire (remember Trump's promise to reveal his tax returns?), he can afford a harem, which is what a man like Trump would do if he were in say, Saudi Arabia.  Here in the U.S.A, we expect people to divorce a spouse rather than keep him or her around when things aren't going well.  Trump has Ivana, Marla, and now Melania, all tied to him by children. It's as harem as it's going to get for the U.S.A.
However, it used to be that a divorced man could not expect to win the White House. The American public has wanted married men who stay married and seem to love their one wife and families as their President.  As such, Presidents who did womanize or have affairs or mistresses, kept their wives.

I wish the Clintons had been able to say, "We are dedicated to staying married, but we have an agreement that we can fool around."  That certainly seems to have been the case. I think it hurt Hillary Clinton that she stayed with her cheating husband after they left the White House. The woman has been called a lesbian, hated, cold, and a number of other adjectives that dismiss that she's worked hard in her professional life to make good things happen for average people. Yet it seems the era of the Clintons is over.

At the end of four years I think President Trump will be humbled and the country will be geared up for a revolution that ends the Republicans for good.  Other parties will begin to form and stand on different, more reality-based platforms.

Yours,
Missy

Thursday, December 22, 2016

GOT A QUESTION FOR YOU! DO YOU HAVE ANY ROMANTIC GOALS FOR THE NEW YEAR? IS HE YOUR FATE?

If you're in a RELATIONSHIP, this holiday season may be full of holiday parties - his, hers and at other couples', shopping for presents for each other, maybe taking some time off work to take a romantic trip out of town... or maybe, just a dinner at your place where he brings the jewelry you've been secretly hoping for. 


If you're NOT in a RELATIONSHIP, or are not happy in the one you're in, the holidays can still be full of activities, and you can still have a good time with friends and family, or enjoy having some well needed alone time with yourself, BUT, you may be hoping that the NEW YEAR is the start of something very special between you and another new person.


Although it's true that if you're sitting alone at home and not making an effort to get out there and get involved and meet people, it's unlikely that Mr. Right is going to come knocking on your door,  he MIGHT if he happens to live in the same building...  I guess you could say that I think that one should make efforts to reach any goal but am also a believer in DESTINY.  And not everyone is meant to have a partner in life.


I often ask people how they met the person they have committed to in a loving partnership.


Although I've heard it was at a concert, dance, or party, or a dinner at a friends (which seems to be more popular than the concert, dance, or party), and I have heard people say through some sort of dating service, personal ad, or on the Internet, I've also perhaps more often heard of some sort of KARMA or SYNCHRONICITY - something simple.




One of my friends met the man she married when they both attended a free real estate seminar, where neither of them were actually looking for anything more than information on how to buy distressed housing.


One senior citizen told me that she went to an amusement park when she was a girl, but couldn't afford to get in.  Still, you could hear the live dance bands playing from outside where there was a picnic grove and a swing set.  On the swing she got, and on the swing next to her sat a young men, as broke.  They soon married and stayed married.


I've met people who met on public transportation, while one of them had a car in the shop.


The coin laundry, borrowing lavender softener.


In the line at the grocery store, when one of them pitched in because the other one was a bit short of cash when the groceries were registered at Trader Joes.  (He said it was from his expense account for food, on a filming that was taking place near by and not out of his pocket, so she accepted,  but it turned out it was his personal pleasure.  He gave her his business card and she called to thank him again for his good deed.)


He bought his girlfriend a beautiful bracelet that the department store retail clerk who waited on him suggested.  His girlfriend hated it and asked him to return it.  He did and asked out the clerk who loved it!


She went to a comedy club, something she rarely did, with some girlfriends, and in the audience was a man who she had gone to grade school with years before - in a small town - in another state - who she never ever thought she would see again - date - or move in with! 


YOU NEVER KNOW!


Missy


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Tuesday, December 20, 2016

CHARITY NAVIGATOR WATCHES and RATES CHARITIES

CHARITY NAVIGATOR - DOES YOUR MONEY GO WHERE IT SHOULD?


A dynamic site that lets you check out charities and has lots of great advice to help you be wise about your money when you donate!  As I see it, if a charity has five stars it is probably a great place to volunteer and meet people too!

Sunday, December 18, 2016

SOMEONE TO WATCH OVER ME : SARAH VAUGHAN



From the YouTube poster of this great music video:

"Someone to Watch Over Me" is a song composed by George Gershwin with lyrics by Ira Gershwin from the musical Oh, Kay! (1926), where it was introduced by Gertrude Lawrence. It has been performed by numerous artists since its debut and is a jazz standard as well as a key work in the Great American Songbook.

