Wednesday, September 26, 2012


It begins "Ruth Kligman, an abstract painter who for decades seemed to know everyone and be everywhere in the art world and who was the lone survivor of the 1956 car crash that killed Jackson Pollock, her lover at the time, died Monday at Calvary Hospital in the Bronx. She was 80 and lived in Manhattan..."

Ruth was an artist herself, and I find that women in the arts are never as well represented in galleries or museums as men artists. I have met a number of men with aspirations in the arts and music who have been or are kept, at least for a time. They may not be married, their keeper may not be married, but they are financed, introduced to people who can help them, and generally supported in other ways. None of these men has seemed to be the least bit apologetic or insecure. They seem to feel that their talent deserves support. - Missy

Monday, September 24, 2012


Linking to IMDb movie database which has the cast and crew list. Jackson is acted by Ed Harris, Marsha Gay Harden is Lee Krasner, Pollock's wife and Jennifer Connelly is Ruth Kligman the mistress... a little portion.

Saturday, September 22, 2012


Ready to read the names of the top 40 riches billionaires? How many are women? How many inherited wealth? How many made their own fortune? How many give away some of their money?

These days with inflation a billionaire might just be equal to a turn of the century millionaire.

Thursday, September 20, 2012



A few months back I said that MONICA LEWINSKY was not a mistress to President William "Bill" Jefferson Clinton.   No, their relationship was an affair.  Special to her.  Not so special to Clinton who distanced himself calling her "that woman."  Never mind the age difference and the difference in power.

Today the breaking news is that she will be paid $12 Million for her memoir.  I'm happy for Monica.  She paid an unfair price for her affair, one of those being that if she were not a notorious woman she would likely have found love in all the right places by now.  If she is condemned to singlehood or loneliness (and not everyone who is unpartnered is lonely or even looking for a relationship) then at least allow her to be well off for the rest of her life!

Monday, September 17, 2012


Maybe you've heard, but Thomas Kinkade, the artist known as "The Painter of Light," who was worth 60 million when he suddenly died of an accidental combination of booze and Valium. He had moved on and in with his mistress Amy Pinto-Walsh, much to the humiliation of his wife. Linking here to one of many article about another fight between a wife - in this case an ex wife - and a "mistress" in this case a woman who has a good career of her own and whose man came to live with her.

The press is using the term mistress, and once again I'm feeling that the term has been used improperly. In today's culture the term is often used to describe people who would be best called one night stands or affairs. In this case, Kinkade left a marriage and was planning another one.

"Pinto-Walsh, who was called a gold-digger by the estranged Mrs Kinkade, said after the painter’s death that the two were planning to wed after his divorce was finalised.

In April, lawyers portrayed Mr Kinkade's girlfriend as a ruthless gold digger who is out to 'tear down' the late artist's reputation and do irreparable damage to his family."

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Friday, September 7, 2012


HELEN GURLEY BROWN, famous for being the editor of COSMOPOLITAN magazine for many years, passed away recently. The editorial decisions she made for over 30 years informed women that they could be sexual before they married, if they married at all, that they could have not just jobs but careers, and that it was great to be independent and self-supporting.

Helen was famous also for writing SEX AND THE SINGLE GIRL, a book that was considered to be a part of the sexual revolution years ago (think early 1960's) when society began to change the expectation that a woman would wait until she was married to have sex.

Our lifestyles have changed a whole lot since then.

Contraception and Abortion are available like they never were in the days when becoming pregnant without marriage could ruin your life. (Unwed women were sent away to maternity homes to have babies and were often forced to give them up for adoption. Abortion was illegal and often unsafe enough to kill a woman. You had to be rich and connected to get the name and address of a doctor who knew what he was doing. Contraception choices were more limited and just for married women, so young unmarried women would fake an engagement when they went to the gynecologist. Most women did not have careers. Even if they went to college, their employment usually ended with their motherhood. Men usually made enough money so that their wives could be stay at home moms. Being a wife and mother were thought to be the great aspiration for any woman.

I wonder, but will never know for sure, if mistresses were more prevalent then than they are now. Helen tried it, with a man she did not love, for a short period of time, and hated it.

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Sunday, September 2, 2012


Vanity Fair - September issue - devotes an article to the story - and so I elect artist Jackson Pollock's mistress Ruth Kligman, as September's Mistress of the Month. As I've said before, there are plenty of historical mistresses, but there are also plenty of modern-day mistresses and they keep making the news if not history!

You know, most Americans claim to loath mistresses. While gay pride parades go happily down the street, the mistress is hidden away. It's presumed that the man is married, that he's rich, that it's heterosexual, that it's "just a fling," that he has a madonna - whore complex. Mistresses are called "home-wreckers," even though the marital relationship may have been "wrecked" for years. Sometimes these things are true, but mistresses are too common for them to always be true. For some people being in a love triangle is simply an alternative lifestyle. It's not for everyone. It's not always for long. And some common ordinary, even conservative women, have found themselves there when they least expected it would ever happen to them.

Despite the denial, films, books, and news about mistresses are just so interesting. Maybe it's just a great fantasy for some people. Maybe it's a lot about sex. Maybe the fiction mistress is safely far far away in a make believe place that even a wife enjoys the read. It's when a mistress isn't make believe that the uproar often starts.

Reading author's like psychologist Dr. Toni Grant, we learn that there is a bit of "Courtesan" in every woman, if she chooses to coax it out. Reading Rabbi Shmuley Boteach we learn that married couples can keep their relationship alive by pretending affairs. Reading Robert Greene we learn seduction is an art and science and philosophy.

Some of our mistresses have lives that are cautionary tales. Some have had a great ride and don't want to get off the roller coaster.

Linking to an interview of author Leslie M. M. Blume, whose Vanity Fair article introduces us to artist Jackson Pollock, his wife, and his mistress!

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