Monday, December 27, 2010

GEORGE MOORE said...

"If there were no husbands, who would look after our mistresses?" George Moore

WHERE THE RICH LIVE - YAHOO NEWS RATES THE CITIES WITH THE HIGHEST NUMBER OF WEALTHY PEOPLE

...and it goes without saying, the highest number of mistresses may coorelate! Paul Toscano reports (the full article is linked here! - click on the title!)

1. District of Columbia
2. Connecticut
3. New Jersey
4. Maryland
5. Massachusetts
6. California
7. Virginia
8. New York
9. Hawaii
10. Illinois
11. New Hampshire
12. Colorado
13. Washington
14. Texas
15. Minnesota

Friday, December 24, 2010

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

MISSY SAYS GET OUT THERE and SOCIALIZE!

that is if you have given in a bit to sadness.... Others of you may have been socializing so much that being home and alone for a week or so is just the thing!

Monday, December 13, 2010

MICHELLE TRIOLA MARVIN - MARVIN MITCHELSON

"At first she accepted payments from him of $833 a month to support her while she tried to resume her singing and acting career. But after support checks stopped she filed suit for half of everything Marvin had earned during their years together. Her share would have been $1.8 million. Her cause was taken up by one of Hollywood's most colorful divorce lawyers, Marvin Mitchelson, who launched what was a campaign to change the law.

"The judge rejected Marvin's community property request but granted her $104,000 for "rehabilitation." The award was later overturned on appeal.

Afterward, she went to work as an agent's secretary at the William Morris talent agency, Palmer said."


Link now to this MSNBC article about Michelle and her law suit.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Perfect Gifts

"My gifts may not be expensive, but they are just the thing, and beautifully presented."


Mistresses, especially those of you who are gifted generously and living the life of a millionairess because of your man and learning all about the good things in life, this may be difficult. You see so many beautiful things when you shop and travel and you want to give him a memento.

Still, if you are not equals economically, it is more important that you save your money than buy him expensive gifts that you cannot afford. BESIDES IF YOU HAVE NO INCOME OF YOUR OWN he sees that you are using the money he gave you to spend on him - as if you don't need it when you do.

For those of you who are working and have your own income, that does not equal what he earns, also be aware that something small and special, just right for him, even if it is not expensive, is what to do.

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Tuesday, December 7, 2010

MARVIN versus MARVIN LEGAL BRIEF

Link here to the LEGAL brief on the PALIMONY law suit that Michelle Triola brough against actor Lee Marvin, after being his mistress for some years.

Like many women in her lifestyle, she left her career behind because she wanted to be with her man as much as possible, but this did not work out for her. She had self supported as a singer prior to Lee but she had not achieved great fame or wealth as a result.

So many women, not just mistresses, neglect or fail to develop self supporting career because they want to be available to men: this is not just an issue for mistresses. But because mistresses sometimes travel with the men who keep them, they have a difficult time being involved in a full time occupation.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

DEFINING MISTRESS - HE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE MARRIED

By my way of thinking the term Mistress isn't appropriate for every woman who has an affair with a married man.

(And please remember that I am well aware that this type of relationship can happen in homosexual, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, and other relationships!)

A woman can be a Mistress to a man who is not married to anyone, or a man who is living with someone, or remain his Mistress even though he goes through a series of girlfriends or marriages...

A Mistress is sometimes the consistency in his life.

Friday, December 3, 2010

CLARE BOOTH LUCE said

"A man has only one escape from his old self ... To see a different self in the mirror of some woman's eyes."

Clare Booth Luce in her successful play "The Women"

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

MISTRESS OF THE MONTH : MICHELLE TRIOLA "MARVIN"

Nightclub singer MICHELLE TRIOLA'S "palimony" case against macho actor Lee Marvin, who remained married to his wife Pamela through the years that Michelle and he also lived together, is our Mistress of the Monthly for December 2010.

Her 1977 Palimony case was a legal precedent in the still rarely publicly explored issues of what happens to the money when a person is in fact married to more than one other person at a time... In fact the word "Palimony" was made up in the press because of her case.

Michelle was brave to take the man she loved for so long to court knowing this could ruin her.

Michelle died at 75 years old, a little more than a year ago, October 2009. She did not go without love and companionship or die alone due to the spectacle that her suit caused. She was with actor Dick Van Dyke for 30 years after Lee Marvin.

We acknowledge that Michelle was a lover not a fighter and that loyalty meant more than anything to her. With respect, we honor her as Mistress of the Month.

(Linking here to a blog called POE FORWARD that has a tribute and good picture of her and Lee...)

Monday, November 29, 2010

KIM JOHNSON GROSS can ADVISE YOU ON DRESSING STYLISHLY AS YOU AGE

Missy here: I'm linking to the web site of KIM JOHNSTON GROSS, whose book "What To Wear For The Rest of Your Life" (Ageless Secrets of Style) is my personal recommendation for you mistresses who need to learn to AGE GRACEFULLY.

"As our bodies and lives transition, many of us lack the style-confidence or know-how to rethink, redefine and re-imagine our self-image. Even as a style expert, I know how easy it is to get stuck in old style notions that no longer work as well as they once did."