Sarah's accompanied by Hal Mooney and His Studio Orchestra. Recorded New York, March 20, 1957. (EmArcy Records affiliate of Mercury Records)

Friday, December 16, 2016

AS YOU GET UNDER YOUR WARM COMFORTER TONIGHT THINK OF THE HOMELESS and HOMELESS TEENS ON THE COLD PAVEMENT OF CITY STREETS

NATIONAL COALITION FOR THE HOMELESS - YOUTH



EXCERPT:


The National Center for Housing and Child Welfare states there are between 1 million and 1.7 million homeless youth who have runaway or have been asked to leave their homes.

According to the US Department of HHS, 61.8% of homeless youth reported depression, 71.7% reported experiencing major trauma such as physical or sexual abuse, 79.5% experienced symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder for more than a month.


According to the US Interagency Council on Homelessness, 25% of former foster youth became homeless 2.5-4 years after exiting care. 


5% to 7% of American youths become homeless in any given year.
 
Homeless youth are evenly male-female, although females are more likely to seek help through shelters and hotline.


According to the National Conference of State Legislatures, between 6% and 22% of homeless girls are estimated to be pregnant.


75% of homeless or runaway youth have dropped out or will drop out of school.
Between 20% and 40% of homeless youth identify as LGBT.
  • Causes of Youth Homelessness

    The causes of homelessness among youth falls into three, inter-related categories:

    Family problems – Disruptive family conditions are the principal reason that young people leave home and many homeless youth leave home after years of physical and sexual abuse, strained relationships, addiction of a family member, and/or parental neglect.
    • According to interviews conducted by the Street Outreach Program through the US Department of Health & Human Services, youth attributed homelessness to the following causes: 51.2% were asked to leave home by a parent or guardian, 24.7% were unable to find a job, 23.8% claim to be physically abused or beaten, or left due to caretaker's drug or alcohol abuse.  
    • According to the National Conference for State Legislatures, Additionally, 17% of homeless youth were forced into unwanted sexual activity by a family or household member.
    Economic problems – Some youth may become homeless when their families suffer financial crises resulting from lack of affordable housing, limited employment opportunities, insufficient wages, no medical insurance, or inadequate welfare benefits. Youth may become homeless while still with their families, but may be separated from their families by the shelter, transitional housing, or child welfare policies.

    Residential instability – Some youth living in residential or institutional placements such as foster care, become homeless because they are discharged or emancipated with no housing or income support. One national study reported that more than one-in-five youth who arrived at shelters came directly from foster care, and that more than one-in-four had been in foster care in the previous year [National Association of Social Workers, 1992].
  • Taking Action

    Homeless youth benefit from programs that meet immediate needs first, and then help them address other aspects of their lives.
    Educational outreach programs, assistance in locating job training and employment, transitional living programs, and health care especially designed for, and directed at, homeless youth are also needed.
    Homeless youth would benefit from many of the same measures that are needed to fight poverty and homelessness in the adult population, including the provision of affordable housing and employment that pays a living wage. In addition to these basic supports, the child welfare system must make every effort to prevent children from ending up on the streets.

    Visit the National Campaign for Youth Shelter page to learn more!
  • Fact Sheets and Publications:  

    Other Organizations


  • Monday, December 12, 2016

    JOHHNY MATHIS : TURN AROUND LOOK AT ME

    I've always loved this oldie, recorded by so very many artists, but Johnny Mathis' smooth voice is just superb on this recording.  It's a very romantic song.



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    Thursday, December 8, 2016

    POLARIS PROJECT - WORKING TO ELIMINATE MODERN SLAVERY - ASHLEY JUDD AMBASSADOR

    Readers, you know that I stand for choice, and choice made with knowledge and understanding. 

    Those who have little to no choice in life are of great concern to me.  In these Blog Posts, you read about so many people who had little to no choice because of the times they lived in as women, or their class or status or poverty.  Well, today there are very many people who are SLAVES in this world, and in particular people who are SEX TRAFFICKED, often young teenage girls, some runaways, some snatched.

    In choosing charities that I think you should know about, perhaps donate or volunteer for, POLARIS PROJECT seems to be well regarded and INTERNATIONAL. 

    POLARIS PROJECT - STOP HUMAN TRAFFICKING


    National Human Trafficking Resource Center Hotline 1 (888) 373-7888  (United States)

    FROM THEIR SITE:

    Human trafficking is a form of modern slavery -- a multi-billion dollar criminal industry that denies freedom to 20.9 million people around the world. And no matter where you live, chances are it's happening nearby. From the girl forced into prostitution at a truck stop, to the man discovered in a restaurant kitchen, stripped of his passport and held against his will. All trafficking victims share one essential experience: the loss of freedom.

