Monday, December 30, 2013

DIONNE WARWICK and her son DAVID ELLIOT sing " SAY A LITTLE PRAYER"



This is the third Dionne Warwick music video I've posted on MISTRESS MANIFESTO.  I love the songs she covers, many Burt Bacharach and Hal David compositions, and am a major fan!

Sunday, December 29, 2013

2013 YEAR IN REVIEW : THE POSTS MY READERS ARE READING

(I decided to review 2013 based on the information that Google Blogger provides about MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT!  Thanks to all my readers who make this a very successful blog!) 

I want to tell you what the most popular posts have been and where readers are coming from! 

Now, this doesn't mean that I'm overly swayed by what statistics have been.  I would probably go on posting even if I had very little readership because this is fun for me.

I know that Mistresses are a fascinating subject.  That's why there are so many books, movies, and television shows about Mistresses!  Fiction and Not!

Karin Stanford, who had a relationship and child with Jesse Jackson Senior, is the once-upon-a-time mistress who is still getting the most  hits!  She is a successful college professor with a career of her own.  I have no idea why!

Closely followed by a simple post called "Bob Hope's Girlfriends!  That tells me that I better dedicate a whole month to that subject.  (I've heard a lot about one of them, but you know there is a difference between a girlfriend, an affair, a fling, and a Mistress!) 

Scott Thorson, the ex of Liberace who wrote his memoir about being a Kept Man that has been turned into a respected movie called "Behind the Candelabra" is also of very much interest to my readers!  (I'm one of those people who has been rooting for Scott, and hoping he can overcome his addictions and win his bout with cancer too!  He's had a hard life.  My wish for him is peace of mind.)

Coco Chanel is also a long-time favorite!  I think that's in part because she managed to create a whole fashion house though coming from such adversity and changed women's fashion to something more comfortable and modern.

Where are my readers reading from? 

The United States overwhelmingly so.  The United Kingdom, Russia, and Germany are next, closely tied are Canada and France.  (I wish I knew if that was French Canada or not!) Latvia, for a small country, has checked in almost as much as Australia.  Maybe I better find out where all the Mistresses are hiding in that country! Denmark and Italy are less interested than I would imagine but still checking in quite a bit!

A few individuals are checking in from Qatar, Japan, and Singapore.  Maybe it's the write-ups I did on Jillian Lauren or Marilyn Young?

THANK YOU FOR READING MISTRESS MANIFESTO. BLOGSPOT.COM! 

Missy

Friday, December 20, 2013

DEAN MARTIN : THE CHRISTMAS BLUES : FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE A LITTLE DEPRESSED



Mistresses aren't the only ones who can find the Christmas holidays depressing, but for those who want more from a relationship, like more time to spend together, it can feel lonely or isolated.

Whatever your relationship status, this is the time to get out there!  Get moving!  Don't give in to self pity, even if you've had a difficult year and there is no end in sight to the problem.  You probably have a lot to be thankful for.

So, if you're feeling down, here are some suggestions:

Don't give into being slovenly unless you're sick.  Get up, do your make-up and hair, dress well, and go for a walk, even if it's just out for a coffee, or to watch the kids piling on Santa Claus' lap at the mall.

THERE IS SO VERY MUCH TO DO WITH YOUR TIME during this season. 

Volunteer!

You'll find that there are plentiful opportunities to do just that, without having to make any long term commitments to a cause or organization. You can help serve food at a homeless shelter.  You can help the local police wrap presents for their toy give away.

I remember the year that a group of my neighbors decided at the last minute to show up at the closest senior citizens home to carol.  Most of the people who lived there were Jewish but believe me they were so cheered by being sung a few songs to, even though we were out of tune!  It was Old Fashioned mad cap fun!

You get the idea!

Missy



Sunday, December 15, 2013

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Appreciation

"A gift always deserves sincere appreciation.  It never hurt to thank someone!"

You've heard "It's the thought that counts, and probably, you have received some gifts that made you wonder "Whatever does she think of me?"  Well, these days people are re-gifting a lot, and those hockey-puck fruit cakes seem to really make the rounds, though the fresh ones can be wonderful - a thin slice and some dreamy French Vanilla ice cream on the side!  Or maybe you've had the experience of visiting a friend and noticing that she brought out something you gifted her to show you that she actually uses the piece. 

Since few of us are close to royalty or diplomats and don't have people who keep track of the gifts we've received and the ones we give, it's up to you.  Frankly, I don't believe in re-gifting.  It's too tricky.  Instead, if there is something I truly cannot appreciate and use, I donate it to a charity bazaar.

If someone gives you a gift that was clearly well thought out but still doesn't work for you, say a garment that is the wrong size or that you have too many of, it is OK to say so and return it for something else.  The best way to do this?

"Sandra, that beautiful chemise you bought me is a bit too snug.  I hope your feelings won't be hurt, but I would like to exchange it."  If she's your best friend, invite her to go shopping with you and help you choose something else!

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

IT'S IN HIS KISS! NICK MCDERMOTT WRITES ABOUT KISSING!

DAILY MAIL : HOW KISSING HELPS A WOMAN ASSESS POTENTIAL PARTNERS

... "Oxford University scientists have concluded that kissing helps women meet their ideal man, because it allows them to assess their potential partners.
It gives them the chance to subconsciously weigh them up through taste or smell, and so glean information about their compatibility and general health.
Kissing also has a further role to play, they claimed, by keeping established couples together and reinforcing affection. More frequent kissing was linked to the quality of a relationship..."

