Tuesday, August 20, 2013



Recently, I was looking at the innards of this blog, the parts that tell me where readers are from, what posts they're interested in, and so on.

I noticed that many hits were coming from a video, a very clever, arty, cartoon marketing tool, advertising someone named JOSH PELLICER, who is teaching men how to seduce women. 

Pellicer is not teaching men how to get or keep a relationship.  Maybe he thinks that comes after you've slept with hundreds of women or if you accidentally fall in love with one of your conquests.

I was interested to hear what he had to say and watched the video, maybe 10-15 minutes, before there was any instructions on how to sign up for a class or personal coaching.

I think Josh may be using this blog in some way when he teaches men how to seduce.  Part of his theory is that women are always wanting what other women have - including their men.

Anyone who reads this blog about mistresses must know that, while considered unconventional, most mistresses are stand-by-your man types, few historical mistresses were as promiscuous as some women are today.

This is a recap of what the video which is totally oriented towards men and heterosexuality, tries to tantalize with: Josh comes off as honest and earnest and youthful. He begins with the story of how he was a henpecked guy who did everything his live in girlfriend wanted, until he found himself staying in his car behind a building while her father made a surprise visit to her in North Carolina. 

Technically briefly homeless, Josh was harassed a bit by the police and made to feel the shame for being such a wimp. He became bitter that he moved to North Carolina with her, worked two bad jobs to support them, and that she never revealed their relationship to her father. He was deceived somehow.

This deception was his inspiration to learn how to pick up "chicks" and "9" and "10" "hotties," who will flirt and sleep with a man without too much effort on the man's part. 

Claiming to sleep with fifteen new women a month (and there was no mention of safe sex or contraception to the point that I watched the video) Josh is exacting his revenge by teaching other men his "BIZZARO CHICK TRICKS" so that they too can successfully pick up scores of women, using manipulative secrets he wants to share.

If a man wants to be a PLAYER, this video makes some promises, that a man does not need money, fame, success, big muscles, a full head of hair, or good looks.  All he needs is to practice Josh's tricks.

Some of his tricks include looking at a woman's mouth (not her face or eyes) when talking to her, not bodily facing her right away which can be considered too aggressive, and using pick up lines in which  a man makes a claim he sense that she is comfortable and open minded, claiming that he is sensitive and feels a vibe.

Some of these tricks are based in psychology theories and some in subliminal manipulation.  Women apparently cannot be dealt with in an honest and straightforward fashion.  They want to be manipulated into sex.

I just don't know any women like that!

Throughout this blog I advise awareness, self education, and self honesty. Yes, we should be aware of men who are seductive. Nowhere do I advise people to be manipulative to get laid, get money, or anything else. It concerns me that some men will be encouraged to be unethical and disrespectful of other people's self determination in their dealings with women, all for a higher score.

Though I know that some women are seduced by liars and live to regret it, I say to them "Do not lie to yourself."  If you're unhappy in any relationship why keep it?  If you're taking good enough care of yourself to keep your independence, you won't have to.

We need to understand ourselves and what it is we want with another person, for sex, for love, for relationship. We also need to check in with ourselves to ask if we have changed in our desires or expectations from time to time.

Some women at some point in their lives want to be sexually explorative. 

I tend to think that women who are "falling" for techniques such as Josh's compilation, are in that time of life. So a guy is coming on to them, so he's transparent, so she's heard it before.  If he's attractive enough, maybe she will.

That's her choice and decision, if she's intelligent and mature and a bit wise to the world.

I've met women who were in that time of life.  Sometimes in their youth, sometimes after a divorce, or even in old age as an experience they never had.

I've also met men who are seducing women because they want to be taken in and kept.  They want to stay at home and write or paint and have dinner on the table when she comes home. Some of them are truly talented and need a patron or mentor and are appreciative.  Others just can't keep a regular job and would be homeless if not for their bountiful lady.  Some of these men think they are so good in bed that they are, at least in their own minds, trading sex for a roof over their heads and a meal in their belly.

If everyone knows that's what's happening, then again, that's their choice. 

I've met more women who are all about their relationship. Hate to say it but most women these days, even those with careers, seem to do a whole lot his way.

Josh is right that women are not all looking for money, fame, big muscles, etc. in order to find a man attractive. I don't know if he's encouraging men to seduce women who are poor nobodies, but he has a double standard because sure does emphasize beauties as more worth winning over.  Maybe he thinks that beautiful women are normally more resistant to seduction and that seducing a beautiful woman is more of a win.  Maybe the wimp in him wants to be seen with a beautiful woman to prove he's a great guy. 

(Maybe this is ALL about impressing other guys?)

I don't believe in dishonesty in order to seduce.  When a person lies to another person to seduce him or her, he takes away his or her right of self determination based on knowing the truth.

Even if sexual attraction and compatibility are a great influence in a woman's decision making, if she wants to tie her life to a man's, if not as a wife, than as a live-in girlfriend, or a mistress, or even one of his mistresses, she should be making that decision knowing the truth, her truth. I can bet she does think about some practical matters, like having children and being able to support them.


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