    Sex traffickers use violence, threats, lies, debt bondage, and other forms of coercion to compel adults and children to engage in commercial sex acts against their will. Under U.S. federal law, any minor under the age of 18 years induced into commercial sex is a victim of sex trafficking—regardless of whether or not the trafficker used force, fraud, or coercion.
    The situations that sex trafficking victims face vary dramatically. Many victims become romantically involved with someone who then forces or manipulates them into prostitution. Others are lured in with false promises of a job, such as modeling or dancing. Some are forced to sell sex by their parents or other family members. They may be involved in a trafficking situation for a few days or weeks, or may remain in the same trafficking situation for years.

    Victims of sex trafficking can be U.S. citizens, foreign nationals, women, men, children, and LGBTQ individuals. Vulnerable populations are frequently targeted by traffickers, including runaway and homeless youth, as well as victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, war, or social discrimination.

    Sex trafficking occurs in a range of venues including fake massage businesses, via online ads or escort services, in residential brothels, on the street or at truck stops, or at hotels and motels...




    Monday, December 5, 2016

    JEAN MAALOUF on the HEALING POWER OF KINDNESS

    Kindness holds the key to the secret of our own transformation and, in the process, of the transformation of the world.
    JEAN MAALOUF, The Healing Power of Kindness

    Saturday, December 3, 2016

    EARN AN ANGEL WING : MISTRESS MANIFESTO HOLIDAY 2016 EDITION




    Did you know that every major religion on earth has a belief in Angels?  That means that most people on this earth have at least left the option open that they exist. Be you Catholic, Christian, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist, or Moslem, there are angels. They are sometimes described differently; with wings, without, or simply as shining beings. They are often messengers or visitors, in dreams or while wide awake, and they sometimes give us a message (from God!) or save us from some danger. It's thought that everyone of us has at least one.  (As a child I was told to leave room in line for mine to walk back into school with me from recess!)

    To prepare for this month's subject here at MISTRESS MANIFEST BLOGSPOT, I watch so many YouTube videos that claim to have caught angels on film.  Some of these videos are amazing.  I'm sure some of them truly caught angels doing rescues and some of them are enhanced or faked videos. 


    I've been thinking about angels.

    I'm not asking you to believe in angels or to pray to angels or even get into a debate over their existence on this earth or in heaven. I want you to be one, if not forever more, than just for this month, and if you can't earn two wings, earn one, by giving of yourself, either through volunteering or by opening your pocket book. At this time of year there are very many volunteer opportunities for people who cannot make long term commitments or don't have money to spare, and volunteering is known to be an excellent place to meet good people - maybe even a new man.  First I want you to self assess and ask yourself how selfish you've been, how self-involved and focused lately, and if being that way has brought you to jealousy, envy, meanness, or ingratitude. If you indeed have been more naughty than nice, turn it around and move towards helping someone else.


    Don't think I've got my head in the clouds.  I'm completely aware of the terrible suffering in this world and sometimes I think evil violence has taken over.  



    You can be someone's special angel secretly, not taking any credit at all, by sending a friend in need some cash, or by doing a little research to elect a charity that is doing what it says it's doing with the donations it receives.  (One of my friends, who was going through old boxes that had been delivered to her new apartment some time ago when she was just squeaking by, called me recently just stunned because she finally started to go through those boxes and found an envelope containing $500 in cash which she is 100% sure wasn't hers, knowing that someone who was doing the heavy lifting that day, had to have opened the lid and put it in there!)

    You can also be a special angel through making donations, which are often tax deductible.  I'll be providing some links that I myself have chosen, with a focus on sex trafficking, slavery, and homeless teens.  Here at MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT you have the opportunity to read about a variety of women (and some men) who have been Kept by others, sometimes by choice (to me the best and only way to go circa 2016), but sometimes because choices were few, if any.  When a person is enslaved, their choices may be down to live or die.

    Thanks for reading MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT.  It's been a successful year here. I've thoroughly enjoyed all the efforts that go into researching and writing this blog. At this time of year I reassess and feel satisfied that I did a good job.  While I never pick my topics just for the hits, it does feel good when a post gets lots of them.

    I hope all of you will find happiness these holidays!

    MIssy







    Friday, December 2, 2016

    YOU ARE MY SPECIAL ANGEL : THE VOGUES

    What a lovely job this YouTube poster has done with the illustrations that go with the song "You Are My Special Angel." I chose this video over many others because of it.  The Vogues are one of my favorite Old School groups.  They were known for their harmonies.

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    Wednesday, November 30, 2016

    Monday, November 28, 2016

    DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES : Sleep

    "I need my sleep.  If it means changing my lifestyle to get enough deep and restful sleep I'll do it."


