Tuesday, March 31, 2015

COMING UP... HER LOVER WENT DOWN ON THE TITANIC IN 1912 : SHE SURVIVED INTO THE 1960's

In the "TITANIC" movie starring Leonardo Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet, we see that the ship, like much of society, was divided by class.  Millionaires were on that ship in first class, segregated so they wouldn't ordinarily have to mix with those in cheaper tickets or the barest of accommodations.

In one scene in the movie a millionaire says, "We have dressed in our best, and are prepared to go down like gentlemen."

That's the millionaire and his mistress I'll be giving next month to!


Tuesday, March 24, 2015

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Self Actualization

Self Actualization.  This term is kind of dated.  It is a concept of a psychology researcher named Maslow, who also showed us that we all have a "pyramid of needs."  When all the needs are fulfilled, we are able to reach the peak, self actualization.

Reading about 20ish Ginger Alden and the way Elvis influenced and dictated her fashion, beauty choices, and lifestyle in the 1970's, I'm reminded that we've "come a long way, baby" and how important it is to know oneself, keep up with your own interests, have goals (even if they are small and short term achievements to start), and to try and live up to your potential.


"I will not neglect my own interests, continue to define my goals, and try to live up to my potential, even if I'm committed to another person in a relationship."

To Read More About Self Actualization

PSYCHOLOGY OF MASLOW

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

ELVIS' GIVES GINGER EXPENSIVE PRESENTS AND SETS UP A BANK ACCOUNT FOR HER - from ELVIS and GINGER

According the book, ELVIS and GINGER, (besides the diamond engagement ring and promises to pay off her mother's house mortgage and install a swimming pool in that yard)  Elvis Presley gave Ginger Alden...

page 206 ) An all diamond TLC (Tender Loving Care) necklace specially made for her.

page 248) A vacation trip to Hawaii in which some of her own family, some of Elvis' employees, and Elvis's doctor Nick and his family are all also paid for and brought along.

page 252) A redecorated dressing area near the bedroom they share in colors Ginger preferred, which eliminates further evidence of his old mistress Linda Thompson and Linda's hot pink carpeting.  (When Ginger moved in Linda's clothes, photographs, and so on were still in evidence.)

page 252) Gave her one of his own jewelry boxes made of inlaid copper and brass to start storing the jewelry he gives her.

page 255) Joe Esposito warned her not to admire anything when they go shopping because Elvis will buy whatever it is without concern for how much it costs.

page 255) A newish car that he had first given his father Vernon, who didn't like the car. 

page 255) "Leading me into the dressing area of his bathroom, he gave me the most singular piece of jewelry I'd ever seen, his own large, ram's head necklace in gold inlaid with diamonds and emeralds. "Always wear it with something black, he instructed."

255) "It was around this time that Elvis decided that I should have a bank account.  He put Vernon (Elvis' father) in charge of opening one for me.  Elvis put $5000 into the account and I received a credit card.  I had made a little money from working at the dress shop, but I was awestruck. This amount of money might have seemed small to some, but to me it was, quite literally, a fortune.  I had never even owned personal checks or a credit card!"

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

PRISCILLA AND SHIRLEY TRY TO PUSH GINGER TO PUSH ELVIS FOR A WEDDING DATE - BOOK EXCERPT from ELVIS and GINGER

Shirley at the time was the girlfriend of Joe Esposito, one of Elvis' employees.  Shirley talked to Priscilla on the phone when she called and gave her the news that Elvis was now engaged to Ginger.  After the phone call, Shirley urged Ginger to push Elvis for a wedding date.

PAGE 237-238

"I didn't like the idea.  I remembered Elvis once telling me that he thought when it came to marriage it was the man's place to ask, and Elvis had already told me a few times that God would come through and tell him when the time was right.  I wanted him to be sure.  A red flag went up.  Was Shirley trying to help me or hurt me?"

Saturday, March 7, 2015

GINGER FINDS OUT ELVIS IS PAYING LINDA'S RENT - BOOK EXCERPT from ELVIS and GINGER

From the book ELVIS and GINGER by Ginger Alden

EXCERPT FROM PAGES 182-183

"That's okay.  You can say it in front of Ginger and Rosemary," Elvis said.  Looking slightly uncomfortable, Joe (Esposito) repeated "Linda called and was wondering if you're going to pay the rent on her apartment in Los Angeles."

I was completely taken aback.  Elvis had been paying Linda's rent?  Why? And for how long?  Elvis was watching me closely,. as he did sometimes, studying my face for a reaction, but I tried not to let my surprise and concern show.

Elvis looked at Joe and shook his head no. Looking back at me he said, "It's not fair to you."  Joe walked away.

"Well Elvis, it wouldn't be right," I said, remembering that Elvis had asked me to commit myself 100% to him, and feeling like he should do the same for me.

Elvis kept his eyes on my face.  "I bought Linda a house not long ago to put some distance between us," he said.

Had Linda lived at Graceland full time until them?  I wondered, but didn't ask, I was too busy trying to absorb this new twist."