We've been reading Leslie's story about becoming first one of the worlds most beautiful women and beauty pageant winners to an abused mistress. We're thinking about aging and competition here (though some mistresses never face that problem because they move on into marriage or another loving relationship or are treated well and have a life-long romance with a man they share with his wife or another woman.)

AGING GRACEFULLY by self acknowledging your body changes is what KIM JOHNSON GROSS' book is all about.

I HAVE ANOTHER REASON I WANT TO RECOMMEND HER ADVISE TO YOU. You see, your years as a mistress and buying clothing that you might not be able to afford on your own salary may be limited, but that doesn't mean you can't be financially sound through INVESTMENT. And investing in yourself - getting your teeth straightened, having a beautiful wardrobe that will last past those years is a really good idea!

So take a look at this site and KIM's book!

Friday, November 26, 2010

ALONE FOR THANKSGIVING? DON'T YOU BE! (UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE!)

Are you by any chance ALONE for Thanksgiving? This is the All-American family holiday in the United States, celebrated by people of all religions, and so it's one of the most likely times a mistress will find herself alone, or at least without a visit from her man.

And your friends? Is it that NO ONE has invited you to their table?

How could this happen?

Easily enough!

It's happened to me! Some people just never think of their single friends when it comes to family holidays.

So we are going to make the BEST OF IT!
Put on some music - good music - and make yourself an elegant meal. It does not have to be a WHOLE TURKEY, OK? TURKEY BURRITOS will do! And wine? A glass - not the whole bottle.

OR BETTER YET, get yourself involved now in charitable work, perhaps serving food to the HOMELESS at your local shelter. This will help you keep your perspective!
Yours,

Missy

Saturday, November 20, 2010

KEPT WOMEN by LESLIE MCRAY with TED SCHWARZ : EXCERPT

page 71 (This is the lowest point Leslie experienced as a mistress...)

"I was forty in a world where players in their twenties were overage. I had come to recognize that I was addicted to a highly destructive life-style. Increasingly I had been involved with men who were violent toward me, yet with whom I continued to associate. I retained photographs of myself from when I was a top international model. I framed a letter from the office of a major presidential adviser. I talked of what was happening in Monte Carlo, Cannes, Rome, London, Paris, and other sections of the world, but I was speaking of past trips, past associations. The telephone no longer rang with offers for the modeling jobs I once dominated. The men who contacted me were fewer in number, less sophisticated that in the past, no longer, the world's elite. My time was past and I knew it."

Page 73

"Then there was another man because there had always been another man. "Use my house, consider my staff your staff, drive my car." It was a familiar litany I heard and I fantasized that all was well again. I was still in the game, still competing with the twenty year olds ...still a prize to be won by men who competed for the attention my presence on their arm would bring... But the man who loaned me his house could not keep me there, did not want me there. He had his own life, his own kept woman. I was no longer his but merely a friend, or perhaps a faded memory for whom he retained enough love or enough guilt to provide what was a little more than a few day's vacation... I was on the streets, living from my car, desperately calling men I knew, yet trying to disguise the panic in my voice...

Thursday, November 11, 2010

KEPT WOMEN by LESLIE MCRAY with TED SCHWARZ : BOOK EXCERPT

The following is a list culled from the book of Leslie's "Prince Charmings"
(She says many Kept women have a Cinderella fantasy.)

The Politician
The Arab Entertainer
The Swiss Industrialist
The Billionaire Industrialists
The Jewelry Magnate



C 1990 by Leslie McRay and Ted Schwarz. William Morrow and Co is the publisher



May 2021

I have been thinking about this idea of a Cinderella Fantasy and the thing is, until recently most women expected to be married and have children and not work outside the home for income. It was considered to be the best way to live, perhaps the only way (unless you wanted to join a monastic group or a nunnery) for a decent woman to live, and there was great pressure on women to fulfill the FANTASY that they would get everything they wanted and needed from one person for the rest of their lives and that they could be all to that one man as well. To me that's circa 2021 a Cinderella Fantasy.  Cinderella was an abused orphan who married a Prince who took her away from it all and gave her a good life, not only because she was pretty but also because he was looking for someone so special.  When the shoe fits.

Missy

Monday, November 8, 2010

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Aging Gracefully

"I will dress and make-up in an age-appropriate way."  



Missy here! This is a hard one for many women, because there is so much emphasis on youth in our culture. It's not easy for all of us to understand our looks, or be able to count on an outside opinion; certainly not all those salesclerks in stores tell us the truth; they too often just want their commissions.