    Sleep deprivation hurts your health.  It hurts your life.  And it's extremely common.  Many of us run on empty and end up ill.  You need your zzzz's to cope with stress but when stress wins it can keep you up.  How many hours of sleep are you getting?  How many hours do you need?  Some can function on 6, others need 9.  Meditation or other forms of deep relaxation may help you cope and actually lessen the hours you need to sleep. Go to bed earlier or get up later. Try for just one more hour.

    Could it be that you're exposed to too much light?  (Your body needs the darkness to make natural melatonin.)


    Could it be that you watch films or listen to news or read things that are upsetting?



    Are the problems you face in life keeping you up?  Is it possible that you can sleep, giving them up till morning when they will still be there?


    Try to find ways to deal with sleep deprivation without resorting to pills!



    Friday, November 25, 2016

    BLACK FRIDAY : GOING BACK TO SLEEP BUT YOU MIGHT WANT TO BUY SOMETHING FOR YOUR LOVE!

    Stats have shown that American's penchant for using today, the day after THANKSGIVING, in which we give thanks for all we have, for shopping, to ACQUIRE MORE to be THANKFUL FOR, has eroded a bit in favor of Internet purchasing from the safety of one's own home. 
     
    Me, I'm happy to be able to get up, walk my dog, and then go back to bed.  I've never loved crowds, am not inspired to buy while competing with others for stuff, loath standing in long lines to check out, and hate trying to drive backed up in traffic or waste time trying to get a parking space. 

    I really do like the sensual experience of shopping... the seeing, touching, smelling, hearing, thinking, and fantasizing involved. I like to know that people are employed in retail stores. While "Big Box" stores and employees who are more concerned with warehousing than customer service are no fun,  I love being waited on by someone who takes pride in their appearance, their product knowledge, and their service.  Almost gone are the days in which SHOP KEEPING was an honored profession, but even when I'm being careful with my spending, I manage to find small boutiques and other unique places to buy that prove that retail is not dead.

    May I suggest to you, one of my favorite places to buy gifts are MUSEUM SHOPS.  In my city there are plentiful museums and plentiful shops and I go to exhibits often, so I always go to the shop and see what they've got. Museum shop buyers seem to have an eye for things you don't see in other stores and though sometimes their purchases are thematic, sometimes they are not.  For instance, I've found beautiful rare scented soaps in arboretum shops and an umbrella with Monet's gardens as a fabric in a shop associated with a science center.  One local museum makes ecologically correct big beach bags from the banners that are hung from poles on the streets. They all seem to have some unique designed and hand made jewelry items.  But if you can't get to a museum shop in person, consider ordering from the ones that have catalogues for well made good costume jewelry and scarves.  It's a bit exciting to get a package from New York when you live in Los Angeles, or visa versa.

    Missy












    Saturday, November 19, 2016

    ELIZABETH RAY in "GIRLS OF WASHINGTON ARTICLE" - PLAYBOY MAGAZINE - 1976


    What's a Woman to Do after scandal? 
     Posing for Playboy Magazine
    was one attempt that
    Elizabeth Ray
    made to redirect her career
    which had included being crowned
    Miss Virginia
    in 1975.
     
    picture from ebay auction
     
    THE GIRLS OF WASHINGTON September 1976
    Playboy issue also included an article on Watergate and the CIA
     
    *****
    I've often heard that posing nude for Playboy is good for a woman's career but I don't think so overall.  Recently Playboy stopped having nude centerfolds and features after realizing that the Internet porn dominates the market, and is closer to what writers and readers often said, that it's the authorship and the articles that's the real draw...

    Tuesday, November 15, 2016

    ELIZABETH L. RAY INTERVIEW IN LONDON on her BOOK TOUR and



    I'm impressed at how well spoken Elizabeth L. Ray was and I think the interviewer had an agenda to shame her.

    About the video:

    Published on Jul 24, 2015 on YouTube
    (Give the video a moment to go to audio.  Go to YouTube if you want the full transcript.)

    From YouTube site:

    Interview in London with Elizabeth Ray who claims she was placed on the Congressional payroll by an American Congressman in return for being his mistress

    "United States Congressman Wayne Hays, aged 65, was taken to hospital on Thursday (June 10) in a coma, suffering from an apparent overdose of tranquillizer pills, following the start of investigations into a Washington sex scandal.  (Missy: In the Interview she says this is a ridiculous idea.)

    Miss Ray arrived in London on Friday (June 11) on a visit; a book by her was published this week, and written in a novel form with fictional names, it describes love affairs between herself and a number of congressmen and senators, including a congressman who closely resembles Hays."

    She was interviewed on her arrival in London by Trevor MacDonald for upitn.

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    Go to the video on YouTube to read the full text.

    "American representative Wayne Hays announced on Thursday (June 3) he will resign one of his two congressional chairmanships following his implication in a sex scandal with a staff secretary.