Monday, March 2, 2015

GINGER ALDEN : LAST LIVE-IN MISTRESS WAITING TO BE A WIFE OF ELVIS PRESLEY

Like Pricilla first, like Linda Thompson before her, GINGER ALDEN lived in with Elvis Presley as a mistress in wait to be a wife, but only Pricilla, who began her wait as a younger teenager, waited long enough and got  legal marriage and had a baby.  Ginger did get a beautiful diamond engagement ring and a diamond studded Tender Loving Care necklace and is known most for being the woman who found Elvis dead.

Elvis liked very young, you could say "unmolded" women and he clearly had a type he liked and you could say created.  When you see pictures of all three of these women you see similarities in their look, enhanced by Elvis' taste in clothing, jewelry, hair styles and makeup, that are very Bling!


ELVIS AND GINGER
Elvis Presley's Fiancé and Last Love
Finally Tells Her Story
by Ginger Alden
 
 
Ginger was speaking from her heart when she wrote her story, careful to simply tell only what she knew and experienced as a 20 year old local Memphis beauty who was summoned to meet the 42 year old Elvis in 1977, selected by him to be his immediate girl friend-lover before Linda Thompson was completely moved out, and was, along with her tolerant and agreeable family, showered with expensive gifts that included cars and promises to pay off the mortgage of her mother's house and install a pool in that backyard, and so on.  All she had to do was be on call and agreeable, groomed to be his perfect girl-woman, beautiful but also dominated. But several months into the relationship Elvis died before all promises could be fulfilled.
 
It's not possible to eliminate Linda Thompson as Elvis' previous mistress from Ginger's story, but Ginger was Elvis' last relationship and it was she who found him dead in the bathroom adjacent to his bedroom hours after he left the bed they shared. There have been some conspiracy theories attached to his death and she was not, after his death, kept innocent of this, while knowing nothing that could help an investigation.
 
It is because of the terms and conditions of being Elvis' girlfriend-lover that I, more knowledgeable of the ways of men and the world than a 20 year old beauty in 1977, think of Elvis' live-in Graceland TM women as mistresses.  He was one to gift and set up a woman, to have her on call so that she gave up her employment or career ambitions to be there for him.  He provided for himself- and her- some private space away from, but close enough, to family members and employees who lived in also or nearby.  That they knew of the relationship(s) doesn't deter me from thinking of Ginger and Pricilla and Linda as mistresses, not at all.  For through history Kings and their courts have also known and lived with and around, as an example, and sometimes ambitious parents offered up their offspring for the honor.  So there is more than one reason Elvis was called "The King."
 
Elvis loved.  He needed to be loved.
 
When he bought Linda Thompson a place to live in Los Angeles so she could further her career ambitions, it was mostly a parting gift because Elvis had lost interest.  When he announced from the stage that Ginger was his girlfriend or when he had her travel, she is out there in public with him, not hidden away but revealed to the world.  How different though is that to the more ordinary mistress who has met her man's children, is known to his best friends and secretary, and is seen out with him?
 
From past reading around Elvis and Pricilla, Pricilla claims that, through they were sexual, she and Elvis waited till marriage to have actual intercourse and she became pregnant right away.  That is not the case with Linda Thompson and Ginger Alden. I don't believe the sometimes proffered notion that Elvis Presley had a virgin-whore complex, which is why I just think that during all those years of waiting, Elvis had lost interest in Priscilla.

Contrary to much that has been published on the subject, Ginger does not believe that Elvis was depressed or especially drug addicted in his final months of life.  She acknowledges nightly packets of pills delivered to the bedroom.  He is depicted as controlling, moody, and capable of great giving, which to me is often spontaneous and foolish because it eventually becomes estate breaking.  Elvis' great shows of spending worried some of his retainers and family members who are dependent upon him. 
 
By summoning beauty queens whose looks he likes to Graceland TM this famous singer and star who emerged from the early days of Rock and Roll in the 1950's, doesn't have to go out to meet women,  have his every move made public and scrutinized, or go through the usual courtship of a woman.  It's more like they are amazed and mesmerized and agreeable and appointed, even if they already have a boyfriend-lover they will have to break up with right away like Ginger did.
 
How depressed could Elvis be?  Why would he make all these plans for the future if he knew he was sick or dying? After all he was planning to marry her and have a child!  As he had his other mistresses, Elvis told Ginger that he alone would know the right time to marry because GOD would let him know. 
 
Trust him! 
 
Through the story, the young Ginger both dares not question Elvis or their compatibility or the effect on the relationship due to their vast age difference, but is always sensitive to evidence of Linda.  Maybe what she had readily agreed to was to be part of a love triangle?

Elvis enjoyed teaching Ginger and liked her to read to him as they sat in bed.  This was in part because he had glaucoma and his eyes were often irritated and stressed.  Together they read spiritually oriented books.  Elvis had studied karate and also attempted hands on healing.  But there is always the possibility that if he had lived and they had stayed together that she would have become an abused woman. Because in one of his moody shifts of personality he raged and slapped Ginger on the side of her rib cage, saying "No one ever walks out on me when I'm talking!"  Elvis is very much used to and expecting to get his way and capable of anger and punishing behavior when he is questioned. 
 
 Through this month I'll feature some telling excerpts from the book "Elvis and Ginger" by Ginger Alden.
 
 
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