Never the less, a woman who is trying too hard to look younger than she is, simply looks ridiculous and is fooling no-one. Age gracefully!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

KEPT WOMEN by LESLIE MCRAY with TED SCHWARZ

EXCERPT

Leslie McRay
"For the first time there was a change in what was taking place in my life. As a beauty contestant, I found people looking at me differently... All I knew was that suddenly I was receiving special attention, attention that both embarrassed and delighted me... I was crowned Miss Fullerton, the first of more than seventy contest I won. It was also the first major step toward becoming a kept woman... I had no identity, no self esteem. It was the 1960's, the end of an era for beauty contestants... That first beauty contest radically changed my life. The contests were still considered legitimate ways to break into modeling and show business careers..." page 65 of her book

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

LESLIE MCRAY BOOK AUTHOR, ACTRESS, ACTIVE FILM PRODUCER : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH

LESLIE McRAY is our MISTRESS OF THE MONTH, NOVEMBER 2010

Leslie wrote a book that was published in 1990 called "KEPT WOMEN" subtitle "Confessions From a Life of Luxury" which is now in it's 3rd edition.

She wrote it with Ted Schwartz.

The book is heavily dependent on psychotherapy, and the diagnosis of kept women as being abused children who grow up with a real lack of self esteem and an addiction to the approval of men, usually based on their beauty and sexual prowess.

Yet, I noticed, she said that many of these Mistresses had their own incomes of $30,000 to $100,000 a year. So most of them really didn't need the money, as I see it, and probably had some education or intelligence and the self esteem to be competive in the work place.



I feel sorry for Leslie that her mistresshood came to what it did and I admire her courage to overcome her past and her own demons to write the book, which does delve into a very dark, scary, aspect of mistressing that some, not all, mistresses experience. This includes sadio-masochism.

Many mistresses apparently "shared and bared" their souls to Leslie, and of course they remain unnamed.
Leslie is also psychology-sure that the whole set up of being kept, by a usually married man, is one in which the man and the mistress are people who cannot keep a commitment (something I personally do not believe is always true either).
Leslie is from a world of beauties who modeled, won contests, and met and were kept by men of international fame. She won something like 70 beauty pageants.

These men who kept Leslie and other women were men with great fortunes - doers - important men. Yet her experience with them was horrible.

She left the mistressing life that caused her so much pain and survived. She is now an active film producer. She has a film on the 9/11 terrorist attack to her credit.

I'm linking to the IMDB database that has a bio of Leslie...
Missy


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Saturday, October 30, 2010

Friday, October 29, 2010

MISSY ASKS YOU : ARE YOU PLAYING WITH AN ALTER-EGO ?

Masked Balls were a favorite form of aristocratic entertainment in European countries, and wanton abandonment was sometimes the name of the game. Wearing a mask and being or feeling yourself to be unknown is sometimes just what a person needs to live as their alter-ego for a few hours. Appearing in costume is also part of the fun at Halloween. And this year Missy is indulging in a little fantasy vampirism which is all the rage.

Are you playing with your alter-ego?

Sunday, October 24, 2010

ZIEGFELD FOLLIES



This sheet music cover presents an image of the Great Ziegfeld, entertainment pioneer and presenter of the dance review.



He personally selected each of his dancers and the competition was fierce...



Many of these dancers had "Back Stage Johnnys." These were men who wore their heart on their sleeves and weren't afraid to pull out their wallets and make life easier for their beloved. Some of these dancers became mistresses. Some married.

Friday, October 22, 2010

DON'T BE TACKY TACKY TACKY ! :OPINION BY MISSY

Dear Left Hand Queens!

Tiger Woods may have been caught on the public stage as a cheater. But if you are involved with someone who is married to someone else - still - and you love this person and you want to keep them in your life, then DON'T GO PUBLIC!

TRULY, your relationship is a private matter!


It always was and it always should be. 
First of all, jealous women don't make good mistresses and only a jealous woman would use a spectacle to hurt a man's wife (and children) publicly. There is nothing to gain and usually much to loose by being mean. Your man may be torn as is, or he may know in his heart that he will never marry you or divorce her but he is probably not prepared for a scene, be that in front of television news cameras or at the masked ball.

It's a small world, and there is simply no grace in being showy to start a battle with his wife (who you think of as his Other Woman) or prove you have won!





Sunday, October 10, 2010

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Healthy Weight

"I will keep my weight in a healthy zone."  



Missy here: What does it mean to be in the healthy zone? Well, I just got done reading model CRYSTAL RENN's book called HUNGRY about her terrible struggles to get to and remain in underweight. I can tell you she looks so very much better as a size 12!

Think about this: Marilyn Monroe was never skinny!

Usually 20 pounds in either direction from the average weight for your height is too little or too much weight. Extreme diets mess with your complexion, your hair and nails, and your hormones! You really are sexier when you have something to hold onto!

Thursday, October 7, 2010

SAMUEL RICHARDSON said

"Men will bear many things from a kept mistress, which they would not bear from a wife." - Samuel Richardson

Monday, October 4, 2010

YELLOW ROSES

Used to be that yellow roses signified friendship, while pink were for affection and red for love.

These days it's best if you present someone with their personal favorite flowers.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

ANGELYNE THE BILLBOARD QUEEN : RUMORED MISTRESS OF THE MONTH




UPDATE AUGUST 2017  HOLLYWOOD REPORTER - ANGELYNE REAL IDENTITY SOLVED  WOW!  See video added October 2018

UPDATES MARCH 2016!  SINCE MY ORIGINAL POSTS in OCTOBER 2010 (!) there has actually been quite a few newsy articles and some new videos on YouTube of Angelyne.  So I'm taking the time to renew the posts and lead you to some interesting reading!
You'll find my original post below this bouquet of flowers for our loveable individualist, Angelyne!