    Miss Elizabeth Ray charged that hays put her on the administration committee payroll at 14,000 dollars a year to serve as his mistress. hays admitted to the long affair, but denied he hired her for that purpose.

    Thursday, November 3, 2016

    ELIZABETH L. RAY : MISTRESS OF REPRESENTATIVE WAYNE L. HAYS : "I CAN'T TYPE. I CAN'T FILE. I CAN'T EVEN ANSWER THE PHONE"




    BETTY LOU "ELIZABETH" RAY
    Born 1943

    "I can't type, I can't file, I can't even answer the phone."


    Elizabeth Ray reminds me of something a senior citizen once told me, which was, "most of us keep failing." 

    At first thought this sounded negative, until I realized that to keep failing, you must keep trying

    Elizabeth Ray certainly did that.  Her route to scandal included work as a stewardess, a waitress, a car rental clerk, and the winner of a beauty pageant in which she became Miss Virginia of 1975.  Her employment on "the Hill" in Washington, DC, began in 1972 when she was 27.  Eventually she became Representative Wayne Hay's secretary, a job she held for 2 years.  When she was later quoted about her complete lack of secretarial skills, fuel was added to the fire. Elizabeth was possibly closer to a sex slave on payroll, if you believe that she sat for hours in an out of the way office, alone and awaiting visits from Hays for sex. That she sat there may indicate that she either took the job seriously or didn't mind too much. It's easy to think "She must have been brainless if she wasn't bored."  But you know, maybe she was using her wait time well, like maybe she was writing her book. A year after she won Miss Virginia she was in the news, as was Hays, for a political sex scandal, one that couldn't be beat, though there have been many, until Monica Lewinsky and President William J. Clinton.

    According to the Washington Post article linked below, it's as if Elizabeth had assumed entertainment duties in the political arena prior to Hays.  "During a year and a half working as a clerk on the staff of former Rep. Kenneth J. Gray (D-Ill.), Ray says she was frequently given days off to prepare for evenings spent on a date with Gray or favored constituents. She says she often entertained Gray's male friends aboard Gray's houseboat, docked on the Potomac."

    After the sex scandal, unemployed but striving, Elizabeth tried to get an acting career going and was part of a feature in Playboy Magazine.  Often referred to as "a bouncy blonde," considered to be Fun, in videos that I'll be running this month from YouTube, I'm pleased to hear her voice and to realize that she was a well spoken young woman. I begin to wonder if she was just typified as a dumb and as the woman was blamed, or if she herself used that stereotype to get the publicity needed in those days before blogs, social networking, and Twitter, to get the buzz going. 

    Wayne Hays was an older man, married for over 35 years, a Representative in the House, a Democrat from Ohio, who was both respected and feared, and not known to have the most pleasing personality.  He was, some thought, a mean man.  (Well, everyone can't be pleasing or sparking!)



    picture is from the Zimbio article linked below

    Wayne L. Hays got divorced and remarried in 1976 but not to Elizabeth Ray.  He was also forced to resign from office at age 65.  You could say he had a crisis but was near retirement age anyway.  His second wife, who had been on his staff, remained with him for life.  Elizabeth got a book deal that included a promotional tour.


    Button found on Hakes Collectables site/ and Google Images.
    A Promo Button used by Dell Publishing
    to promote Elizabeth's novel, a fictive book.


    Elizabeth Ray's roots are that of the fatherless child.  Her father, a traveling Western musician, died when she was a toddler, and her mother left her to be raised by a grandma in the Ashville, North Carolina Bible Belt, for good, not reclaiming her after another marriage.  Grandma was shocked at what her good Christian girl granddaughter had gotten herself into. Growing up, the stunning Elizabeth was known as Betty Lou.  She prayed and carried a Bible with her.  Was Elizabeth in need of a father figure as a lover?

    I'm not sure where she is now or what she's doing though I did try to find out.  My research pointed to some possibilities but I was unable to verify that these candidates for our Elizabeth Ray were actually the same woman!  Let's just say that there is no reason to believe that anyone, simply because they were born a woman, can or should type, file, or answer the phone, or be a secretary, as the end all of their ambitions.  But I wouldn't be surprised if Ray had many skills and talents beyond beauty or sex and wouldn't be surprised if she's used these skills and talents to support herself.

    When common ordinary folk, such as the people in Ohio that Hays represented, or the people Betty Lou left behind in North Carolina, and the people of the United States, first heard of the set up between Elizabeth and the politician, they were more outraged that he had used the TAXPAYERS MONEY TO FUND A MISTRESS, instead of his own money, o have one.  They were outraged that he wasn't, like them, a faithful and loyal husband, at least not anymore.  If he had used his own money and kept it between him and his wife,  that he had a mistress would've been his private business.