XOXOXOX

The DEPARTMENT OF EXPERIMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY should take note!  A man who kisses badly or not at all, is not a man a woman can or should tolerate!



Thursday, December 5, 2013

SHOULD SHE BUY HIM AN EXPENSIVE GIFT FROM THE MONEY HE GAVE HER? ADVICE FROM MISSY!

QUESTION FOR MISSY: 

I'm a secretary with aspirations to be a singer and not a well paid one.  I just found out that my income of $25,000 a year is considered poverty in Los Angeles.

"Dale" has been very generous to me and I feel bad that I can't give him gifts that anywhere equal what he gives to me.  I mean that he gave me a diamond cocktail ring for my birthday and I got him a hand-made sweater for his.  The sweater's turquoise which I thought looked good with his red hair and it turns out he has three other turquoise sweaters in his closet.  He made a fuss over it but must have been thinking "Oh no!  Not ANOTHER turquoise sweater! He's worn it once. 

Then Dale paid the cosmetic dentist for me to have my molars capped!  It cost something close to $5000!  He convinced me that since I'm a singer this was important. So I went for it. I admit that if I'd had $5000 I would've probably had this done myself.  I got him a silver engraved cigarette lighter as a little thank you. 

Dale is driving a beautiful vintage sports car which he's refurbished.  My contribution is that I detail it on the Saturday afternoons he spends with me.  He brings the car over, I wash it out in the street while he sits back with a couple beers, and then I make us a romantic dinner.

Now Dale is going to be out of town for five or six weeks, some travel and some business, and he has handed me $5000 and told me to use it for "whatever."  I want to buy him a really nice present with it.  Something from a store in Beverly Hills.

Michelle

ANSWER FROM MISSY:

Income inequity...  Isn't the fact that women don't have it the basis for the feminist movement?  Well, sadly we women have not caught up to men's incomes, even though far more women are going to and completing college and expecting to support themselves and their children too!  So you're a secretary making an income that doesn't even allow you to have the full participation in life you desire.  Like so many other women! 

Don't feel too bad.  Compared to some you're doing really well, Michelle!

Just how many chemical engineers does it take to screw in a light bulb?  (i.e. we can't all be Fortune 500 CEO's!)

Michelle, I think you are not comfortable accepting gifts.  I think Dale knows that you don't have much money and he wants to help you and make you happy.  I'm more concerned that his gifts are so practical - molars? 

I think that if you cannot simply say "Thank You" and be gracious and loving, you need to talk to Dale, but really the issue will probably be something else, like exactly where you relationship is or where it's headed. 

Put the $5000 in the bank and don't spend it.  You may need it.

Missy

Monday, December 2, 2013

YOUR WISH LIST AND YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS ARE NOT SO DIFFERENT

I decided to go just get into the Holiday Season this month and not give it over to a Mistress or Mantress of the month.

Of course I've been considering who I'll be featuring in the coming year! 

Oh, I do hope I'll surprise you!

What a year it's been and I do so want to get cozy.  I feel like staying indoors and in bed to read good books and watch some movies I've missed.  I feel like filling my slow cooker with lots of veggies and some meat - just enough - and making a stew to come home to (have you ever tried pouring a can of beer into a slow cooker stew?), then go out, take a long walk alone in my coat, without money - just an ID and a few bucks in my pocket. Maybe I'll go shopping before the hustle bustle.  I feel like maybe a yoga class and later a long hot soak in the tub with some beautiful perfumed bath salts.

I'm getting ready for the New Year too!

I was going through my closet the other day, and putting some things I no longer wear in bags to be donated to charity.

Do you remember when you were a teenager and so sensitive to all the fads?  Of course you didn't think of them as fads!  You weren't posing!  Whatever it was - Preppie - Grunge - Punk - Starlet -  you actually were or aspiring to be exactly what your clothing said about you.  The music you listened to and the people you dated were part of that time in your life.

Then the years passed, you matured, and you found that  there were some things - clothes - people - that you gave away, and yet there are some things - people - that remain classic and dear to you. Finding your own style which will endure with you for years, maybe a favorite hair cut that plays up your best features, a color of lipstick that makes your teeth look brighter and your smile kissable, or a signature perfume that you never seem to tire of, has a comfort to it. (What is your favorite floral bouquet?  What's your taste in jewelry?) These are the things that, as gifts, are always appreciated. 

(Oh dear, what ever happened to my old friend who was gifted a massive life time supply of Georgio?)

CoCo Chanel said, "Style is being yourself on purpose!"

Of course Style seems to be most about Fashion, things that are most obvious to others when they first see you.  At least you hope you can be alluring enough that some people will want to get to know you better because personality counts too!. 

Having friends is important.  We are all in need of at least one Golden Friend who we can be ourselves with and really talk to and be understood by, someone we can Trust.  That isn't as easy as it used to be when we go through so many changes so rapidly.  We don't have the leisure we used to have and seem to rush through life, sometimes without reflection.  We tend to have friends who are with us only through college, or only while we live in a certain neighborhood, or only while we are married.

The holiday season with all it's distractions may not be the time to do serious soul searching or begin a radical diet, but my guess is that your Wish List and your New Year Resolutions are not so different.  It may begin with a Make-Over.  It could end with a New You by this time next year.

Missy