CURBED -LA HAS MANY ARTICLES ON ANGELYNE - SOLD HER CONDO IT GOT FLIPPED

HOLLYWOOD REPORTER - ANGELYNE AUCTIONS PERSONAL ITEMS AT BONHAMS
ByGary Baum on June 21, 2012

By Maggie Milstein on November 26, 2014

HOLLYWOOD REPORTER -BILLBOARD QUEEN ANGELYNE BEMOANS KARDASHIANS.... By Gary Baum


By Chadwick Moore on March 24, 2015
By Juliet Bennett Rylah on Aug 26, 2015
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ANGELYNE ,
the sometime actress, singer, and "BILLBOARD QUEEN" is our RUMORED MISTRESS OF THE MONTH. Rumor also has it that she came into Los Angeles with the name Renee Strauss. ***

In my lifetime I've crossed paths with the famous-for-her-billboards BLONDE BOMBSHELL ANGELYNE several times. She's a tiny woman who appears BIGGER THAN LIFE on those billboards. About two months ago I saw her in a grocery store, where she asked me if I knew where the ladies' room was - sweetly. The time before that she was outside a vintage store near her pink car and signing autographs - sweetly. I've seen her in post office lines. I've passed her on the road driving - at the speed limit.

I've seen her in various stages of aging and youthful renewal. And my guess is that she's at least 65 years old.  There's a lot of secrecy about
ANGELYNE.

Like a lot of people, I've heard many rumors about how she could afford ALL THOSE BILLBOARDS and ALL THAT COSMETIC SURGERY. Let's face it; breast implants and face lifts don't correct your posture. She's standing straight up and in great physical shape - great posture and bearing, not at all hunched over.
 
Her voice sounds girlish... I

t seems no one can imagine that ANGELYNE might have inherited wealth herself or be a good businesswoman who knows how to self promote.

Does she play a CHARACTER CALLED ANGELYNE?

Just like Marilyn Monroe played a character called Marilyn Monroe?

The billboard pictures of her I've seen are definitely airbrushed or enhanced to appear almost cartoonish.

I think she has a sense of humor about herself.  (She says she has found her niche!)

PRIVACY?
For someone who is famous she also does a fantastic job of keeping her privacy!

It would seem that the movie and modeling work she has done over the years is not enough to afford the billboards, the pink car, an office in Hollywood she kept for 20 years.  Privacy is difficult to keep in Hollywood; ever hear of anyone following the pink car and her home? Let's say that to keep that privacy YOU HAVE TO HAVE ACCESS TO MONEY, a good attorney. You own things in another name.

YES, I have "heard" who her rich patron was... or at least one of them... most likely the one who kept her for the majority of her adult life... This man was married for very many years and still was alive and married as of a couple years ago.  And if it's true that it's HIM, then this man is in his 80's - near 90 now...  And he is one of those men who FEW PEOPLE IN THE MAINSTREAM WOULD EVER SUSPECT. ****

Remember though that this is the town that gave the rumor about Richard Gere and the Gerbils it's URBAN MYTH status.


Whatever the case, however different she may be from me or you, ANGELYNE has made her life - with intent.

****UPDATE March 2016... Just want to mention that the name of the man or men who financed her Billboards, possibly for a share in profits, is NOT the name of the man that I "heard" was her rich patron.  Just want to clarify that!


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C 2016 This post has been slightly edited.
C 2022 Very slight editing...

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Enthusiasm for Living

"I will make the easy effort of setting a table beautifully!" 


What makes even a small apartment evident of an enthusiasm for living?

The easy effort of making a table a place of beauty, where the diners care to linger over conversation.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

MISTRESS LEXICON : SHADOW MARRIAGE

SHADOW MARRIAGE is a new way of saying that the marriage - and it is a marriage - between a mistress and her man - is in place but rarely spoken of.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

BOOK REVIEW and OPINION BY MISSY : "MARRY HIM" BY LORI GOTTLIEB

LORI GOTTLIEB never thought about the MISTRESS ALTERNATIVE when she wrote "MARRY HIM."

This is one of those books about how to get married that tells women that the reason they have not gotten married is that they are not realistic about men and marriage; they have given into feminism, or are too idealistic about who they can attract, they let good ones with minor flaws get away, or they suffer from too high self esteem. Shiiiiit! Once again we women are to blame when things don't go right in a relationship. Once again we are the ones who need to change to suit someone else's sensibility - not the men.

"Marry Him," is hilarious in parts and easily to relate to, and yet, I think single-mother-on-purpose Lori needs to consider becoming a mistress. She has made it this far without a husband, has had a child via a sperm bank (very liberated!) so why does she need a husband now? (She can easily borrow someone else's husband and have him part of the time, which is all the time she has to spare!)

Giving up perfectly good men in the hopes of doing better, the author and many of the women who spoke to her, found themselves in their early 40's and not desirable on the marriage market as their easy fertility time passed.