    Missy

    C All Rights Reserved MistressManifesto.BlogSpot.Com / Missy Rapport



    If interested in Political Mistresses,  you may want to use the Google Search feature or my archives to locate posts on previous Political Mistresses of the Month including...

    Karin Stanford, College Professor, and Jesse Jackson - May 2011
    Madeleine Duncan Brown, Mistress of Lyndon Baines Johnson - December 2011 
    Monica Lewinsky and President Bill Clinton - March 2012
    Rielle Hunter and Politician John Edwards - June 2012
    Carrie Phillips and President Warren Harding - November 2012

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    Research on ELIZABETH RAY for this months feature article on her includes:

    WASHINGTON POST - SCANDAL ELIZABETH RAY by  By Marion Clark and Rudy Maxa
    Washington Post Staff Writers


    ZIMBIO - WAYNE HAYS : AMERICANS 50 MOST SCANDALOUS

    NEW YORK TIMES - OBITUARY WAYNE HAYS FEB 10 1989 DEATH - SECOND WIFE AT SIDE

    PEOPLE MAGAZINE ARCHIVES - SHE WAS BETTY LOU IN ASHVILLE

    Friday, October 28, 2016

    YOU CAN SLEEP WITH THE WRONG MAN...

    BUT YOU CAN'T SLEEP WITH THE WRONG DOG!


    (Don't know where this quote originated, but it made me laugh, as my dog is right by my side!)

    Wednesday, October 26, 2016

    HER BOYFRIEND MAY BE MENTALLY ILL - NOW WHAT? ADVICE FROM MISSY

    Missy,

    My boyfriend, Shem, is in his late twenties and seems to have a germ phobia.  My teenage sister has obsessive compulsive disorder which is already hard to live with.  I'm worried that he's going to get worse and if I marry him I won't be able to deal with it. 

    To give you some idea, he refuses to deal with cat clean up.  He refuses to clean bathrooms.  If I've got a cold or even just allergies he wants me to sleep on the sofa and not get near him.  I think he's used up some of his vacation days this year avoiding going to work when someone else at the office got sick. He's using a tissue to deal with door knobs.  My sister checks and rechecks to see if she locked a door before she can leave but she's in therapy and trying meds.  My boyfriend hires a maid to come in and clean his place up.  She uses bleach solution to wipe down his doorknobs, his entire bathroom, the kitchen, and the entire front door of his apartment.  Besides the germ phobia, all else is good.  He's educated, works hard, and is good to me.

    Dana

    ANSWER FROM MISSY

    Hi Dana!

    I'm familiar with the disorders you mentioned, having had a neighbor with the doorknob problems and so on.  I can image you're wondering at what point is it that someone is sick or not.  It's a hard call.  Lots of people gag at the smell of cat odor and can't deal with it.  Lots of people have employers who make people come to work sick where the whole crew is exposed or infected (been there, done that) which I think is beyond stupid.  Then, men more often have maids than women do, and the bleach does get rid of germs.

    I also had a friend who married an educated man with a great career who was just like your boyfriend.  She slept on the sofa, scrubbed the bathrooms, and moved her cat to the basement, but he was definitely increasingly phobic of germs as he got older, because it effected their most private life when he became germ phobic of her.

    Living with your sister who is sick has sensitized you to behavior that might be mental illness. 

    I think your question is more about YOU..  Is it OK to just quit a relationship because someone can get on our nerves or be neurotic?  Your sister is family and you can't quit her at this point and hopefully you never will. But you may not have to live with her for years on end and she may respond to medication.  Does your boyfriend need it?  Marriage is a choice to create a new family but with this possibility looming.

    Communicate your concerns to your boyfriend.  Try, "You know I live with an obsessive compulsive sister whose getting help to overcome her issues.  Maybe because of that I'm a bit sensitive but I've noticed.... and I wonder if maybe  you've got what she's got!'  Then listen to what he says.  If he denies it's a problem, let it go for now.  You may be right but maybe he needs time to self assess.

    Before marriage talk to him about his expectations of you.  Will he keep the maid? Or will you be it?  It may be negotiated.  Maybe there are tasks you can't or won't do that he will.  You might adore cat clean up and be happy to do it because he's the one who gets the cars detailed - you know?

    Missy


    Sunday, October 23, 2016

    BEBE BUELL : MODEL, MUSE, MISTRESS, MOM, ROCK N ROLLER and BOOK AUTHOR

    HARPERS BAZAAR INTERVIEW WITH LIV TYLER ON BEBE AS HER MOM  by Elisa Lipsky-Karasz   PICTURE GALLERY

    She's Liv Tyler's mom, but before that Bebe Buell had long non-monogamous relationships with Todd Rundgren and Elvis Costello.  Liv was raised by Todd as father, since Steve was a whirlwind romance.  Jimmy Page and Mick Jagger were also paramours.  Was she a Supergroupie?  Her modeling didn't last long... but she's recording Rock and Roll into her 60's.



    *****

    ARE ONLY "SUPER GROUPIES" CLOSING IN ON MISTRESSHOOD because they are more likely to be financially supported or live with or marry their man?  Missy

    Friday, October 21, 2016

    OPINIONS on THE TERM MISTRESS from NEW YORK TIMES BLOGGER MARGARET SULLIVAN

    BLOGS-NEW YORK TIMES - IS MISTRESS A WORD THAT HAS SEEN ITS BEST DAYS by MARGARET SULLIVAN

    EXCERPTS:

    Janet Mortenson of Houston wrote: “I would be delighted to see The Times stop using the word ‘mistress’ to describe a self-sufficient woman who is in a romantic relationship with a man.”
    And Ellen Hymowitz of New York City asked if The Times “could summon up a less archaic word that didn’t demean the female by her sex or her gender.” She said that the term suggests “not just a female participant in a clandestine love affair but also that the affair is of a long-term nature and that the woman is ‘kept’ — financially supported — by the man.” ....  Philip B. Corbett, an editor said,"I agree that “mistress” has a somewhat old-fashioned tone to it that isn’t ideal (though I don’t accept the argument that it necessarily implies a financial arrangement; it doesn’t. First definition from American Heritage: “A woman who has a continuing sexual relationship with a man who is married to someone else.”
     
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    Missy here!  I'm editing the long piece that I had posted in Pages that discusses what I think about the use of the term.  Let's just say here briefly that I do not think adultery is necessary to the definition, and I do think that the Classic Mistress is Kept - or at least well cared for beyond her own earnings, but that most women who are Mistresses today do have or earn some of their own income - and should!
     
    C2016

    Wednesday, October 19, 2016

    JEANNIE CRANE and "SWEET CONNIE" CONNIE HAMZY : PROUD GROUPIES WITH NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR




    JEANNIE CRANE, who went to her first concert at 16,  loved Ted Nugent...

    SWEET CONNIE HAMZY of  Little Rock Arkansas, who set out at 15 to be a Groupie, loved Alex Van Halen.

    This YouTube video posted in 2010 is from a Hard Copy broadcasted in Australia and my guess is that the telecast is from the late 1980's.

    Here's a little more information for you. 

    CONNIE HAMZY wrote a book called "Rock Groupie: The Intimate Adventures of "Sweet Connie" from Little Rock" which was published in 1995.  (I haven't been able to get a copy of it, but it's a tell all, and one site mentions that it mentions...Don Henley, Keith Moon, David Lee Roth, Merle Haggard, Huey Lewis... while on other sites about interviews she did, it says that she said that she was in love with Alex Van Halen, and that he was her best sex as a result.  Connie has, perhaps, claimed a record for years as a groupie and numbers of music men she has been with as a result of conquest and making herself available as her reputation proceeds her.

    Saturday, October 15, 2016

    CATHERINE JAMES : DANDELION : MISTRESS MANIFESTO BOOK REVIEW


    CATHERINE JAMES OFFICIAL SITE Catherine James

     
    Bob Dylan took her out of the orphanage but played the older brother she never had. Not just one more young girl who ran away to Sunset Strip, or got caught up in the Rock Gods who courted her, a bit more of a flower child than a Groupie by my way of thinking, Catherine James survived a abusive childhood, but, not quite out of it was left to raise her only son, fathered by a British rock musician with Moody Blues guitarist Denny Laine, when she was 16.  She lived by her wits after he financially abandoned them. 
     
    Mom was a Malignant Narcissist, Dad beat Bruce Jenner to the change. Catherine James relied on the Universe to provide at times and proved that you don't have to duplicate the way your parents raised you, that you can better them, even if you live in a house in the woods that's barely standing or your car doesn't run or the jobs you take are odd.
     
    Like a number of Rock Goddesses, she was beautiful enough to model, and despite having a very hard life, has found goodness in it. 
     
    One of several books I've read by former Groupies, there's something of a delicacy to James that defies her obvious inner strength.
     
    C 2016  MistressManifesto.Blogspot.com / Missy Rapport  All Rights Reserved

    Thursday, October 13, 2016

    INCOME INEQUITY - BY STATE - WOMEN ARE STILL MAKING LESS THAN MEN : MEN SHOULD PAY FOR DATES! OPINION BY MISSY

    AAUW - SIMPLE TRUTH ABOUT THE GENDER PAY GAP


    In Wyoming women make 64 cents to every $1.00 men do...

    In California women make a 86 cents...

    I was raised to let men do the asking, planning, and paying for dates.

    I came to feel it was wrong not to "contribute," such as for desert or leaving a tip or maybe paying for cab fare.