Apparently, 40-something men who want their own genes propagated want much younger women. (But 40-something women are very much desired by older men, many who have had families and have had careers and have the energy for another relationship!)

Apparently, Lori and friends may have deluded themselves at some point that they were OK without (rather traditional) men and marriage so they just said no when they had a chance at marriage. Or did they really ever have a chance to marry? I read about these "too picky" women who regretted letting someone they lived with or were involved with years ago "get away," but can't recall even one of them saying, "we were engaged to be married," or "he asked me to marry him." In other words they were unrealistic that they were in marriage bound relationships in the first place. The men who got away married someone else. Surprise!

MISTRESSES are excellent at coming to terms with the imperfection of men and relationships. We stay with who and what we have and give up what feels like the never ending search for a husband as well. We are practiced at love as a result.

If coming to terms with what your declining value in the marriage market was all it took to be married, many of us would be married, if not to the man who we love now, to someone else. Instead this ability to come to terms with what we have as mistresses helps us stay in the relationship we are in, because we suspect or know that WE PROBABLY CANNOT DO BETTER. (And sometimes a mistress does marry when she can do better!) We are not suffering from the low self esteem always suspected of us but neither are we suffering from "too high" self esteem that keeps some women yelling "NEXT!" as they wave on these perfectly good men !

When it comes to being in a LONG TERM COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, there are men who are very particular about what woman they marry and propagate their genes with. Realistically, many wealthy men will only marry women who also come from wealth. A mistress who starts out as a nobody with nothing can become a somebody with something and it often takes a lot of self discipline to do so! Still, she may never be totally accepted in a wealthy man's social sphere because she was not born into it. Face it! Even outstanding beauty cannot make up for being born poor in some social spheres.

One of the ways of being realistic is to face ourselves, to come to terms with our looks, our bodies, our intelligence, talents, skills, but also our background and opportunities. Many of us are able to have a better man in our lives by being a mistress than if we marry. Many of us have outgrown the men who we were perhaps destined to marry; our neighborhood boys!

It is too easy to imagine that we can really go back there - into a box - when we have been thinking outside it. It is too easy to imagine (because we do not know that letting someone who was not for us in their time has resulted in our singleness or our mistresshood) that our life would be so much better if we had been willing to marry the boy next door who was perhaps our destiny, if we had not educated ourselves or sought careers, if we had not left home or had not moved hundreds of miles away independently. If if if...

Many mistresses don't just imagine it, they know that they are better off as mistresses than as wives, or that the opportunities this life style presents them are far greater than the life they would have had if they "settled." This is our compromise. Mistresses are also successful because they know that they must endeavor to have a life of their own, not totally dependent on a man. We cannot get lazy the way some wives get.

Personally, I think it is better to be devoted to one good man (does hearing that a man can keep a mistress and still be a good man startle you?) for years than it is to have platonic "fuck buddies," or endure several relationships that never even became mutually supportive!

Women who have married busy executives and entrepreneurs, who found themselves alone a lot, might be able to relate; It is never fun to wait around hoping for phone calls, visits, invitations, married or not, and I believe because mistresses are more realistic, they are those who do not wait, but get busy!




Missy


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MARRY HIM The Case For Settling for Mr. Good Enough is by Lori Gottlieb C 2010 and published by Dutton Books

Sunday, September 12, 2010

LINK TO THE OFFICIAL SITE FOR MONACO

Want to link to Monaco? ... on this site I learned that Albert and Charlene will marry in JULY of 2011... moving the wedding date forward. A long engagement. Like no one is in a rush to have children and a heir to the throne...

Thursday, September 9, 2010

NICOLE COSTE BRINGS FORTH HER CHARITY 2010!

 

Miss Afrique 2010, first beauty contest of its kind on African soil ... NICOLE CONTE is busy, looking terrific, and doing something important with her life! The contest was partially sponsored by Nicole's charity...

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

From SEPTEMBER 2010 BAZAAR MAGAZINE : ARTICLE ON DAISY FELLOWES

Just browsing through SEPTEMBER 2010 fashion in Bazaar Magazine, reading an article by David Vincent about THE MOST STYLISH AND WICKED WOMAN IN FASHION, DAISY FELLOWES.
She was the Harper's Bazaar Paris editor in the 1930's.

page 415

"When Fellowes hosted dinner parties, she'd invite people who hated one another and watch the carnage. Wives and mistresses were seated next to each other. Still, no one would think of refusing to attend....

"On the birthday of Princess Aspasia of Greece... Fellowes had one of her daughters deliver a stuffed monkey as a gift. The princess's husband had been killed by a monkey bite. "It was very Versailles, Louis XIV's mistresses all vying for power and instigating coups against each other, says Pamela Golbin, curator in chief of the Musee de la Mode et due Textile in Paris....

"Unsurprisingly, Fellowes' love life was just as complicated. At 20, she married Prince Jean de Broglie. "The prince started up with the chauffeur as soon as he got married, " says (Karl)Lagerfeld. "They all do that." Somehow the couple managed to have three daughters. The price died during World War I.... Seventeen months later, she married the Honorable Reginald Fellowes, grandson of the the 7the Duke of Marlborough, son of Lady Rosamond Spencer-Churchill, and cousin of Winston. With him, she had a fourth daughter. She remained devoted but not faithful. Her hobby was married men..."