    But in recent years, as I heard that some men even ask a woman out and then, on the date, announce that she is paying her own way or paying for the whole thing, which is appallingly bad manners for starters, I came to feel that while every relationship is different, men who can't afford to date shouldn't. (And there are lots of things to do for free or inexpensively in the big city so whoever is asking another person out does have some options.)

    Are some men taking advantage of women, treating them as financial equals when they are not?  I think so.

    Men who are satisfied with feminism only because they're lazy about taking the old responsibilities when dating and in relationships seem to be all over.

    I've recently met several men, as neighbors and friends of friends, who are living with their much more financially successful girlfriends and letting them pay all the rent and more!  I can't help but think that the day will come when that girlfriend has had enough and asks them to go.  Some of these men are in school or working full time and maybe the day will come when they are the ones who can do it all and let their girlfriends be the ones who are supported.

    Maybe I've come full circle...  HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS ISSUE?





    Monday, October 10, 2016

    LETS SPEND THE NIGHT TOGETHER : "WE PUT THE SEX in SEX, DRUGS, and ROCK and ROLL"

     
    WARNING!  As I promised I would give you a warning if I think some readers might need or want one, since MISTRESS MANIFESTO demurs from sexual explicitness.  Cynthia Plaster Caster (and her casts of a certain part of the male anatomy) is part of this film!  You may want to skip it if you're shy.



    "We put the SEX in Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll"

    "I'm setting out to reclaim the word Groupie..."


    LET'S SPEND THE NIGHT TOGETHER stars Pamela Des Barres (sometimes called Queen of the Groupies - at least in LA!) and Lori Maddox (AKA Lori Lightening), who both had relationships with Led Zeppelin Guitar God, Jimmy Page.  These two women were once enemies, but  years later bonded because he broke BOTH their hearts. Based on Des Barres book of the same title, watch it and learn a bit about HOW TO DEFINE GROUPIE!




    Saturday, October 8, 2016

    PAMELA DES BARRES : A WELL KNOWN MUSICAL MUSE BUT A MISTRESS NOT!

    Pamela DesBarres, born Pamela Miller, once upon a time Queen of the (Los Angeles) Groupies, is now a successful author based on a number of books she's published such as "I'm With The Band," and "Let's Spend The Night Together," and "Take Another Piece Of My Heart."  These books recount her adventures as a Groupie, and then as a woman (eventually) married to a British rock star, Michael Des Barres, as well as the mother of a brilliant child, who goes through a divorce. Her writing is always explicit, exciting, and heart-full. I've read every one of her books over the years.

    She looks just like you or me in her high school yearbook picture, but she had a different World View, and the clubs on the Sunset Strip were not so far from her family home in a working class suburb of The San Fernando Valley.



    When it comes to Groupies, she was one with a Heart of Gold. 

    Friends of mine think Pamela is way too "talkie" to be a good Mistress! Men might be scared off because they could end up in her book, if she wants to write about them! Does she have to name names?   (Yes, she really does!)

    Another reason friends think so is that Pamela, and other groupies, seem to be so not materialism that they're practically sacrificial. Pamela's had lots of adventures but she's wasn't materialistic enough; she stood by her husband when they were low income, living with friends, between jobs, even took dumb jobs. She was just too self sacrificing, they say, but then again, I say, she's managed to make her own way in life. One snotty person said, "She has even made herself into a 'cottage industry'!"" (We could say that about Angelyn!)  If she were a man they'd say that she is a ROCK AND ROLL HISTORIAN!

    Pamela now not only writes books but teaches writing workshops - Los Angeles - Vegas - Chicago - New York - gives rock and roll tours around the Sunset Strip area of Hollywood, and well... here is her site, with lots of sexy and fun pictures! 

     PAMELADESBARRES.COM



    He tackles the term Groupies, saying these girls were a force of nature...

    FROM the YOUTUBE Presenter of this Video:

    MICHAEL DES BARRES (PAMELA's EX HUSBAND and the FATHER OF THEIR CHILD) LOVES HER WRITING
     

    "Michael Des Barres is the host of Little Steven's Underground Garage on SiriusXM Radio, Channel 21 every weekday morning at 8am ET and again at Midnight ET. He has appeared in countless feature films and television shows and sold seven million albums as a writer and artist. A working musician for five decades, he has performed around the world from backroom bars to Live Aid. Michael’s enduring love of Delta blues and the rock and soul of the mid-60s beat boom is exemplified by his days as front man for such seminal bands as Silverhead, Chequered Past, Power Station and Detective, a band personally signed by Jimmy Page to Swan Song Records."


    (SORRY A VIDEO I POSTED HAS BEEN WITHDRAWN FROM PUBLIC USE!)

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