Friday, September 3, 2010

SUSIE and JANE and JERRY (from JERRY WIENTRAUB's WHEN I STOP TALKING YOU'LL KNOW I'M DEAD

Reading Concert Promoter - Movie Producer JERRY WEINTRAUB'S memoir and towards the back of the book he tells about his wife Jane (Morgan) the singer, his mistress (our word not his) Susie, and him... an open relationship... one in which their friends and family have been notified to accept it... Here is what Jerry himself has to say in the chapter called A RIDE IN THE HILLS...

"The simple fact is, Jane no longer wanted my life. She didn't want to go to parties, didn't want to have sex with me. Not interested. Good. She needs what she needs and I need what I need, which is to be with somebody who wants to be involved in every part of my life: Mentally, emotionally, sexually. Warren Beatty, lothario of lotharios, once asked me the secret. "How did you make it work, Jerry? How do you pull it off?"

"Well the answer is, I didn't. Jane and Susie did. I have a life with Susie and I love Susie, but I'm still with Jane, too. I see her all the time, and we're on the phone constantly. I will be there whenever she needs me. Otherwise, I am off, in my own life. I think this works only because Jane had such a successful career...I have been with Jane for forty-eight years. I'm one of the ancients now. But I am still here, which means I am still living, still changing."

Jerry Weintraub's memoir is called IF I STOP TALKING YOU'LL KNOW I'M DEAD.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

MISTRESS OF THE MONTH : NICOLE COSTE

Nicole Valérie Tossoukpé, now called NICOLE COSTE, was a flight attendant from the African country of Togo when worldly Prince Albert of Monaco met her, and things were so good between them that Albert, who some say has outdone Mick Jagger when it comes to the numbers of women he has had, decided to set her up in Paris as his mistress. A few years into it, the couple had a son, Alexandre. Albert wanted to marry Nicole but his father said no...

Now, I looked around the net for information and picture on NICOLE COSTE, and I'm linking to this one (click on the title above); it has some great pictures of the couple together and Albert with his son as well as strong suggestions that Monaco look no further for it's heir. Yes, there are some who want little Alexandre to become the heir to the throne and I know - Albert is marrying Charlene  - sometime in July 2011 - but this is MISTRESS MANIFESTO BLOGSPOT!

Just a few months ago Nicole emerged at Cannes...

NOTE 2020 : I'll try to update this month's posts on Nicole.  Blogger changed and the link by clicking on title is not working any more.  Instead I opted for in post links.  I went to this link manually and it is no longer on the net.

UPDATE AUGUST 2020 :  It seems Princess Charlene has been on an extended stay in South Africa and that Prince Albert has taken her - or allowed her to attend - the Red Cross Ball, perhaps the most important social event in Monaco.  Here's the link to the most recent article on that!  DAILY MAIL : PRINCE ALBERT and PRINCESS CHARLENE MARRIAGE ON ROCKS? 

You might also be interested in reading THE GRIMALDI CURSE and THE MISTRESSES OF THE PRINCES OF MONACO  : JANUARY 2015 MISTRESSES OF THE MONTH

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

MISSY ASKS YOU: WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE CLASS?

What does it mean to have class ?

Obviously you don't have to be born into it - though family reputation helps.

You can learn quite a bit without having had a parent raise you to fit into the upper class.

To me it's not just about keeping yourself well groomed and in clothing and shoes that fit, or being stylish (if not fashionable) in clothing. It's about having the grace to know when to leave a room or a relationship.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

ANTON CHEKOV said...

"A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages. First an acquaintance, next a mistress, and only then a friend." -Anton Chekov

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

BUNNY MELLON SET UP JOHN EDWARDS EX MISTRESS RIELLE HUNTER.

"The doyenne of high society is the widow of Paul Mellon, a billionaire art patron and racehorse breeder. She is famously camera-shy and keeps a residence in the Jumeirah Essex House on Central Park South and an estate in Upperville Virginia, where she reportedly became fond of then-first-time presidential candidate John Edwards in 2006."

You can link to this full article from DNAinfo Manhattan, story by Nicole Bode by clicking your mouse on the title of this post...

Missy here: Paul Mellon had a mistress who attended his funeral. I'm sure Bunny knew about her and she would not deny Paul his mistress. I admire Bunny for that!

Rielle Hunter is writing a "tell-all book." I don't know if I admire her for that or not; depends on how she puts it. Another article I found on line suggests that Bunny (Rachel Lowe Lambert Lloyd Mellon), hieress to the Listerine fortune, bought Hunter a $28,000 BMW and a $2,900-a-month home to rent near Chapel Hill, NC!

HERE IS A CASE OF A WOMAN FRIEND OF A MAN KEEPING A MISTRESS FOR A MAN!

Friday, August 13, 2010

DECLARATION FOR MISTRESSES - Expertise

"I will become an expert in at least one of the arts!"   


Painting, playing a musical instrument, designing clothes, or having great knowledge about a particular portraitist - all these enhance your life - and that of the people around you. And when you talk a bit about your passion for the arts, you make an interesting conversationalist.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

MISSY ASKS YOU: ARE YOU HAVING A BABY ?

Are you going to have a baby by the man you are mistress to without the benefit of marriage to him?

Does he have a family already?

Saturday, August 7, 2010

WALLIS SIMPSONS JEWELS at AUCTION - YAHOO NEWS

"Jewels bought by Britain's King Edward VIII for his American wife Wallis Simpson are expected to fetch up to 3 million pounds ($4.55 million) at auction in November, Sotheby's said on Thursday. The king, who renounced his claim to the British throne in 1936 to marry the divorcee, showered her with gifts of jewelry throughout their courtship and marriage. Many of the "magical jewels" honor events in the couple's lives and are of great importance as both works of art and historical artifacts, said Sotheby's jewelry expert David Bennett."

Click on the link above to get to the article and some pictures of some of the jewels.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

AIX- LES-BAINS





MARIA CALLAS : FAME FROM TALENT and TEMPERMENT

This opera singer came into fame through her exquisite talent. Maria Callas probably met many men who wanted her. But who did she want most? A married man. Ari Onassis. We cannot say that his being married is what kept her interested in conquering him for this frustrated her. Yet, they were a two career couple - both busy.
 

She thought he was "it" and his marriage was besides the point.

Video here placed June 2021  Probably better than the old one too!

Monday, August 2, 2010

IS MONTE CARLO THE PLACE TO FIND MISTRESSES?

I've been reading about MONTE CARLO - and MONACO where it is - and I'm convinced it might be one of the best places on earth for mistresses...

NOTE: 2020 : This is one of the early posts I made a decade ago before I got into the more magazine type format that features a subject or person each month.

Besides Monte Carlo being a part of the Ari Onassis story, and posts on Ari, his Mistress Maria Callas, and so on,  in January 2015 I did a month entitled THE GRIMALDI CURSE and the Mistresses of the Princes of Monaco.  You can find it in the archive of this blog. 

Sunday, August 1, 2010

MARIA CALLAS OPERA DIVA and MISTRESS OF ARI ONASSIS

MARIA CALLAS was a diva with amazing talent, one of history's greatest operatic voices, but when Onassis came into her life, she let her career go... sort of... some say when her heart broke so did her voice.

Onassis traded Maria in for the Jackie Bouvier Kennedy but he came back when it was clear to him that the former first lady most cared about shopping... Maria and Aristotle had a passionate affair of many years duration, whether he was married or not.

She never married him and had children with him as she desired.


Read more about her - and him - this month!

Friday, July 23, 2010

PRINCE WILLIAM EXPECTED TO HAVE MISTRESSES? IS KATE HOLDING UP THE WEDDING ?

WE KNOW THAT SOMETIMES TABLOIDS MAKE UP STORIES... and we know there is so much speculation about PRINCE WILLIAM and KATE MIDDLETON, who, let's face it, have been dating/living together for years without CIVIL or RELIGIOUS MARRIAGE...

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE KATE? We suppose she is in love with him... and he her, and also that it's about time for them to marry and have their own heir and a spare... KATE IS GETTING TO THAT AGE WHERE HER FERTILITY is on the decline... Yes there is time left for her to have a child. But the throne may just go from Queen Elizabeth to William and then?

Link now to an article in SHOWBIZ SPY... it says Kate has been told he will have mistresses and she will have to put up with them so she delayed the wedding.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

"THERE IS NO WIFE IN THIS SITUATION BUT THE GHOST OF HIS EX!" : OPINION BY MISSY

Dear Missy,

I'm a Filipino woman who has been in the United States since she was a teenager.
When I was in my late teens I was discovered by a film director in Hollywood. Although I worked on a production with him, he retired me and kept me for a few years. Then after we ended our relationship, I met a man who owns a factory in Ventura County. I gave up any career in Hollywood and moved in with him. I love him and I live my whole life around him.

He said that he was interest in marrying me but had a bad divorce 20 years before. He has a daughter from that marriage. He said he didn't want to marry until his daughter came of age. Well, she did. He hasn't married me.
I travel to Vegas with him frequently. I want for nothing, including good jewelry. Our home in Ventura is modest. No one suspects how rich he really is. THERE IS NO WIFE IN THIS SITUATION EXCEPT THE GHOST OF THE EX!

Recently I met a male friend of his who told me that I am his fifth mistress. Once a mistress presses for marriage, he breaks with her and finds another one. I'm in my late 30's. I really want a child. Should I accept the situation or press for marriage and take my chances? He is 65 and shows no signs of retiring.

Champagne Tastes, Ventura County, California
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Dear Champagne Tastes,

I'd really like to put this one out there for opinions.

My guess is that a man who is 65 and has had several mistresses since his bad marriage broke up long ago is not someone who wants to get married - ever. He's probably thinking of his daughter and her inheritance of his estate. However, it is not fair for you to be kept out of having a career to live around him if he is not going to provide for you in case of a "divorce" or when you are old and alone, without children or any other man to take care of you. It is time to tell this man that he must provide for you because of the circumstances of your life and if he will do this, you will never press for marriage.


You should also be clear that you want a child. Whatever he does, your lawyer (not his) should create a contract that will stand up in court.Your man is aging and should be able to try on what it means to be alone in life.

Report Back In Champagne Tastes !

Missy



Tuesday, June 29, 2010

MAYBE WE WILL ALWAYS WONDER HOW MUCH EVA BRAUN KNEW

Most of us today loath Hitler and Nazism, but there are still people alive today who were in concentration camps, who lost their families, who were victimized by the Holocaust and they can tell you that there was a time when plenty of people hated Jews enough to allow a mass extermination of them.

Hitler could not do what he did with lots and lots of cooperation.

Today there are those who deny that any of it happened, or who say that it was all greatly exaggerated. And there are those who say that EVA BRAUN was loved by Hitler because she was naive, a country girl at heart, innocent in her way.

Is it true?

Did she have any power in her relationship with Hitler?

IS SHE THE WOMAN WHO COULD HAVE STOPPED THE HORROR by whispering in her man's ear, "Baby, please no."

How many mistresses have power in their relationships?

Sunday, June 27, 2010

GEORG CHRISTOPH LICHTENBERG said...

"Much can be inferred about a man from his mistress: in her one beholds his weaknesses and his dreams."

- Georg Christoph Lichtenberg (German physics professor and scientist 1742 - 1799)


Missy here: I never know when I read quotes from this era if the word Mistress is being used to mean a Mistress as in a kept woman or courtesan, or simply a man's wife!

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

JUNE 15 -19th 2010 is ROYAL ASCOT!

ROYAL ASCOT? We know the royals attend - and you can link to it by clicking on the title above.

ROYAL ASCOT may be one of the world's most exclusive events. And sometimes a mistress or two attends as well. Of course everyone must follow the protocol, be aware of the etiquette of the situation and get along right? This isn't like seeing the other woman (in our case that's the WIFE) on the ski slopes in Colorado.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

MISTRESS OF THE MONTH : EVA BRAUN MISTRESS OF ADOLF HITLER - MASTERMIND OF THE HOLOCAUST

 
from oddee.com identified as public domain from
THE LIBRARY OF CONGRESS - UNITED STATES OF AMERICA

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"The historian takes the character at the center of her book seriously, and in the material she has analyzed, there is credible evidence that Braun was more to Hitler than an "attractive young thing" in whom the dictator "found, despite or perhaps because of her unassuming and insipid appearance, the sort of relaxation and calm he was seeking," as Hitler's personal photographer Heinrich Hoffmann later claimed.

"In his will, which Hitler drew up in 1938, Braun's name appeared immediately after that of the Nazi Party. Under the provisions of the will, the party was to pay her a substantial, lifelong pension, to be drawn from his assets..."



quote from "Til Death Do Us Part"
A New Look at Hitler's Mistress Eva Braun
By Klaus Wiegrefe


Full text of the article from Spiegel Magazine - click on the title of this post to get there!




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EVA LIKED TO SHOW OFF HER PHYSICAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS in GYMNASTICS and DIVING, ICE SKATING, and SWIMMING.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

I FOUND A MILLION DOLLAR BABY


Seems to me that when the economy is in the pits, the number of people willing to be kept by a wealthy person goes up...
Last month in the United States there were only 40,000 jobs created.


Tuesday, May 25, 2010

MISSY ASKS YOU : DID YOU LOOSE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE?

Did you loose someone you now know to be the love of your life?

What happened?

WHAT WOULD YOU DO to bring back THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE into your life if you could?

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Monday, May 3, 2010

CAMILLA PARKER BOWLES : MISTRESS THEN WIFE OF PRINCE CHARLES : MISTRESS OF THE MONTH

This month we celebrate CAMILLA PARKER BOWLES WINDSOR... Mistress and then wife of Prince Charles of England - and all those other titles.

I was going to wait but the NEWS that Princess Diana's son William may announce his engagement this month to his long time (9 years?) love and well, that Queen Elizabeth, now 83 years old, may start handing over some of her duties to him while keeping her post as Queen, which brings up all the controversies of whether or not she will ever let Prince Charles become King.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

DEREK BLASBERG ON HOW TO BE CLASSY

Here's a link to Elle Magazine May 2010 and an article about a NEW BOOK called CLASSY by Derek Blasberg. Yes we do need to have class even if we were not born with it and NO we are not starlets given to exhibitionist behaviors that are TACKY TACKY TACKY! Missy

"A lady looks presentable at an airport. Those leisure suits are for at home. The airport is one of the last places remaining to meet eligible men who can afford to travel."

Friday, April 30, 2010

GOLD DIGGER : THE OUTRAGEOUS LIFE AND TIMES OF PEGGY HOPKINS JOYCE

"The era (abounded) with millionaires who kept their sweethearts in love nests that dotted Manhattan all the way from Murray Hill to Riverside Drive," Anita Loos reminded her readers, and in her opinion Peggy ranked as the most shameless of such kept women.

C Constance Rosenblum 2000